₦airaland Forum

hbk001:
Under Buhari, freedom of speech is guaranteed but freedom after speech, not guaranteed.

Nigerians have become comedians because of the unfriendly government of Buhari.

Its either she is not telling us sth or she forced herself on the man. Either way, love is absent.

Between ASUU and Federal Government, who should pay compensation? The APC led FG has deceived Nigerians by failing to fulfill their campaign promises, but nobody has sued them. The education Minister has no shame to make such a suggestion. They should bury their heads in shame. We know what to do in February 2023.

virginprincess:
So because your friend gave your wife money you just concluded that she is cheating on you without any concrete evidence ,nawa for some men sha,anyway,what i see there is that you never trusted your wife from the onset if not why would you just conclude that she's cheating on you .

You are saying this because you are a woman. Why didn't she inform her husband about the cash gift and why didn't she explain to her husband when he inquired? She rather attacked him. The wife and the friend have something they are hiding. Women are only crafty but hardly wise.

May God's grace sustain their union with all the perks of marriage. Congratulations to them.

And this is what has kept us as a country where we are today... sense of entitlement. So Nigerian leadership is now a turn by turn thing . Will we ever learn?

Congratulations to them. I pray that Satan doesn't come between them. They look so beautiful!

Profperfect:
Dear Fam,

Please help me out(advice) on this , I am writing at this odd hour because I have lost my peace and I can't close my eyes and sleep .

My relationship has not been a rossy one at all, I have my faults (though am not a womanizer or a cheat) God bears me witness, but believe me, the girl I'm dating and almost settling down with after some years of dating has been hell, trust issues, disrespectful, someone who told me she can never respect or submit to me in her life, I have endured and endured her, she always overrides me. I can't talk or complian of her wrong doings , she will react badly, very insulting (countlessly insulted my father and mother but I have never ever retailiated, does care about what I feel or how I feel.

Should I talk of sex? I have never cheated on her for the past 6 years plus since we met (started dating) at a young age at uni and after uni, I respect her even in her absence, but she has mingled with different guys that has cost out relationship, in all these she claims she has done nothing wrong.

The main issue of all right now is that her boss, she once worked for who she was consciously sleeping with inside office once others are not around, always, hotel, even when they (claim) or go to conference or meetings together, knowing that he is a married man, called her yesterday to give her a job offer to return . This is a boss she served years back, even during uni he kept calling and always wanting to have her, during and after NYSC he kept calling her for him to have a bite, same boss she was pregnant for and aborted for him, though she hanged it on her boyfriend as of that time and the guy didn't know . She never told me all these her self, but I won't like to share here how I got to know.

The same man she has been avoiding for years, that she doesn't want to go back to sin or her past life, but just yesterday she even took excuse sneaked out of office and went to see him and accepted the offer, then came back home called me to tell me this and that and before I could talk she said she has accepted it, was shocked and trying to reason why she did that, she asked me if there was anything wrong in her decision, she began to yell at me on phone, as usual I kept mute and ended the call. Please would I be wrong if at this point I take a bow and leave now?

Please help me push it to the front page. She is a Nairalander too, she sees nothing wrong in the wrong things she does. Let the world hear my story and correct me if am wrong on taking the decision.

Guy, what else do you need as a proof of the fact that you are about to dig your grave? All the red flags you have listed are enough for you to end the relationship. A broken relationship is better than a broken marriage. END IT NOW!

realestate99:
I was just discussing this with a friend this morning, nobody despise an impending disgrace like a woman,

An innocent faced charming lady can kill just to cover her tracks, they bask in the euphoria of being a soft and tender gender, anything that might cause disgrace of any kind or taint that reputation is eliminated by all means.......that is why females do not own up to their misdeeds because of the high pedestal ( innocence) the society placed them

Hmmm

VladimirPutiin:
When we tell these guys to do thorough investigations before marrying they think we don’t know what we are saying. He married a loosed whoore in the first. A whorish Lady pretend a lot when she sees someone she wants to marry. Especially when she sees that Mr Nice guy who says the past is past.

Hmmm

CSTRR:
You have made a mistake by letting her know you are onto her.

Now she will cover her tracks wells.

You should have closely monitored her.

When she is going out to any undisclosed location, find a way to follow her.

I was so annoyed.

henrymorebaba:
Bro, chase her away and start a new life, no sensible man stays with a cheating wife, or you plan your japa and never return. How can you marry a woman and she will still go about sleeping with men who didn't do anything on her head. Use the chats as evidence use it to your family and her family and walk away,if you pardone her she would still do it.

