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lexy2014:
It seems u just help proving me right. I really like u for that. U don't fail to disappoint

This one that u are now using pictures, seems u have run out of words. What happened?

lexy2014:
U really really emotional& I really wish I could help u. But my "long boring epistles" should b enough tonic to help u tone up.ur emotions.

Once again I can't help but notice that u have confirmed this:

Ur use of d word "rant" in ur comment & under d circumstances is struggling to fit in& make meaning. If u remember I told u that if we can fix ur dictionary problem, am certain we will b on d same page. But ur dictionary situation is beyond me. Sorry.

Also u saying "justify" and "support". This guy, u don't fail to disappoint. If I ask u to produce any of my comments that support ur use of those words, am 100% certain u won't b able to. Don't let me burden u with a task we both no u won't b able to carry out

Amanstailored:
You just shot urself on the foot even before learning to walk. You alone argued that she never said yes hence its termed rape. But my arguement was quite simple and clear. That consent cannot always be a matter of verbally saying yes or no. If a woman isnt in a position to say yes or no whether she is a deaf mute or her mouth was strapped then her consent is expressed in her body language. That was my position and the laws position on consent. And please if you really want to make ur arguements do so without the insults and jibe. No human in their right senses would condone rape least of all me. But should we hang every man on a stake simply because a woman says he raped her without a fair trial. Would you do that to every man just because youre a woman hence u sympathise with bisola. Should the law be swayed by public opinions and sentiments rather than fact and evidence. I do feel he is guilty and i no why i feel so. But i rather allow a fair trial to be right so i dont condemn a man only to find out 20years down the line that his accuser made false accusations. You and i werent there were we, its her words against his. Or are u now in the place of God who is all knowing and can emphatically say without a shred of doubt that u saw everytin that transpired and hence fatoyinbo should be incarcerated please enlighten me

Why many rape victims don’t fight or yell

By James W. Hopper June 23, 2015

James W. Hopper, PhD, is an independent consultant and part-time instructor in psychology in the Department of Psychiatry of Harvard Medical School. He has conducted research on the neurobiology of trauma, and trains investigators, prosecutors, judges, and higher-education professionals on its implications. Here, he offers his explanation of why people don’t always respond to an attack the way others might expect:

In the midst of sexual assault, the brain’s fear circuitry dominates. The prefrontal cortex can be severely impaired, and all that’s left may be reflexes and habits.

In the Washington Post’s recent series on college sexual assault, many victims describe how they reacted – and did not react – while being assaulted.

Another article also published this month, in the Harvard Review of Psychiatry, shows that some responses have been programmed into human brains by evolution.

Bringing together the accounts of those who have been assaulted with the neurobiology of trauma can play an essential role in supporting healing and the pursuits of accountability and justice.

For example, freezing is a brain-based response to detecting danger, especially a predator’s attack. Think deer in the headlights.

As one woman told the Post, “I didn’t say no, but I didn’t really know what to do. I just kind of froze.”

Freezing occurs when the amygdala – a crucial structure in the brain’s fear circuitry – detects an attack and signals the brainstem to inhibit movement. It happens in a flash, automatically and beyond conscious control.

Simultaneously with the freeze response, the fear circuitry unleashes a surge of “stress chemicals” into the prefrontal cortex, the brain region that allows us to think rationally – to recall the bedroom door is open, or that people are in the dorm room next door, for example, and to make use of that information.

But the surge of chemicals rapidly impairs the prefrontal cortex. That’s because, despite our dominant role on the planet now, we evolved as prey, and when a lion or tiger is upon us, stopping to think is fatal.

Indeed, no one understands better than the military that intense fear impairs our prefrontal cortex and capacity for reason.

When bullets are flying and blood is flowing, you had better have some really effective habit learning to rely upon.

That’s why combat training is rigorous and repetitive – to burn in habits of effectively firing weapons, executing combat formations, etc.

Most victims will freeze, if only briefly. Some will fight back, effectively. Some will resist in habitual, passive ways. Some will suddenly give in and cry. Others will become paralyzed, become faint, pass out or dissociate.

Few who have experienced these responses realize that they are brain reactions to attack and terror.

They blame themselves for “failing” to resist. They feel ashamed. (Men especially may see themselves as cowards and feel like they’re not real men.) They may tell no one, even during an investigation. Sadly, many investigators and prosecutors still don’t know some or all of these brain-based responses.

