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igwemoagbo: My friends. Thanks so much for ur advice and sincere concern, have bnn advised my older ones to let her go,that she is no good. Cos for 30times it happened and I still kept my cool until yesterday it means she can't change.and definitely it ll continue like that, well am still not looking good for I have not been my self all day. Still sobbing here.belive me sincerely I don't want to let go. But like a poster said, I have to brace up for more. But I ll jst pray for Gods intervention and will to come pass, cos if she is the rite one for me, let his will be done, if not God show me a pleasant exit path, cos I cnt face anoda heart ache...

How they say, "Heaven helps those who help themselves". You NEED to DO what needs to be done.
If u REALLY love her like that, I think a proper sit-down with her and talk about how both of you will deal with conflicts in the future. If agree and what makes everyone happy and prevent this kinda thing, then u guys can work out. But if this doesn't work, then bid her dueces.

U a wancker?

apache77: Dis guy werrrin dey worry u?abi u b weakling as she talk? There was nuffin wrong wit wat u did.she needed sum hiding and she got it.now she wil tuck in.her skoin skoin will disappear trust me.am talking from experience.
My girl was like yours-no not exactly a little better sha.and for most times,she often seemed like d aggressor if we had issues.infact one day after a night out,we had a serious misunderstanding,and she slapped me wen we got home and I parked.did I hit her back?Nope.I simply picked her up and took her upstairs.next day she came,she was sorry,she was high bla bla.I shd forgiv her.I did,but I didn't forget.I filed the incident sumwhere in mind.
Fast forward a year later,and after another misunderstanding,she started shouting and ranting at me publicly.in d club.I had never hit her before,so she must have been surprised at my reaction.I grabbed her by the scruff of her neck and pushed her out of d club like a common thief. I bundled her into the car and half way home,parkd and gave her d hiding of her life.she had to try to jump out of d car onto d expressway..it was almost 3am in d morning.

We didn't talk for 2weeks after then but since that incidence,she tucked in and beacme more pliable.that was 2years ago,and as I type,she is in d kitchen preparin me a meal.since she don't want me to ever beat her again,she behaves herself and all those skirmished between me n her have reduced ever since.Never ever fear to hit a woman,but then never ever hit a woman out of fear..cos of ur own insecurities

Cool story bro

Will you do the same if she was the one who wanted to start a business. U say u wanna be together forever. This doesn't happen by magic. It will take 2 of u to join head, body and resources and build TOGETHER. U become a unit. Real love is selfless. Be happy you have a woman who care so much for you and your future

U nor get washing meshing for house?!

On a more serious note, if she is like that naturally and u can't handle and display, bite the bullet and walk away hommie. Cos this will happen again and again. Get a friend of hers to talk to her to grant u audience. U guys need to TALK (listen + express ur true feelings). U have to agree on a way of dealing with conflicts in the future that works for both of you. If she is not ready to do this with you and stick to it, then like I said she's not good for you.
All the best man

Why would married couples be loaning each other money in the 1st place. Aren't they a unit? I don't get

Yo ma,

Get your ass off your computer. Go and take a shower, get dulled up and get out there into the real world. Meet men you can see and touch and hear. What has happened to real life Facebook is not real life. Go and mingle with human beings abeg! Wats strong with u ?!

She's hot!

Typical Razz Yoruba behavior (I am Yoruba btw before someone starts yarning dust).
Nyama! tueh!

silence is the best answer for a ....