Thanks

GOFRONT:
........And a Man died just lastweek within my neighbourhood because of this similar issue. A very gentle and quiet man for that matter. His promiscuous wife left him and their five children to go stay with her Man lover because of hardship.

I guess it is the heart break and shock that accompany the adultrous lifestyle of his wife that finally sent him to his untimely death. Now she and her manlover will take over the dead man's property Properly.

Op, As we speak, we are yet to get over the sudden death of the man in the neighbourhood........Pls quit it now. I dont want to hear "So so and so Nairalander with moniker Lastborn has kicked so so and so type of Bucket.........but you shall overcome this one.

Thank you

frozen70:
This is very sensitive

She said is because of the hardship

Meaning what she gets from such outing is part of what she brings to the table

Well you are the only one that will prove that either she is assisting you in feeding the family and you never asked her the source of her money

Secondly, if you are very sure that you are the one providing for the family, the why is she saying that she is doing such because of hardship

I think you need to really find out exactly why she is being promiscuous because she is doing that either for pleasure or for hardship

Her response will make you to forgive her or not

But she needs to stop it because it brings badluck in marriage

It's really bringing me down. Instead of me to progress, I'm retrogressing. Good suggestion. Thanks.

BlackPantherxXx:
You don't guard sheep or meat with a wolf or tiger...

Why will a married woman have male friends?

Even a married man shouldn't be too close with females.

I don't tolerate such relationships. You can be cordial but too close ...can lead to you know what.

You are at fault here. Too permissive.

Maybe that was my undoing

jesmond3945:
My brother whatever decision that you make for your interest is correct and right. Please face your children and give them the best.

You are talking now

pointblank247:
nobody catches an adultrouse wife red handed, they cover their tracks well enough,
The evidence he has is enormous already.

Good reasoning.

OkoYibo:
Instead of a promiscuous woman her to allow her husband catch her cheating, she prefers for her husband to die and she is seen as a widow.
Whichever way to achieve her husband's death will now look attractive.

The day your wife sees a man who has money and promises to take care of her and her kids, you are a dead man. You are only alive because she is yet to see such man.

Exactly what she wants.

Strongdickfresh:
Pardon her and show more love than before. She will never cheat on you again. You are the cause of her cheating...

I wish you explained exactly why I am the cause of her cheating. How would you know? Do you know what I have put into this marriage to make it work? A woman I have done practically everything for? I've established her in businesses, all of which she has failed. What else should I have done that I didn't do?

nairalanderr:
once a cheat,always a cheat. let her Go.

Okay

onumadu:
Marriage is not tea party.
It is a DIFFICULT task.
Please calm down, talk to your wife and pray for your family.
She will come around.
Never consider divorce unless your life is in danger.
I repeat: Marriage is not easy, and that is why it is for ADULTS.

There are some matters arising from this issue that are VERY risky and life threatening. She's gone spiritual to shut me up. You know how mean many women can be.

Templee333:
Fast & pray. 6 to 12 can do. Make sure u have her pics when u r praying & repeatedly ask God 2 kill the spirit of adultery in her.

WOW!

jeromestarks:
On a second thought, stay with her until she plans your death with one of her rich male friends.
Don't worry, your children will be well fed.
The choice is your bro.

Hmmm... rather sarcastic.

STARGREEN:
Beg her to stop if you don't know what to do

Please just avoid my post.

MrBrownJay1:
a woman who decides to cheat because you guys are going through hardship is the DEVIL INCARNATE. how is cheating on her husband gonna solve the issue at hand?! even if she didnt cheat, see how she is portraying herself as a wh0re to all these men. who would want a woman like this as their life mates?!



when the TRUST is gone, when DECEIT is creeping in, when DISRESPECFUL behaviors are the norm, then really, you need to ask yourself what are you in it for? this person you called your "wife" has no RESPECT for you nor the marriage you guys are in.

Very true. She has become very disrespectful.

nifemi25:
According to your story, you haven't caught her red handed.... you are only acting base on what you heard from your wife's friend.... I will only advice you calm yourself so as to catch her . Once you caught her , am sure you knows what to do if you don't want to die before your time..

But I said I have chat evidence, apart from her confessing that she was about to do it, which is a lie.

jeromestarks:
You should have married a virgin.
Divorce her and "find" a virgin.

Must you make jest of me?

abuwidad:
Abeg no kill her o! Just let her go jeje women still boku plenty out there

What about our four kids...all girls? How do I bring them up alone?

