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Fynestboi: lol... Hope you not contestant 1

Lol, no dats not me....even if it were I can't say na

Fynestboi: Why is it taking long time to post the essay atleast 10mins interval is ok... *gettng bored*

I'm keeping up like you too n yes it's taking long... I'm one of those debating as well so I can't wait..I'm quite new on nairaland n this is my first debate here so I'm enjoying the experience...it's worth the wait for me . At least for now...

Fynestboi: Contestant 4: Nice write, good example, i.e if the husband die etc... But to much rhetorical question....

14/25

Interesting points were touched. Properly presented too.

I'm so feeling contestant no. 4 right now. Just my opinion.

Tgirl4real: Elimination Round

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I just read a presentation of about a thousand words. Thot the limit was 750 so presentation could be read properly.

xynerise: And the groom will lose?

I know for your mind na you go think sey you don comment...yes best man, girl, woman, boy ..whatever o, who cares

Let the show begin ......may the best man win

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The things you men will do for love and to make madam happy

bukatyne: This thread brings the question 'why don't men help with house chores?'

Do they see it beneath them or unmanly?
Do they think their wives can hold the 'fort'?
Do their wives refuse their help? (some women want to seem like superwomen and reject their husband's help or it's a turn off for them)

P.S.: I am not implying that all men do not help

I want to try to understand why a man claims to love a woman, marry her and then cross his legs while she jumps u and down in her awesomeness to babysit everyone and do everything.

I know there are some exceptions;

The wife is an housewife;
The husband closes very late (not closes early and then go to gyrate before coming home at 11:00pm)
etc.

Let's discuss...

If you leave a child alone by itself it will play all day. Men are like that. Like we said not all men but most men. It has nothing to do with naija men as both black and white men behave the same..as far as I'm concerned men haven't even changed from Adam.
When I met my hubby he told me how much he hates the kitchen and how he was ready to pay someone to come cook for him or even eat out on a daily basis. So I assumed he didn't know how to cook, so I did all the cooking and freezing and asked him to watch me so he could cook when I wasn't available as we didn't live together. A year into our relationship I met his mom who was amazed when I said but hubby can't cook so I have to cook and freeze. She was like I taught my sons to cook. The bloke had being lying all along...but from that day everything changed . I stopped cooking too much whenever I was around. I made sure I filled the fridge n freezer with stock all he had to do was cook whatever he wanted. Now that we are married he cooks when I'm working late and he's home.
Long story short men are domestically lazy you just have to push them to get to get home chores done.

Phder: "Garbage"? You're kind of taking the entire stuff personal! Are you in anyway OP's GF brother/friend?

@ magic bishop the way you are taking the whole thing so personal got me wondering dude..are you OP's girlfriend or are you the man trying to get the girl from him?
Who said a guy should be 100% responsible for a lady? Guys give your gals what you can if she ain't satisfied then let her go to the next dude that can afford her. Relationship isn't finance insurance or assurance.

Lol to think we actually believed all those things...here are mine:

-Running round after flying egrets and shouting "leke-leke give me water finger" all to have those white spots on our fingernails. (Those white spots are actually iron deficiency)
- pouring Bic ink in muddy water and waiting for a mermaid to form....lol....we waited for hours...

Blazay: Get real!
You are ALREADY MARRIED. . . It is your responsibility to build YOUR MARRIAGE THE WAY YOU WANT IT. . .even if she has erred!
Perhaps it is your 'high-handedness' that makes her to TELL LIES!
If the husband has not been STEALING her money for some booze or
things' like ashawos and IGBO. . .she would not be forced to tell lies!
If you set a good example. . . she would learn to trust you!
Period!

Marriage is not a bed of roses. . . sometimes you win and sometimes you lose!
No successful marriage comes with a manual of operation. . .UNLESS YOU ARE NOT MARRIED. . . Then wait till you get in to see how difficult for 2 people to agree AT ANY GIVEN TIME!

Thank you!

Abi o! tell them! Couldn't agree with you more oooo.

Everything everyone has said are all true based on different life experiences. I do hope these were things done by our fathers, uncles and men of an older generation. I hope the young men of today treat their wives differently, as women and not assets.
YOUNG MEN OUT THERE IF YOUR WIFE WANTS TO FOLLOW HER DREAMS BE IT HOMEMAKER, MANAGER, CHEF, FASHION, BEAUTY ETC WOULD YOU LET HER OR WILL IT BE A PROBLEM?

yellowpawpaw: Biola,I quite disagree with u.
Let me use my culture to buttress my point.
An igbo man got married and along the line started acquiring ppty. In the next of kin, he writes, children,mother, brother but no wife. When the man dies,the family will pounce on d woman. U hv heard of many cases, read many even here. So I ask u, where does this leave the woman?

