₦airaland Forum

LEvuls:
Do u wana work for me
I got people am managing now

U're very funny. I wouldn't mind working with u, but am a man..

LEvuls:
Tired since 1980, am into prostitution now and its paying me more than the coperate work . All thanks to my common sense and condoms

I must say prostitution is really lucrative in dis part of d world...

So how many brothels do u have now?

odingidiong:
i didnt attack him i didnt even insult him dat was y i was surprise.he was playing a very harsh play wth me dat afternun so i told him to leave me alone den he got angry n beat me

I don't believe dis! Maybe u are not telling us d truth. U mean just for him to leave u alone was what led to d four slaps & d beating dat ensued? It sounds very far fetched.

What kind of a guy does that? No matter how short tempered he is, dat's not enough reason for him to beat u. I suggest u call it a quit, because coping with people dat are short fused can be very difficult.

But concealing certain things & telling us one side of d story is bias...

raumdeuter:
I disagree, the below issues in bold are still prevalent in Nigeria

Child support, child marriage, domestic violence, child labour, female mutilation, girl child education are the major things I think African female should be fighting for not the who wash plates, who cook, and the self serving agenda

What women are fighting for is same rights & opportunities as men.

I believe Child support, child marriage, domestic violence, child labour, also involve male child. So I see no gender discrimination. But what I don't understand is female mutilation & girl child education. Anyone can be mutilated, be it male or female. As long as u are on dis earth. Why d emphasis on girl child?

As regards girl child education, based on what I know, no female child is denied admission into any school in dis country, simply because she is a girl child ( frm nursery to tertiary institution) or restrained frm studying any course, none dat I know of.

perhaps u can educate me on dis girl child education.

babygirlfl:
OP I like the fact that you said for now because it was a joke too in England for a long time but isn't today. Fact is that Nigeria is decades and maybe up to a century behind but a drop of water they say makes a mighty ocean. Women have to do their little even if it means being called any name. Our hope is that we do the little we can now and leave the next generation of women a better world than we had.

My only hope is that what Nigerian feminist or pseudo-feminist as some call us are facing today is no different from what the western women faced long time ago but did it stop feminism from happening? No. One of the major setback that early feminist in the west experienced was huddles from fellow women. Women who were either scared to go against the norm or women who have the need to get approval from men. It does not surprise me. It was and is still expected. Even Queen Victoria of England in the 1800s did not like feminists and even said Feminists ought to get a good whipping. That still did not stop feminism from happening.

Op, Most feminist I know say it that it's the culture so I don't understand what you mean by men against women. The west too had very strict cultures that oppressed women at the time feminism was at it's infancy. If they could do it then, we can do it.

Yes there is an adage that says that when you are ready for a fight, you should be ready to get injured. For feminism to happen, some of us will get called names, some of us may not get married, some of us may get divorced etc. If people can go to war and get killed to get peace, being called names, not getting married and getting divorced is a little price to pay for feminism. It is also important to know that some of us will also live a very happy life. Remember also that some non-feminist women will still be single for life, be called names and get divorced.

Lol... So u're ready to fight & get injured for a worthless cause?

It's a pity dat most women have dis innate tendency of looking down on demselves, dat's d problem. List three things only a man is allowed to do in dis country, as regards rights & opportunities? Michael jackson went for a plastic surgery just because he wasn't proud of his colour, but what did he get in return?

Women should appreciate & portray their gender in a positive & proud manner, let dem see if men won't wish dey were women. U mentioned some names of female leaders, saying nigerian women will get there soon, are u in any way saying considerable percentage of women living in dose countries are happy based on d achievements of dose female leaders?

Women have been given more dan enough leeway already in dis country, they are now fully emancipated, so I really don't understand what dis feminism issue is all about.

If their is any sector u do not find a woman in dis country, I'm convinced it's definitely not because of gender discrimination, but her inability to meet up with d requirements. Instead of telling us how u intend to care of ur hubby, u're implicitly telling us how u intend to fight & divorce him.

