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AlphaMajestic:
all DAT love lavishing is part of d process of unlocking...Nd whn DAT is done successfully.. a woman can be any of these tins u mentioned here...u know..Bleep boy..blah blah...it's like an all in one package for wat ever type of man...it called loyalty...didnt u read d part about fifty shading her body Nd soul..u won't understand that too anyway..since ur an advocate of feminism...

guy my own is DAT am beginning to think of writting a book now Nd title it....HOW TO UNLOCK A GIRLS HEART FOR EVER....u know....

OvaSabi1:
I don't totally disagree with this. If you want people to remain celebate till marriage, it's only fair that you can grant assurance to the intending couples that everything is alright in za oza room. Some men know that they are impotent but will hide it. Some women have done risky things to jeopardise their fertility and they will hide it.
My reservations about this is if they use this as virginity checker of some sorts. They can only use this for women. How will you know for men? How about she goes for surgery to reconstruct "IT"? But I doubt that is the case here.

HeyCorleone:
I have no problem with Tecno or Infinix. I daresay they make good devices these days.

My contention is with Itel. No human being created by God should go a mile near that phone. Itel devices reek of failure and mediocrity in its worst term.

AlphaMajestic:
looool....well done madam...I didn't knw I was replying a woman...let alone a feminist..sowi ur half d man if not d man sef

AlphaMajestic:
to me I think the point here is the importance of unlocking a girl emotionally....wat u do afterwards is whr these judgements can come....in a world whr feminism is gradually becoming a movement..Nd so many guys are too naive to handle or even understand this theory...dats y dis days u see so many news about relationships ending with so much brutality Nd even death..I fink there is need for dis knowledge Nd tactics..a man needs a way to control and keep woman loyal...it doesn't work with money most times..

2buffagain:
You saw me describe how When I date someone, I love them hard and give her what her soul needs.
Yet you're coming at me with some offbase about how I'm toying with emotion, a farce, blah blah.

So now I'm asking you, have you married every single person you have ever been in a relationship with?

2buffagain:
You speak like someone who has married everyone you have ever dated or loved.
Is this correct?

2buffagain:
And where in that whole epistle did you see anywhere that I wrote I date girls to "deceive" them?

ItsMeAboki:
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oglalasioux:
You people keep saying we hang out with the wrong ladies. Where are the 'right ladies'? In church, workplace, schools, markets or where exactly? That you are lucky to have a lady who spends on you doesn't mean you can easily meet that kind of lady in Nigeria. Europe, America; I can say that's easy but Nigeria?

Keep living in utopia. You are in 2018 Nigeria and your hard work, intelligence, skill, ability and a good education doesn't count. Your bank balance counts.

2buffagain:
Likewise Sir.

"but they are rare"

Hence why I used the term "Filter".
Also, when you expand one's scope beyond just the women confined to geographical Nigeria, they are not as rare as you might think and they come in different skin tones too...intercontinental naija included.

As to the issues of "power, control, influence and attention", I agree that a man must certainly establish himself (I hate idle men), but at the same time I only really date women who are also well-of. Because it makes the relationship more fun and also because anything can happen in this world. Have you ever had a woman get on her knees and BEG you to let her be there for you before? That is a woman you have unlocked.

if you have emotionally unlocked "things" in her already then she is already hooked. You do so by being that guy who has led her down paths no one has taken her before. Bust her emotional cherry in different ways. Be the first guy to take her skydiving. The first guy to take her to the gun range where she shoots her first gun. The first guy she trusts to fifty-shades her body and mind (Most women secretly want this). You get my point.

I can bet you half of these high-class/well-to-do babes haven't been led down some real memorable paths yet because most Naija guys themselves are not that adventurous when it comes to these things.

Bro, it is easier than you think to hook a babe. At that point, as long as it is concerns you, all she is and has she will WANT to make available to you. And all you have to do is keep her high on love.

