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I did a lot of research and I saw too many heart breaking stories of how lot of people got infected with HIV. I feel compelled to share this here because all of our youth no longer cares about HIV or fear AIDS anymore

With the extreme immoral society or heavily sexed women and men every where, fear dey grip me any time I think of sex

Anonymos
Answered Saturday, September 22, 2018

I got infected in 2006 when I was 18 and just about to finish my high school, looking forward to uni the following year... My then boyfriend who was way older than me and who probably knew infected me...

I could want to blame him for this, but I had a responsibility to make sure we either get tested before we have unprotected sex... But I didn't... And it cost me big time...

I could also try to justify the circumstances that led me to make such a decision to even date and older guy... Let alone give him my virginity... Before then I had only dated guys my age and we had not gone past the stolen kisses and occasional stolen moments of intimacy... Then I met this guy... Older guy... Exactly 24 years older than I am...

He seemed so mature and loving unlike the younger boys I had dated... He was even willing to help my sister move to his country to get a job... I think that's part of the reason why I thought he was worth giving my virginity... And boy was I wrong...

We did the deed a few times.... Now that I am older and wiser there wasn't really much to it... But to an 18year old experienced girl it was everything... Soon afterwards he became distant and I had a painful breakup... No reasons why and no closure... Just him distancing himself and that was it...

5 months later my high school results were out and I had passed so I could proceed to university to study law... I remember one day walking past the hiv counseling and testing center I decided to walk in and get tested... Not that I was ill.. Far from it... I just felt compeled to and I got the shock of my life... Imagine being 18 And hiv positive!

I went to my mom's work and cried my eyes out, we both did... Thereafter we called my late sister who had already migrated to the other country after this guy had helped her... We all cried and something prepared me and I immediately accepted my fate...

I would sometimes have moments of rage... I even questioned the existance of a God who would allow something like this to happen... I felt sorry for my mom who single handedly raised us after my dad passed on when I was 5...

This totally messed up whatever relationships I had thereafter.... How do you open up and tell someone... Talk about the stigma that surrounding this virus... I wondered if I would ever get married... Have kids... Lead a normal life.. Worse still my mom could not afford my university fees so I had to set aside dreams of ever becoming a lawyer and have to move to the other country where was sister was and look for menial jobs....

I eventually met my husband in 2011 who accepted me as I was although it hasn't been easy... My husband and both my kids are hiv negative.. All thanks to the ART treatment... My viral load is undetectable... I look after myself well and if I didn't tell you you'd never know... I take my meds religiously...

In the past I have had days when my husband would rub it in my face that I am high positive and he is not... The real circumstances that led me to this virus he doesn't know... It hurt so much at first... But now not as much and he has since stopped using that to hurt me... This year I'll be 31 and living positively for 13 years... I have also decided to go back to university and get that law degree

https://www.quora.com/How-did-you-get-HIV

Spider20
White ladies love handsome guys why Nigeria ladies crave for money guiz.

icecool12:
Thanks. She's 25..

I advice you to do the 25 years old.

I wish you the best

kollinzgee
Your thread made me laughs...

I treat women as if they are less important and this has made all of them, both married or single to respect me a lot. I also notice that silent treatment works on women

Be humble towards all men

icecool12

20 is too young for you but 25 is not that bad. 30 years old ladies are mainly single mothers or divorcees

xproducer

Mention to me the name of the pastor that I judge? What do you understand about judging others? If I write my opinion or how I feel about politicians, will you tell me that I am judging politicians?

Since I shared my hidden thought about pastors and preachers, you now quote me with scriptures. All you people do is to use the scriptures to argue and argue. I pitty all of una

Marrio22

1. Your fiancee is not mature for marriage.

2. Your fiancee is not ready for marriage.

3. She is not ripe for marriage, she doesn't have the characters that can maintain marriage contract.

4. She is a person of conflict and not of peace. Marrying a person like this can give you sucider thought. Immagine she was even mocking you, calling you Mr peace of mind. See, a person of peace is a child of God.

I am heavily praying not to fall in love a person like your fiancee because women like her will make the life of a man a hell. I also cannot advice you to break up with your fiancee because you are in love.

It will not be that easy for you to find someone new in a shot time. You may also find yourself with someone more worse.

