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NairaMode:
I think most of the guys lie about this.

Most girls would be happy if a guy doesn't bring up the issue of sex or a no-sex relationship.

No girl wants her pus.sy slack before marriage.

It is a Lie!!!
It happened to me, a girl that was once crazy abt me dumped me because I didn't do d needful.

victorazy:
U need spiritual eye!
The garden of Eden is "human" human's heart, the endowemnet on man, the relationship between man and God, the communication existed between them.
The tree in the middle of Eden is the "sex organ" eat other trees in the garden but this tree of knowledge u should not touch or u die.
Death there is not physical death but Spiritual death but Devil made it looks like our Physical death.
This is discommunication between God and man.

Eden is ur heart "ur spirit" cuz that's only what communicate with God.
The tree is "organ" among other organs.

Ask ursef one question: why the animals still here with man, why they are not in the Eden?

Bros ur sense of reasoning is lofty, where d garden be dey sef? d place make d garden dey no end up for any country?

Forwetinnah:
It wasn't SE:X !! It was WISDOM!! There were 2 trees actually, one for wisdom and the other for eternal life (GOD asked them to leave the garden before satan tempts them to eat the fruit of eternal life and had angels guarding the tree) GOD had already given creatures the command to be fruitful and multiply. Lower animals were already procreating through se:X...

Sex of lower animals & humans are two different things.

Remember animals can have sex at will & it's not a sin, but humans are expected to wait for a particular time & it's d greatest sin. Remember d only reason jesus permitted divorce was on d ground of fornication. Sex is more than what we think it is, d moment a child start differentiating good frm bad, that child start thinking abt sex.

In my opinion, even though God gave d command for them to multiply, he gave an appointed time for d act, probably satan convinced eve before that time. d idea of d appointed time was to ensure only married couples were knowledgeable abt sex, while d unmarried go abt naked.

They never knew abt sex until devil lured eve into it, why didn't they give birth in d garden of eden, but it was after they left.

Chucks2015:
Guys i have spoken to him and what he really wants to know is if her attitude is just her making a point that you cannot just break up with her anytime like that or is she moving on. She saying they should break up till he comes back

d girl has moved on, she is just taking ur guy for a fool, or probably as plan b. Presently ur guy is weak, he has been incapacitated by love, u're d only one dat help him end this folly. Ur guy cannot face d pain of breaking out alone, he needs encouragement, that's why he ends up calling her, breaking out of love isn't easy. Blackett has already explained everything, just apply his advise.

Op u really need to help ur guy. He's in love, he doesn't know what he's doing presently, trust me he will cry when he eventually realize this moment. d only way to stop him is to constantly foil any of his plan to call d girl. He has already traded his respect as a man for love, I know it's gonna be hard for him, but try your possible best to stop him, let him end everything, d girl is just playing on his emotions, & most importantly, he should never accept her back again.

Love sha...

JayKayMaybachz:
#None

Op dey find wetin dey men mouth.

Abeg pass me one bottle of origin..

Sooner or later, women will start agitating for men to breastfeed d children, all in d name of gender equality. They are gradually abdicating their role as mothers, because they want to feel like a man.

This was how devil started, before God kicked him down.

What shall it profit a man to get all d likes on nairaland? It won't add meaningfully to ur life, so why d need.

goldenone:
My dad doesn't do any of these...
nb- Yes he's human

For real?
Are u trying to say ur dad never tell white lie @all? Lie na lie.

Idiataqueen:
wat are u saying anyway shut up ur mouth am from ewu

lol... d english tire u abi? Na obahiagbon o! So u're from ewu, why did u choose to traitorously malign your own people? U don't even know me, & u're telling me to shut up? Women of nowadays sef, they are bereft of respect.

Love & sex are d key things that attract a man to girl. Since u don't want sex & obviously not in love, what are u doing with them? Your relationship with girls should be platonic, since u're anti pri-marital sex. U should even be happy, no more buying of gifts, airtime & all that. Women are distractions.

How old are u sef?

ShirelleBaby:

Dis one na advise?

Idiataqueen:
yes all tribe av their own shortcoming but 70% of edo guys are sadist,womanizer,problematic,and they dont take care of their wives .Dat is why i cant marry an edo guy dat grew up in d village or dat av a mother dat is living in d village.bini and esan guys are d worst guys av ever meet on d planet earth.

This is what I call the gobbledegook of the kpotokios in the crass and an arbitrarily baseless diatribe against the bini & esan logomaki.

An inexcusable affront on the sanctimonious & sacrosanct state of the bini's & esan people. With a logically inclined state of mind, & a prudently nurtured intuition, I hereby declare your post to be a lame pukuapuku sphinxianconundrum.

How many esan guys u don meet, make u con choose to defame them on a public forum like this?


Honestly, dejure & defacto, your post is extremely inflammatory.

