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Davash222:
The manner women rejoice on their wedding day will open a sane man's mind to know marriage favors women mostly.

Men as kids don't plan on getting married, we envisioned a society where we go out there, have fun, tour around, stay in big mansion, bang as many pussy as we want without fear of being caught.

It's women that started this marriage of a thing to trap men down. They've wired this marriage of a thing in their hearts, right from their toddling age.




Congratulations to William Uchemba's wife.

Look at this animal. Make employment and wages equal for both men and women in Nigeria, and see how the table turns so fast. Sadly most women marry to be able to feed because favors men financially, not because they actually want to tie themselves to an over grown dirty man. If they employ your mom and pay her enough money, your dad would be out the door next year.

Why do you think female celebrities marriage ‘supposedly’ don’t last? Cos they realize most men ain’t sh*t and not worth the stress

SavageResponse:
I agree 100%!

Things like you never jam woman wey sabi beat pass una, or wey get evil mind to poison you or end you while you’re asleep. Usually happens when you think there is peace in the house. Be here spewing rubbish

Billchille:
There is nothing like gentle Men,word for simp.more baby mama than wives will increase by %1000 in the next 10 years,let's support baby mama than wives..... Since the Women don't learn from there mothers who have successful marriage let them carrry the burden of single mothers or remain single for the rest of there life while they have casual sex around to satisfy there sexual urge......

Just add that they are also financially independent...then what you mentioned here are goals

Starzo:
I'm speaking generally. If marriage as an institution becomes outdated in the society who do u think will be happier, men or women

Google am, and see for yourself

JB4life:
Where is the the 'wisdom" of those women leading them, afterwards?

They are alive, they are more open to gentlemen callers...you cannot tell me that if someone physically or emotionally assault you consistently, you would stay in that environment ‘for the kids or for what society will say’. People with this reasoning are already 6ft under.

Honestly my dear, women seek marriage only for meal cards(for the unemployed) and to get their kids, the ones that end up staying married are the ones lucky enough to marry reasonably men

Starzo:
Person like u no fit dey marriage pass 5yrs
And if the marriage institution actually crashes in the society who do u think will be happier??
Men or women... think about it

If the women feel that they were not going to be happy and at peace afterwards, they would not leave in the first place. Reason am

Saao:
most marriages crashes because most of our ladies nowadays were not prepared to be a wife rather prepared as a man. Two men can't live in one house. Nigeria men are the most prepared husband if u ask me. Our men are ready to take care of home 100%, anytime you see them derailing, it's the fault of the wife. Some men have issues but very few. The world tends to believe woman more than a man. Most men are orphans in their own home, some lives like slaves in their home but because he's a man, he acted as if nothing is happening. There are good women out there as well but very very few. May God bless marriage institution.

You are wrong. Nigerian men are looking for someone to subdue, oppress. They are not looking for a partner. Most marriage crisis nowadays are the fault of the men. I’m so so happy that the women are beginning to wisen up

ALEX182:
Chai. Common Wells Fargo o

Naija dey fall hand nor be small

Yup. What can one do

linearity:
No body gets $2,000 disability check, the max for 2020 is $1,300.

Cuck and bull story!

Lies

olujastro:
Why do you need to go to the bank to send money to Nigeria... when there are many online money transfer companies that easily do that and you receive your naira within seconds?

It’s dollar transfer. Trying to sell my small change here

ALEX182:
So I have this American patient who I recently came across. He's a fat dude who is like in his late 40s but has a very jolly and likeable character. I introduced myself and we got talking afterwards.

After a while of chitchat, he asked me where I was from. I told him to take a guess and he said said, you sound like you're Nigerian. I told him (regrettably) that I was Nigerian. He started smiling and told me that he had a Nigerian girlfriend and that we both had similar accents.

He then started telling me recent occurrences that had befallen his girlfriend in Nigeria. He said the lastest story was that she was in Abuja and as she was on her way to the airport in a taxi, the taxi had an accident and she was seriously injured and had to be rushed to the hospital. He said that the hospital demanded money before treatment started and he had to hustle about $4000 and send to her in order for treatment to start.