My Story
I once dated a girl that provoke me to the point where I almost had accident. She is a person that vexes any how and walk away from me when I tried to talk to her in person. No matter how hard I tried to talk to her over anything about us, she vexes and walk away. It is almost impossible for a peaceful guy like me to be at peace with her. I even went as far as to plead with her to give us a chance but no way, she vexes and ealk away from me all the time. She knew I am the cool and gentle type and she started taking extreme advantage of my gentleness. I had to walk away and end the relationship because she is the type of person that will make my life a living hell.

REMEMBER; that people do not change, your today decision can save you from future sorrow

Richmond500

Over the years I have alway give out 70% my tithe to the needy because I do not have children to care for. I will advice you to increase your tithe and give them to the needy, you can also help the church because it is good. If you are a very rich man and can't go out, then set up your own personal trusted NGO committee and pay all your tithe to those handicap and sufferers out there.

NOTE
I can give to a pastor or church God has used to better my life but I personally pay my tithe to the needy

Tithe is for the needy

Follow my way

Although the title of this thread sound like I look down on pastors or preachers but truly I cannot look down or belittle any humans. I will only look down on a person only if they have evil characters. Wherever I go, when I see banners of preachers, pastors, bishops, no mater their title, I just see them as self hustlers.

I recently started seeing them as men who are trying to hustle their way to the top. I do not plan to attack pastors, but to share my hidden thoughts. And no matter how hard I tried to hide my thought and feelings, God knows what is hidden in my heart.

Naturally I will never desrespect or look down on any human being, be it pastors or the handicap or less prividlege, we are all humans and I pay all due respect to everyone as humans.

Even all the so called general overseer that are on top, I don't see reason to esteem them and I also feels that they self in nature no matter what they preach or the crowd they control and the money they 've got. I see them as humans, just like you and me.

When I have a strong liking towards a preacher, it is because I have seen the genuine character of Christ in them and the grace and power of God working through them to reach out to we the suffering and helpless children of God.

If I am personally being very close to any top pastors or annoited prophet of God, I will pay them the respect all humans deserve, but if you put me very close to a handicap person or the less privilege, I will bow my head in sallute to them and always show them the greatest respect, love and admiration because I am a genuine lover of the poor. This is why I so much love God highest general, Prophet TB Joshua because he genuinely love all the handicaps and sufferers.

There are very few annoited men of God who are cross bearers. I admire these few preachers because they went through so many years of trials and suffering before God raise them and cloth them with power and glory. I admire them because they have painful life stories to tell, these are the ones I called men of God and they are very, very few in number.

Many new people around me wonder why I don't go to church on sundays, what they don't understand is that, I have personal relationship with God and for me Christianity is a personal race, it is about our character and love. The key is for all christians to build a prayerful and sinless relationship with God which I tried to maintain even in hidden closed doors.

This message is about my view on preachers and pastors, truly I don't called them men of God because many of them do not have selfless or sacrificial love towards others and have dissappointed the body of Christ.

NOTE
I personally had dissappointing encounters with pastors that really made me to believe that 95% of preachers and pastors are selfish in nature. I just see them as men doing their normal sunday church business just like every other working men out there. I do not want to share my heartbreaking experience with these pastors and preachers. What break me more is when I see a pastor being influence by his wife to do wrong to persons who has helped them. I was dissapointed when I see a pastor I so much trust or believe in, allows his wife to influence him to do wrong to my soul. When I sat him down and remind him that I know what you and your wife are doing, he started telling me about forgiveness but my respond to him is that forgiveness is not possible without genuine repentance. I can no longer tolerate humans or give a serpents another chance to damage me. Since then, I began to see how terrible a woman can be. Deep within my heart I almost criticize God the way he created the nature of women. My past and present pains almost made me to hate women but I just have to suppressed my anger and present pain towards women

If you are the type of man who will allows your wife to influence you to do wrong to your fellow human, you are not a man but a toy

What is love without action?
What is love without giving?

For God so love the world that He gave out his only begotten son (Stop)

That pastor is talking nonesense

Does the so called Pastor work?

I see the free money he is eating from the poor has utter his mind.

All you nairalanders supporting selfish doctrine from any preacher" una no get sense at all

Whoever that sees his fellow man in need but refuse to go and help him/her is under God curse

People do not repent. Look at their very character, you will see who they truly are.