2buffagain:

There is a way to attract lovers, and there is a way to attract golddiggers.
I find most naija guys don't know the difference.

oglalasioux:
Dear OP,

Thanks for your post. I understand how you feel. Every right thinking man thinks same way too. But the sad truth is; we are in Nigeria and your sentiments don't work here. More often than not, women here see men as their meal ticket. Love is dead here. Any woman that accepts a man for who he is has a sugar daddy somewhere providing those things she is not asking from you.

I hear you say there are established women out there. Good. How did they get established? Behind every successful woman there's a sugar daddy. And for the ones from rich homes; they will marry only men from rich homes. Sorry.

Boland:
1) Feminism: The fight for equal right of living for females.

My view: Females enjoy what the males don't and as such it's fair for male to enjoy what females don't.
Now: If the females want to enjoy what the males are enjoying while still holding on to their own priviledge, there is sure to be a problem.
That's just the summary (in layman's words)of my own opinion.

2) If the man is experiencing a financial downturn, the wife being the present breadwinner should help out, we've been told marriage is "for better for worse", but I'm sure you and I know that the relationship will most likely be out of balance because they are both occupying the wrong position.

This is what I'm saying:
Men shouldn't nag about a woman's demand if she's not yet your woman, if you think her standard is higher than your own pocket, let it go.
It will only be unfair if you've gotten her and later because of a bad situation she decides to leave, that'll be disloyalty on her part.

3) That depends on the husband, you know what you're going for, you should be prepared to deal with the cons of it. Besides, a woman with such profession can still be a good " wife".

See: There is a definition for a Husband as there is for a Wife.
I often ask my female folks this question;

Do you wanna be a Wife, just a Woman or a Man for your husband?

For a ship to sail, there must be a captain. If leaders aren't necessary, men in uniform wouldn't need commanders. I'm sure you knwo what I'm trying to say here.
Equality is bullshit in marriage.

ItsMeAboki:
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ItsMeAboki:
Says an ignorant bigot who has no counter argument except insult.

londoner:
Yes and the result of that planning and foresight is the relative ease of navigation of Abuja, the planned parks and recreation which were part of that planning. It has resulted in a city that is much less stressful as a result. That is exactly what myself, others and the author of the article have been saying.

It's the truth.

Comparing Lagos to Abuja is fine actually and this thread is 14 pages worth of people trying to claim Lagos is better, so you may want to advise them to 'stop comparing apples with cocoyam'.

ZombiePUNISHER:
Do you know that since Buhari came to power. The Boko Haram group are now sympathetic to Muslims in Nigeria

The Fulani herdsmen are ghosts that can't be caught... The Nigerian military terrorise local vigilante that are meant to protect the people...

The crime of the middle belt is simply not sharing their farmlands with cows and the establishment of anti grazing laws... This didn't go down well with the terrorists... And they declared a silent jihad...

Buhari said no herdsmen carry weapons except sticks
He also blamed Ghadaffi for the killings all to exonerate the killer herdsmen...

Say the truth... It shall set you free

ItsMeAboki:
The man should have been prosecuted and made to produce his evidence of collusion - because Buhari would not renew oil bloc licenses is no excuse to malign the army and his government.

whytepawn1:
BEAUTIFUL PIECE OF HEAVEN....... wow!!!

Liliyann:
Nice one from the girl!
When you know your worth, you don't accept anyhow proposal from guys!
Marriage is more deeper than I love you!
She could have done better and chosen someone more financially loaded!!
I just hope the guy is financially capable of backing up his "I love you"

JhimmySpark:
... And to think this trash made front page with just few comments, seriously Nairaland ain't what it used to be years back. Meaningful topics are what used to grace the front page, now every trash makes front page. Wonder what the moderators are doing.

grandstar:
Though your report about the death of the textile industry is deep, it is not deep enough.

What brought about the death of the Nigerian textile industry can be summed up in one word: China.

Nigeria's textile industry was still relevant in the 1990's but China ultra competitive textile industry with imports from other countries completely annihilated the textile manufacturers.