None of these responses – in women or men – entails consent or cowardice.

None is evidence of resistance too insufficient to warrant our respect and compassion.

They are responses we should expect from brains dominated by the circuitry of fear (just as we should expect fragmented and incomplete memories).

May the day come when everyone who knows someone who has been sexually assaulted – which is all of us, whether we know that yet or not – understands these basic ways that our brains can react to such attacks and uses this knowledge to foster healing and justice.

https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/grade-point/wp/2015/06/23/why-many-rape-victims-dont-fight-or-yell/?utm_term=.88d44a8a3377

lexy2014:
I can c u avoided using d word "boring" to qualify my "epistle". So my epistle is no longer boring? that's good. At least we are making progress. Am glad u are now enjoying my epistle.

Once again, u are still confirming my observation that English language comprehension is a big problem 4u& like I noted, maybe d dictionary u use was imported 4u from Jupiter. Cos ur choice of words often prove that u its either u don't no d meaning of d word u using or u have another meaning to that word that d rest of planet earth doesn't no.

When u say am "defending" Fatoyinbo, how have I defended him? Can u produce any comment i made to support ur claim? But here is my response 2u earlier. It should help shed light on d emotional issues u are dealing with.

D problem is that u expect everyone to roll over& accept ur point of view. Sorry dude, life isn't that simple. If u can't accept d fact that others have a right 2 their opinion, then don't expect others to accept yours& u will just continue reeling in emotional agony.

It also buttresses d question I asked earlier which like I noted ur guilt won't let u answer:

If I sound intelligent, then am intelligent. Tnx 4 recognising that.

Once again, ur classic pot-calling-kettle-black syndrome in full display. By waking up @ 2:03am to respond to my "boring epistle", does that not confirm that what u wrote above is a summary of u? Whose mouthpiece are u acting as? U are d most visible person on this thread. All d comments u have made so far, was on ur behalf or busolas? Did she assign u as her mouthpiece? Once again u have confirmed this:

Chubhie:
This your position is faulty. Even if a woman consents to the sex and decides to change her mind in the middle of your çum and says stop, the law demands that you stop immediately and roll back the preçum cos failure to adhere to this updated rule effectively renders you a rapist.

Amanstailored:
Consent isnt always expressed as verbal yes or no that would mean that forcing yourself on a deaf woman isnt rape just because she didnt say the word no. Consent is most times expressed in her reaction and body language which speaks volumes.
While talking about consent most times the law try to illustrate it in terms of a cup of tea. You either say yes i want a cup of tea or no i dont want a cup of tea, which is quite simple, a girl can either allow for sex meaning yes i want it or resist meaning no whether she chooses to be verbal or silent is irrelevant her action speaks louder than words. But going back to the cup of tea analogy one might also argue that someone might say no to a cup of tea 5minutes ago only to change their mind 5minutes later which is true and can be interpreted as consent. A girl may resist sex at the beginning only to enjoy it 10minutes into it and in criminal law that would be interpreted as consensual.

1StopRudeness:
Do you even understand me...as in sincerly from the bottom of ur heart..do U feel what Uve just written is the response to the comment I made.
As in sorry ooooo.. I asked an hypothetical question with a hypothetical scenario so as to establish drive home the argument and u are saying I should show u where she said yes...
As in do u even comprehend my last comment and previous comment?? Did u see any where I wrote that she said yes..??

lexy2014:
There are a few things that I noted about u& u keeping confirming those things. one of them is d fact that u seem 2 use a different dictionary from d one we use on planet earth. Pls what is ur understanding of d word "rant"? If u have any ambivalence about d word read thru ur comments. If we could fix ur dictionary issues, am certain we would have been on d same page.

Also, there is d classic pot-calling-kettle-black syndrome that u display. D fact that u feel u are entitled while others aren't. That's y I asked u this earlier which ur guilt wouldn't let u answer

If u say am guilty of ur accusation below, can u pls tell me how all u have been doing on this thread for busola is different from what u just wrote below?

There's a saying that when u point one finger at others, d other four are pointing back at u. So in all ur accusations about others, u have weightier accusations pointing back at u. I won't b surprised that u also have a history like d one u are accusing Fatoyinbo of having.