He said that after a week of her being in the hospital, they wanted to discharge her despite her still being in pain. Because she had exhausted all the $4000 on treatment, he said the hospital had threatened to discharge her on the streets and he was trying to borrow more money to see if he could send it to her so they could continue with her treatments.

He furthermore told me that the girlfriend said that she was a Nigerian American citizen who was currently stuck in Nigeria due to her passport having expired and also due to Covid lockdown at airports in Nigeria. He said she had asked him for $300 to renew her US passport from American embassy in Nigeria.

Another thing that he told me was that just before covid struck, there was a similar pandemic which happened in Nigeria early this year and that his girlfriend had contracted the disease and he had to send her $2000 for treatment. Right now he said he's broke but is waiting for like $2000 disability check from the US government next week which he will send to her as soon as the money clears.

As he was telling me this tale, I was so angry with Nigerians and how they take advantage of people in love to scam them. I wanted to swear for the scammers


I'm at a dilemma here. Do I tell him that he's being scammed by Nigerians or do I continue to be professional and just ignore it. Because I don't want him to think I'm involved with it because these oyinbo people can turn everything on your head and accuse you that is your people in conjunction with you that are scamming him. They are that crazy.

The good part of me wants to help him but I'm hesitant that it may turn out bad for me. Please matured responses.

If he is your patient the next day, please tell him. Try salvaging our name in your corner biko. Nigeria is having a very bad reputation here. Imagine trying to do wire transfers to Nigeria for days and all the banks I’ve approached refused, even common wellsfargo.

PapaNnamdi:
I don't have to prove a point,
just look around you

I did, at least in my area. That’s why I am bothering to reply you. Perhaps you’re not of the new age. People like you with your glorified sense of entitlement are just one lazy liability lol, a burden. Why do you think women be killing their husbands recently?
You should feel honored when a sister gives you 2 secs of her time

PapaNnamdi:
marriage favours women only,
take it anywhere,

So in your little mind, you’re doing a woman a favor by getting married to her? It’s bad luck that will make your future spouse marry you. People like you will be very irritating to live with

Abso1uteZero:
I said husband.

Read before you type woman.

Same sh*t baybay

PapaNnamdi:
if I get the guy number,


I for tell am,

to stop calling that your sister or seeing her for 2months,

and see who looses,

marriage favours women only,




he will get an apartment now, and 6months later the woman floods the house with her own family members including OP,
all surviving on the man,


rubbish and hushpuppy

Only because Nigerian economy favors men when it comes to finance

Abso1uteZero:
Husband no easy to find o.

She should weigh her options carefully.

Men plenty everywhere for Nigeria but 80% are complete liabilities and a waste of space. Real men are what’s scarce, and that’s who ladies go for

Mgtowmonk:
can't your sister rent an apartment with her own money?
The guy is doing her a favor by marrying her yet she still dictating how he should live his life

You have very low brain cells.

Crispels:
Nigerian-Americans to a very large extent, are Nigerians who were born and/or raised by Nigerian parents in the United States. Most of them were born to Nigerian immigrant families - many of whom migrated to Yankee during the ”visa lottery and green card regime”. Some prominent Nigerian American girls are Tomi Adeyemi, Chineye Ogwumike, Nneka Ogwumike, Arike Ogunbowale, Oyinye Iweala and many more.

In the course of my experience studying and living in America, I’ve interacted with so many Nigerian-Americans and these are some of my observations.

This thread is a response to previous threads on dating African Americans and immigrant Nigerian women(those who migrated to the US from Naija as adults - some in their late 20s and some in their early 30s, 40s etc) in the USA. This particular thread could help guide prospective Nigerian foreign students or immigrants in America - who hope to end up with one of their sisters or brothers that were born and raised in the diaspora.

(1). Most of them(Nigerian-Americans) are more Nigerian than you think.

