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I will be controversial and ask all people saying don't deny him sex he is entitled to it.
Is it for his gratification only or for both of them.

Is it just a. ...I can take what I want bang and don't bother whether she is enjoying it too
If it's a 1 minute I need to relieve tension will women bother.

Poster

I hope you have read all the opinions here and decide what to do.

Stay in your marriage and try and sort things out . I hope you two try and talk to each other. I know it's hard knowing that your husband has been elsewhere and you must give him what he thinks is his without hesitation.
But think of your child and think very hard before you have another.

Or
You leave if you think for the sake of your sanity you can't take it.
No one but you can make that decision for you.

The person we are in the longest relationship in our lifetime is ourself. Take time out and think, don't take a rash decision.

Life is hard, things could be worse.

I hope you come back and tell us what you did.

Cook his food with something he hates and serve it with a smile.

Chaii. ...

These men are lucky African women are prayerful.

Recently a Chinese woman got back at her husband by putting acid in his boxers. After all the rubbish he did and rubbed her nose in, he expected her to cook and clean for him.
This lack of conscience from men amazes me o

Joker123:
Wat were u looking for inside his wallet...?Shey uv found it ni...seek and ye shall find.

She is allowed to look in her husband's wallet. They are meant to be one.

Lleigh:
Men please remember that women are human beings.

A woman that is jealous of the people you are sleeping with has feelings for you.
You tell her do what you want I will have other women and expect her to bleep you passionately.
While she is thinking that your stick gas been in another place
The added irony is that these men come home and demand food physically and sexually.

Have you ever thought this woman could poison you or do something to your stick that will make it sofa forever.

Many a man out there is living a very dangerous life, just because we don't talk about psychological problems in Africa doesn't mean it doesn't exist.

Women are human beings and there is a very very fine line between live and hate.

Continue treating women that way.....sleep with both eyes open

Sorry for the typos. ...predictive text

Men please remember that women are human beings.

A woman that is jealous of the people you are sleeping with has feelings for you.
You tell her do what you want I will have other women and expect her to bleep you passionately.
While she is thinking that your stick gas been in another place
The added irony is that these men come home and demand food physically and sexually.

Have you ever thought this woman could poison you or do something to your stick that will make it sofa forever.

Many a man out there is living a very dangerous life, just because we don't talk about psychological problems in Africa doesn't mean it doesn't exist.

Women are human beings and there is a very very fine line between live and hate.

Continue treating women that way.....sleep with both eyes open

Why do men cheat?

Men find it easy to compartment emotions, women are learning to do the same.

It can't be ok for the goose but a no no for the gander.

Get yourself acquainted with Jessica

Everyone going against this guy....
What would you do if your wife or gf said we need to spice things up.
What will you do?

At the end of the day, this guy will do what he thinks is right for him.
A lot of couples can't really tell each other what they want, for the fear of being judged.

sammily:
There are two main types of cheating husband, (Type 1) the one that just pick up a girl, maybe in a club, have his fantasies with her, forgets her and go back to his loving wife and kids. You may ask why he does that when he loves his wife, it could be that his wife does not give him what he likes, say mouth-action. The wife may not like doing it and the husband will not want to force her out of respect, so he goes outside to get his fantasies. He has absolutely no feeling for the outside hoes, just business.

The second (Type 2) are those that actually have a relationship with the outside hoes, like the OP's story. He spends time with her, pay for her accommodation, feeding and everything she needs. This is the worse type has the hoe is now competing with the wifey for the husband. In some cases, you wouldn't blame the husband for doing such, as wifey may have turned into a pain in the neck for the husband, no man wants to come home to a nagging, troublesome wife, so he runs to the peaceful arms of an outside hoe. The home suffers in this case.

Advise to the wifey, if you suspect your husband is in type 1 and want to screw back the missing nuts in his brain, when he's alseep, wake up and start praying for him, pray for his success, his promotions, his good health, pray for God to strengthen the marriage. He will hear you and if he's normal, he will surely regret his actions and come back to his senses. If wifey go about fighting husband, she might just push husband to type 2

Just my opinion.

It is hard to judge a wife being a nag.
Some men make women into what they are unfortunately.
The wife tells them as it is, but he doesn't like it.
The wife says it because she is loves her husband.

If after 2 years, you think about her that way you should try and initiate contact.

When cupid releases it's arrow we never know where it will land.

Can you reduce your alcohol intake, note I didn't say stop. That decision is yours. However, the red flag I see right now is the church issue.

I have seen many ladies...yes ladies lose the love of their lives over 'he goes to the wrong church'
Who are we to judge a church...we ate not God.

Contact her, she might also be thinking of you. Don't leave it too late

BlackMbakara1:
@ OP the honest truth is you will never and can never love her (your just infatuated and all those counseling is part of the campaign) . For now u dey enjoy the sound track; so enjoy!

NB: Dating brings the best, marriage brings the rest.

He could love her....loving someone is not just about the sex

killermanIsBack:
if how I got to meet her was tru a 3some with another girl, that won't be an issue, my reservation I having my guy fork her too...

Well I can understand where you are coming from. But that is no different to a mmf scenario.
The issue for you could be the fact is he is your friend.

Maski87:
My wife used to do the. Same thing but now ,I have a new girlfriend and I first go there and chop belleful before I go home
And then if she says why don't you want to service me I will pretend am hungry because my new girl is very strong in bed

Very nice indeed.

Could be she is busy doing other things around the house

If you like her I would say have a relationship.
One problem you will never have is sexual communication. You met when you were open with each other, that can only continue.

A lot of married women have sexual fantasies that will never be fulfilled. The reason being they are not meant to behave that way.

See how it goes. ...

There is nothing stopping you having a 3 some when you get married