Do u no what I like most about this comment? D part where u said my "epistle" is "boring". U had to wake up at 2:03am in d morning to respond 2a "boring epistle". dude, that is classic. I can also count 7 responses u made to my "boring epistles". How does someone take his time to write d many grammar u wrote just to respond 2 something that is boring? U keep shooting urself in d foot.

Another thing I like about d above comment is d part where u said Fatoyinbo is my pastor. I believe i addressed that issue previously but let me remind u:

I don't have a pastor anywhere. I don't even remember when last I went to church. So if u think insulting Fatoyinbo will move me, u got it wrong. U have to think of something else

1StopRudeness:
U ddnt get my question at all, what planet are u from...that’s a very vague response...to all I aske u

Let’s even forget all the scenarios and view it froma sex angle only ..As a man, how do u know a consent has been withheld, no body language, no verbal refusal no reluctance..I don’t know if u are a virgin ooo but how many sexual act starts with:
Man: Do u want me to fvck you
Woman: Yes

lexy2014:
Am still yet to understand how u came about this ur standard for determining a persons ability to comprehend English language. When did d acceptance or non acceptance of Fatoyinbos denial now become d criteria 4 assesing if a person understands English language or not? Or were u taught "biodun Fatoyinbo" in English language just d way u were taught words& opposite or parts of speech? That's a good one cos in ur attempt 2 smear d guy, u have inadvertently exalted him as a standard in English language. Kudos

If u aren't being belligerent, then y are u offended that am "defending" Fatoyinbo, which in any case am not. But u too emotional 2 discern between defence & stating d situation d way it is. U too emotional 2 even accept that opinions will vary irrespective of where u stand.

There are two sides to this case. U have already vehemently pitched ur tent on one side& concluded that d other side& all those who don't c things ur way are in d same group. Without giving d other side d benefit of d doubt& without being a witness, u have become d judge, prosecution, plaintiff & jury, drawing conclusions & giving judgement even b4 d case has started.

At first, u were ranting all over d thread that Fatoyinbo didn't deny anything when u hadn't even read d statement. Upon presenting excerpts 2u, u said because d guy didnt do it d way Neymar did it so therefore its not good enough. U mentioned Neymar several times. I chose to ignore u at first cos it was obvious u didn't no what u were saying. By d time I broke down d Neymar situation 4u vis-à-vis this situation, u crawled back into ur cave. I didn't hear of Neymar again.

It shows something. U are emotionally charged& u are spilling ur emotions all over d place. That's not how things like this work.

U said busola has stated her case. Pls who did she state it to?



If u aren't on busolas payroll & u don't no her at any level, then what made u think am on Fatoyinbos payroll & that am a member of his church? Does that mean its ok 4u to take a stance on an issue but it is wrong 4 others to do same?

D way u concluded that am on Fatoyinbos payroll & that am a member of his church confirms d subjective manner with which u tag& label others because their views differ from yours. U didn't even no me, but u already drew ur conclusions& judged me. So if u could do that with me, then its obvious that it's d same subjective standard of judgement u have used to draw ur conclusions on this Fatoyinbo/busola case. Am sure that's y u have given "pastoral duties" a meaning that fits ur subjectivity.

Ikpongiton:
that girl is lying .she can only mislead gullible minded people like xou.that the retired hoe had to wait this long ,to come out with this poo speak volume

dairykidd:
Not with other people (her sisters around) Even the most timid person would scream or run or struggle that would attract other who are close enough to hear

NextBuhari:
Unsubstantiated details? The circumstances of the Bill Cosby case are not similar to the instant case. Moreover, investigative procedures and processes in the US are poles apart from those in Nigeria. I pray that Fatoyinbo sues the duo so that a legal precedence will be laid on similar future cases.

