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LekinsRibirth:
That woman must have done something despicable to warrant such beating. Maybe she was trying to hold ground with the man as what most women would do.
If you can't fight don't run your mouth! No man would beat his wife if she doesn't do something wrong. You know your husband is an animal yet you'll keep on exchanging words with him.
Sorry!

God bless u...

This is d problem with women, they know they are weak, yet they are quick to incite punch-up. Women should learn to be more tolerant, they should learn to control their mouth, I strongly blive no man would beat his wife for no reason.

Women of dis generation lack characteristic modesty & diplomacy, their attitude can be so infuriating.

Op u made d right decision... I once came across ur comments on a thread created by killjoy. The purpose for marriage has been fulfilled, d world is even over populated. Welcome to singleness...

How is life?

joychioma19:
we have dated for 3years and we are now engaged,part of the marrige rite have been done.he has never shouted at me,but yesterday I got the shock of my life.I suspected he was cheating because he calls the girl each time he goes to work,I confronted him,out of anger I hit his hand and he beat me.though he apologized that night. but I haven't really forgiven him,I don't know what to do.he is really a nice man,but the thought of that night breaks me into two. Adebayo.

Why do women always fail to acknowledge their position as d weaker sex? no matter how fierce a lioness may look, it can never equal d cheerful disposition of a lion.

Men were made to be more aggressive than women, women were supposed to be more tolerant, because of their role as a mother, but today, d converse is d case, women are quick to insult, slap, hit a man, when they know fully well dat they can't match a man when it comes to physical combat. Do to others what u would do to urself.

From what I can deduce from ur story, u incited d rift, why did u hit his hand in d first place? u should have confronted him without allowing it to degenerate into physical altercation. his action was as a result of ur action, u instigated d punch-up by hitting him, u have no reason or whatsoever to hit him, since u knw u wouldn't want him to hit u either, moreover ur suspicion is still on a baseless perspective.

I will advise u to forgive him wholeheartedly, because ur move prompted him to act d way he did, & I believe any reasonable man would have done same. Don't mar ur relationship on account of a baseless, improbable suspicion...

@least u knw u are not dating a weak man. .....remember we are naturally inclined not to value what we have, until we lose them....


Make politic ur watchword..

Op d drink make u take no good for ur system..

I don't like d kind of feminine men wey full nairaland. Why allow ur wife to dictate for u? U have given her enough time already, I no understand men of nowadays o! They act like women.. Rubbish!!!

Beamborla:
How are they different from the Idibias?


They should ride on so long she can take it... #Things women endure in the name of keeping it together and standing by him#


My man should not try me sha...

lol... If a man make u love try u, wetin u go do?

U no go endure @all?

U should be thankful to God u were able to save 5.5m, u can invest with some part of it, pending d time u're able to get another job..

5minsmadness:
This couple have been married for three years and have two kids. The man met his wife at his workplace during which time she had just finished nysc. They got to know each other better and soon they became a couple and got married. The man helped her get a job at his place of work but noticed she didn't mention his help to her parents, making it look as if she got the job herself. However he overlooked it thinking it was no big deal.

Recently however he has come to realise that his wife doesn't love him. He feels this way because she never acknowledges his good deeds around the house, is never willing to listen to any advice he has to give but rather takes her friend's advice over his. Most times he asks for sex she says she is tired or in her period or that they should postpone it to the next day And when the next say reaches she pretends to forget. If the man insists it turns into a big fight and they don't talk for days.

The man decided to be helping her around the house in case housework was overwhelming her as they don't have a nanny. He washes the clothes, picks the kids from school, cooks food for the kids and feeds them when she comes late from work and he is the one at home. Despite all this it seems he is making no headway as their sex life has not improved. The man decided to stop asking for sex but the wife didn't even notice.
She rarely serves him his food properly. He comes from a traditional family where the woman serves the man food as soon as he comes back from work. She says she was not brought up that way and starts cooking the food when the man comes home. He decided to be understanding and accepted to wait. But he finds if he doesn't remind her, she doesn't near the kitchen to cook for him. He had now resorted to serving himself when he gets home, thinking his wife will get the message but she is comfortable with it.

He feels the wife no longer has feelings for him and left for him would have divorced her long ago, but he doesn't believe in divorce. Also he is worried about the kids and how it will affect them if they separate.


Pls advice needed.

Rubbish!!!
The man is a weak man, simple!
Didn't he pay her brideprice?

I feel for some men sha, because they are ignorant of d authority dey possess as a man..

