₦airaland Forum

Sonofgod1990:
Na d eyes you take vote tinubu for last election. Any person wey dey plan to vote for tinubu in next election will go blind like this man

Anuoluwa12345:
Good evening, pls I need help on something
I don't even know how to put it well, but I will try my best to explain a little..and I seek sincere advice from matured and experienced ppl on the forum.

I am a type that when I love ppl, I love them wholeheartedly..to the extent that I will give in all my best to them.. be it family members or non. When I tell you I gat your back, then I truly mean it. But the problem now is, when these ppl hurt me. I don't know how to handle it, I don't even know if I will call it unforgiving spirit or maybe cause I remember things alot, I will surely not forget.

It's not as if I won't forgive them o, I will but, to make that relationship between me and that person smooth back.. it's not possible.. the distance will always be there.. tho before I get angry or pick offence it takes long, but once it happens like this! I know I have lost relationship with that soul.

Some of my relatives (extended fam) offended me, and since about 3 yrs now, these ppl have been sending different ppl just to beg me and talk to me etc.. in order to make things back, but it's just not working!. Cuz I know myself.

And I am a type that, once I vex, I don't look back..even if the person has done a lot of things etc.. I have tried my best but it's just not working. And I understand the fact that there is no how there won't be argument among humans, it's not possible.

My greatest fear now is, what if I marry, is this how It will be towards my husband, someone I claim I love? Pls how do I tackle this problem before I reach that stage, pls I need sincere word of wisdom from elders, else why I come to a faceless forum to pour out my mind.

pappilo:
Be thankful that you are like this. I know you may think you are weak but this attitude will take you far and save you stress. You are just like my late dad and it used to irritate me that nothing would ever make the man lose his cool but now that I am grown and I have seen life I always long to be like him

Anger will only bring destruction once said lagbaja. I have lost a job before due to anger. I have been charged with 6 counts in the crown court before due to anger. I have lost money due to anger and vindictiveness.

Since I got diagnosed and treated for cancer I see life differently and now strive to avoid confrontation and anger. I fail sometimes due to a trait in me that I believe I inherited from my mom but I am 95% a better person than I was 3 years ago.

Keep being you. Use the legal resources available to you to resolve any issues or let them go if they are of no great significance.

iyke484real:
Good evening fellow Nairalanders.

Something happened today that has really made me question myself as a man, and I sincerely need honest advice from mature minds here.

Earlier today, my younger one went to the field to play football. After some time, he came back home crying seriously with blood rushing from his head. According to him, he had an altercation with someone much bigger than him, and the person picked up a stick and hit him on the head.

Immediately, I became angry and asked him to take me to the field to identify the person that injured him. Deep down, I was expecting myself to react aggressively because I felt any normal man would naturally defend his younger one and confront the person strongly.

When we got there and I saw the guy, something happened to me. Instead of fighting or causing a serious scene, I just started asking questions about what happened. I couldn’t bring myself to react violently or aggressively the way many people probably would have. I eventually carried my younger one and went back home.

Since then, I have been feeling ashamed and disappointed in myself.

The painful part is that this is not the first time I have noticed this about myself. I always seem to avoid problems, confrontations, or situations that may escalate. Even when I am angry, I still start thinking about consequences, expenses, police issues, public embarrassment, injuries, and other complications that may arise if things get out of hand.

Because of this, I often withdraw instead of standing my ground fully.

Now I am beginning to feel like I am too timid and not confrontational enough as a man should be. Sometimes I feel weak, powerless, and unable to command respect the way other men do. I see some people react boldly in difficult situations while I keep overthinking consequences and avoiding escalation.

Honestly, it is affecting the way I see myself.

Please, I need sincere advice from experienced people here:

- How can someone stop being too timid or fearful?
- How do you become more confident and confrontational when necessary?
- How do you stand your ground as a man without always retreating?
- Is this kind of behavior weakness, or is there another way to look at it?
- What practical things can I start doing to become mentally stronger and more assertive?

I would genuinely appreciate honest advice, especially from men who may have struggled with similar issues before overcoming them.

jmoore:
https://www.facebook.com/100071450056350/posts/pfbid08MSo7iCYAXR8b6gvpL3iR1UXYkFZBia23sHekfA8SigKnTXYLMZV4PnmAug6QmP4l/?app=fbl

Ebenezer2021:
How are we sure she will survive at child birth after all the abortions wey she don do damaging her womb.
Las last na CS go settle am.
And there's a slim chance of surviving during childbirth at that age that's why we preach to these feminists, submit and get married to a man at early age but they won't hear.
Team single and independent boss lady my foot

alphonsoolajide:
https://eyesoflagos.com/2025/07/11/7-lagos-markets-where-you-can-buy-an-iphone-and-go-home-with-fufu/

IslamVIRGINS:
You wan fence border with blocks wey no strong your people are selling!