1StopRudeness:
Please define pressure.??.pressure that is tantamount to me violating your human right

.I could pressure u into following me to the cinema even though u don’t want to at the moment..and u did...if something happens to Ibom the way..will I be responsible

I could pressure u into having a bottle of alcohol or a wrap of weed or a sniff of cocaine with me... u know...telling u its fine, u will feel good..but u don’t really want to...if u die of overdose, am I guilty of murder

In fact because we are close, I could pressure u into following me to the mall, cajole u, take ur card,u ddnt feel like it neither did I say no, but I was pressuring you into buying a few stuff for me when u don’t really want to....can I later be charged for robbery or theft

When u say pressure...in between the time lag of pressuring and doing the act being pressured to do...even though reluctance is involved, is there some form of consent mixed in between..that’s isn’t making u telling me staring up NO and stand by it..isn’t this quiet conscent that confuses people sometimes


..cos what U are saying now is even though in ur mind u don’t feel like but I scope u and u don’t say no.i have violated ur right as a human being...cos at that u ddnt want to:..but u did anyways becos I pressured you..:

Once again.. I don’t get what u mean by pressure..cos it’s like a lot of accusations is about to go down

NextBuhari:
I did, and no where in the video did she admit having any evidence. Use this incident to learn and not allow emotions and sentiments to blur your sense of judgement.

NextBuhari:
Of the rape!

NextBuhari:
Agreed! But evidence?

TonyeBarcanista:
Being a philanderer doesn't translate to being a rapist

samguru:
The conglomeration of the feminists echoed busola's voice to champion their course "feminism" as usual.

My question is who was there when the incident happened? If these protesters are agitating based on what Busola said,Am afraid one useless blackmailer will come to social media someday and say Pastor Adeboye raped her when she was a student at University of Lagos and Dr. Olukoya was there watching.

#senselessagitation
#derailedpeople
#failedgeneration
#mediacrucifixion
#joblesspeople
#povertatwork
#brokedakolos

Ikpongiton:
judge not ,so that ,you will not also be judge.

lexy2014:
Every human being has a right 2 defend himself & d man has done so. I don't even need 2 defend him cos his statement is enough defence 4 him. Just d way u have pitched ur tent with busola that her story is airtight, is d same way others c d situation differently. If she feels she has a case, let her head to court. Its that simple. I don't c y u are getting emotional as if u want take sniper over d issue. U aren't d one that was raped. We are all spectators in d matter. So I don't understand ur aggression & belligerent attitude toward anyone who doesn't c things ur way.

Fatoyinbo was "accused" of wrongdoing & not convicted of wrongdoing. This y I said ur comprehension of English language is a problem or u are probably using a different dictionary from d one d whole world uses.

Are u on busolas payroll? D way u are defending her doesn't it show that u are on her payroll? Or maybe u are her P.A.?

Whether his defence are a bunch of pathetic stories or not, he has issued a denial which u said he didn't in d first place. D same way u don't believe d pastors response 2d issue, is d same way many can logically puncture holes in busolas story. Its her word against his. Nothing is factual at d moment. That's just d reality. So pls, take a chill pill

lexy2014:
What has my defending d pastor got 2do with comprehending English language? you c why I said u are all over d place with ur emotions? I can't believe a person who said he comprehends English language just said that.

Pls read d following & tell me what it means, especially d last sentence. I believe it is comprehensive enough:

"I have never in my life raped anybody even as an unbeliever and I am absolutely innocent of this."

I wasn't there with him my dear same way u werent with busola. Its d same way every other Nigerian got access to d guys statement that I got it, from d news. Like I said earlier u were just ranting all d while without even reading d statement. There are always two sides 2a story& both individuals have told their sides 2d story. So I don't c y u are so emotional about d whole issue.

Is Google not ur friend? Is Google ur enemy? Y should I check Google when I have u? At least u said he is "surrounded by sexual controversies". That means u must no d stories behind those controversies.

When u keep bringing up this neymar issue, u just confirming what I said about comprehending English language. In d case of fatoyinbo, he denied ever having sexual relations with busola & also denied raping her.

Neymar didn't deny having sexual relations with his accuser but denied raping her. To prove his point, he showed WhatsApp exchanges& nude pictures willingly sent to him by his accuser.

Except u are telling me there were WhatsApp exchanges between fatoyinbo & busola in which busola sent d pastor her nude pix, then that puts d rape theory in d trash.

Elvis778:
remind me where she said she withheld her consent,
cuz i didn't see any,
he only pushed her to the couch and had his way,
and she was too shocked in her own house to even struggle,
what a lie,
simply tell the world you both had a sexual affair and we will understand that you were young with rushing hormones that a single touch made you loose it.

Not telling us that u were rapped,
simply to gain public sympathy.
What a society.

lexy2014:
First of all, u said d man didn't deny. So what u are quoting is it a denial? Yes or No? Obviously, u were just ranting when u hadn't even read d guys statement.

