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misspicy:
Lolzzz
Most men actually confused.



So did you get the honey?

misspicy:
A kid with this mindset?
No body is gonna make me feel bad about my beautiful dark skin


Laveda sugarboo,how is you.
Missing you on the other side

daveP:
At the earlier part thru middle, he was describing me

GROOOVE:
The most difficult time to be in a relationship as a guy is in your early twenties.

The period when you are stuck in a limbo, trying to figure out yourself and who you want to be.
At this age, you find it a herculean task asking money from your parents, considering your dad will always remind you of how he was self sufficient at your age.
So you are always left with "Nkechiyere" anyone that comes from them willingly.

To compound your "woes". You have a girlfriend whom you love so muchh, you are 24 and she is 23.
And guys being wired to want to take control, you are frustrated at your inability to take care of her like you want to.
I mean where is the money??
You are still jobless, still hustling, still finding your feet.
Still putting hands intomany things hoping oluwa smiles on you.

All of a sudden, she starts acting out and showing attitude.
You call, and she takes forever to pick or return your calls.
When she finally does pick, the call is like an interview session with those annoying and frustrating one word replies.
Yes, no, fine, okay, nothing.

Then finally she ends the call with a flimsy excuse like " wait let me close the fridge", i will call you back. And the call never comes back.

Then one day she calls you and askes you "where is this relationship heading to?.
You dont even know where your own life is heading to, not to talk of a relationship.

Then she drops the bombshell. Tells you that she met a guy who wants to marry her.
And how age isnt on her side, and you are almost compelled to scream "But you are just 23". Can't you wait 3 more years let me make it.

You just hold yourself and play the good guy
You ask her if she loves him, she dodges the question and replies you with " He treats me well".

Well since she wasn't informing you to take permission, she was simply telling you.
You have to be the cool guy and wish her well.
One week later, she gives you the traditional wedding card. And then you do the math yourself.
She was talking to the guy a long time before now.

Then you realise that for every "K" you got on WhatsApp, the guy was getting a long epistle.
You have been played.

Worse is you cant even blame her, you are just a prospect who no one knows what will become of your life in 4years time.
Would you have made it or not?
She has gone for the real deal, someone who has already made it.
In footballing terms, you are a "Anthony Martial" ( prospect) while the guy is a Messi ( has made it already).
I mean you were sending her cards of N200, and the guy was telling her to manage 10k for the weekend.
No comparison there.

And then you go through that silent heartbreak guys go through, the ones they don't talk about.
And unceremoniously you get inducted into the special hall of fame where members are young guys whose childhood loves and friends or girlfriends they thought they would end up with left them to marry someone else.
Your heart is broken into smithereens.

In this hall of fame, you are all victims. Victims of not having found your path in your early twenties.

At the wedding, no sight is more heartbreaking than seeing "the love of your life" say "I do" to this guy she just met 6 months ago.
To make matters worse, you get an alert from Diamond bank telling you how N13 have been deducted for bank charges. You are mad.
Your N4000, is down to N3987 rendering that N1k useless, you can only withdraw N3k now.
And that's your home and abroad.

Can life be more unfair at this moment?

To make matters worse, she tells you that she wants you to be the god-father to her first son.
You are livid, the plan you both made was to be the father, god wasn't there. Why are you involving god now.
god-father huh.. is that a sort of compensation package?

You chin it up, suck it, move on and double your hustle.

6 years later. You are 30 now. Congratulations, you finally made it. You are as rich as you hoped you will become.
You are one of the happening guys in town.
You go to a wedding. With your friends,

youngberry001:
am ok.....plz pardon mah word's---u look perfectly cute

youngberry001:
howfa

youngberry001:
!!Laveda!!.......dhat girl moniker dey beat mah heart ah swear......abeg were ever u re now may God bless u!!

cyberdurable:
Am dressed already...

Laveda oya show me urs

STFUareyouG0d:
Op is that not you in your dp? You're not even all that yet you keep coming up with lame 'this person wants me, that person wants me' BS.

Iranu

zicoraads:
Your comment was here at about after 10, and here you are again.

And I kept hearing sounds like this...'Ahh...Uhhh...Yeee...Ahhh

zicoraads:


Are you mas on the poor doctor's pictures? All night?

zicoraads:
You slept here?

Eaa247:
Yea ve spoken lik d daughter of a gud mother!!!
Well spoken!!!

skarlett:
no be small

YorubaDemon:
hello ray of sunshine

Gennyike:
It may be me as i just want to be caught in a cage but the truth is that i don't pretend in a relationship. I just don't want to be a property....

the guy on its own may be too deep in his fantasies of a primitive wife as many African men may desire then blind to who i am.

We all have our lives to live. I don't want marriage to tie me down, like a prison with high walls or like the life i want for me is over; that is suicidal.

Twaci:
Awwwwwwwn see these love birds ☺️

Skarlett come and see where they are playing love oh!

Gennyike:
You are right but have you been in a relationship all plays out fine at the first and second phase, only for you to find out at the 3rd phase the first two are fake.

Things are beautiful when we pretend who we are not, only to get nasty when we get tired of holding on to pretense. I'm afraid of wasting time doting on what is not what it looks like.