This is quite a confusing question a boyfriend is your man.

Well being nice is not a curse but allowing people to walk all over tends to be the problem. Some people will confuse the kind acts or gestures as a sign of weakness even though it's genuine acts.

Yes you can because at first you need to know what happened that makes her not with the child's father. Also why should she be condemmed if she made a mistake. We are human we all make mistakes. However if there are many children being born out of wedlock my friend run the other way.Atleast you know the whole package rather than have a liar on your hands. A relationship built on honesty is the strongest.

[color=#990000][/color] Hello Nairaland I am in the process of trying to cook nigerian food. However i dont trust the receipes online. So if people can post their reciepes for peanut stew, Fufu, jollof rice and eguwsi soup and any of your favorite dishes. Also for cooking fufu which one is better flour or from scratch?

baby_123: Depends on the texture, my hair is a contradiction. Long, thick and very tough. But I have a very sensitive scalp. . All that natural stuff won't work for me. Been doing it myself and my hair when relaxed is at the middle of my back. . . Its more manageable this way. My hair was breaking combs when I was small.lol.

Yeah I had that same problem but I noticed my hair was much longer when it was natural as a child. I agree natural hair is hard wrk and I agree not everyone wants to go through all that

After watching " brides war" where Ini edo's husband was so adamant on blaming her for jkeeping late nights that she brought it upon herself to be raped. This is one thing that struck me as odd instead of helping her he began resenting her and becoming disgusted with her because she was raped by three men . He says " I can no longer bare to look at my wife she disgusts me she s
Pet with three men." Sleeping with three men men's you have a choice but being raped by three men means you were coerced. So my question is if you wife or girlfriend went through a traumatic experience such as the one above would you turn your back and blame her? Or would you help her through her trial?

k2039: For anyyone to attract Mr right she must first be Mrs right.

. I agree with that in order to attract someone that is attractive smart or whatever you first must be all of those things

As common sense dictates, you can't ask for a new car if there's a broken down car blocking the garage. It's the same with relationships. Just as spatial constraints control what you keep in your life, so too should emotional constraints limit the number and kind of relationships you maintain.

When you make space for something, you are consciously recognizing and deciding what you want in your life. If you go through your house and throw out all of the broken and unnecessary stuff, you will have a better grasp of what you need. Clearing space for something different helps you achieve the newly desired thing. The same concept applies to relationships or a companion.

Oftentimes people talk of wanting a soul mate while in a relationship with a person that they know is not "The One."


Out with the old, in with the new...

Mr. Right will never come as long as you're involved with Mr. Wrong; nor will Ms. Right come as long as you are involved with Ms. Wrong. There is no room for the right people in your life while you are pre-occupied with the wrong ones. For Mr. or Ms. Right to come or appear, you have to first let go of Mr. or Ms. Wrong.

At the most basic level of physics, two things cannot occupy the same space at the same time. Clearing space is thus very important in order to attract a new (and better) partner.

Remaining with partners because of emotional or financial dependence instead of love can be harmful. Unhealthy relationships can lead to significant emotional damage and it is important to recognize that and give your self the time to recover and rejuvenate so you're in a position to accept "The One" into your life.


Being alone isn't the same as being lonely

Sometimes people are afraid to end bad relationships because they fear being alone. These people don't feel whole or complete by themselves. Some people confuse being alone with loneliness. Those people should reflect upon the difference between aloneness and loneliness, as explained by the mystic Osho:

"Always remember the difference between aloneness and loneliness. Loneliness is like a wound. Loneliness means you are missing another person. Loneliness means you are thinking of another person constantly. The other is in your fantasy, in your mind, in your dreams. The other is not real, it is imaginary, but it is there and because it is not real you feel lonely."
Aloneness should not be feared. The happiest and most self-confident people are those who are comfortable in their own skin; who are equally content alone or in company. Once people view aloneness as something to enjoy or even celebrate, they should no longer experience loneliness.


You complete you

Now, such people are whole - they no longer need others to feel complete. Love can flow, because now love is a sharing, not an escape. Now these individuals can go and share their wholeness. This love will not be possessive, because they are ready to be alone anytime. When one is happy being alone and happy being together, happiness cannot be destroyed; another can enjoy it and share it but cannot control it."

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uj_sizzle: Guys like feeling fly when gurlz wanna hook up with them. I make it my business to deflate their overblown ego

i don't mind the ego it's the cocky jerks that will make you feel stupid for even bothering to ask them

I have never understood how do the women that go up to men do it? I would be too shy and some men can be just rude. Women today chase what they want and some even go as far as asking the man to marry them. That is a bit too far I want a man to propose to me. Its far different than back in the day when the man would court the woman. So my question is ladies if you admire a man and ask him for his info how do you go about doing it? What makes you even consider going up to him? Men is this a turn on to you or you just don't care.[color=#770077][/color]

BodyKiss:

Sure they are admirable qualities, but the truth remains that women easily take advantage of men that shows these qualities.



In theory it's not, but in practical... highly important trait.