Babygirlfl why?

Op I'm afraid u're d one confusing urself....

@ bigheart2013 what do expect from an environment like ours?

I will like u to visit some institutions in dis country, so as to see d appalling state in which students are compelled to learn. U expect nigerian graduates to be knowledgeable like their counterparts in america & other developed countries under d kind of uncongenial atmosphere we have in dis country? U must be a joker.

Why not carry out a research on nigerians studying in dese developed countries....

SAMBARRY:
Nigerian students in full display

Lol...

dis is really funny, reminds me of my ppa durin nysc, dose students fit do dis kind tin...

Woged2005:
^^^^Wow! I really like the above. Exactly how I want to raise my kids especially my daughter. many young ladies in Naija are used and treated like rags bc they're not economically empowered. if they have their own money, i bet most won't swallow rubbish. but how many of them know that the money they waste on empty big over-sized designer bags, and wigs if invested in stock and share can save them from future financial 'slavery' in the hands of abusive adulterous men?

What about ur son?
Where are u from?

We have peaceful & loving men in this country... In anycase, I advise u discard any breeding animosity towards men, so u don't subconsciously extend it to ur sons...

preetyb:
Well i will advice you tell your friend to pray this prayer

Any strange woman that wants to destroy my home conciously or unconciously, holyghost fire send her on exile.

As for the husband he needs seven fold deliverance from the spirit of polygamy.

Hmmm.... Na mountain of fire + deeper life prayer be dis o.... Any woman make near ur hubby don enter pepper..

StPete:
OP you need a smack on your head.
For crying out loud, you’re just giving her every reason to push you away and that’s why she’s acting the way she is. Man-up, don’t be a girl! If she doesn’t want you in her life or the child’s, there is practically nothing you can do.
Move on, get another girl, start your own family. When your baby grows up, he/she’d come out to look for his/her father, then and there you can explain situation of things to her. The more you push and clamour for the child, the more she takes the child away.

Best advise!

@ steeze u are acting like a woman, man up jor, u're man. When d ryte time comes, u son will come looking for u...

They are just helping u to take care of d boy. I want u to know dat when a child is with d mother, d chances of mistreatment is very slim, because women are d problem, when it comes to child abuse. Don't worry about d man, men no get time for such things, move on & stop forcing urself on dem...

Too many feminine men these days sef....

imas:
OP I understand what you're going through, I've been there, God will see you through, am also angry and confused because where I work, there's this Christian brother who does not partake in the corruption going on in the company, but two weeks ago he died in an accident, and I ask God why this one, when the corrupt ones are going about healthy; I have been so unhappy and confused since then, I have even fasted for God to tell me why.

A cleaner's competence is revealed after cleaning a room dat's untidy, not a tidy one. Pray & fast for d salvation of ur corrupt colleagues, they need it more....

@ babyosisi U don't need to be angry with God, it's indeed sacrilegious.

U should be angry with adam & eve, because they caused all d pains we are going through today, not God..

God intentions for us was a peaceful life, devoid of chaos, pains, misery & d likes, but adam & eve disobeyed God.

Take hrt..

Hehehehehe.... Clap for urself.

MIL turns stew into egusi soup, MIL turns stew into pepper, MIL turns stew into pure water... Lolzzz.

My dear u are just trying to make a mountain out of a molehill. I see nothing worth considering in ur post, u have a peaceful home, she have access to everything in d kitchen, likewise ur mother. Don't forget she's a woman, even if she add more ingredients to ur soup, dat's not enough reason to grumble, u can make another one. Sooner or later, she will stop.

Let peace reign, stop reading meanings into things of no significance...

Hmmm.... vice council chairman, he don get 4 wives, what if he bcoms d vice president? Any woman that struggles with a man, shouldn't be treated like this...