There is an erroneous belief among many Nigerians back home who feel once people leave Nigeria - they stop being a Nigerian. To be honest, I'm more Nigerian right now than I was while growing up in Naija. For many Nigerian-Americans, the story is the same. Most(not all) of the Nigerian-Americans I’ve met here are so deeply rooted in the Nigerian culture that I'm sometimes left in awe. Many of them have Nigerian flags in their apartments and if you check their Instagram profiles - you are very likely to see the smiley of a Nigerian flag there. And please: don't think ”patriotism is sweet from the abroad”.

There are many Nigerian-Americans who go home every 6months - they know how difficult things could be in Naija but the reality is: once you have a Nigerian ancestry - you and your descendants are forever Nigerians. Thus, you can never disassociate yourself from your roots. Unless you just want to foo.l yourself. I know of Nigerian immigrants (with a US green card) who left the US(sold their properties) and returned to Naija to hustle because living abroad does not feel like home to many Nigerians.

In states like Texas, Maryland, New York, Georgia, California, Illinois, and others with tens of thousands of Nigerians, it is common to meet Nigerian-American girls who eat only Nigerian food(they don't like American food despite being born and raised there). They also know the songs of Davido, Wiz Kid, Burna Boy, Tiwa, Falz, Zlatan, Naira Marley and the likes in manners typical of a Lagos babe. That explains why whenever these Naija artistes come to the US - their concerts are usually sold out. Nigerian -Americans no dey joke with Afrobeat music oo.

(2). Nigerian -American girls are super ambitious and successful

Wait! If you are a Naija guy hoping to date a Naija-Americana, you better up your game now! These girls are not joking mehn. 99% of the Nigerian-American girls around me are all pursuing careers that pay at least 6-figures annually. There was a Nigerian-American girl I met in New York. She had her first degree from Harvard. An MPH(Master of Public Health) from Yale and she's about resuming medical school at another ivy league school. In a system like America, with the field she plans to work in, such a fellow is likely to end up earning at least $500,000 pay in a few years. Her story is similar to that of most Nigerian-American girls here. I have never met a Naija-Americana who is not interested in higher degrees or high paying careers in America like medicine, nursing, tech, finance, pharmacy, sports, business/investment/investment banking, trade, engineering, consulting, etc.

So, if you plan to date/marry a Naija-Americana, you must be ambitious, honest, and hardworking. Otherwise, you go play second fiddle tire.

(3). Their parents and family are heavily involved in their lives.

One of the major reasons why they are super successful is because of their parents. Most Nigerian-Americans live in America but they were raised in Nigerian homes. Thus, many of their parents raised them like Naija kids - read your books. Work hard. Be excellent and always aim for the top. Pursue high-paying careers. All of these coupled with the enabling environment and opportunities that America provides make them who they are. Many of their parents give them the specs of the husbands/wives they want them to have. I’ve seen cases where Nigerian-American girls refused to date guys because they were not ambitious and successful enough. In fact, within the Nigerian community here, there is ”elitism”(if you are a young Nigerian chap and you are not well educated or you don't have a good-paying career job, many Nigerian-Americans won't even roll with you. This is a story for another day).

(4). They don't really need your money.

They want you to be successful. Be well educated and have a great career but they don't plan to leech off you. To the basics. Whenever I go out with Nigerian-American girls here, they always want to pay for their own food and drinks. In fact, some of them have offered to pay for mine - even though I invited them for lunch/dinner. I’ve had arguments with a few of them for always wanting to split bills when I was the one who planned the treat. Hence, don't expect them to disturb you for money related to makeup, hair, accessories, and the likes. Although, it is always good to surprise them with gifts and flowers - if you plan to date or marry any of them.

(5).Many of them place a premium on physical features(being tall is a big deal to them)

Especially when they are young(let's say below the age of 25), many Nigerian-American girls love guys with certain physical features like height(6’7 tall), muscles, beards and the likes. They love guys that are athletic and super clean. So, apart from being career-driven, be prepared to hit the gym to grow some mass if you wan see them date.
Although, as they grow older, they tend to care less about these physical features. Regardless, they always love and prefer tall and clean guys who have great careers. Their ideal man is a guy who is physically appealing, clean, intelligent, career-driven and has a great taste of fashion.