U said he didn't deny raping busola. Now u have read d denial. So which other girl is he supposed to admit sleeping with outside his marriage? I asked u earlier, are u sure u are using d same dictionary like d rest of d world? U seem 2b allover d place with ur points.

When a person says pastoral duties, does it include rape? U amaze me cos u don't even seem 2 have a grasp of simple words.

U sound as if u were there or that u were a witness. D same way busola has a right to accuse, is d same way fatoyinbo has a right to deny d accusations & defend himself which he has done. U weren't a witness to d event. So y do u now expect him 2 accept d accusations?

Is there anywhere I said u said that "sexual controversies" is a crime? Can u pls produce d comment?
I didn't no English was a difficult language to comprehend. Oga pls read my comment below again & compare it with what u wrote above

Elvis778:
ofcourse not everybody,
depending on the condition,
if your brain knows quite alright that Nothing will save you from the situation (e.g, rape at gun point) you won't make a move at all, your reflex will fail you.
But when your mind is very sure that you can escape (in your own house oo) you have the might,
your reflex will work perfectly well then, don't deny this fact please.

I have nothing else to say to you,
but i urge u to try and read her story again with you right frame of mind and not with your emotions leading the way.

You'll understand it's SEDUCTION and not RAPE.
Thanks

Elvis778:
Well i see my effort to EDUCATE you on the difference between rape and seduction is like pouring water on a hen.
Like ave always said, am against the man, what he did is morally wrong.
But then he didn't RAPE her, just understand the difference,
he pushed her on the couch and played some games on her that she couldn't resist, then had his way, this is simply SEDUCTION (persuading someone to have sex with you)

If he threatened her or resorted to using violence, or maybe she even asked or begged him to stop,
or even tried to struggle, or even asked him why his doing this, or even try to run,
remember it's in her own house? Psychologically she has the upper hand to defend her self,
you can't tell me she was so shocked that she couldn't do a thing in her own father's house??
Common, that's too lame,

since she said he came in and made her feel weak that she just let him have his way without resistance, then it's simply SEDUCTION.

lexy2014:
Oga don't get emotional. Pls read what I wrote here:

D English I used is very unambiguous. So I c were u c d lies u are talking about.

This is an excerpt from fatoyinbos statement.

“As an individual and as a church, we love and support people, we will never condone any form of rape, harassment, or intimidation of anybody. I have never in my life raped anybody even as an unbeliever and I am absolutely innocent of this.

“Busola Dakolo, who has made this false allegation and her family, attended the church during the early start of the church in Ilorin in 1999. I never had any private interactions with her beyond my pastoral duties.”

Pls compare d above with wgat u said

From d excerpts, is that a denial or are u using a different dictionary from d rest of d world? Or u probably didn't even read d statement in d first place?

Which one are accusing him of? Are u accusing him of not denying or u are accusing him of not laying out d facts? U seem 2b allover d place

Elvis778:
"some will paralyze, faint, cry, or fight back"

so which of these did she do??

See ennn,
am not saying what the pastor did was right,
but like she reported in her story,
the pastor didn't apply force or threat or even violence, and she still froze??
he simply had his way, quietly.
Who does that?
Unless she was born without reflex arc (which is not possible)

if she said the man pointed a gun at her or threatened her not to shout or speak or even hushed her and she froze,
that will be alot more easier to believe.
But the man only said "be happy a man of God is doing this to you" and she froze?
Lol,
i know we humans got emotions but, i won't let my emotions judge a case for me.

Most victims will freeze, if only briefly. Some will fight back, effectively. Some will resist in habitual, passive ways. Some will suddenly give in and cry. Others will become paralyzed, become faint, pass out or dissociate.

Elvis778:
she still didn't mention how he threatened her,
or did she?

There was no threat, violence or force,
why do you den term rape?

May i remind you that the word "SEDUCTION" means luring someone until he/she gives u his/her consent, which can be verbally, quietly, emotionally or physically (by playing along)

this is the only reasonable thing one can picture from that story,
it's a case of seduction not Rape,


if it's rape, then she should go ahead and sue him, that's how it's done in civilised countries.
For the fact she's yet to do so,
then i see no reason why you shud term the man a criminal.

Ofcourse having sex is not a criminal offence

lexy2014:
Am I d one who made this up?

