aysnoopy:


See better maturity. I love your reply. It's only some senseless humans that'll orally abuse others online knowing fully well that they can't even approach you physically.

Back to the topic, please be careful with the said lady if you don't want to marry her. If u have anything to do with her and u later leave, she may never forgive you.
My advice is, get a girlfriend and introduce her to the lady and case closed .

Thanks sir, I appreciate, I have learnt alot on this thread and I'm happy I posted it, the insults don't matter to me, I'm only concerned about my predicament.

Therock5555:


Guy if you do mistake nack that lady, you're a goner.

That babe wise pass you, cause how can she claim that she's with her church guy because you didn't ask her out, somebody that so cherishes you would now get Pregnant for another and still want to come close to you?

She wants to eat her cake and have it back, dude be wise.

I'll have said you should chop your own and move but I'm just getting out of a single mum/widow entanglement, trust me dude, free that babe, nothing good would ever come out of una friendship.


If you wanna know more, hit me up on WhatsApp make I tear your eyes.

Lol your response actually made me laugh, thanks dude I appreciate your advice.

Candidlady:



Sorry icalled you an edddiot...

You wanna have something to do with her but you don't wanna be responsible for her kid?

Cuz idont get this post of yours

I just don't want her to start seeing me as an enemy, holding grudges and keeping malice, that's why I'm looking for a nice way to tell her I'm not interested, hope you get now? I want to let her down easy without becoming her enemy, women do that alot, when you refuse thier advances or deny them something it becomes hatred.

Sonnobax15:

My Nigha, don't fall for her cheap trap.......

In fact,tell her straight up that you can't do anything like relationship with her...

Make she no come use you take chill until her baby daddy go come to his senses and ask for forgiveness...And trust me, you'll be at the losing end bro....Cuz she'll definitely forgive him prior to the fact that they'd already have a baby together,and she wouldn't want to be a victim of polyandry....

Yea, I sensed it too, she'd now be expecting me to take care of the baby, we have history, that's why I'm even still talking to her.

Candidlady:


Don't mind the edddiot

His last line sold him out...

he doesn't want her to get pregnant again especially for him

Stvpid thing with the life span of a mayfly

Thanks. I really appreciate the eediot tag.

Candidlady:
Cuz she is tempting me


Deep down you know what you want... You only brought this issue here so your fellow freaks can encourage you on how to lash the poor lady

It's the opposite actually, she's someone I used to care about, if that guy hadn't happened maybe we'd have had a relationship, feelings like that don't just die, and everything she's doing of recent is awakening that part of me that feels something for her back then, that's what I meant by she's tempting me, I don't want anything to do with her anymore because it's too much trouble, I stated that already, but trust nairalanders to misconstrue everything you say.

This girl was a casual friend for a while, we live in the same street, we were close friends, I noticed she was into me for two reasons, first reason is she gets angry when she sees me with other girls to the point of not talking to me, second, some guy from her church came to warn me to stay away from her because he's interested in marrying her, and I told the guy we're just friends, when I told her what happened, she laughed and told me she's with the guy because she got tired of waiting for me to ask her out, which I never did.

So I gave her space to be with her guy, we only kept in touch online, she left for her home town, for almost six months I didn't hear from her, I later found out she got pregnant for the same guy who warned me to stay away from her, funny thing is, the guy abandoned her with the baby, she was ashamed, she couldn't tell me she got knocked up by the guy, she's now back from her home town, living with her sister whose house is down my street, we met and I didn't act surprised or anything, I just ask about her baby and everything, now the problem now is, since she returned, she's been doing stuff I find uncomfortable, trying to initiate stuff when she visit me, trying to get me to visit her, calling me every now and then and getting mad if I don't check on her, she kept trying to ignite a relationship by telling me stuff she should have saved for her baby daddy, now I can't outrightly abandon her based on the fact that we were close friends before the whole pregnancy thing.

How do I let her down easy without loosing the friendship, to be clear I don't want a relationship with her, the baggage is too much and I don't want to walk right into that, I just want to stop her from making another mistake by getting pregnant a second time.

Quebec91:
Nice piece!

thanks

Bekboycrs:
You are probably flaunting your iPhone and the little you have too

Me wey dey hide from social media like say I be wanted criminal, lol.

Bennysam:

Insulting me show how timid you are

And making such short sighted and gullible assessment shows how slow you are.

