HISTORICAL PERSPECTIVES OF WIVES COOKING FOR THEIR HUSBANDS

Back in the days, it is more common in Africa for the man to be the provider of the basic necessities of life to their family. Most jobs at the time was either hunting or faming. Most men would leave early in the morning before cock crows to their various offices (farmland and hunting parameters). They allow the wife to stay at home and take care of their children. Some wives took to neighboring trade of petty stuff because some men are becoming naturally unpredictable by cheating on their wives while claiming to have gone to the farm or hunting. It is such a simple thing for women to always want to cook for their husband who had just arrived from the farm, or who had just arrived with lots of hunted animals for food and commerce. It is more economical for the wives to stay at home and take care of the homes. And part of the household functions at the time was predominantly cooking for the household, and cleaning, and of cause sexual intercourse with their spouse almost every night after eating such a humongous mountainous panded yam and Oporoko soup.
At this age and time, and with the inversions that both husband and wife must work to provide for the skyrocketing expenses of the household. THE ISSUE OF WOMEN COOKING FOR THE MEN IN A MARRIAGE HAD GRADUALLY AND NATURALLY ERADICATED ITSELF. ALLELUYAH

Leila

I am sorry I have a different perspectives to your so-called thread. Having read all comments by NAIRALAND FAMILY posted by both sexes, here are my own personal analogy of your SITUATION.

[b]Prior to marriage, I assume you courted him for more that 24 hours as an assumption, and I strongly believed the courtship was far longer than 24 hours, perhaps, days, months and even unusually years. Within these courtship parameters, I am also assuming that at one time or the other before marriage, your husband must have had a one in a lifetime chances of tasting your cookings, and that does not stopped him from dragging you to the the front of a County court judge or a pastor to pronounce you man and wife. If he knew prior to marriage that you do not perfectly know how to cook indigenous African food, and still married you, I DON'T THINK YOU SHOULD KEEP WORRYING YOURSELF ABOUT COOKING TO SATISFY YOUR HUSBAND.
Any sane man who read your post will sure believes that YOU ARE A RARE WOMAN AMONG MARRIED WOMEN, where most wives of this jet age don't even give a shit about the welfares of their husband, talk less about attempting to cook to his satisfactions. One thing you need to realize about African men is the facts that the one who complains about any woman's cooking usually knows how to cook himself. You are not married to him to ultimately become his chef, if he keeps complaining about your cooking, tell him to go learn how to cook his own damn indigenous foods, after all he knew you were a foreigner when and before he married you, AND I AM HOPING HE DID NOT MARRY YOU FOR IMMIGRATIONAL PURPOSES, hence now making flimsy excuses of your shortcoming after his personal aims have been achieved. On the other hand this may not be the case.
The idea of looking for his country girl to teach you how to cook HELL NO. I am sorry to let you know that IBO GIRLS are professional to certain OPEDIA with ANY man. Unfortunately, this is a positive attributes to any living man from an IBO WOMAN, regardless of THRUST.
Your husband must be a good husband for you to have gone through all these efforts to satisfy his grubbing pleasures for your cookings. IF HE KEEPS COMPLAINING OF YOUR COOKING, LET HIM START COOKING FOR YOU and for himself, except and if it was analyzed in your prenuptial agreements that you must be the only one cooking for the households. HUSBAND AND WIFE NEEDS TO WORK TOGETHER IN LOVE AND ACCEPTANCE OF EACH OTHERS' SHORTCOMINGS, HELP EACH OTHER IN PARTS OF WEAKNESSES, NURTURE, AND LOVE ONE ANOTHER WITH EVERLASTING LOVE,, AND NOT MAKE THE WIFE BECOME A PARTIALLY ENSLAVED TO THE KITCHEN BECAUSE SHE IS A WOMAN.
On a conclusive note, I would advice you to cook only food you are specialized and proficient to cook, European foods, PERIOD, because he lives in Europe, and married an European woman. If he is craving for African food, let him cook it for himself, or go to his relatives to satisfy his starchy cravings for "oporoko" soup. I HOPE I HAVE NOT OFFENDED ANYONE BY TELLING YOU THE HONEST TRUTH[/b]