And I didn't tell u that sexual controversies constitute a crime. If u are saying d above, then u must b able to establish it is a crime for u to bring it up. Pls read again. There's nowhere I said it is a crime

At first u said he did not deny. Now u said he did not lay out d facts. So which one are u accusing him of?

Elvis778:
Talk of being frozen and all that,
that's a lie from the pit of hell,
naturally, females hate being raped and will do anything in their power to escape when trapped, especially a virgin. Unless he did it at gun point (which she didn't mention).
She didn't even make mention of begging him or something like that,
like she said, she just froze and allowed him quietly? In her own house?
Oh man, use your brain na.

life2017:
Why many rape victims don’t fight or yell

By James W. Hopper June 23, 2015

James W. Hopper, PhD, is an independent consultant and part-time instructor in psychology in the Department of Psychiatry of Harvard Medical School. He has conducted research on the neurobiology of trauma, and trains investigators, prosecutors, judges, and higher-education professionals on its implications. Here, he offers his explanation of why people don’t always respond to an attack the way others might expect:

By James W. Hopper, PhD

In the midst of sexual assault, the brain’s fear circuitry dominates. The prefrontal cortex can be severely impaired, and all that’s left may be reflexes and habits.

In the Washington Post’s recent series on college sexual assault, many victims describe how they reacted – and did not react – while being assaulted. Another article also published this month, in the Harvard Review of Psychiatry, shows that some responses have been programmed into human brains by evolution.


Bringing together the accounts of those who have been assaulted with the neurobiology of trauma can play an essential role in supporting healing and the pursuits of accountability and justice.

For example, freezing is a brain-based response to detecting danger, especially a predator’s attack. Think deer in the headlights.

As one woman told the Post, “I didn’t say no, but I didn’t really know what to do. I just kind of froze.”

Freezing occurs when the amygdala – a crucial structure in the brain’s fear circuitry – detects an attack and signals the brainstem to inhibit movement. It happens in a flash, automatically and beyond conscious control.

Simultaneously with the freeze response, the fear circuitry unleashes a surge of “stress chemicals” into the prefrontal cortex, the brain region that allows us to think rationally – to recall the bedroom door is open, or that people are in the dorm room next door, for example, and to make use of that information.

But the surge of chemicals rapidly impairs the prefrontal cortex. That’s because, despite our dominant role on the planet now, we evolved as prey, and when a lion or tiger is upon us, stopping to think is fatal.

Indeed, no one understands better than the military that intense fear impairs our prefrontal cortex and capacity for reason.

When bullets are flying and blood is flowing, you had better have some really effective habit learning to rely upon.

That’s why combat training is rigorous and repetitive – to burn in habits of effectively firing weapons, executing combat formations, etc.

Most victims will freeze, if only briefly. Some will fight back, effectively. Some will resist in habitual, passive ways. Some will suddenly give in and cry. Others will become paralyzed, become faint, pass out or dissociate.

Few who have experienced these responses realize that they are brain reactions to attack and terror.

They blame themselves for “failing” to resist. They feel ashamed. (Men especially may see themselves as cowards and feel like they’re not real men.) They may tell no one, even during an investigation. Sadly, many investigators and prosecutors still don’t know some or all of these brain-based responses.

None of these responses – in women or men – entails consent or cowardice.

None is evidence of resistance too insufficient to warrant our respect and compassion.

They are responses we should expect from brains dominated by the circuitry of fear (just as we should expect fragmented and incomplete memories).

May the day come when everyone who knows someone who has been sexually assaulted – which is all of us, whether we know that yet or not – understands these basic ways that our brains can react to such attacks and uses this knowledge to foster healing and justice.

https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/grade-point/wp/2015/06/23/why-many-rape-victims-dont-fight-or-yell/?utm_term=.88d44a8a3377

Godside:
AM NOT DEFENDING ANYTHING. ALL AM SAYING IS THAT SHE IS DOING ALL THIS WITH THE WRONG MOTIVE . THE MAN IS GUILTY BUT REVEAL WHY YOU ARE SPEAKING NOW. PLEASE DO YOU THINK THEY JUST CAME ONLINE WITHOUT PLAN ? DO YOU THINK SHE CAME ONLINE CUZ OF TRAUMA. THIS IS A GAME PLAN , TAG WITH RAPE TO MAKE IT SELL .