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silaswills01:
No matter how hard u want to defend your actions 2 wrongs doesn't make a right you were wrong
I never said I don't have useless uncles or this ur own uncle is a good person
But the point is you should have done things differently other than slapping the man
Period

Based on your judgement and scope of understanding right, that means it's not as significant as you think it is, your opinions I mean.

Automolite:
Lemme post in English.

OP you lack wisdom that's plain and simple.

If ur uncle had been blaabbing back and forth, why did u take it personal?
Did he call ur name?, why assume the rants where directed to you.
You even said he was drunk, so why take his drunken rabble to heart?.
How much pain could his "hit me on the back" have caused u that you could not control yourself?
How many days is burial that you could not manage the situation maturely and disappear after a few days?
U failed to process the whole situation maturely and act with wisdom, but reacted like a child u are and have come hear for justification.
Only the senseless will support u. You are painting it as if a hit on the back is equivalent to a violent attack. How many times did you slap ur mom or dad for the times dey beat u silly?.
I sense that you are young, u have a long ways to go in life, so I understand the attitude.
Time and life will humble you eventually.

Peace.

People like you are what's wrong with the world, keep making excuses for him, he's older he should know respect is reciprocal, you earn it not demand it, if he fails to realize what even children know then he has failed as a human and the so called older person, the problem is people like him don't meet weaklings like you who don't know their rights, they plague people like me who have no business being in same vicinity with people like him, that's the problem, they for seperate people like me from people like you so you can torment each other cuz me I don't deserve this, maybe you do considering how bright you are but me I'm hundred percent certain I don't.

12345baba:
but u didn't die. Learn how to control ur temper. This ur experience reminded me of my late brother , always ready to beat any elder that steps on him, e no end well fr am sha cos he died at age 36 leaving 2kids and a wife. Honour ur father and mother so ur days will be long, na my bro case b that. Try dey ignore those elder guys.

Don't use your life to judge other people's life and circumstances, we're not same people, that it happened to one okoro doesn't mean it will happen to everyone, travel and see, the world is bigger than your belief in that little village you exist.

saphiere:
I am not about him being bitter that u are successful. My concern is the fact that you didn't greet him. When he patted u at the back or even beat you, u wouldn't have beaten him back

I wonder why you are blind to his transgressions but sensitive to mine, you're even not ashamed to admit selective justice, i don't respect people who practice biased judgement, you should be neutral because one day you'll also find yourself a victim as well.

saphiere:
You said it yourself that as African one has to respect his elder regardless. No be him bring u to the world dat u should be bitter he didn't help you.

And as no be him bring me as well why is he bitter I'm living a certain way, did he merit anything regarding me that is due for harvest? And did I owe him anything as a result? He shouldn't be bitter as well about greeting and respect, no be me bring am come the world as well, your one sided assessment makes me question your sanity.

Mcslize:
Don't mind the young man. It's a tap. The moment I started reading his post, I knew it was a tap and not a slap as he claimed.

Mo na leave the young man. Life go humble am. Life has a way of humbling arrogant brats like that. He is a spoiled brat and life will teach him a great lesson in the future that is if he will be alive to tell the story.

Everybody dey advice am but he is still forming capon. He will surely learn the hard way trust karma and nature for this. He is not wiser than those that had walked across the surface of the earth and beyond.

Life always has a way of teaching people like that a big lesson. Mo na leave am.

I pray I learn the hard way teacher, if I no learn quick abeg carry gun and ensure I do.

Mcslize:
He didn't hit you. He tapped you. There is difference between hitting someone outrightly for no reason and someone tapping you from behind.

The tap may have felt like a slap. But it was not. You were already angry with him. That was an opportunity to get at him using slap as an excuse. Say the truth.

Let me advise you. Better go and apologize to that man. Don't bring unnecessary curses to your life.

If you like don't take this advice. Buy a wine and go and apologize and ask him to pray for you after accepting your apology.

The consequences of things like these are always brutal in the future. But you can overlook this advice and act woke. But don't forget we are in Africa.

When your problems will start you won't remember that it's an elder you slapped long time ago. That's how nature works.

How did you get to know he didn't hit me he tap me genius, it's like you be Merlin cuz you sounded like you were there, so wise like merlin.

Mcslize:
I don't believe he slapped you at the back. He may have probably tapped you at the back, coupled with the fact that you were already angry, that was an opportunity for you to land him a slap.