Waffarianman:
God will pay him back for his evil acts against Nigeria. Yeyeman

Wafi man
No be una vote am in

mariahAngel:
You have really been through a lot in the hands of people, especially those you trusted to love you the most in this world.
So, I don’t really blame you about how you feel towards people in general.
You know what? In life, people go through different (kinds of) challenges, but how you surmount and live above those challenges is what really matters.
In spite of all you’ve been through, it should not stop you from living and associating with others, but carefully.
Also, learn not to expect too much from people, it’ll prevent you from being hurt and disappointed.
You need to free your heart and soul from resentments (that is the only way your soul can flourish), so that you can find happiness in God and yourself again.
No matter what you’ve been through (or are going through), it is possible to be happy, I assure you.
Don’t compare your life with others’.
Live your own life.
Define your own happiness.

I have previously devout myself and my life in the service of others, but right now, my attention is on myself. I am hoping and praying for God to take me to the place where he will give me peace.

Marian.
Thank you for taking your time to read my story
Thank you for taking your time to write me.

Your words of encouragement to me is well noted.

Thank you and God blessings to you

LilMissFavvy:
It can be extremely painful, when the people who are supposed to love us, help us, turn around to be the ones inflicting pains, a blood sister at that.

These are the kinds of life experiences you should have been sharing in this forum so that people can learn, but you were busy, creating threads to display your hate towards women. Now that you have penned down a great write up, people have not noticed.

Your sister is evil and has handed herself as tool for the devil to use, I agree that you keep her at arm's length, but you must release forgiveness, I'm glad you are a believer. Release forgiveness and ask God to judge her because vengeance is the Lord's. Never allow such experiences to make you feel all women are bad. We still have good women. You should also find out if the bad experiences you have with women is a manipulation as well, so that you know how to handle things.

LilMissFavvy
1. I ignorantly withdraw myself from my elder brother because he just can't forgive and forget. I have asked him several times in the past, why can't you forgive others and forget the past?

He told me that, the very women I keep asking him to forgive, are the same unrepentant people that continuously keep bringing pains into his life and he can no longer allows these set of people into his life. I saw him shed tears because his past keep repeating itself.

3. My encounters and conflict with women is a spiritual manipulation by my enemies -the devils. Because of the constant demonic attack and manipulation, I had to stay alone without a human comfort for a long time. I m hoping and praying for God to connect to me the right people that will bring happiness to my life and heal my wounded soul.

4. Thank you for your feedback. Thank you for your kind words to me. Your words of knowledge to me, is well noted.

Thank you and God blessings to you

linnyx:
The Lord preserve and give you speedy recovery. In order to get the victory you seek you will have to do the hardest thing and that is completely forgive your sister and everyone that has put you through difficult times. Unforgiveness is the device the devil is using to pin you. You may miss the mark of you don't forgive.
God bless you and give you great grace.

Thank you for your courageous and kinds words to me.

God blessings to you this day

Amen

cococandy:
Sorry for all this trauma that you evidently survived in your younger years. You must learn to conquer them and forge a healthy adulthood. It’s hard but it can be done. In fact it’s a fairly common occurrence. Good luck

Thank you for your kind words. I must tell you that, my up-bringing is extremely very bad. I share stories about my past because I just wanted to express my past on nairaland, then move on. Many of the men on this forum will think that I am childish, but what they dont know is that I have been inside the fire for too many years. I have been through circumstances that will destroy or kill any man unless God save that person.

As much as God preserve me, he didnt prevent me from going through the many years of pains and tears. Many times I tried to forget my past and move, but my past keep repeating itself again and again and this has made me to always hide my true nature

I am one of the most persecuted man that has walked this 21st century, but I know that I will find joy someday. My hope is that, as long as God continously kept me alive, he will justify me and put a smile on my face and bring joy to my life forever.

Amen

mariahAngel:
If your sister had apologized to you, would it have made any difference about how you feel about women in general?

My sister didn't apologize up till today, infact she did much more evil that made my late mother to give up on her. Even my elder brother hated her because of her ways is nothing but evil.

About me, a repetition and devastating event happened to me in a relationship with women in 2006, 2007, 2008, 2010, 2012 that nearly cost me my life, it was narrow escape through God intervention that preserve me. All my experience is enough to change the view of any living man concerning sex and marriages.