I did my service in a big organisation and worked in records dept. When we were updating files, MAJORITY of the men did not put their wives as NOK but children and bro. If the man kpai, c tussle even to court level. Now what do u want such women do?

Women r getting wiser by d day and taking destinies in their hands.
Had it been men r doing the suppoesed normal thing, women won't go this far.

I hv seen threads here about whom a man will make his next of kin. Go and read it. I think it answered all the ?s u might want to ask.

I will always encourage women to fight for themselves. If ur man c no reason for bypassing ur name, I c no reason why u wouldn't bypass him and do ur own thing as u deem fit. Its only bad if he is jointly doing things and u decided to go solo.

yellowpawpaw: Biola,I quite disagree with u.
Let me use my culture to buttress my point.
An igbo man got married and along the line started acquiring ppty. In the next of kin, he writes, children,mother, brother but no wife. When the man dies,the family will pounce on d woman. U hv heard of many cases, read many even here. So I ask u, where does this leave the woman?

I did my service in a big organisation and worked in records dept. When we were updating files, MAJORITY of the men did not put their wives as NOK but children and bro. If the man kpai, c tussle even to court level. Now what do u want such women do?

Women r getting wiser by d day and taking destinies in their hands.
Had it been men r doing the suppoesed normal thing, women won't go this far.

I hv seen threads here about whom a man will make his next of kin. Go and read it. I think it answered all the ?s u might want to ask.

I will always encourage women to fight for themselves. If ur man c no reason for bypassing ur name, I c no reason why u wouldn't bypass him and do ur own thing as u deem fit. Its only bad if he is jointly doing things and u decided to go solo.

I know what you said back there applies mostly to the Igbo culture but let's put culture aside. I have met young ladies who are my age who even when dating ( I'm not talking marriage now oh) DATING, have no clue where their partners work, what exactly he does or how much he even earns. All they are interested in is he has that ride and lives in that appartment. You can imagine after marriage if they ever will know. If you don't know your husbands assets your are not a wise woman if those assets are all in your husbands name you are not a wise woman, if your husband can afford such assets then he can afford to get you one as a gift abi. In your name! If your husband dies and you have knowledge to all these information no tradition or family members or will will leave you without a dime but you must be ready to fight teeth and nail.
A man will probably not want you to know these things but you have to know them. Being a family woman isn't going blind to life around you or trusting your husband 100% to take care of you! you should always have plan B up your sleeves....you never know...

bukatyne: Living a rewarding and fulfilling life entails a person to be well rounded.

It is not the duty of the woman but the couple to make their home peaceful and loving.

I agree with you. Took that for granted in my expression as the main subject of discussion were "women" not men. It all depends on the couple. But what and how much a woman achieves depends on her.

Would love to participate as well Tgirl4real.

I am quite a feminist in the sense that a woman should have a voice in the family, community and society as a whole but when it comes to the FAMILY I have a different approach. I have read some women complain about giving up on those "dreams" ie career.
I have got a career in which I'm doing extremely well and I've got more room for growth but notwithstanding my "dream" is to raise my FAMILY. MY husband doesn't mind my job but when we do have kids I'm going to leave work and dedicate my time to my kids until they are grown. That's my decision not his. He doesn't agree with me and thinks I should work but I told him I would love to work a part time job or work for him as long as the job permits me to pick my kids after school, cook for them, do home works , play together and have dinner together as a family my husband inclusive. No job or carrier title will ever fill the emptiness you WILL have when you get old. All the material things will come and go but if you as a WOMAN succeed in creating ang growing a PEACEFUL LOVING FAMILY believe me you will live a fulfilling and rewarding life.
That's just my opinion.
If on the other hand your dream is to own your career, house, cars...in other words material things...I hope they give you enough warmth when you get old.
Women are wise and are actually wiser than Men if we could only learn to use our knowledge in the right way. Your man is the HEAD of the family but you are the NECK. The head will always depend on the NECK. it doesn't matter if your husband owns five houses after all what is his is yours if you are legally and happily married. If you play your roles as wise wives and women you will have everything you have ever dreamed. Family and career together.

The length people go to get noticed is unbelievable. Well she got noticed. But that thing on my head? Never!