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It depends on what triggered the mood

Emotional cheating is very relative
It is dependent on the parties
Partner A may be comfortable with your Platonic friendships with the opp sex
while Partner B may consider it cheating
so it is relationship-specific

Just move on and never look back

Just say it

What is going on here?

jamace:
The truth is that once there is disagreement on monetary matters in a home to the extent that couples conceal their pay packages from one another, that home is already a house. And once both partners are independent of each other , the marriage is finished. At best, both are only co-habiting.

May be you need to understand that we have a lot more houses than homes(As per your context)
We still have peaceful homes with undisclosed earnings.
It will amount to fallacy to conclude that where there is no disclosure, chaos will be the order of the home/house

Just play on

I just cant help but laugh about the head stuff

In theory it is advisable to do so.
But that it is working for marriage A does not mean that it will work for Marriage B
Every marriage is unique
So you do what will fit yours

It is wrong
You lose your self esteem

Cheating is very broad
There is a part of it classed Emotional Cheating
That is what is happening between your GF and your friend
Its usually advisable to allow people that are cheating emotionally to have a swell time
If i were you i will give them space
or you also do some emotional cheating girls are everywhere

Hope,
I understand your fears; being alone
It can be hurting but its better to pay the price now and move on than pay this price all your life
It does not matter who wins or loses
You are only making choices that will restore your ego
You will find love that will accept you the way you are

We are not perfect
And it amuses me that the same people that will celebrate you when you are good are the same ones to crucify you when something goes wrong
The CBN Governor is human
He may not have foreseen the plummetting oil prices
I still respect his judgements

How do you know that Abubakar Ali is not qualified?
Why cant you be patient with him?
He barely assumed office

I dont think she is being truthful
I think you guys need to talk

The greatest challenge here is that you have not given yourself value.
You have a bruised ego and you feel you cant be the best even though you are desiring to be one
No Man is worth it
Give yourself value and you will be amazed at the unlimited possibilities
It can be very hurting but you have to leave this Man and move on

Let her go
I sense you wont be comfortable
so there is no point doing convenience love

Follow your heart

Age is just a number
It does not count
Maturity has nothing to do with age

fs:
Yes!
Wasn't trying to be a pest though.

Pest ,no that could not have crossed my mind
I was enjoying every bit of the debate

fs:
lol, you're right, I never give up. You made my point though. There are always exceptions, that's what I'm saying. You were saying 7 years is way too long and I'm saying it might/might not be.

You win
Hope this settles it
ha ha ha

Busy_body:
Ammamat, is this the guy who you asked us to solve that puzzle for or is this the virgin who likes anal or is this the randy one who you caught on top of his "cousin". Take a break, you don't have to be in a relationship all the time you know

Wanna know one of my favourite posts on NL, it was one you posted where you said;

"(5)In spite of lots of bad relationships, a great relationship is possible.
It doesn't matter if you have been "unlucky in love." All that matters is that you take the steps necessary to build a great relationship. It is essential these be different steps than the ones you have taken in the past".

Take your own advise on board, it will do you a whole lot of good

I like this piece

Nothing
But wont even divorce for anything

You need to pray without ceasing.
But you also have to be cautious so you dont get infected with any time bomb.
A cheating husband is a killer in waiting
But you have to apply wisdom & protect yourself

fs:
I don't know. The couple I know that had a 7 (actually I think it was 8, not sure) relationship, got married last year and they are/were not bored. But they talked to each other and knew what their eventual plans were. and were definitely not in an undefined relationship.

fs,
You never give up
There are always exceptions

What is your budget?

I want to believe you meant KNOW
How do you know that you are still in love with him?

fs:
You said he became boring for her? Maybe it's the word you used that confuses me. I'm saying even if they got married, what would have changed to make him less boring? If she left because he was boring, wouldn't that mean that they definitely shouldn't have gotten married then?

It doesn't matter really. We're all just throwing out possible reasons for her departure. She might have had solid reasons, who knows.

Dear fs seven years can be very boring for an undefined relationship
Dont even try imagining it . It can be very frustrating hanging in for 1,2,3, 7 years without a dream

fs:
Limuel, he became boring for the chick? Really? How would marriage have solved that considering it's supposed to last a lifetime? I'm confused.

Why the confusion?

Fs and Eluwa
The guy was dreaming alone so the whole issue of marriage was just a mirage

I will beat myself without mercy for not bringing her up properly