What is strange however is that Benin Republic despite have low tariffs on textile fabrics still had their textile factories humming. So, imports were not only the reasons for the collapse here.

First and foremost, Nigeria is a high cost place to produce goods due to the dearth of good infrastructure especially power. This has hiked cost.

The biggest problem though is the high cost of credit which has dealt a huge blow on the real sectors of the economy holding them back.

Also again, Nigeria was not exporting textiles massively. This is bizarre. Third world countries start to manufactured exports are textiles which they export in large quantities. If Nigeria was exporting , it would have been a cushion against cheap imports.

Question is: How battered is the Nigeria textile sector.

Though textile fabrics was hurt, Nigeria has thousands of small scale tailors dependent on fabrics .m I am sure they alone engage over a million people. The Economist calls that the kind of the unflashy industrialization that actually creates jobs.

Safiaa:
It’s only Nigerian men that have this obsession with their ego. Everything na problem to them. This woman has been divorced, 36 years old yet a prince married her. Yet these scumbags of Nigerian men who don’t have a dime to their name want to have foolish standards Shiorr

salt1:
The wedding is making me teary. The odds were stacked against Markle: divorcee, older than groom, mixed race etc but royalty found her.

I'm an unapologetic Christian who believes that one day, in spite of my inadequacies, God's goodness will be extended to me to become the bride of Christ : new title, access to royalty and riches of heaven etc.

londoner:
Even if you live outside the city gates in Abuja it's not that long to get into town. For most of it you are driving on a highway that has many lanes once get past the city gates there are overpasses to specific areas too, so not everyone is using the same route.. Even if you are going from Sabon Lugbe ( outside the city gate) to CBD ( heart of the city) it's not that much of a long journey. The road network ensures free movement of traffic for most of the journey. Planning and foresight of Abuja has resulted in that being possible, although some areas still need work and some expressways that have been started still need completing. You don't always have to live and work in a close area in Abuja, that's my point.

Let's not deny that in Lagos people are delayed because they are stuck in traffic. Lagos is notorious for its traffic jams. I don't think that's news to anyone.

LieutenantBOBO:
My dear, please answer this question. Do you think that most youths will become an internet fraudster if they had a good job with good pay? If the government generated jobs for the youths, do you think the rate of internet fraudsters would still be on the rise? Or do you think someone would just wake up one morning & say i would like to be an armed robber or internet fraudster when i grow up? Just because you're privileged to have a job & eat a 3 square meal doesn't mean there are not people out there struggling to survive. And when I said I would shoot all politicians & leave the yahoo boys, that's because, it is these politicians that are the root of the problem. The money that they are supposed to inject into the economy & create new jobs, they move it to another country.

Yes, God gave everyone an equal brain. But when you talk, talk from the facts around you. Linda started blogging back in 2002 when it was not popular. That time, most youths were still in school. And now she has written her name in the world of blogging, do you think there's any one that can compete with her, bella naija & others who started back in those years? Bloggers earn their money through adverts. Now do you think someone would leave Linda who has thousands of traffic daily to go and advertise on another blog with few traffic & who does copy & paste from Linda?


You mentioned only foreign names why's that? Facebook, Amazon & Google. But no Nigerian business. Well, let me explain it for you. Developers keep creating more platforms because there are A LOT of companies in the US that invest in these new startups. They sponsor the developers & in return, they get a share in the company. Now, can you tell me a company in Nigeria that you can pitch your idea to & they would sponsor you? Some of them would even steal your ideas & invest in it themselves.


All these that you said about yahoo boys, do you think it doesn't also apply to politicians? When they loot the money meant for civil servants, do you think those workers don't also get frustrated with life & commit suicide? If most government teachers were getting their pay on time, do you think that they would be taking bribes from students? I know a friend, till today, the government is owing his mum salary of 15 years. 15 long years! Now, isn't that wickedness?

