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Romance › Re: My 5 Year Old Relationship Ended Just Like That by LolaO(op): 8:31am On Nov 04, 2019

boiz2men:
Side note..

You look like a yahoo girl oo

Did you cheat or lied about something in those 5 years?

Chances are he has been resentful towards you if you did.

Lol...Thank you for making me laugh

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Romance › Re: My 5 Year Old Relationship Ended Just Like That by LolaO(op): 8:01am On Nov 04, 2019

cho25bc:
Have you tried visiting him since he left lagos?

Yes, I have. Once.
My job is also very demanding, thus no time to actually go visit as often I'd have loved to. Last time he came to Lagos was last year.

So, technically the relationship has been over since last year. I just got on the train late.

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Romance › Re: My 5 Year Old Relationship Ended Just Like That by LolaO(op): 7:58am On Nov 04, 2019

bluefilm:
So what do you want nairalanders to do for you now?

To start weeping or to start rejoicing with you?

Nonsense.

Rejoice, maybe.

Romance › Re: My 5 Year Old Relationship Ended Just Like That by LolaO(op): 7:58am On Nov 04, 2019

pocohantas:
You have a heart that can be broken. I envy you...

Lol...we bless God

Romance › Re: My 5 Year Old Relationship Ended Just Like That by LolaO(op): 7:57am On Nov 04, 2019

Guest007:
This is scary... Please go and check yourself for any stds or god forbid the 3 letter word...

Why would someone act like this?
What answers are you hoping to get here?

We're as shocked as you are...

I would advise you to feel the pain, stay strong enough to ride this through to the end. He's disrespected your father, and you need to take all the lessons you have from this.

You could make your own narrative if he won't offer you one, and your own decisions about this relationship... Like: If he comes back will you just take him back... Is this relationship really going anywhere past dreams and wishes?

I say go have a make over and work on you... Stop the pity party soon and all is well with you

Thank you.

I'm fine health-wise...
Plus, I've not seen him in going to 2 years, we just talk on phone before the disappearance.

Would I take him back if he comes back? No

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Romance › Re: My 5 Year Old Relationship Ended Just Like That by LolaO(op): 10:12pm On Nov 03, 2019

Shugargal:
Now you're talking to us, since his mum still talks to you, what has she said about his son where about in your life?

That sometimes he just wants to be left alone, because he is an only child. And I should understand.

He’d get in touch when he’s out of his lone state.

This is someone I’ve known for 5 years, and suddenly he wants to be left alone?

If he’s going through stuff, shouldn’t I know? If there’s a secret he’s hiding, shouldn’t I know?

Too many questions...

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Romance › Re: My 5 Year Old Relationship Ended Just Like That by LolaO(op): 9:55pm On Nov 03, 2019

cucumbae:
Stop all this victim's of a heartbreak.Why didn't you call him to find out how he is doing? Do you know whether he is ill?

I have called countless times, sent messages on Whatsapp, no response, no replies.

My dad called, he picked, told him he’d call back, but never did.

He is not ill, neither is he dead, I know this because his mum still talks to me, and at this point I’m cutting her off.

I wish I knew what the problem is or what I did wrong, he is not a bad person, loved me while he was in Lagos, his family adores me, and mine adores him as well.

I wish I knew what I did wrong, but it is what it is.

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Romance › Re: My 5 Year Old Relationship Ended Just Like That by LolaO(op): 9:39pm On Nov 03, 2019

Mcslize:
It's your fault. Most of you ladies like forming champion even when you love a guy, always waiting for the guy to be the one to reach out to you. Common checking on a guy you're in a relationship with, you girls can't reach out to the person you claimed you love. How many times do you reach out to him? How many times do you check on him if he is still alive? Do you know what he has been passing through? Are you aware of his worries? Do you call him to find out how life is treating him?

Relationship is two ways directions. It is reciprocal. Don't always sit on the fence waiting for your man to reach out to you before you reach out to him. Don't always wait for your man to reach out to you before finding out how life is treating him. Majority of you girls don't know how to care for a man. We men want to be shown love too.

The only thing that will make a man to stop talking to you is if you are just there contributing nothing to his life. But you want him to keep chasing you, professing unrealistic love to you while sitting right there folding your hands. No text, no call and you expect the man to waste his time with you. No way.

The only thing that will make someone you've spent 5 years with to stop talking to you is because you as a lady is not playing your role. You are not reaching out to him to check on him as often as you should for someone who truly wants to build a future with a man. He sees that you are just there always wanting him to be the one to do all the communications and building of the relationship. Don't blame the gentle man.