OBlaize:
Hmmm

I feel you... True words... Harsh, but true

But lemme ask

What would you do when "love" happens?

When you find the one that wouldn't be or isn't any of these things? The one that totally "connects" with you and vice versa

Will you fight the feelings or just plain ignore it

It's not easy to ignore dat feeling.

There in lies d problem, when love strikes... Because it's almost impossible to suppress dat feeling when it's mutual, it's like a magnet... That feeling is too vortex, trying to fight it can make one act silly, love strong sha...

saasala:
Do you think I was mad when I said I wouldnt get married? A man stands to gain nothing from marriage. You lose your freedom. She nags you to hell. You live your entire life to satisfy a woman. She suddenly hates sex, loses her pristine beauty and becomes a fat pig with saggy booobs and tasteless asss, your jokes are no longer funny to her, she doesnt like to go out for fun any more, she now hates picnics and the cinema. You can get more than enough what you tend to gain in marriage by remaining single: Free sex, free movement, you can even have a baby mama if you are so crazy about having a child, plus nobody will call you oloriburuku for being single unlike the females. Guys, dont get married. Think well before you cross that rubicon. Seun Osewa has known these facts hence his decision to remain single (Well, I guess). Why get married when you will end up losing your happiness, and probably divorce. As for me and my head, ama stay single for life ni o...and I dont even give a hoot about having kids. This life is messed up already, why bring another innocent child to participate in it. Think Brothers.

There is nothing to think about, u're absolutely right.

May God continue to bless u... Sometimes I wish everyone would reason like this, d world would have ended by now. Why procreate in this cruel world, bringing innocent souls to suffer for nothing..

But it's not their fault, na love they make many pple marry sha... Wish dat emotion was never in existence..

Rajjah:
ya he is a muslim. he is too jealous. he cant stop me frm nairaland. I dont av d conscience to cheat. He is 27.

There is no love without jealousy...

He's being jealous only bespeaks he truly loves u, too much jealousy may not necessarily be as a result of being possessive, insecurity can also cause it, he doesn't want to lose u.. But when jealousy is carried too far, only then it becomes inimical to any relationship.

My advise; try to be courteous when approaching any issue, don't give room for unwarranted suspicions, d prime issue here is trust, try to make him trust u, grant him access to your messages if he wishes, it's just for d time being, as his mind gets mature, his perception will also advance.. Just build d trust.

But he's on whatsapp, why did he restrain u.
I just can't stop laughing....

lol... Your moniker tells it all.
Mumu + mugu = mumumugu..

It's advisable.

But with a referee, at least it will avail d occupants d opportunity of watching royal rumble, live!

ichidodo:
[color=#1980BC] The man is plain heartless and wicked...in my youth,my dad would buy foodstuffs and more when we all go to see my maternal grandmother....Every year. [/color]

How? The man is not wicked jor.

Which one be 'domcon' again? Abeg o!

Ur frnd should go back to d unical girl.. I'll also advise u to go with him. I hear say calabar girls hot..

Rajjah:
M 21. He is jst tryin to b too possesive.

But it's not sensible, how old is he?

Hope he won't restrain u from nairaland anytime soon?

Your guy is really funny..... Your username seem muslim like, is he a muslim? because some muslim brothers are unpredictable..

But I'll advise u to stop.. Do whatever he ask u to do.. He's d man...

d glory u're talking abt is in which context? not indulging in fornication is for your own personal salvation. I doubt if it has much to do with one being hapless. Moreover most of the big names in our society engage in these acts, it doesn't detract from their success.

Rajjah:
I lov him bt I feel cheated on. For example he doesnt want me on Watsapp bt he is dia. Who den is he chattin wit?

lol... This really creased me up..

How old are u?
This is totally untoward, why would your man restrain u from chatting on whatsapp, or there is sth u're not telling us.

Probably sth transpired, & he doesn't want to take chances.

This is quite funny...

Op How?

Or u want him to spend beyond his means?

We want change.

Jonathan's administration is the true definition of corruption, he has ruled for six years, constitutionally, he was supposed to rule for four years. Yet, no step change in any sector of the economy, rather, he entrenched corruption in nigeria.

If we can't see any tangible development within these six years, how are we sure nigeria won't face extinction by the completion of his tenure, if given another term? He has failed woefully, he should go...

This is the corollary of being too quiet to a fault.

All d while she was exhibiting these reprehensible behaviour, the man did nothing to address it, probably because he's a pastor or hoping she would change. Not knowing that constantly tolerating little misbehaviour from a woman only gives her room to be sullen & unruly.