Please I need honest suggestions. My wife has had several male platonic friends ever since we met. She became friends with others through me. I trusted her because she's a very sociable person, so I wasn't bothered because I know a lot of ladies that have male friends too. She's been open to me about them.

Recently, something happened. A close female friend of hers (also married) started keeping her at arm's length. My wife didn't know what the problem was until information got to her that this friend of hers was going about telling people that she could no longer be friends with her because she's sleeping around with men indiscriminately.

My wife confronted her with this information, for which she denied. But the informant, who was also invited, insisted that she actually said it. Before this time, my wife would always complain that each time she visits her friend, she would knock on the door but nobody would respond. This happened repeatedly until her tenant told my wife in confidence that his landlady was always around each time she visits.

Recently, I discovered that my wife was actually having amorous relationship with her male friends. I have access to her messeinger and I have seen those amorous chats. She would delete the ones that could implicate her. A male friend of hers even sent her adult videos and she told him to send more, that she was enjoying it. This man went further to send her his masturbation video.

I confronted my wife with these and what people told me, but she denied. After putting much pressure on her, she said she was about to do it, not that she actually did it. I asked her the reason and she said that it was because of the hardship we were facing. Since her business collapsed, it's been very difficult to survive with our four children. I'm the only one fending for the family. Even after confronting her, I discovered that she's still into the act.

Given the above scenario, what should I do? Please I want only healthy comments that will help me make my decision. Thanks.

*PREAMBLE*
National Christian Elders Forum (NCEF) has been observing events as Nigeria prepares for another election year in 2023. The intrigues and the horse trading by the political class are uncomfortable indications that those who rule Nigeria have not learnt any lesson from the errors of the past. The country cannot continue doing the same things repeatedly and expect different results.
Of more concern is the resurgence of Muslim-Muslim ticket proposed by the All Progressive Congress (APC). While it is true that Nigerians voted for MKO Abiola and Baba Gana Kingibe under a Muslim-Muslim ticket in 1993, the situation in the country is no longer the same. It is insensitive and unconscionable for APC to re-enact Muslim-Muslim ticket after 13 years of Islamist insurgency in Nigeria.
The tongue-in-cheek argument that religion should not be brought into politics stands reason on its head. It is absurd that the architects and sponsors of politics of religion in Nigeria could suddenly become advocates of no religion in politics to further their agenda of turning Nigeria into an Islamic theocratic state.

*DEMOCRACY vs SHARIA*
NCEF has stated in many publications that the problem of Nigeria is the conflict between Democracy and Sharia ideology in the 1999 Constitution. Sharia in the constitution is the real politics of religion. The illegal and unwarranted incursion of Sharia into the 1999 Constitution is at the root of the Islamist insurgency and insecurity that has plagued Nigeria since 2009. The least that the APC could do is to resolve the conflict of ideologies in Nigeria by enacting a new constitution having democracy as the sole national ideology and not attempt to worsen an already bad situation by giving political preference to a particular religion.
If a Muslim-Muslim ticket should be permitted to stand, under whatever guise, it implies that after eight years of President Buhari, a Muslim from the North, there will another eight years of a Muslim from the South after which the North will insist that power should rotate back for eight years of another Muslim President. By the time Nigeria completes the cycle of 24 years of Muslim presidents, the Islamization agenda would be complete.
Both PDP and APC have demonstrated callous insensitivity to the problems caused by religious intolerance in Nigeria. By floating two Muslim presidential candidates, both PDP and APC have confirmed their commitment to politics of religion.

*DEMOCRACY UNDER THREAT*
Consequently, Nigerians are urged to realize that the issue playing out is deliberate attempt to destroy democracy in Nigeria and supplant it with Sharia as the national ideology and source of legislation. This issue does not concern Christians only, but it concerns Nigerians who love liberty, justice, equality, and fairness. The rejection of the Muslim-Muslim ticket should not be seen as Christian objection but an objection by every Nigerian in favour of democracy which guarantees freedom of choice, freedom of expression, and freedom of worship.
If Nigerians should open their eyes and permit the Muslim-Muslim ticket to stand, or the election of a Muslim Presidential candidate in 2023, then Nigerians would have voted for a sectional national ideology to replace the liberty upon which Nigeria was established as a country. Nigerians are fiercely independent people and would suffer a lot if their liberty is curtailed under a discriminatory religious ideology.