He must have found someone else who is doing all that you are not doing for him. What does it take to communicate with your man and always get involved in his life? It takes nothing - absolutely nothing. But you girls will be feeling like Queens of the coast putting all the work of maintaining a relationship on a man without doing nothing.

Do you truly expect such a man to choose you as a partner? What makes men choose women for wives is how supportive they are to men. Men choose women for life partner based on how supportive they can be to them.

In those days we see supportive fiancées and that makes men take such ladies for wives cuz they are supportive and not parasitics. They give good advice to their men and encourage them to attain higher feats in life. If a man do not see you as the supportive type, he will surely not take you seriously.

Brace yourself up and move on my sister. When you see the next man, learn how to fully get involved in his life. It will make make a man see you as the serious type.

Thank you for the advice.

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Romance › Re: My 5 Year Old Relationship Ended Just Like That by LolaO(op): 9:35pm On Nov 03, 2019

greatnaija01:
wow, sorry BUT your relationship may not have been healthy from the start.... here is why...

WAS GOD INVOLVED?

DID YOU BOTH INVOLVE A COUNSELOR OR FAMILY MEMBERS?

WERE YOU BOTH ON THE SAME PAGE AS REGARDS THE FUTURE?

Was it more PHYSICAL connection than soul satisfaction?

Was your relationship really helping you both become better?

DON'T COME HERE AND CRY then tell us HALF OF THE STORY meanwhile the guy may have a whole major reason for leaving.

Was God involved? Yes.
Family members and counselor? Yes
Did the relationship help us both become better? Yes.

I’m telling half of the story because I don’t even know the full story.

I wish I knew.

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Romance › Re: My 5 Year Old Relationship Ended Just Like That by LolaO(op): 9:33pm On Nov 03, 2019

Ab025:
This is your own version.....I can't comment until I hear his version.

Women have a way of not telling us where/how they bleeped up when things go wrong...

You’re right.
I would like to hear his own version too, to know where I bleeped up.

However, in the mean time, my version is all I have.

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Politics › Re: Obono-Obla: Osinbajo’s Office Persecuting Me For Being Loyal To Buhari by LolaO(f): 9:31pm On Nov 03, 2019

KingTom:
Been around the world and I I I I can't find my baby (omolola1) I don't know why I don't know why

Lol.

How did you know it was me?
Hope you’re good?

Romance › My 5 Year Old Relationship Ended Just Like That by LolaO(op): 7:35pm On Nov 03, 2019

My relationship of 5 years ended in the most heartbreaking way.

He got transferred to Asaba from Lagos and months later just stopped talking to me, no communication, no closure, nothing, just like that.
It’s been 5 months now.

This is someone I had planned my whole life around.

Distance does not make the heart go fonder.

I am so hurt, it hurts.

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Dating And Meet-up Zone › Re: Drop Your Date Of Birth, You Might Find A Match by LolaO(f): 5:51pm On Nov 03, 2019

January 15

Politics › Re: Obono-Obla: Osinbajo’s Office Persecuting Me For Being Loyal To Buhari by LolaO(f): 1:50pm On Nov 03, 2019

KingTom:
Contributed greatly in the persecution of Justice Walter Ononghen who ironically is from his state, now the tables have turned and the beast he was feeding is fully grown

Tom!!!
Where have you been huh

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Investment › Re: Money Lying In Waste by LolaO(f): 10:09pm On Nov 02, 2019

Buy treasury bills

Business › Re: First Bank Rewards Top Performing Agents With Over 15 Million Naira (PHOTO) by LolaO(f): 7:16pm On Nov 02, 2019

Nice...

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Christianity Etc › Re: Tunde Badru: RCCG Pastors Welcome First Child After 24 Years Of Marriage by LolaO(f): 5:53pm On Nov 02, 2019

Pastor Badru!!!!

Car Talk › Re: How To Avoid Buying A Foreign But Stolen Car In Nigeria by LolaO(f): 10:47am On Sep 29, 2019

Nice thread

Romance › Re: Rants Of A Single Lady Part 1 by LolaO(f): 10:41am On Sep 29, 2019

Duggedised12:
First , thank you nairaland for providing an avenue for me to bare my mind.

I wish I could write a sign board in from of my house that says "husband wanted apply within" without getting judged since the pressure of marriage has become too much to bear.

I wish those who see me and make remarks like "when is she settling down sef?" Will not lump me among the "choosy spinster" not knowing I wasted a good number of my years in a long term relationship with promise of marriage only to be disappointed at the end.

