₦airaland Forum

baralatie:
They are brownish greyish crabs

It's like u ve not seen the red ones bfor, they are all over d lagoon front and the bushes surrounding indomie bridge.
Looking at them from far makes the environment beautiful. They add beauty to the serene environment

Not strange to me, come to unilag lagoon front you will see lots of red crabs

Machidon:
I am the first born in the family, due to financial challenges, I want to know if it Will be wise to further my education base on promises by family members to sponsor my education or should i learn a skill......

And secondly want to know the type of skill one can learn to help the family.

Pls help us with the thread

Maxymilliano:
This is not true ...

Modified: I wanted to type Lagos State House of Representatives member representing oshodi isolo

There is no need to argue about where the president will be coming to in the south, let's learn from northerners, they have produced two presidents from the north west and we never heard from the other northern region that if the north east don't produced president then the south should keep it, no. They are political United despite that some are maginalized and underdeveloped.
The president is supposed to come Down south, regardless of where the presidency is coming let's accept it like that as a southern president that will foster unity among the three southern regions.some Aggrieved citizens In the south east particularly on nairaland do say if the presidency do not come to the south east then the north should keep it. If the north keep on having the president how are we going to be liberated from northern oligarchy? How are will going to achieve restructuring?
Let's support southern presidency irrespective of where he would be coming from.
Southern presidency will foster political unity among the southern tribes. For instance, during obj tenure he appointed lots of igbos In key ministries same as his Yoruba counterpart. Same also goes to Jonathan
Even in Lagos, we have igbos were formee LGA chairman expecially amuwon odofin and so many Igbo councillors. A current Lagos house of rep representing oshodi isolo is an Igbo man Same applies in previous and recent Lagos State government cabinet.
So it will foster unity. I'm neither Igbo nor Yoruba but I'm a southerner and I believe in southern unity

I blamed the barber, he should have known better the kind of people he was dealing with

Part of taraba was formerly Cameroon, may be they want to seize back their territory from Nigeria giving to us in 1961

Achizzy7:
Avoiding Morocco, Algeria nd Senegal is tin of Joy fr me !!!





any oda team, bring it on

Na u wan play the match

donPhill:
Full time : 1:1

Qualified for Qatar

Not yet, there is still play offs

Who scored?

staffingx:
Yes still open. Mathematics Teacher for Primary Section urgently required.

Is there accommodation?

I'm from Edo state, ovia south west LGA, iguobazuwa town, I have never been based in Edo state bfor but I have visited twice, I based in ogun state so I will be coming to Edo state for a project and I need to hook up with friends, particularly females but males are still welcome

They include Bsc among ssce, onf so that they will pay Bsc the salary meant for ssce

Nozino:
All this because I’m telling you the truth? Nairalanders won’t change me! I will keep saying the truth. I know married bankers with kids running part time post graduate programs while keeping a full time job but here you are, doing nothing, feeling entitled and being lazy while expecting an Old retiree to use his pension plus take loans to fund your PART TIME POST GRADUATE education. Sad! Really sad!

Who told u I wasn't up to something, if you really read the story you would have read where I got a job offer but declined it jus to focus on my screening and early lectures because the job would be stressful and I don't want to be taking excuse early in the work.
I wasn't even expecting him to fund every thing, I never wanted him to spend all his money on it, I want him to be joint sponsor jus as I did during my undergraduate.
All was I wanted was to part some amount and I will handle the rest my self when I start working
I believe you jumped some of the write up because people like you would jus jump to conclusions without reading and comprehendin and you are not different from the old man.
I love taking positive criticism and if anyone comes with negative criticism to attack the person won't find it easy with me
On this case you haven't say any thing truth hear, you are just annoyingly bitter

Nozino:
And he has “unvolunteered”. Why is this an issue? You lazy, shameless over grown man child! Asking an old retiree to take out loans for a PART TIME POSTGRADUATE program while you lazy about feeling entitled.

Na your papa I blame.

U are a mugu, people like you will end up as as a deadbeat as a father.
U lack comprehension to come into logical conclusion, I pity your children if you have any

MyPoint:
1. You need to understand that you have one weakness. SENSE OF ENTITLEMENT. Your Father trained you through university (after wasting some fund on OND). That is a great feat. He owe you nothing.