My instincts told me he didn't slap you but tapped you. The tap may have been a bit more than normal. You were already angry before due to all that he said, you used that opportunity to get back at him.

Don't ask how I knew.

Ehn you were there na, infact you had a front row seat to his show called alchemy of shame, that's how you knew so well he didn't slap me, mumu.

DeclanR:
Guy, with this your mindset, I won't be surprised if u get stucked later in life.
You are ill-mannered and uncultured.
Your nephew will do same to you someday

Lol Una too mumu I swear, try leave that tiny village that is your world and go outside, you won't misbehave anyhow under the guise of culture and they'll do you someday, you'll land in jail for small reason due to ignorance.

12345baba:
U are sooo wrong, what if he had died after the slap omo u future done end o. U for just lash am with tongue leave dey go ur way.

I could've died too as he slapped me, but that doesn't matter because he's an uncle, a drunk uncle knows best.

lezz:
Truly your uncle is entitled and very wrong. But a slap in the back by an elder is like a spank and not a slap.

But you seem very hurt by his indirect accusations . Are you a Yahoo boy?

What if I am? Why is he pained to the point of hitting me and making snide remarks, am I the reason why he can't afford basic necessities he has to depend on free beer? Isn't it jealousy to look at someone condescendingly and conclude that the reason they're living fine is because they're into fraud? Make everybody dey suffer before they fit consider that person as someone who's diligently working for his money? It's not my fault that he's not living fine, I work for my money fraud or not, it shouldn't be his headache don't you think?

dettolgel:
A times not responding with violence is an act of bravery not cowardice. You alone knows that one or one you can deal with him. Ignoring him shows strength rather than weakness.

Imagine if a toddler ran towards you and hit you, you probably will frown at the toddler and wouldn't hit back not because you are a whimp but because you understand the power disparity.

You speak of him being have an entitled mentality towards respect, you mentioning more than once how he didn't contribute a penny towards your upbringing sounds also like an entitlement mentality, I am just saying.

And leaving where he stood and was making a phul of himself wasn't ignoring him enough, it's a mistake being born in Africa honestly cuz the way una dey reason dey muzz me, for me to avoid someone and leave him where he's making a jest of me, he still chased me outside, at this point it's better I talk to cow head cuz this thickness no be here, nothing fit enter una head.

BigCowHornn:
What you did will tarnish your image in that family for a long time

the family that is immensely helpful I need them to live abi, advice full ground but shishi they no go contribute to your life.

Dijita:
You are young and prideful. When you grow older and learn your mistake, I hope you will have the humility to apologise to your uncle or his children.
It is ok to make mistake because of one's personality. It is human to err and divine to forgive. In your own case, you fail to admit your mistake but justifying your action. Self reflection and regulation is the bedrock of emotional intelligence.
Today, you are self sufficient and your uncle is a "drunken fool" that did not worth your respect. An adage says " we have seen the prince that becomes slave and bonded man that becomes chief". A word they say is enough for the wise that is surely wise.

STFU BRO, JUST SHUT IT.

qtx:
Omo, your pupsy still dey alive? hmmmmm, i no know wetin i go talk. it looks like his analysis of Yahoo Boys first of all hit you. Your reaction was not mostly because he hit you at the back but what he started talking initially when he saw you. But a clear conscience, they say, fears no accusation. By the way, that aside, let's assume after you slapped him and he fell and passed away, what do you think would have happened? I expect you should be more enlightened than those kinds of people in the village. They may not be healthy enough to take such a strong slap from you. All this me I am short-tempered things omo, i don see person wei na just slap she give person the girl passed and she has been in prison for murder. Sometimes wisdom is better than power. Run, run and run. My take. It doesn't make you a coward, bro; it makes you wise. After all, if you want to show you are brave, not with your uncle. Bandits dey there.

Now ask yourself what if I fell down and died as well, I guess the drunk would have gotten a medal of honor alongside people like you who knows everything.

wamide042:
So why did you pick offence when he started talking about ‘Yahoo boys’. If you aren’t one then you shouldn’t be bothered. Then from your write up it’s obvious that you’re kinda rude in some ways.
Your uncle has been intoxicated hence the reason why he was saying all those things, the funny thing is when he’s normal he might not remember saying those stuffs, but you as a person you’re just a Rude, Proud and Mannerless guy. Na your type go dey beat woman and even collect things you buy for her during arguments.

