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queensmith:
If we all strive to be like that rather than chase nuisance men around the world be such a better place!

Mrs, Chima:
How did I missed this thread?!!!   

LaPear (That's your nickname from me)   

I believe that life in general is UNFAIR to women, but not necessarily hard.  I read the thread and I was expecting those whom are typically honest would be honest, but I didn't see that. 

However, I would say that we live in a double standard world.  Women are expected to be a certain way and think a certain way according to respective societies.  Some countries embrace gender equalities and some countries doesn't. 

A man can sleep with hundreds of woman and get accolades for it, but if a woman sleeps with two or more men she is considered an ashy ho.    The same concept applies with polygamous marriage, women are expected not to have multiple husbands, while husbands can marry multiple wives.  Some people would be quick to interject because the religious book said so.  (That is not good reasons when there are many other books that contradicts each other)  It has nothing to do with "books", it is a choice that individuals make and need to accept accountability for their choices. 

In some countries, women weren't allow to work so it was natural for men to make more money than women. However, in America accordingly to Equal Employment Opportunity Act women and men are to be paid base on their experience, education, and recommendation, not because of their gender or the company will be liable for discrimination.  It is difficult to prove unless parties are willing to disclose their salary stubs. 

In some families, women are forced to get marry and bear children at a certain age and it has much to do with culture/tradition.  In the West society, a woman who chooses to uphold her career over managing a family is considered a lesbian.  It is not by force that a woman must marry and bear children if she chooses not to.  That's the option women in the West primarily have without familial pressure.  Again, it has much to do with culture/tradition. 

Some women are career women and wives, it is not an easy task because women are EXPECTED to stay home and become housewives whereas a man doesn't.  It is frown upon when a man becomes a house husband.  A documentary aired on ABC, concerning the new trend of house husbands and what society thinks of house husbands.  It was not a pleasant film and two men killed themselves after the filming reasons unknown.  Again, it has much to do with culture/tradition. 

I am not sure about the bedroom thing, however women are expected to be sexy and maintain their figure.  I do think that men who ask women to be sexy and maintain their figure need to do the same.  I have seen fat men demanding their women to maintain their figure while they are eating 10 hotdogs and drinking four lagers.     

I do support women and men to exercise and take care of their bodies.  It is not that hard to do if you care about your health and body.  Good hygiene is imperative.   

Someone mentioned that women need to select better men, I agree.  However, men need to select better women and both sexes should know specifically what they want and need before going out hunting.  There is nothing worse than a man or woman in the hunting field scrambling for anything because they are not sure if what they want in their relationship.  The most important thing that both sexes should know is to design your relationship to YOUR SPECIFIC NEEDS AND WANTS.

Do not design your relationship base on what society thinks, your family thinks, and stereotypes.  You will be unhappy and miserable for the REST OF YOUR LIFE.  Do you.   

For example, If you want someone to be submissive and a housewife, then you need to find that person who is submissive and wants to be a housewife.  It will not work if both are unequally yoked in every aspect of relationship or marriage.  (It will reduce heartaches and headaches)   

The world isn't fair to women, however it has came a long way since the stone age!  Praise HIM! 

sauer:
Sure. . . .I'll do that for you. I'll translate them. . . .right after I have written them to you

TisaBone:
This is a mans world but men do av their own challenges like taking care of the family paying 80% of the bills e.t.c

In America things are different. I know too many single mothers who take care of children AND go to school AND go to work.

Then like everywhere in the world I'm sure, you have the men that are lazy bums who allow their women to bring home the bacon while they sit on their derrieres watching tv and drinking beer all day.

And then you have independent women who do it all by themselves and dont ask any one for ANYTHING,  

 I was watching a documentary on a South African woman, and she said that she knew her husband was cheating. and when he was on the road, she was sure he was not using condoms. then he began to get sick. so she got herself tested, and she was hiv positive. She said she stayed with him because she LOVED him and that secretly, she was glad that he had aquired HIV, because maybe then he would  finally stop cheating. Only he never did.

I dont think life is more difficult for women, I just think that women take entirely too much from men. If they stopped this, then maybe things would be a lot more fair for us. Maybe if we stopped being ruled by our emotions, we could maintain some sort of control in romantic relationships.
  Anyways, let me conclude this rant. In closing, might I say, that life is not really all that hard for women in particular, its hard for everyone in general, but we as women must not think negatively. If we only choose our men more carefully, then perhaps we could save ourselves some heartache and pain.  Also, I dont believe women have to choose between a career and men. If you truly want both, then you will do BOTH and make it work somehow. Finally, the only way life is unfair to women is if we believe that life is unfair. If you continue to think this way, it is the end before it has even began.

deal_ordea:
Op! Am including you in my naughty list for posting this!

~Killz~:
[color=#000030]Smh@ bleep responsibly! I never knew wanton gallivanting and promiscuity were now desirable traits! Do you have values at all? You want to expose yourself to premeditated risks and then get married at 30 and start living with the consequences? Forget the hype! There's always a consequence for every action taken! So what is stopping you from doing all that? Whatever it is that is stopping you is only telling you that you cant eat your cake and have it! [/color]

You probably didn't understand what I said or maybe I wasn't clear enough. Those are things men do and nobody raises an eyebrow, not things I want to do. Lol
Ofcourse I have values and principles, there's no atom of irresponsiblity in me

MRbrownJAY:
@OP
is it really THAT difficult to have a high flying career and family?

rich man being a bad boy?! nice guys being poor? woah what a preconception!? have you ever thought about marrying a poor guy and building a fortune TOGETHER, or is that not within your options?

shouldnt men be awesome too, or will you really settle for a men who aint shiit in bed?!

if you have already accepted that fact then NO WONDER most do! you do NOT have to accept anything you dont want in life, the fact that you do is down to YOU and your low self esteem desperate insecure self.

i am safe to say that if you were working at Mc Ds, you would get the same salary as your workmates, lol!
it should be all down to merit, and if you are underpaid at work then take it up with your superiors and sue them until you get the right compensation. et voila!

Mynd_44:
@OP, why must you obey the laws set by society?
Someone here said girls do what their mothers tell them, Ladies do what society tells them and women do what they want. So who are you? Will you continue to let people decide how to live your life or you gonna do your own thing?

Flashaldrin:
@op, i feel you jare, i really empathise with women and i respect them a lot
although believe me, men also have their own challenges, lots of them!

~Killz~:
[color=#000030]Haha! I cant laugh!
Their excuse is always things are tight, things are not going well. Yes! But desperation and frustration is a killer! People dont have a priority, or what it is they hold dear to themselves. And even if they do, the sound of "million" would break every barrier of commonsense they claim to have! Money is good, but the love of money, is BAD! There are some people on this thread that'll accept 100million Naira to shoot their mother! Damn! I'll rather die poor than sell my pride, dignity and exchange my values for money! I'll be happy to be the outcast!

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