Then I had more emotional breakdown with women in 2015, 2016, 2017, 2019, 2020, these experienced shut me down emotional and gave me a negative view about women and life in general. My experience was so bad that I no longer make friends with women and men in general.

I am praying for changes that will bring healing, but for the now, I am living and pressing on through many unheal wounds.

Golden147:
Lol...I know this advice will eventually surface...but let me ask you.. How do you know a man who is ready for marriage, does age count too or it's because I added my age and her age??

You are not ready to take advice from mature folks and you are here seeking advice.

Do as you wish and stop disturbing people with your choice

NairalandSARS:
Paroxetine, hands down.

Thanks a lot

mariahAngel

During the year 1998 to year 2000, three thousand naira is equivalent to 30/40 K of today. Even basket of Garri was sold in 1998 at the cheapest rate of 40 naira - then in year 2000, it was later sold at the highest price of N100, while you can cook pot of soup with just 100 naira

After some months, her son came up that he saw money inside their house, but my elder sister just silently die the matter.

mariahAngel:
Who stole the money then?

What a very fine question

Every parents reading this should always protect your children with prayers. Many of you are so ignorant of the device of the devils.

When the devils failed over their second attempt to kill me, the next year 2001, they target my younger twin brother and used my step mother to destroyed him.

When I look at my journey and how far I have come, I realize that the greatest love I will ever show to my children is not to have them in this evil land called (Nigeria). I am so much concern about my unborn children so much that I do not want them to face the many problems I have face or fight many years battles that I fought. This is why Africa women is a huge turn off for me because %99 of africa women are not free from family foundational (Idols)

REMEMBER: Protect and pray for your children

Everyone have stories to tell. So, I decide to share this my story. Please, before you read; NOTE that I came to this forum to talk about me, (myself) my journey and my life experience

THE STORY
In the millenia year 2000, my elder sister came to our father house. When she was about leaving, she told me to come and meet her in her own home. There she will give to me N100 to give to a certain woman she bought fried bean cake from.

So I went to her place, and she point under her pillow and she told me to collect N100. And that, I should give the money to the woman she told me about. In her presence, I collected the money and left. Four days later, she pass a message to one of my sister to tell me that her N3000 was missing. She told our younger sister that she went to three different shrine (witch - doctors) to find out the truth about her missing funds.

The three witch doctors told her I was the one that stole her money. I instantly dismiss her claims and told my sister that, her accusation is nothing but pure none sense.

A week later, she summon all members of our family and told them that her money was missing. She told them she has given permission and hand over the spiritual court case to the idols - the witch doctors she patronize. And that, the juju demons has taken a vow to kill the person who stole her money. She told my mother and all members of my family, that the deity continuously keep warning her in her dreams to tell me to confess and return the money I stole from her.

I plainly denied her accusation as I don't know anything about her missing money.

This my elder sister I am talking about, she has teenage sons, but she sideline hers sons and took my name and the name of my younger twin brother to 7 different shrines because her 3K was missing in the year 2000.

She use the threat of death to convince two of my elder brothers to be a witness and my father to carry me to

Shrine Number #4
A certain woman that worship marine spirit for the purpose of revealing the truth that I was the thief.

The woman, a mermaid priestess consulted the spirit in her shrine by carrying something in her head. She mention the name of my younger brother. The demons told her that, my brother was innocent. Then she consulted the spirit again and mention my name. The demons told her I was the one that stole the money.

I plainly denied their claims and stand on me being innocent.

My elder brother was confused. My middle brother disbelieve and dismiss their allegation. My earthly father hated me so much and believes that I was the thief. The rest of my sisters don't even know what to believe.

Shrine Number #5
She took me to shrine number five. It was the shrine of my earthly father. This time, my earthly father - a juju priest use two broom stick and stuck it inside a kolanut to consult the river goddess in his shrine. My earthly father mention the name of my younger brother. The mami-water spirit told him my brother was innocent. Then he use the broom stick and kolanut to consult the spirit again and mention my name and the river goddess told him that I was the one that stole the money.

I plainly denied again and stand on my ground of innocent.