(6). They are not your cooks or slaves

This is the American part of them. If you know you want a wife that will constantly cook for you, clean the house and do other numerous chores. Sorry. Most Nigerian-American girls are not for you. You, as a man must learn how to cook as well. Clean the bathroom. Wash dishes and other ways you could be of assistance to her. They are not your typical ”villa girls”. If you plan to date/marry a Nigerian-American babe, be prepared to split the cookings/chores - the same way you will always split many of your bills.

(7). They can be sometimes arrogant and snobby

Many of them can ghost guys for Africa sha especially when they find you socially awkward or not possessing the physical features they desire in their man or you don't look like what they prefer. I find this to be somewhat childish tho. It's part of the unnecessary ”growing class division” within the Nigerian community here.

(. Treat them right. Take good care of them and support them. They are our sisters and brothers!

CAVEAT: These points were made based on my own personal experience. Another person may have a slightly different experience. ONE LOVE NAIJA ❤️.

Lock down really kicking your butt here huh

Osobi32:
I thought I was the only one with this same thought....... I will sponsor such moves if there's a platform for that.

I gave this a lot of thought and believe me, that’s the only way. Is there a way to whisper this to the right ears to start the process?

That man is always talking. Half of the time he is saying nonsense

Why can’t blacks organize themselves and eliminate all those cops that kill blacks without due cause? Just create a gofundme for it, use the funds and hire someone to get it done. I’ve been searching and there is none

TRUST me, when a cop start arresting a black and has it in the back of his mind that should this black die, his life is also on the line, they will learn to preserve and cherish black lives.

Boredasf:
So you want him to sacrifice his freedom by marrying you abi
Abeg shift!!!

That young man is wise for not wifeing you up.
Marriage benefits Women not men.

I sincerely hope more men adopt this philosophy.
You women don't deserve marriage.
Any man that decides to marry any woman in this 21st century should know that he is doing her a HUGE favor!

My friend go and listen to ladies of class, not the village mongers you sleep with. It’s now the other way around. Men are becoming liabilities very fast. Mostly Nigerian men like you

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Mtchew. Glorifying Nigerian guys

These moderators are dumb and stupid. Someone’s account gets hacked and they ban it till 2029. Incompetent baffoons

Ausrichie:
we have our own issues ahn. Police brutality is a norm here and you want us to protest against the same thing maka the thing dey trend. We must take the log of wood out of our eyes first before taking the speck out of. another's.

Have you completed the assignment I gave you?

Ausrichie:
Kill their families seriously that is how low your senses are.

Yes Mr I have too much sense that my head is burning . Kill their extended relations too.

They should organize themselves, hire an assassin and kill those cops involved, together with their family. Then all these will be over in a second. That’s the only solution with a crystal clear message . Sometimes you don’t need to make too much noise.

That man should have been killed a long time ago. Why are people not thinking this?
I’m seriously looking for where they are making donations to hire a sniper to eliminate him, the other cops and their family!

dominique:
Your fellow black man was ruthlessly killed and you go and use the opportunity to steal. Let's be honest with ourselves, there's something wrong with the black race.

1. Blacks are amongst the poorest race in the US because of how the system is designed
2. They are taking those goods because they want to ‘hurt’ the owner whom I’m sure they perceive as white, or they are trying to ‘hurt’ the US to get their attention
3. But... I can promise you all those things they took, those blacks can afford them.

The message needs to be gotten across

sisisioge:
It is nice that they are fighting back...but horrible that they are using it as an excuse to steal. The thieves are also blacks...how will they get the deserving respect with this tyranny behavior! Blacks shouldn't always be linked to ghetto behaviour biko...The immediate past president was an upright black man!

For how long will they protest ‘peacefully’?