Bennysam:

Go and hustle stop picking offence over nothing

As na you dey tell me to hustle before na, idiot.

AndroidAI:
Believe the Internet at your own peril. Anyone that flaunts is living a sad life with low esteem, hoping to get validation that he is what he is not. Imagine Bill Gates, Jack ma, or Mark flaunting loads of dollars. Even Elon Musk, as childish as he is will never flaunt money. Broke people trying to look rich to oppress other broke people.

Exactly, why try so hard, are you trying to convince yourself you have money or what?

ThinkDigitally2:

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mine has been waiting for migration to mainnet since last year, kyc passed easily but they no gree migrate me

youngjack206:
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MessiahOfAfrica:
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FacilitatorLekk:
It's shallow minded people, that's how they get their gratification.

Honestly there's no point to it.

marlow1962:
Broke niggas doings

Define broke

What exactly do people aim to achieve when they come online to front how successful Thier life is?

Most of them will claim they're motivating people, motivating people to feel bad?

Or look down on themselves for not trying hard enough in life, if you are really motivating people you'd show them how to make something of their lives too, your motivation is even doing the opposite, its inciting people to become desperate to make same money or force it by going into crime or fraud.

Go to Instagram you'll see many of them clout chasing, even on nairaland dairy section them plenty, what exactly are you doing, people wey no Sabi you, they're not your family you're seeking validation under the guise of motivation.

The UAE spender that was arrested earlier sweet my belle, such laws should be enacted in Nigeria because we have the biggest number of clout chasers in this country, you'll see many people tapping in to grace under their post.

Anyone who is successful have one story to tell about how they suffered for their money, you think I'd tell you the dirty things I did to make money if I'll become successful?

Let us stop glorifying this clout chasing, tapping into grace on social media won't change your life, the way people react to the posts from this clout chasers is the reason they keep posting, if you abandon thier post and don't interact they'll slow down, move at your own pace no allow anybody give you high BP or make you feel you're not doing enough, they don't care about you, they're only posting the riches so you can validate to make them feel good and make you feel like you're not serious with your life.

I know many of you will call me jealous and say no one owes me anything, yes but constituting a nuisance affects my sanity, and everyone needs thier sanity, can't you celebrate your wealth by buying nice things and treating yourself well?

Must you flaunt it online?

How many people you dey help with your flaunting?

Jakumo:


Damn right brother man. The very idea of becoming desperate and helpless enough to need HELP in meeting a woman goes against all that any wise and self-respecting man should stand for as a personal guiding philosophy.

Go and make your own romantic connections while pointedly ignoring the babbling of any patronizing and condescending person offering such dubious "help" by assuming the role of an unsolicited matchmaker, as though they consider you too dumb to make your own life choices.

I even saw the results of the desperacy through one lady that dm me, she was like afterall you're the one who want to get married, me I am young and have time on my side, but I made it clear to her she's wrong, I'm not desperate nor needy, I'd rather die single than settle for anything just because I want an amorous relationship.

cocolacec:


Let your friends connects you with their sisters.Your mum can also find you a well brought up girl with your criteria.

letting people play matchmaker in your life is a toxic recipe for disaster, I'd take my chances with the other suggestions on this thread.

nokspos:
Go to nysc camps, pick atleast two every new batch but don't sleep instead start as friend and be quick to leave ontime if things don't go your way so you don't waste their time because those set don finish school, na husband remain.

Also, don't be desperate, don't let them notice your desperation, let them know you are looking for a serious relationship but yet , let them feel and know that you can settle down right away and you can also take your time because you are willing to take either of those two decisions depending on what your woman wants. Let them know a man can still marry at 35 yet you are will to marry this year or even next year, or next 5years depending on what your woman wants. Women hate when a man is desperate and they hate when it appears like they are helping you solve a problem.

How you will get them at the camp now depends on you, be ready to buy some food, be ready to run some free services at the camp area, you can try to start a small business at the camp area and dedicate someone their just to get close to them. but the demographic of the girl you are looking for is in the camp.


also note that: real men don't play video game too much. Don't go and tell a new girl you just meet that you play video game, some of them see it as a red flag.

lol about the video game part, thanks.

LutherKing001:


Sad 😢.. Don't give up is all I can say for now.

thanks.