Belurved1:
Ewe padimo

abc115:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ejrybs0K2ck

Social media commentator, Martins Otse, also known as VeryDarkMan (VDM), has claimed that over ₦180 million was stolen from his NGO’s account following a hacking incident.



https://www.instagram.com/reel/DEE59P5MUi5/?igsh=MXhxZ2szbnh2bDBoeA==

Mindlog:
While you are useless to your own life, how worse can it get?

Namaster:
The ability of POOR people to INVENT external causes for ALL their problems is just mind-blowing.

Rather than take responsibility for their failures, they'd rather blame Satan, village people and spiritual wife/husbands.

Now, a GROWN man has been used to create content because of stupidity.

Rich men like Davido and Dangote have LITERALLY crossed oceans to fuuuck STRANGE pussies YET they don't have spiritual wives. It's this one that's NEVER left his village in Ogbomosho that spritual wife will bother to disturb.

That's why school is NOT a scam even in Nigeria today.

Good education may NOT guarantee you a decent job BUT it'll prevent you from lying on a mat outside and in just your boxers while someone WIELDS a cutlass near you.

phemmie06:
I will give you kudos for this Six months after the commissioning

My experience at Akute Ishashi road won't make me to say thank you. That road had a deep pit not just pothole within 3 months that people have to a stick and a tyre to caution the driver away from it

Jewessgratitud3:
E dey but not the Very big ones. Like medium size. Better still buy crayfish. No be must to eat fish. Na make belle full na him be koko.

Yesterday I thought of what to cook on a budget. I was actually craving this white rice and concoction palm oil fish stew with iru but when I remembered that 600 naira pepper and tomatoes will not achieve that for me ( cos the last one I got made me stew that I used only twice), I remembered what a Nairalander told me about other ways of eating and enjoying yam ( cos I don't like yam). I quickly made a u-turn, went to one shop and bought yam of 1200, bought eggs. Thankfully I had vegetable oil. I fried half of the yam and that was what I ate throughout yesterday. I spent less and belle full. even till now, I'm still full from yesterdays yam.

God gave us wisdom, so every one should be able to use it to navigate through this period of famine. I'm thinking of roasting the remaining one and I don dey eye some Pako for backyard wey I go use run am outdoor cooking things and it's going to be fun too.

Quadrylateral:
Good afternoon daddies, mummies, my brothers and sisters on Nairaland.

All I need is #500 to buy food, please.

I'm using this medium to appeal to everyone that comes across this post to consider me, please. I'm not going to lie so I can be pitied, so I'll just be completely honest.

I'm here to beg so I can get something to eat. Any good person should help me with anything he or she can; I'll appreciate any amount, please.

I'm begging everyone in the name of God. I've exhausted every option I have, and that's why I'm here now. I haven't eaten anything since Tuesday evening, and my body is starting to shake. Please, someone should help me with anything. Please don't let me die of this hunger! I swear to God, I've never done this before, and this is the last thing I want to do, but I have no other option now.

Please have mercy on me and help me.

My bank details are:

United Bank for Africa (UBA)
2 1 9 0 4 8 6 2 0 6
My name is Quadri


May God continue to bless you and your family.

I have #127 in my UBA account. Someone should help me add #500 to my balance so that I can withdraw #600. I am very hungry please.

trendy001:
Better

robinfemi:
Curse of Ondo State people is among what killed him, he sells the forests they used to farms.

May his soul rest in peace

Obavoh:
I am not a beggar. It is a loan I will surely pay back. Why can’t he just say he can’t lend me , instead of playing my life like long tennis

absingle:
Ogun kill all Muslim

chimpad:
You're rich and are better off in Nigeria. The abroad is a mad system. You make money, but the system is designed to take almost everything. For instance you said it's bliss to make money in dollars. It's not the same feeling for someone resident abroad. In the US, the Govt takes up to 40% of your crypto earnings. You have to declare that on your 1099. I guess in Nigeria you probably got away with no taxes asides the one you paid during the transactions. Taxes, taxes you will share all your earnings with the govt, pay high bills and insurance! There isn't anything superb about being abroad if you are making good money in Nigeria.

IyaebeTheGreat:
He's a selfish husband. Two househelp no go do me sef because I won't have strength for any other thing aside breastfeeding my baby. He's a selfish and wicked husband

whyteteeth:
It's draining dealing with my mom everytime she comes to the city to stay in the same house with me. I live in my elder sister's house but she (my sister) stays abroad with her family. I am the last child and I am not married. I work from home though. My mum visits here once in a while. Anytime she comes around she does a lot of things that spoils my mood. For instance, she doesn't like taking her children's advice no matter how important it is to them. She likes having her way all the time. And when we try to stop her, she guilt trips us and emotionally blackmails us.

I have other siblings who do not live with me but they used to come around with their children anytime mom is around. My father is back home and hardly visits. She doesn't listen to my dad if he advices her.

Mom will first and foremost get someone upset, and when the person complains, she will watch out for one negative word that will slip out from your mouth and use it to emotionally blackmail you. She will cry because of what you said to her until you feel guilty and beg her to forgive you. She also likes reporting her child to another of her child without minding if it would damage their relationship.