I wish I could put "single and searching " on social media and not have married men looking for free cookie wanting to cash in assuming I am desperate and play boys playing the part of serious bachelor just to get free cookie.

Maybe its a curse cos I heard late marriage runs in some families, maybe I am just unlucky ,maybe its something I am not doing right ,maybe just maybe .

I wish I could ask a guy out and he will take me serious and not think I brought him my cookie for free.

Dem say boyfriend full everywhere na husband scarce ,but thats because one guy can be dating 5 ladies with all the ladies thinking they have a boyfriend until he decides to settle down.

I totally relate.

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Literature › Re: A Dinner To Remember by LolaO(op): 2:02pm On Apr 18, 2019

The doorbell rang. The time was 6:48pm.
“I’ll get it!” Derin said as she walked to the door, she had a pink top on. A teenager who just couldn’t wait for her next birthday. She peeked through the peephole and smiled. “It’s Greg!” She said as she opened the door.

“Hi, Derin!” he said. “You hold on to that,” he smiled as he handed her a bottle of wine. “This one is heavy for your delicate self!” Referring to the big red wrapped box he carried. Greg was in his early thirties, he was wearing a black long-sleeved shirt with a jacket on top.

“Wow!” She said excitedly. “Mummy will devor this, trust me!” She smiled back, “Oh, you seriously had to drive to our house?” On noticing his black SUV packed in front of the house.
“I can explain,” he replied, “see, the thing is…”
“The box is too heavy for you to carry?” She interjected.

“Well,” he remarked as he nodded, “You’re smarter than you look young lady. Maybe you should run for President when you are older!”
“Apparently my parents aren’t spending their money to get me a good education for nothing.” She giggled, “Please come in!” She turned, “Mom! Dad! Greg is here!”
Greg followed her as he panted.

“I can see you’ve changed your glasses again!” She said.
“Naa!” He responded, “I changed the frame!”
“You know one thing I like about you, Greg?” She said.
“What’s that?” He asked.
“Aside from your dashing personality…” she added, …” You are too generous for a neighbor!” Is the box heavy? You can just…”
“No, it’s okay.” He interjected, “Doesn’t weigh much!”
“Okay,” she remarked, “So how was service today?”
“Just the usual chatter.” He replied. “It was good, not my favorite Pastor though.”
“Oh, is that why you left very early?” She asked. “We took some photos, it was fun. You missed!”
“Yeah,” he said. “Had some things to do.”
“Oh I see!” She responded. “Samantha kept bugging us with her usual, “where’s Uncle Grey.”
“Uncle Grey!” mumbled a little girl as she ran towards him. “Oh, hey Divine!” he said.
“Speak of the devil!” Derin said, she gave way for her kid sister to pass.
“Uncle Grey bought present for me?” Divine asked as she hugged his legs. “Yes, I did.” He replied, “And I am sure you’re going to love it.”
“Easy, Divine!” Derin said. “It’s Mr. Greg, not Uncle Grey. Get off of him, the box looks heavy. Go to mommy! Come on, shoo!’
“Take it easy on her,” he said, “She’s just a kid.”

He dragged his leg cautiously to avoid pushing Divine to the ground.
“Yeah, right.” Derin said, “This bug buzzes worse than a bunch of bees! She walked to the dining area. Her mother walked in from the kitchen holding a bowl filled with Akara balls.

“Yum! Yum!” said Dapo as he walked behind holding some plates. He was a timid teenager. “Mummy, why do you allow this riff-raff into the kitchen?” Derin said.
“Because someone refused to lend me a helping hand?” Said her mother as she placed the bowl on the dining table.
“You have no idea what I saw him doing with a dead rat at school on Tuesday!” Derin added.

“Hey, Mrs. Adenuga!” Greg said. “You seem to be getting into shape lately!” “Oh thank you, Greg!” She replied, “Been seriously working out.” She giggled, “Got to stay in shape in order to get rid of the competition, you know what I mean?’ She winked as she laughed, “You arrived on time. Sorry, we’re starting a bit late, my husband came home a little late from the store. See why we women prefer to do the shopping ourselves?

“And I thought the late thingy is the other way around!” Greg said. “Where do I put this?”
“Are you kidding me,” said a male voice as a bald-headed man in his late-forties walked down the stairs, “Honey, if it was you that went to the market, we’d still be waiting for your return by now with spoons in between our teeth!”
“Yeah, right!” She responded.