You should know that Nigeria lost 2 data center construction projects to South Africa. Microsoft & Facebook snubbed Nigeria for South Africa because of the condition of our power sector. Now, do you know that just a single data center is capable of generating 1 million jobs? But because of our greedy politicians who embezzle the money meant for the power sector, 2 million Nigerians who would have been employed to work in that data centers are now roaming the streets.

Like i said, I'm not in support of yahoo boys. I am only pointing out the fact that there is an evil out there besides these yahoo boys. And if you can go after the yahoo boys, why can't you go after these politicians. Or are they above the law?

ibsadiq:
I know of a data centre in Nigeria Rack Centre in lagos.

LieutenantBOBO:
Husspuppi is right!

The Deji of a human being no see other politicians and police officers in Nigeria to investigate. It's someone who hasn't stepped foot in Nigeria for how many years.

Nigeria is a joke!
Politicians are more dangerous than yahoo boys.
If the fool that calls himself Deji can go after these politicians who are looting the countries money, won't the level of internet fraudsters in Nigeria reduce by 50% or more?

Some boys are going into yahoo just because they have exhausted all their options. In a country where everything is monopoly & based on connection. Some people will say that there are a thousand and one things to do with that laptop. But the truth is, those thousand and one things are being monopolized by some particular individuals.

Is it blogging? Who can compete with Linda Ikeji & Bella Naija? Is it website development? There are well established firms who have rooted their names in the world of web development. Please who can tell me another job that can be done with a computer that hasn't been handcuffed by a particular individual?

Fools everywhere!
That's why other countries will be heading forward & for Nigeria, reverse is the case.

Let Deji first clean his house before going to clean another person's house. Your country is littered with corrupt politicians & you are going to investigate someone in another country who hasn't gotten a quarter of what these politicians loot in a day!

Worst part, the Malaysian government is not even complaining about Hush puppy. They are busy boosting their economy. Na hin 1 human being from nowhere come dey drink panadol ontop anoda person head ache. SMH...

Imagine in the whole of Nigeria, not a single Tier 1 DATA CENTER before thinking of Tier 3! Because before you can say that there is a data center in Nigeria, that data center has to have a 99.99% uptime. Which is not possible in Nigeria giving the type of power sector we have. And any data center with it's primary source of electricity as generator, will be losing most of it's profit to petrol. In this 21st/22nd century where the IT industry is booming, Nigeria does not have a Tier 1 data center.

South Africa & Malaysia are raking in contracts from Facebook, Google & other IT companies. Nigeria is here raking in what? Nigeria lost 3 data center construction projects to South Africa. 3 DIFFERENT DATA CENTERS! Do you know how it would have boosted the economy of Nigeria? Do you know that it would have created jobs for more than 3 million Nigerian youths? But because of our greedy politicians who can't improve the power sector, those 3 million youths now are in the streets.

What most people won't understand is, having INTERNET FRAUDSTERS in a country is inevitable. As long as there is internet in that country, there must me internet fraudsters. There is NO country on earth that doesn't have internet fraudsters. Even in the US, they have the most sophisticated fraudsters there.

The problem with Nigeria is that, those in power are too too greedy. If they could invest the country's money on her citizens instead of moving it to some offshore account somewhere, the youth's will have more opportunities to earn a living. Hence reducing the number of fraudsters.

They say yahoo boys scam people of their hard earned money. But also do politicians. When they take the money meant for the people & put it in another country.

I'm not in support of yahoo boys, but if i had the power to eridcate either all the yahoo boys or all the politicians, I'll eridcate all the politicians ASAP & leave the yahoo boys. Because those politicians are the root of all the problems.

humilitypays:
...but in as much, they need to be reminded often of their mischievousness towards the Igbo race since 1966. I have lived with them for years, I have done things with them, but I can boldly tell you, aside when they want an Igbo girl to marry or date, they hate Igbos with passion, so part of our duty is to keep the Igbos all over the world awake of their inhumane treatments to Igbos until we get freedom

As for busy, I am commenting from the comfort of my office