Op ur friend should talk to d relatives of her husband, as regards d children's welfare & wellbeing, the man should be involved in d children's upbringing, financially, it's very important, it's gonna be draining, handling it alone...

But she shouldn't consider divorce for now...

Qmab:
despite his wife's threat? What if at the end they create one of those stories that touches.

What threat?

He should go....
He has already discuss d issue with her, & apologised for what he did, I think dat is enough..

He is a man & her husband for christ sake, not her son or house boy, informing her is already enough, whether she approves it or not, it doesn't count...

Moreover what he's about doing is not out of place...

He should go..

Women are humans, so that makes dem susceptible to mistakes, saying u won't beat a woman no matter d offence she commits will only make her to do things with impunity, which is very bad, corporal punishment is d most effective way to correct any human, then tell me why a woman should be exempted?

By nature, women are likely to misbehave d more, because of their gullible, pliable nature & cartoon brain, that is why dey should beaten anytime they misbehave, d beating won't kill them, but will serve as correction & call them to order.....

To all my brothers; Stop condoning reprehensible behaviour from women & make d world a better place...

There is nothing like rape in marriage... d wife belongs to d hubby, so he can do whatever he likes with her body.

Why will a woman intentionally deprive her husband of sex? Only weak men condone dat shh!!!t, real men get whatever they want, whenever they want it... If she is tired of d union, she can go to her parents house or where ever she wants...


........So_forgetful.

Wise man....

Nice move....

The aged should take over, since the young has failed....

What message are u trying to pass across?

No one has ever justified beating a woman on this forum without cogent reasons. They always buttress their points with valid reasons. It's a well know fact today that considerable number of women in dis present generation of gender equality are rude, arrogant, uncouth, abrasive & disrespectful, If every woman respects herself, I believe no sane man will beat her...

But when she does something wrong, she should be chastise. What ladies are agitating for is absolutely wrong, while will a woman misbehave, & be commended for it, she should be penalise, & if her offence warrants corporal punishment, I see nothing wrong in correcting her through beating, it's part of discipline....

OluMighty01:
I am a graduate...But I am into business. I have tried everything...offline business, online business...I have been GOOD, hardworking, persistent, positive minded, but nothing seems to come out of all these for 7 years now. I don't have a girlfriend cos no girl wants a broke guy as a boyfriend, even though I am good looking. My family members are tired of me, and I am frustrated cos I can't take care of my aged parents.
Sighs!!! LIFE IS SO HARSH!!!

U dey complain? U no know say money make u take subscribe reach sum pple take live 4 a year....

I have been living on 200 naira for d past ten months.... I eat once every month, am sure ur situation can't be worse than dat..

One thing dat is truly audacious & risky is to hope, so keep on hoping & give thanks to God...

Abeg wetin be d size of dat shoe? d shoe na house? Fowl fit hide inside dat shoe sef.

Many guys go tru hell convincing their girl to go for an abortion, so u should be happy, u have an understanding gf.....

But u can't be certain they are urs, maybe someone else is also entering her.....

Bias & baseless....

So pleasing a woman now makes one a real man? U just defined a weak man, not a real man.

d life of a real man doesn't revolve around a woman...

I'm pretty sure u're a lady...

badt guy....

McEwen:
People do not realize love is a choice. You can chose to love someone just like you can chose to stop loving someone. If love is not a choice, than you could never move on from a broken heart and you could never love another person after that first love broke your heart.

*my token*

U can still love after your first break up, putting d experience gotten from d first relationship into use, we tend to behave mature. Because most of d things we see as love in our first relationship is as a result of our immature state of mind, not love....

McEwen:
Is love an emotion or a choice, or both? from experience I discovered that you can actually choose to or not to have feeling for someone. What do you think?

It's an emotion, we don't fall in love by choice. But our way of life & d kind of things we do, like.... Also influence this emotion...

Ur moniker don already first speak 4 u sha....

But u no just try for d post at all.....