I was intoxicated too, c'est fini, weyrey.

yemmit90:
The reality is that, you may not be a yahoo boy, but probably behaving like one. Your uncle statement wouldn't have pained you to that extent since you were innocent.

What you did is totally wrong, your uncle saw how frightened you were in the meeting, that was probably the reason he followed you outside. Just start behaving well, dress like a responsible adult and most importantly, relocate to a more Liberal neighbourhood where people understand the difference between yahoo and earning legitimately online.

I literally ran away from my compound, I neva fear oracle reach that level, I ran away, he chased me outside and resumed, why do I even reply people like you sef, did you read anything at all or comprehension is the problem here.

Oomardesigns:
Oga you lack respect. Just becaue he didn't contribute to your upbringing doesn't mean you should disrespect him that way.

Yes I disrespect him, coming to slap an adult who has his own life like a child isn't disrespectful, your one sided judgement is appalling but like I said, I don't even care.

silaswills01:
All this ur cho cho cho changes nothing

You're disrespectful and have bad character
Saying nigeria is backward then leave na go another country mtcheeeew

And about that even if it's in America if u slap ur uncle it won't go down well for u

Arrest me na, a full grown adult you want me to become a child because of some backwards thinking, shey you have useless uncles too, submit yourself to slapping na, and whimper when they do repeatedly to show you're a good child who doesn't cho cho cho cho.

GboyegaD:
How about he is his uncle's karma? Stop creating unnecessary fears for him.

unnecessary fears keh, let them be shouting karma upandan, karma wey no meet the wicked uncle who doesn't know his boundaries and decides to oppress me out of everyone present, karma won't do sheet, make una dey play, karma bla bla bla, I fear nothing and he can't do jack sheet.

Beremx:
guilty conscience made it seem as if he was talking about you. He didn't mention your name and you felt guilty. You now took the anger and slapped him.

just like that, without provocation, I slapped him lol, I feel better and I'd do it again thanks to this backwards comment.

saphiere:
You actually dressed or acted like a yahoo boy. I work online too and nobody has ever called me yahoo girl. Secondly whether he contributed to your upbringing or not, you owe him respect. Do you know his financial condition when u were coming up.

I owe him respect because? And whatever reason you can come up with, ask yourself don't I deserve to be respected as well? Since I owe him respect, who do Una this thing.

We4all:
They say if the gods want to destroy a man, he makes him mad. I like your pride. But be sure to use it efficiently when it backfires.

Good advice, considering you're a wimp, now scurry off.

Ishilove:
Hot blood hot blood...

You'll cool down as you get older and wiser. Aging does that to you, you know. It makes you view things from a different perspective, but for now your blood is still hot and you think you have everything figured out.

Your uncle might be an entitled jerk acting under the influence of alcohol to misbehave, but does that justify slapping him? You call what he did "oppression". Do you even know the meaning of oppression? Look guy, you handled it very wrongly whether or not you choose to admit it. He hit you on the back and demanded respect, but the mature thing to do would have been to walk away no matter how hard it may have seemed. There's a way you would have handled his drunken behaviour that would have made everyone would turn against him and start cautioning him to behave himself. He was clearly acting under the influence of alcohol and handling him like the drunk he is would have made him a fool before everybody's eyes, but now that you have behaved like the fool, you have now become the fool and this will come back to haunt you, you best believe that.

This is Africa, guy. Culturally, you goofed.

Goto court and tell them this is Africa, abuse someone unjustly like the drunkard did to me and goto court to plead your case because we're in Africa and see if you won't be in chains before you know it, he assaulted me, and I defended myself, it has nothing to do with this is Africa bla bla bla, na why Una leaders dey use una like rag una dey okay with am, Nigeria is so backwards.

SpencerForbes:
Guy make I leave English use pidgin follow you cap because I believe say you be my age group. Mid 20s-30s wey believe say because we don hit money nobody be our mate. E don tey wey subject touch me like this for nairaland.

—How much you get?

—Where you Dey for Forbes list?

—How many people you want make dem help you to attain success?

—You know whether your uncle fit feed himself before you Dey expect am to help you?

—You don attain generational wealth?