LutherKing001:


Bro you're done learning full stack dev already?
Don't mind some of this recruiters, full stack dev is enough skill for junior entry role in tech, they employ front end dev not to talk of full stack dev. Keep searching and applying bro you will find better options. I'm still learning for now and will start submitting CVs for tech jobs by Oct/Nov.

Almost done, I'm polishing my react skills for now, I'm not submitting cv anymore because the rejection and discouragement is too much and it's making me feel like I should stop trying, like I'll never be enough no matter how hard I try, imagine someone learning UI and UX and fullstack at same time because of recruiters with Thier unrealistic and inconsiderate demands.

LutherKing001:


lol bro you can learn HTML, CSS and JavaScript with phone. I have been coding on phone for almost 3 months now. Any serious person with burning desire to learn coding can start out with a phone while making plans to get a pc. God willing before diving into REACT, I should have a pc in my possession.

Well I'm sorry to hear you're still struggling with it, but the truth is, every programmer have got a fair share of the struggle tales in their humble beginnings while learning to code. Sometimes you get overwhelmed along the line but is best to relax a bit when you're overwhelmed, do some other things to relax your brain and come back to continue when you feel much better.

You have to be passionate about this coding thing and then you should know why you're learning to code, the 'why' question is what will keep you motivated each time you're feeling down and overwhelmed else you will just be wasting time and resources, brace up bro, you got the tools so get on with work cuz there's light at the end of the tunnel.

Another thing is I don't know what road map you're following, just be guided and don't be a jack of all trade at least for the now. The stack I'm learning is the MERN stack and I'm very determined to learn it cuz man don suffer no be small.

Finally bro make sure to follow some bosses on this subnairaland, you go learn from them. Notable mentiones are Airsaylongcome, Niel63, TruthCoder, GREATIGBOMAN, et al..

That jack of all trades stuff is one of the problems I am facing, I am learning fullstack to be employable, I actively search for remote jobs and what most of this jobs have in common is the need for several skills at once, you'll see jobs like, I'm looking for a UI designer with five years experience and have knowledge of this and that, they'll be asking for impossible stuff, most times I don't apply for jobs because of the side skills they mention, I saw one recently about fullstack development, but they also require you to have QA analyst skills too, so how can I stick to just one specialty when every job requires qualifications from other fields, the thing tire me.

Avast:


It depends and it is even normal but that doesn't mean you should stop learning or lose focus.

right, good to know I'm not alone in this boat.

Avast:


lol, I am in my 30s and I just started Frontend path few months ago. I have a 45yrs old guy with 2 kids in my standup team. The guy lives in Finland.

It's scary, I feel it'll be hard understanding anything at that age.

olamilarks:
I think you should reach out to Qtguru he's reachable with plenty contacts on his signature, that man is doing a lot of good work on tech Nairaland. I'm just starting out also, I try not to get into nairaland bants as much as possible. I think you're pretty skilled already but you need guidance and direction.

Yes I do need guidance, thanks anyway.

Avast:

@Lexzeey You are still young bro.

I just filled their online form, hoping to get feedback soon. Thanks boss.

Lol I hope you're right, this one everyone is looking for someone with atleast 5yrs experience, if u add 5yrs to my years it's not a pretty number o, although I'm still in my 20s.

qtguru:


Google meet or slack is my most accessible medium unless you send a mail. That works for me, busy schedule.

Alright I'll check it out, looking forward to it, thanks.

qtguru:


sorry join NexaScale on slack. I am a mentor there

Boss data o, my learning is mostly vid, it consume alot of data, is there a way I can communicate with you aside slack?

olamilarks

You have a new follower, our stories is similar honestly, my drive to learn a skill is to be financially free, like I need to start earning consistently asap otherwise something will happen, I worked hard to buy my laptop, I feel like telling my story and the hardship I faced but I won't do that right now because there's no point, I'd do that when I return triumphant, when I achieve my purpose, if you don't mind I am open to being friends because at this point I need all the contact, mentorship and help I can get, I don't fancy the idea of begging for monetary help and being pitied, so when I try to get in touch with someone just know I'm not coming to beg for money or be needy, I just need support not to feel alone, I have been mentioning qtguru for same reason but baba no send me, I also follow his diary too, worked hard to get the money for courses, I am done with designing, now I'm doing fullstack, please I need mentors, please.