“Hello!” Greg said, still holding on to the box.
“I can’t wait to eat these delicious delicacies.” Mr. Dele Adenuga added as he walked to his wife, he kissed her. “You smell like heaven, honey!”
“You guys should get a room, please!” Derin said, “Ugh!”
“We own the house young lady,” Mr. Adenuga responded, “me and ma baby we own this C-R-I-B, shorty, you got that?” He bounced as he mimicked a rapper. He then turned to Greg with his hand stretched, “Dude, what’s that you’re holding?”
“Oh, nothing much.” He said, “Just a gift for the family.
Divine poked him, “Gift for me?” she mumbled, “My box?”
“No, Divine!” Greg said, “Yours is a special one!” He smiled.
“Mine special?” Divine added, “You buy me doll?” She giggled.
“I’ve got something more beautiful for you,” he said as he managed to hold the box with one hand.

He slipped his right hand into his jacket and pulled out a small box then handed it to her.
“What is it?” She said as she snatched the small box from his hand.
“Open it!” He replied.
Divine tore the small box.
“Easy, young lady,” Mr. Adenuga said. “Don’t behave like your mother the day I proposed to her!”
“Don’t you ever get tired of telling people that story, Deji?” Mrs. Adenuga said.
“Mammy! Look! Uncle Grey bought for me this.”
“Wow!” Mrs. Adenuga responded as she leaned and picked Divine up. “Greg! Oh my…” She headed towards him, “A golden bracelet? Isn’t this too much?”

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Literature › A Dinner To Remember by LolaO(op): 11:43am On Apr 18, 2019

This is a short story about a family of five who invites their neighbour over for dinner.
However, things get ugly as someone decides to teach them a lesson they will never forget in a hurry.

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Jobs/Vacancies › I Need A Driver! by LolaO(op): 3:31pm On Mar 27, 2019

Personal Driver needed.

Route: Ikoyi to Ikorodu (Ogolonto Bus-Stop)
Days: Monday - Friday
Time: 5.00pm

You have time to do whatever you do during the day.

Pay: 10k monthly.

Preferably someone that stays around the Ketu-Ikorodu axis.

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Autos › Re: I Want A Nigerian Used Kia Rio 2013-2014, 1.2m Budget by LolaO(op): 4:52pm On Mar 12, 2019

still searching...

Travel › Re: Water Transportation: Lagos State Govt Acquires New Ferries - Photos by LolaO(f): 4:52pm On Mar 12, 2019

AutoReportNG:
Pls follow back, I need some clarifications.

Regards

What other clarification do you need?
You can come to Falomo any time you want at Close of Business, anytime from 4:45pm when people close from work, and observe. Nobody is allowed to use those ferries!

It's just the local boats we currently use. And I ply it everyday to and from work.

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Travel › Re: Water Transportation: Lagos State Govt Acquires New Ferries - Photos by LolaO(f): 4:46pm On Mar 12, 2019

AutoReportNG:
How sure are you Lola?

I ply the ferry at LASWA everyday from work. And those boats have not been used! The local ones are the ones we use.

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Travel › Re: Water Transportation: Lagos State Govt Acquires New Ferries - Photos by LolaO(f): 4:20pm On Mar 12, 2019

Yinmu!!!

Boat that has been there since December ending/first week in January, they are not letting commuters use it.

It is just there for sight seeing undecided

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Autos › Re: 09/10 Toyota Matrix Available At Ibadan by LolaO(f): 2:37pm On Mar 12, 2019

1.3, I’m in Lagos. Agree?

Autos › Re: SOLD TOYOTA COROLLA 2010 LE 1.8M by LolaO(f): 12:11pm On Mar 12, 2019

Uncle, this car is a Nigerian used car, this shouldn’t be more than 1.3m

If you agree, let’s deal.

Autos › Re: I Want A Nigerian Used Kia Rio 2013-2014, 1.2m Budget by LolaO(op): 10:30am On Mar 08, 2019

CookieJar01:
I’ll sell mine to you if you can step up on budget

How much?
Let’s talk on Whatsapp. Sent you a mail request

Autos › Re: Do You Want To Buy A Nigerian Used Car? by LolaO(f): 9:11am On Mar 08, 2019

PortairServices:
What Model year do you prefer ma?

Between 2011 and 2014...
Kia - Rio, Cerato, Optima
Hyundai - Accent

Autos › Re: Toyota Camry Sport 2008 N1.6m At Ajah Call 07030748021 by LolaO(f): 7:09pm On Mar 07, 2019

1.3?

Autos › Re: Do You Want To Buy A Nigerian Used Car? by LolaO(f): 6:56pm On Mar 07, 2019

Hi, can you help get a Kia Rio or Hyundai Accent for 1.2m?

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