2. What did you save from NYSC or from the teaching job you were doing to show that you desperately needed the masters? How do you fold your hands and claim you will disown your dad?

3. Disowning your Dad does not add or remove any value to him. Rather you will be the one loosing his blessings.

Change your attitude of sense of entitlement.

I don't have entitlement mentality o
He agreed, he volunteered to sponsor. I jus recommended masters and he bought the idea, that's all

Nozino:
The level of entitlement in this post!!! After this old man struggled to train you and your numerous siblings in school till y’all graduate, you still expect him to take loans and use his pension to fund your education because you’re too lazy to work and there’s a goat somewhere vomiting money.

In all of this, I blame your Dad. He shouldn’t have agreed to use his pension to sponsor a grown man-child’s postgraduate education.

I don't have entitlement mentality ok. I never forced him, he volunteered by himself

edoman2016:
I doubt a military retiree collect 200k monthly as pension. It is a lie. Military personnel are not that well paid

Yes it depends on the rank he retired with and the number of years he stayed in service, he stayed 35yrs and attained the second to last highest rank in other rank

anoda:
I think it would be a lot better if he said no in the first place as he clearly said yes when he meant no. My dad felt the same with my bros masters program too

Exactly if he has said know I wouldn't argue with him I would jus moved on but the fact that he agreed and abandon me at this critical time is where the problem is

Cousin9999:
Also, your father just might be incredibly ignorant. And there's nothing you can do about that either. Don't try to reason with a fool. Devote your time and energy to pursuing your grad studies. The fact that you're dealing with this should be motivation to be better and do better than your father.

Being ignorant is not the problem but making a fool out of ignorant is the problem or ignoring information that will clear of the ignorance is the problem.
I have called educated people who have gone through graduate school to talk to him but he is still pretending to be ignorant. Even he says he will go to sch to found out but up till now he hasn't gone. I have gave up on d deadbeat

jimmychang:
Bro just close that chapter and move on with your life.I understand how you feel. I GAVE MY DAD MONEY TO BUY A PROPERTY TILL NOW NA STORY HE DEY TELL ME .It hurts .

YOU WILL SURVIVE WITHOUT HIM

amen, thanks.
i was surviving without him bfor if not for health condition that brought me home i would have moved on since

Cousin9999:
Sounds like your father is incredibly insecure and doesn't want you to achieve more than him, have more than him, and have less stress in life than him. Disowning him won't cure his mental problems (he needs to fix himself), and you need the help he is willing to give, so that you can establish yourself.

If you can't get any financing to study locally, explore your options abroad. And be careful with your dad because he really doesn't want you to succeed, and he's a really bitter, insecure person.

Exactly, you have a discerning spirit. He is an insecure person, currently confused at the moment. Some one close to me told me he is Bewitched, under a spell
That House hold enemies are using him against the family progress and such can be said in every member of my family, including my mother, he once turned her to a destitute if not for we the children that began to send her money

BKsoul:
Lol..... You will make life miserable for him? Under his roof? Eating his food? Lol...
Sha don't make life miserable for yourself.....

I can't disown him and still be living under his roof nor eating his food, infact since our issues started I have been surviving without him
According the Sankara, former burkinafaso president says he who feeds you controls you.
For long this quote has been in my heart.

oazeez1991:
Wahala be like disown..lol! Biko, u acting like an ingrate in my own view. A man sponsored ur education till u own a Bsc, even after wastin sm precious time and resources 4 ND programme which u had 2 abandone 2 port in2 Uni, this same man has been d one tkin care of it, and u felt he hasn't done enough in ur life. Lot are out there who has fathers who lack d ability or nonchalant attitude 2 sponsor their education, but here u are lamenting and threatening 2 disown ur father over ur baggages. From ur narration, u graduated with an unencouraging result, yet u expect him (ur father) 2 be motivated in sponsoring u further.
Uncle, defer ur admission nd go hustle, then use ur own resources (money) 2 sponsor urself since u wish 2 further ur edu, that's what niggas do. U are old enough not 2 be dependent on ur parent.
NYSC was been mandated after completion of Bsc/HND programme 4 a reason, and not after PGD or Msc. So any1 who had attain such level has done well 2 sm level of extent, others could be sync along ones career.
Stop feeling entitled at ur age nd start acting as a man u are. When u need something, u go 4 it, instead of depending on others 4 it. D man (ur father) should be preparing eating d fruit of his labour, nd not still nursing his labour. U are not even ashame, a retiree 4 that matter. U don't want him 2 be enjoying his pension in peace after years of service, u still want 2 compete d spending with him when u should be augmenting it 4 him.
As d Yoruba would say, apology 2 non-Yoruba, 'Ta bani eegun baaba eni majo, ta ba tun ni kojo mo, ko si baba nla Baba eni to ma muni si' (Direct translation: If one say, ones father masquerade is going to dance, and later one say, d masquerade would no longer dance, no one's forefather would dare 2 challenge one's over it) i.e. 2 say, if ur P-Man has a change of mind over sponsoring u, u or any1 has no right 2 challenge his decision. His money, his spending.#TruthIsBitter!