The Soothsayer Six
My elder sister took us to another soothsayer 6. This time, this woman carry a mortal on her head. She spoke to the evil spirit inside the mortal and mention the name of my younger brother. The evil spirit inside the mortal told her my brother was innocent. Then she spoke and mention my name to the mortal demons and told the mortal to vibrate and shake in her head if I was the one that stole the money. Then the mortal vibrated and shake in her head and the demons told her I was the one that stole the money.

I plainly denied and still stand my ground of truth.

Aiyelala; Shrine Number #7
My elder sister summon my mother to come asap because she claims that I must pay the money or else I will die. She took my mother, my evil earthly father and me to the 7th shrine, a an Aiyelala deity. She vow that I must take an oat and swear to prove my innocent since I continue to stand my ground.

This Aiyelala Juju priest serve a killing and blood thirsty witch-craft incubus deity that is highly worship in the Yoruba land. The Juju priest lay hold of an iron and started to consult the spirit inside the iron. The juju man mention the name of my younger brother to the iron and the demons told him my brother was innocent.

Then he mention my name and the demons told him that I was the one that stole the money. I plainly told the juju man that his Aiyelala idols are liars.

He became angry, spread his arms like a demon god and vow to lay a curse on me. He made a decree that I should stand and take an oat in front of his shrine and swear to Aiyelala to die or live just to prove my innocent.

I greed because I was an innocent 15 year old teenage boy back then in year 2000

At that very moment, when I looked at my elder sister, I saw that she was smiling and seem very happy to be sure that I will die for stealing her money. I could see extreme joy of evil all over her face. I began to wonder why she had spent more than five thousand naira to 7 juju priest over N3000 that was missing.

My mother spring forth with tears and plead that she will pay the money. And that, she can't allow her son to swear in front of Aiyelala shrine. My elder sister was happy and felt victorious as my mother paid all the money and more to the Aiyelala juju priest.

My earthly father was in full support as he hated me so much. I was a 15 year old teenage boy who cannot defends himself. I cried and I knew it is only me and God that knows the truth. I badly wanted my mother to believe me of my words of truth. My mother paid my sister the money and she recently told me she paid extra to the juju pries just to prevent me from swearing.

God used my mother that day to prevent me from swearing as it was a tactics and deception of the Marine powers. (Satan)

Many years later, the truth came out in clear view. What happened is that (Satan) and the marine powers in my family wanted to kill me but the protective shield and fire of God over me was (is) very strong.

I was a heavy target to the marine kingdom of darkness. A most wanted person, so the devils need an open door to remove God protection shield so that they can kill me. What they did was to manipulate events and use the body of my evil elder sister to come up with all manner of accusation of stealing.

Everyone in my family, later knows the real truth that I was innocent, a person Satan has hunted all through his life. As for my evil elder sister, I have banish her generation out from my life and future. I have not seen her for 16 years and desire not to see her on this earth again.

As much as I tried to forgive her and over look our past, her life and personality always remind me that, The Angel You Don't Know is Better Than The Devil You Know

youngmo001
Even the previous net door she remove was built and left by your previous tennant. If the previous net is good, she will not buy a new one.

The net door she removed belong to her, why then do you want to deduct N5000 over N3000 net you didnt built?

Refund her money in full and stop being greedy.

lavylilly:
Adios

Alios

LadyRosa:
Hahaha!
Decent on hijab without panties
Then they swallow loads of honeyed jaruma aphrodisiac for slimy _cunt to feed their father's age mates.

LadyRosa.
Take am easy O. I don't think a cool guy like me can handle you O0oooo

kings59
This is one reason why I can never trust women of today. I have complain about the Nigeria young women of today, about their extreme promiscouity and a nairaland user like bratislava wanted to eat me raw.

NairalandSARS:
Any pharmacy

Please
The paroxetine vs escitalopram, among these two drug, which one is more active?

StreetFight:
Anafranil will kill him oooo. Dr do good, this your prescription is dangerous

I have used anafranil in the past, it makes me to yawn like crazy and my food become tasteless in my mouth. Since you say anafranil is dangerous, which drug will you you prescribe for me to use?

StreetFight:
Anafranil will kill him oooo. Dr do good, this your prescription is dangerous

I have used anafranil in the past, it makes me to yawn like crazy and my food become tasteless in my mouth. Since you say anafranil is dangerous, which one do you prescribe?

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