Men should learn to be proactive when their wife start exhibiting nasty attitudes towards their parents, siblings, frnds, regardless of their vocation.

What is this post doing here?
Move it to career section, Unless u're referring to sth else.

eminentme:
A typical african mother will always manufacture one yeye errand or the other, to give you, once she's seeing you peacefully pressing your phone or amp; Playing Video Game!

Not all.

Jonathan has proven beyond all reasonable doubt that he's incapable of cautioning patience. I don't knw why fashola is wasting his time on this frivolous issue.

Only when given the opportunity to rule, even if he present a well articulated article on how his going to combat insecurity & transform nigeria, it won't make any difference if he lose. Governance primarily depends on the leader, though party cohorts will also contribute their own quota, I believe the leader himself plays a significant role.

A good example is yar' adua, how will you convince anyone that jonathan and yar' adua serve under the same platform of PDP. We can all attest to the outstanding transformation of yar' adua transient tenure, but jonathan has ruled for six good years, without any tangible development.

I think we should give some else a chance.

yawahappens:
Nah mehn...its jst a once in a lifetime experience dude, trust me, married women are awesome in bed

badt guy...

Why are u telling us?
U're not d first, & is this d right place to ask God for forgiveness?

U didn't go to chuch or religious section, e be like say d tin still dey ur eye.

gentle1010:
Frankly speaking I excluded so many things in that post because I'm too ashamed of myself. I help her wash her clothes some times, cook for her or help her cook. That same job I got for her I back her up too, I don't let work to be much on her, I help her almost in everything, emotionally and otherwise. I pleaded with her to tell me she is tired if she is than maltreating me.

My guy u do all these things! Chaiii!!! dat b!tch bad, it's not ur fault, it's love.

I guess she's your first love. Pls let her go, I knw it's gonna be hard, but I can guide u on how to go abt it, cause u will definitely experience d breaking out pain, because u truly love her & after this u'll be d real man God created u to be....

I still can't fathom why God created that emotion called love, when he had already made man d head, because being d head really don't work when deeply in love.

For how long have u guys been dating?

gentle1010:
I'm 29, in love and have been dating a lady of 25, we met during our NYSC, we love each other and plan to get married. The problem here is that I've not gotten a job but I've been making little money through my hard work as a technician, both in computer and electrical, I got her a small job where she earns 20k, rent house for her and still manage to give her small small money for her up keep. I give her all the natural respects a woman deserves. The problem now is that she doesn't respect me, she take me for granted, doesn't care about how I feel. If she offend me and I try to talk to her about that, she'll ignore me to the core. I'm confused, I don't know what is happening and I've built my life all around her. Please advice me on what to do

U're indeed a gentle man.

Bane of being a gentle man, women can use their head!

U caused d disrespect, u lavished too much love on her, d moment a girl knws that u're crazy abt her, she'll start to misbehave, it's natural, It's like giving a gun to a toddler, she can't handle it.

Is she ur first love? Have u even slept with her? does she even reciprocate d little effort u're putting into d relationship? Is like she's taking u for a weak fellow & a fool, how can u be straining urself to give her money for her upkeep, yet she does not appreciate it, when u're even jobless? My brother pls ditch her, I know it's gonna be hard, but u need to do it.

When a girl begins to get sullen at every little thing, just know u're no longer incharge, d only option is to let her go, & more importantly, if she comes back pls don't accept her again o!

Op u're absolutely right.

They will never admit it, because they are diffident abt sex by nature. when some ladies exhibit d green lite thing, & u fail to approach them, they get sullen when u even say hello, because they think women who initiate sex, approach guys are perceived to be cheap, that's there mentality though.

My last girl confided in her friend she left me because of sex, but any time I enquire as to why she left, she'll just say am boring, why am I boring, she won't answer. I'll just smile. She never succumbed to my authority, she never respected me, she gets sullen easily, she tagged me as a dull guy.

My advise to guys out there, if u knw u're not ready for sex, pls stay off women, they will only scoff & mock u behind, but when u bang them real hard, they eulogize u as a sharp guy.

zenithgroup:
A lady will dump you cos you lack wisdom to keep relationship. The truth is "sex before marriage is bad" but certain things needs to be frequently done to her, to keep her on her toes.
Ok let me ask you this,
1,what do you think her breast is meant for?
2, why do you think she clean and look her best whenever she coming to your place?
3,why do you think she stare at you frequently?
4,what do you think those her voluptuous body meant for?
5,Do you know your woman love language?
Sex is only 10% of relationship

Make pple see wetin this one just write, sex is 10%? Are u male or female?