She likes making her child feel bad so long as she has her way and she is happy. She pays no attention to the feelings of her children anytime she wants anything. For instance, My mom can make you spend money on something that she already has. Sometimes she will drag for something that she doesn't even need. She feels as a mother all her children must make her happy else they don't like her.

Also, She is terrible with conversations both on phone and physically. If you try to have a one on one talk with her, she will make the conversation very unpleasant because she will keep interrupting, next thing she will cry or she will get up and leave you.

She never sees her fault. Even if she apologies, she would do the same thing again and blame you for making her do it.

If she comes around and everywhere is peaceful, after a short while argument will begin which may lead to a fight.

This is because she likes jamming one person with another person and eventually make them quarel. She enjoys adding words that was never in the conversation when she is reporting somebody to another perosn. Most times those words are very hurting and will lead to a fight. And when the fight begins, she will start crying. Sometimes she would intentionally fall on the ground while trying to separate a fight, just to make sure everybody runs helter-skelter trying to get her up on her feet.

She has blood pressure issues, hence she uses that as a weapon to guilt-trip her children so they can succumb to her demands. For instance, if she says things that are not true about her child to another of her child and the person finds out, once you confront her, she would say " don't query me oh, shey you know my blood pressure would soon go up. I didn't kill my mother, don't kill me oh." Or she will just start crying and say the person hates her and what was said isn't true, and that she never said anything like that. She denies the things she says that are bad soon after she says them.

Gosh, I am just tired of my mom. I feel like packing out of this house, blocking her and not letting her come close to me because of how emotionally draining it is everytime she comes around.

Lamanii22:
I think I’m the only one who doesn’t want to leave Nigeria lol, if everyone is talking about japa in my mind I would be like what are these ones saying 😏… I don’t even include it in my prayer points.


Other countries are fascinating as such but I don’t see myself residing there… I love Nigeria too much.

7david7:
Good morning my people, I am writing you people at this delicate hour of 12:39am because my son's condition, it's getting worse by the day.

Dandruff wants to kill this beautiful boy, I know it's weird because we all know, myself included that dandruff doesn't kill, but watching myself lose a part of my son everyday.

He's been suffering from this condition for over 6yrs now, we've gone to the hospital and after buying and using all the prescribed drugs (Nizoral shampoo, selsun blue, head and shoulders, tea tree oil, miconazole cream, ketoconazole cream, terbinafine cream, fluconazole tablet, terbinafine tablet: almost killed my son, griseofulvin etc) nothing has changed, instead it's getting worse by day.

From complaining of headaches, to weakness (my son that was filled with energy and plays all the time now barely moves, he is always one place complaining of tiredness and pain), to joint pains, to confusion.

According to him, this dandruff has ate up his scalp so much that he can now taste his bathing soap on his tongue the moment he washes his head. We are now scared of washing and applying anything on his head because he will complain of tasting whatever we put on his head in his mouth and he will start having reactions. It's almost as if the skin on his scalp no longer protects him from outside soaps and other ingredients.

The moment he washes his head, his lips and tongue will swell up and he will start having reactions. My once active and lovely boy is now a shadow of himself. He's refusing to play, always complaining of tiredness and pains.

Pls help me my people, I don't know what to do anymore. I've tried every hospital and everything, I've done all I know, and now I'm watching my son deteriorate gradually before my very eyes without having a clue what to do, pls I beg you, help him, help me.

Shikini:
TINUBU is his mother's family name ...

1) Who is his father?

2) Where did he do his primary & secondary schools?

3) Who were his classmates?

WibusJaga:
.

The evil ancestor bat is on a mission with his satanic Mu-Mu ticket, to cause division & confusion in Christendom.

God forbid bat thing.

Mrkindness:
That is it, they will tell you that you don't Force your religion on kids but they want to introduce them to same sex ideology.

And Islam is behind this development.

Farid24224:
Masha Allah

Anobody:
I'm a single mother of two teenage sons, lost my husband 10 years ago and have been struggling to cater for them singlehandedly. My first son is 19 and the last 17 years but I'm getting fed up with the disrespect and regret not taking them to the village so I could remarry.

They both left secondary school and working to save up for school and I don't ask them for a dime. My last son suddenly started behaving like a tout, pierced both ears and turning his hair to dread, takes my stuff without my permission and even to extent of holding my hands when I get furious to beat him.

My first son is dating a girl and spends all his money on her to the extend of asking me for transport fare sometimes. Sometimes they come home by 10 or 11pm and are ready to fight me if I get furious to discipline them.

What broke the camel's back was that my last son went to a friend's bday party overnight without telling me, my first son said he called to tell him he won't return and NONE OF THEM TOLD ME under my roof.

I've tried talking calmly, denying certain privilege and discipline but it keeps getting worse, my last option is to take them back to their father's village before I die of hbp.

I'm depressed nairalanders�, please I seek matured advice, thanks.

Please help me push to front page

Dannyset:


Tinubu's emergence shocked all of them, including some chest-beating dunce on this platform.

They have gone into hiding because of shame.

We know you have now shifted the goal post but your final cries has gone before you.

Ashiere PLC.