Can u adduce any instance to validate your bias & kpotokian post?

cocostrawberry:
You guys are scaring me....

My dear u don't need to be scared at all.

U should even count yourself fortunate enough to have come in contact with an edo guy. Trust me, Their love is unrivalled.

Chibuhealth:
their men are lazy, all they know is how to carry ashawo up and down, they are hardly faithful take note. Secondly, they are cultism specialist even the so called married men among them. What I mean by he will be happy giving you out is that they know some of their wife's sex mates, he can never disagree so long as you will come back and feed him the following day.

Go chop jor, na hungry dey beat u..
This is absolutely iniquitous. Where are u from? Why the jaundice view of edo guys? Don't disillusion d op again. U were mistreated by an edo guy is not enough reason for u to jump into untenable conclusion.

your post is based on sheer ignorance & prejudice. Being indolent has to do with individual, philandering & cultism is not peculiar to any state.

Desteenee:
No offence intended though, but sometimes one will be forced to think that some nairalanders reason with their anus. An op sit and composes a nice piece as this and some people except few are commenting shit.
These same people are always hopping from one relationship to another in search of non existent perfect friendship, but fail to apply certain principles in their relationship.
Thanks op for a nice piece as i await the others.

God bless u broda...

asuoka:
No ooo...wat I meant...she said if any of us raise our hand on our wifes...we will have problem in life...cause she sees it as great injustice

Such a curse can never hold sway over your life, because it's bias & arbitrary.

What if she misbehave persistently? Hitting a woman even when she is at fault shouldn't be quick, but when it's getting out of hand, a slap will redress her attitude. Who ever came up with this notion of not hitting a woman, even when she's at fault, was absolutely wrong.

Women are humans, so that makes them fallible, a slap will only awaken her to her mistakes. When u take a casual observation, u'll discover men who condone all manner of abuse from their wife & fails to correct her end up being the woman of the house, hoping she might change.

Not hitting a woman gives her d right to do things with impunity.

d remuneration is impressive. What kind of job & how old is d madam? If d woman no too old, I'll advise him to accept it. What is d difference btw straffing dose young girls & d madam. Fornication is d same, they all carry d same consequences... Later d guy dump d woman jor.

dechandel:
Broke meets broke..
How the guy take sabi all the codes

d guy is intelligent, he's got a retentive memory.

1bkaye:
I cannot for the life of me understand how some girls can just casually and shamelessly ask guys for money

It's either d girl is skint or a ploy to cadge some money off a guy.

prettyjo:
lolzzzz.
but some guys stingy shaa

No be stingy, d guy is just being thrifty..

babygirlfl:
This is the type of post you read and then check the date to make sure it's 2015.

lol.. my dear why?

Joy1706:
When a man is the sole breadwinner in most cases, he becomes controlling, talks down to her, makes her beg 4 every little thing, feels like she has no right to question him etc. Besides I don't think becoming arrogant and disrespectful when success comes in is a 'woman' thing, it's a 'human' thing.

My dear with total sincerity, men handle success better than women.

Success intoxicate women. The male child has been trained as a leader by both d mum & dad. It would be an aberration for a male child to wash dishes in a house with female. The male child is expected to emulate his dad, while female, their mum. The society plays a significant role in our lives, & the society recognise the wife & female children to be the cook in any family.

For example, I'm d 4th child, d first is a girl, she's married with kids, but whenever she is at home, maybe on holiday or any celebration, she does all the d house chores & cooking, because she had a good upbringing. So u don't expect me to get married tomorrow & cook for my wife, even if am idle, I will never do it.

Personally, I think God designed it that way, it's a God given role to women, in marriage, it's generally acceptable for a woman to cook, do house chores, is her natural responsibility. That's why most successful restaurants are managed by women, because it's related to cooking, washing dishes. Though I know most women deplore this culture, but in a realistic sense, it's more acceptable by d general public.

U as girl won't be happy if u visit your brother to find out that he's d one doing all d house chores & cooking, while d wife sits on a sofa watching TV. Though women have been agitating for equality, the obvious God made domineering power of a male cannot be overshadowed by d weak characteristics of a female.

In marriage, it would be better if women are in charge of anything that has to do with d kitchen & chores, regardless of her financial status, the man's involvement can be episodic. A man is man, d male natural responsibility is to cater for d family financially, & if he fails, he resort to frustration, because he has failed. Subjecting him to doing house chores will only compound his failure as d breadwinner.

This will only escalate issues. there are certain things that doesn't befits a man, I don't know why women are finding it difficult to accept this natural/cultural Phenomenon.

OREMUSSANCTUS:
Every man will wish to ve such a luving woman as a wife in d person of patience jonathan, our president is so lucky. Behind every successful man dere is a great woman. Mama jonathan we d nigerian youths luv ya so much.

What do u mean by we the nigeria youths? Pls speak for yourself.