Honestly, I’ve seen people lose everything so fast that it actually makes me respect wealth—and fear how quickly it can vanish. You’re just being arrogant, plain and simple. I’m 100% sure that if you’d told your mom or the people around you, they would’ve checked you immediately.

In this life, not everyone is going to play a part in your success. You can’t go around hating or feeling superior to billions of people just because they didn't hand you a shortcut. Wealth can disappear in an instant. Why walk around with your nose in the air? Based on your logic, you’d probably hit your own father for correcting you just because he didn't "help" your career.

You need a reality check. Not everyone is meant to be a pillar in your success story. Some people contribute through prayers and well-wishes—I have people I haven’t seen in years who I still plan to look out for because I know they’ve been rooting for me. Forget about people validating you for a second: you were wrong.

If you tried this in my family, we would’ve shown you very quickly that money isn't everything. And if that were my father you disrespected? You better have enough wealth to last generations, because I’d make it my mission to come for you.

Stop creating enemies for the next generation just because of your ego. The more you achieve, the humbler you should get. The bigger I get, the more cautious I become because I know how much is at stake. Keep in mind, that online gig could dry up or get saturated tomorrow, and you’ll be right back at square one. Stay humble.

Bla bla bla bla like a bleating sheep and you said nothing, Africa this and that, I should become his slave because we're in Africa, same way he doesn't owe me anything pertaining my growth as an uncle I don't owe him anything as well, he doesn't know how I survived, so don't give me that crap abeg.

We4all:
You know you won't retaliate, so stop capping.

ok

Kobojunkie:
1. If a cultist, he may not seek direct assault but report him to the police. Still, the law would be on his side even then.

2. Wait a second... are you insinuating that if this uncle had maybe sexually assaulted you while drunk, you would do nothing about it? 🥱🥱

3. You would apologize to someone who assaulted you because he was drunk and didn't know better, or because he is older than you and didn't know better? 🥱🥱

No mind the dodoyo, he neva jam, you dey your dey person come dey oppress you in the name of elder you go whimper and cower until he pities you and leave you alone, what sort of violation is that.?

We4all:
@Lexzeey..can you honestly answer the question above? Let me ask another question: if it was a renowned cultist or bandit that slapped you, would you retaliate?

You clearly admitted that he was intoxicated, so your reaction was very wrong.

Put yourself in his shoes, and imagine been hit by someone young enough to be your son, regardless of the circumstances.

I think you were triggered by his criticisms due to guilty conscience. I should encourage you to go apologise, but of what use is that? He may never forgive you, and I am down with him on that.

Next time, you will learn how to control your temper and not flex muscles with someone physically weaker just because you bear a grudge against him.

if dangote stoop so low to slap me for no apparent reason of course I'll retaliate, na me suppose teach am sense? If you're too stupid to wise up let's both be stupid together, it takes two to tango and two can very well play the game, of course I'd retaliate with every fiber in my being.

illicit:
You could have done better tho

Such things have a way of coming back


You really didn't have to slap him, what if you were a boxer and he did exactly the same thing

That's your uncle man, its okay that u guys have history so u guys single each other out anytime


He is your uncle even tho he ain't all well

We don't have history, he has been non-existent all my life only to pop up like an annoying arsehole itch at that burial then choose me to oppress amongst everyone present in the name of uncle, I would have beaten him sef.

StillDtruth:
I think you are a very bad person but you just hide it by staying away from people, hence why you are an introvert.

You feel because you have gone through sh.... , then you have a right to behave as you like.

So, your bad nature showed because in spite of your withdrawal, your uncle still came into your personal zone. And so like a cobra in its hole, you just had to spring and bite.

Anyway, just know that another child is going to do it to you

Of course I'm a bad person, Una wey good please go and submit to village people let them use you as they like, nobody will oppress me for any reason bro, including those you promised will slap me, I can't stoop so low to a position where I deserve a slap from someone younger because I respect myself, learn to respect yourself as well and fight for your personal space.

tunjijones:
Go and mark it today, your nephew or your niece will slap you too back.

How person like am wan see chance near me again, failure beget failure, and I can't put myself in a position where a niece will slap me simply because I'm not a drunk failure at family gatherings forcing people to respect him, respect he never earned, what if I had died growing up, will my corpse respect him? He didn't know how I survived to adulthood so why is he claiming uncle, uncle na by mouth?