For ur info, I'm a joint sponsor with him during my Bsc. Aside the entry fees which was 55k as at then, the rest level, from 2 to 3 was 15,500 in a federal sch and I paid ity self, including a hostel accommodation which was 25k, if I couldn't pay, I will get someone that I will will squat under and he will pay part
It's only yr 4 when fees was increase to 20k that he paid.
So don't say what you don't Kno

Sterope:
Your dad doesn't owe you a master's degree. Immediately, he said he wasn't going to sponsor you, I take it you didn't have one on one conversation with him about it. He should have kept to his promise but there is no crime withdrawing his obligation which he did before you started your programme.

Also, it sounds like there are unresolved issues between you and your dad.

It's like you didn't read the story.
He said that he want me to do my masters.

samtol4:
You need to wake up my brother. Thank God you have a father that pays for your undergraduate. My father could not pay for my undergraduate because he had a severe illness, but that did not stop me from finishing my bsc. I completed my BSC and Masters through the grace of God and hustling because my parents could not help me. I have worked as a bricklayer , waiter & sale boy at night at Ojuelegba .Today through his grace, I completed my Ph.D. Even if someone promised you money, it is not your money; it is a promise. Wake up from slumber; it appears you are angry and bitter against your father. The fact that You are thinking about disowning your father shows you don't understand life. People are struggling on their own to have OND.
You need to look inward and stop blaming your father for your limitation. A man limitation is the limitation of his thoughts
Go and hustle bros

Thanks for the advice.
I have overcome the setback already

greenie77:
What if the loan was no longer feasible? Redirect your energy from being angry with your father and focus on seeing yourself through school. Baba has tried, at his age he needs the pension money more than you do whether he promised you or not.

From your narration, you were the one who called your father during your service and informed him of wanting to go for post graduate studies and he bought the idea. It is not as if you were into a high paying job and he told you to resign and focus on postgraduate studies.

If it's no longer feasible he would have told me and I ll accept it.
He can access it but reason best Kno to him he don't want to

houseontherock:
You shouldn't have turned down a job offer for a part-time postgraduate study because in most schools, timetable is flexible enough to accommodate working students. Also, don't blame your dad too much because the frustrations of training children in school in his old age is also getting to him. You never can tell also- his pension may not be as regular as you think...this is Nigeria! Besides, who will pay the cooperative loan for him? He's probably weighing his options or the loan may not be forthcoming! Sometimes we need to pity these elderly people who still have dependent relatives in their old age, especially with no free or subsidized medicals!

My take: Hard as it may sound, you need to get anything doing to sponsor yourself while you keep working on your dad, because dropping out is not a good option at this stage and disowning him is childish and selfish until you walk in his shoes.

He is no longer training any children in sch, he is jus recklessly spending his money on frivolities,
Even went as far as acting like a philanthropist in d community

greenie77:
Defer and go earn to continue at a later date. Nothing posted here will make your father continue sponsoring you from his monthly pension.

thanks for this but he didnt intended to fully fund it directly from his pension. he belong to a cooperative and said he eill take a loan from his cooperative

Mariangeles:
Your father is a great man for seeing you through this far.

You're just an ungrateful entitled spoilt brat who thinks his father's pension should be handed over to him.

Your are jus talking what you don't know.
Do you know I was a joint sponsor of my undergraduate with him.
So don't say what you don't know