How can we like an abrasive woman like patience. A good woman is supposed to support her husband from behind, can't u see patience is too forward & officious, how many times have u seen obama's wife debating key national issues? We want a man that is in control, not a man that allows women to boss him around.

Personally, GEJ is not in control, women are happy because they can manipulate him the way they like, GEJ is not tough enough to lead, his position ought to be that of the vice president, because he's too gentle to lead a country like nigeria.

They are all afraid because they see buhari as a challenge.

wunmi590:
My mum said dad did it during their courtship, that means when they are still boyfriend and and girlfriend, so that's why I decided to ask if some guys can do it for their fiancée

Wetin u & ur mum discuss reach there? Instead of engaging in fruitful conversation with men, u were busy discussing abt sanitary pad with ur mum... Rubbish!

Wht kind of a man are u?
It's sad real men are facing extinction..

ebabsuoires:
What's that
Sorry I am colour blind

O my why do I keep reveling myself to strangers

Just stop pulling my braids okay

Your comments are absurdly comical.
Where are u from? & what is it with this braid thing?

bellamafia:
Hello Romancelanders,

I am in dire need of serious, unbiased advice to avert making a lifelong mistake. Serious comments only please, no trolls, judgemental people, immature guys and girls, religious extreemists NOT allowed in here.

Im a young lady, 27 years of age, have a nice job in a good company, very goodlooking. The reason for this description is to give a background to my plight.

I'm at that phase in my life where im ready to start a family. I always imagined that i would meet a guy randomly, fall in love and get married, but that has not been the case. With age, i learnt that marriage is not a fairytail and that one must think thoroughly, and venture with the head and the heart.

I have a guy whom ive dated on and off for 2 years and hes asked me to marry him a couple of times. We are very good friends, we have a certain kind of understanding, his family likes me, we share the same beliefs, ideologies and outlook on life. He can trek from berger to ojuelegba is that would make me happy.

However, we are not sexuall.y compatible. i mean the se.x is nothing to write home about. Ive tried many times to help him out, tell him what to do, etc but he never ever gets it right. That is a major issue for me. Hes also not so physically attractive, but im ok with his looks.

Im confused because i have a lot of other men flocking around me, showing indications of seriousness, but you know what they say about the devil you know and the angel you dont know.

I need advice please

Thank you

U obviously don't knw what u want.

My question; how will u regard this kind of man as your husband, am afraid his inability to satisfy u in bed is beginning to detract from d respect u have for this guy. They way u phrase d story seems like this guy has been begging for u to marry him, & u're considering it out of pity.

Sex is a crucial factor in any marriage, it shouldn't be compromised. Personally, it's d bedrock of marriage, any marriage devoid of a fulfilling sex is likely to face chaos. We all have different degree of penchant for sex, if u're convinced his performance is below your satisfaction, I suggest u scuttle any marriage plans, to avert adultery.

U also made mention of some crop of men flocking around u. What makes u think those men are ready for marriage?

Vivly:
Where do you guys get all these lists from?

Frm d evil forest.

StunnazJay:
Op, you rock. I agree 100% wit the sex part, ladies would be acting like they are doing guys a favor.

At the end of the day when he is hitting it, they'll be like 'Baby, don't stop.. Don't stop.. Harder.. HARDERRRRR!! Oh gawd I'm cu,mm..ing'

Thank you jare!

It's not their fault. Guys made it so, considerable number of guys lack self control. The infuriating manner in which some guys slobber over sex is absurdly inconceivable.

phlio:
I will rather share a cup of garri with my mum in love n hope than share a slap for a billlon and live with guilt for the rest of my life.

Live with guilt for d rest of ur life because of common slap?
Are u sure u're a man, put money aside, do u knw certain unforeseen occurence can make u to treat ur mum Unceremoniously if d need arise. In a scenario were d man has been incapacitated, probably on account of accident, sickness or old age, & d woman start mistreating d man, will u as d son watch your mum mistreat your dad? & if she continuous with her mistreatment, paying deaf ear to your warnings, what will u do? Will u keep on watching her maltreating your dad? My point is, something might warrant u to hit your mum, but living with guilt for d rest of your life for slapping your mum is not manly @all.

Invective hurts more dan slap... Slap is nothing compare to invective...

Midehi:
Why will i slap her when she has seen money more than that

Where are u from?
D op no say 1billion naira, but dollars.
Abeg no talk wetin your mum neva see o!

Lala247:
Looool omg ur too much

Yh thats what im saying , all the suffer their mama don suffer on their head n they deny her a Million

They dont even love their mum

I like this, wise girl...

Op d money too much na! U no even say one million, haba!Considerable number of mothers will be happy when they eventually find out d proceeds of d slap. I Knw women, always co-operative... Any guy that reject this kind of offer will be lambasted by his siblings, mum, dad, frnds... When they find out d amount involve. Na him mama go laff am pass.

I fit even slap my dad sef, let alone my mum.
Slap na anything...