*2023 ELECTIONS: WHAT WILL NIGERIANS CHOOSE?*
The choice before Nigerians in 2023 is between democracy or Sharia, liberty or bondage, and equality or discrimination. The past seven years of the Buhari administration is a foretaste of what is to come, with increasing intensity. Already, Sharia ideology is demonstrating its aversion for western education and civilization with the closure of universities for many months. An educated populace is not a preference of sponsors of Sharia ideology. The Almajiris of northern Nigeria is credible evidence.

*A COUNTRY OF “DHIMMIS”* (Second class citizens)
NCEF is not unmindful of the activities of political jobbers, particularly in the Church, and wish to caution those who place money about moral values to take heed. There are 389 ethnic nationalities in Nigeria and 386 of these nationalities do not subscribe to any religious ideology as way of life. The ethnic nationalities should talk to each other and realize that if they mishandle the 2023 elections, they would have signed their descendants off as “dhimmis” (second class citizens) in their land of nativity and released their ancestral land for possession by those who manipulate religion for cultural and political domination.
After the discriminatory and insensitive administration of President Buhari, Nigeria requires a breath of fresh air from intolerance and discrimination. Before coming into power, President Buhari was quoted affirming his pro-Sharia conviction and stated unequivocally that he was prepared to fight another civil war to ensure that Nigeria became Sharia compliant. The past seven years confirmed that he meant every word that he uttered.

*ETHNIC NATIONALITIES TO THE RESCUE*
Under the circumstances, ethnic nationalities in Nigeria should gear up to resist the Muslim-Muslim ticket as well as replacement of President Buhari by another Muslim. Nigeria requires respite from 13 years of daily bloodshed by Islamist insurgents. A Muslim President should not replace President Buhari so that balance can be restored to the country. The liberty and security of Nigerians depend on it.
It amounts to pure mischief to make the Muslim-Muslim ticket a Christian versus Muslim affair. It is deeper than that. We are dealing with democracy versus Sharia. The national ideology and identity of Nigeria is at stake. There is a deliberate attempt to distort the DNA of Nigeria and reformat the country into what it was not established to be. If the ethnic nationalities should permit this to stand, they would have consigned their descendants into perpetual bondage. Already, the Fulanis boast openly that they are born-to-rule, and that God has given them Nigerian as their inheritance. 2023 election is the decisive year.

*EXPANSION OF FEUDALISM*
The Muslim-Muslim ticket is a deliberate ploy by the northern oligarchy to extend its feudalism beyond the North to the rest of the country. If it should work, all Nigerians will suffer the consequences. The Yoruba Muslims, the Ibo Muslims, the Ijaw Muslims, and every other citizen will become “dhimmis”. It is unfortunate that desperation for political power made some politicians to acquiesce to this conspiracy.
It should be emphasized that Muslim-Muslim ticket should not be perceived as conflict between Christianity and Islam. This is a major distraction. The real target is the ethnic nationalities that own Nigeria. The ethnic nationalities consist of Christians, Muslims, traditionalists, and free thinkers. The Muslim-Muslim ticket is only in the interest of the northern oligarchy even though efforts will be made to persuade Muslims nationwide to support it. From the way the way the northern oligarchy ran the North aground, Muslims from the other regions will not benefit anything in the long run.

*PROMOTE DEMOCRACY*
It is in the best interest of all Nigerians to promote democracy as the sole national ideology. The founding fathers of Nigeria birthed this country on the principles of freedom of choice, freedom of expression, and freedom of worship. We must do everything possible to maintain liberty in the country. We should not place coming generations in bondage.

Support democracy. Support liberty.


For and on behalf of National Christian Elders Forum:

Dr. S. D. Gani, CON
Chairman, NCEF

Bosun Emmanuel
Secretary

29th July 2022

candidtalk:
Poor lady. I know the Brits well. She's probably regretting the delusional upstarts, like Obi and Datti, her job forces her to engage. Lol.

Great Britain know who the authoritative big boys are they can get serious work done with. They don't entertain sentiments and will know clowns like Obi and Datti cannot influence anything or anyone of note in Nigeria.

Independent candidates, which Obi and Datti are more or less, because their Party has no strength or structure, only become MPs in the UK. The equivalent of Nigerian Senators with allocated constituency areas.

An independent candidate can never become Prime Minister because a UK Prime.Minister should have majority MP influence to arrive able to influence and deliver that gives directions for the nation.

Trust me, that woman is bored and amused. She'll be wondering how Nigerians can be delusional enough to be indulging these two jokers.

Wailing wailers, how market?

Who else is seeing what I'm seeing? 2023 go choke!