Elaborate so I can understand why this is an important trait

BodyKiss: You guys should stop this sh1t already. The class of ladies that want this kind of treatment are those between 30+ and above(looking to settle down). Making your woman jealous of you is one important trait a guy need when dating.

Not necessarily a woman wants this treatment but is afraid to express it . Those are all admirable qualities . I don't agree that making your girl jealous is an important trait in dating

190-the-clown:
Mr rite always fights for mrs rite punny anyday anytime

Lmao

dmcdad:

Do u av one like that Tell me make I look for her pronto! Lmao

Lol don't want to sound too full of myself but that is me . Depends on where your looking though

dmcdad:

Well.. A good looking, God-fearing, understanding, honest, down to earth with a vry good sense of humour. Mature to contain situations, intelligent, homely, someone with vision and focus.. Someone who knows how to prioritize things. Blah blah blah....

I honestly don't think that is very hard to find .

Education is key to opening many dots that will allow us to be successful. But many people go to school and have no idea what they want to do with their life. So my question to you is what is your dream? Is it yours an imposed dream?what are you doing to achieve that goal. It's not saying I want to be a doctor and not taking the necessary steps. You have to have written it short term goals in order to achieve the long term goal. Never stop dreaming and surround yourself will like minded individuals and you can reach beyond the stars.[/color][color=#990000]

Nnekacherry: There is nothing like Mr Right, because nobody is perfect...

I'm not talking dream man I'm talking for what you want out a man particular qualities that makes him stand out and decide you want to make him your mr.right

dmcdad: There is something like mr right, only that u are the one that will make him mr right from mr right now. Believe it or not, ur ideal partner u desire is already married. That is, d person u see as mr right even before sharing in the person's life is already married and what makes him Mr right, Its d person he got married that brought or rather worked out everything, and thats y d person seem right to you. Formally, after enumerating d qualities I desire in a woman, people will tell me dat such a gurl doesnt exist, but funny enough these qualities are features I already av and I tell them that they are invariably telling me that my qualities are too much. With time, I had to summarise the list to some core ones with hopes that I will have to complement the onez she's lacking with mine.

In a nutshell, having ur mr right lies in ur palms, that is, u have to make ur mr right now to be ur mr right.

Viola!

I defiantly agree that you shape your mr. Right now in to mr. Right. But I believe if you exclude the qualities that you look for in a mate then it shouldn't be a problem to find those same one. What are they if you don't mind me asking?

sexkillz: Your definition of Mr Right is different from that of the next lady. . . If you are waiting for a perfect man to stroll up to you with all the desirable qualities, then you are sitting on a long thing!

Look for a man that complements you. A man that you can manage his faults perfectly and a man that can manage your faults perfectly as well. That should be your Mr Right, cos definitely, not all men can tolerate your bullshit. So, look for the man that would.

I totally agree but a man that can make you a priority rather than his option.

blackbalang: Ders no Mr Right or Mr ok. Ders jes dat one silly guy with a lot of flaws(things only u consider as flaws) dat u end up falling 4.the more u look for Mr right ,the more frustrated,old n depressed u bcum n @ d end of d day u'd settle 4 MR WRONG. My 2 cent

Not necessarily true you can find the person your looking for but sometimes we tend to overlook a man based on him not being our type. There is some friends I know that will choose a man that they know will play them over a nice guy. They feel the nice guy is a wimp or not man enough.the thing is it is ok to date mr. Wrong but it's another thing when you get married to mr. Wrong because now you have kids with this man and have invested so much. As women we have intuition but we tend to ignore it thinking we can change a man . We can't it is physically impossible. There is no perfect man but there is a good man.

Nnekacherry: There is nothing like Mr Right, because nobody is perfect...

of course there's is no perfect I'm asking how would you define your ideal mate

xynerise: Mr right to me is any man that likes anything on the 'right' position. E.g, right breas't, right butt, right nipp.le, right face, to mention a few

Lmao wow that is not an answer. Ok so that's your definition of mrs.right

190-the-clown:
what was the question again

Definition of mr. Right which I'm not sure you can comment on

amyg: DR IS NO MR.RIGHT BUT MR.OK!
Every man is a bone(do wt it wotever u will.
Every woman is Abakiliki rice(no matter how u sieve it,dr must b sand)
I v got work 2 do

Like. Mean it depends on your definition of what you want out of a man. What I want someone else might not. So what is your definition of mr.ok then?

Tedpgrass:
Why don't you set the ball rolling?

What would u prefer??

Well I like someone that can stimulate my mind I'm not talking that sweet talking only. I'm saying someone that can make me think. A ride or die meaning someone whonsupports my dreams rather than crush them not constantly changing like the leaves on a tree. Most importantly I want a man not a boy.i know that sounds weird but let me clarify when a guy is in his twenties and some cultures younger he is a man. Ut the age means nothing if your still playing like a damn child lying, having mad girls , and not taking responsibility for your own actions. A man will profess his love, will not lie but be honest about what he wants out of life. He will not string you along like a play thing unless you allow him. I can go on and on but these are the basics.

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Didn't say virgin and to each his own. It's just a general statement. I know someone who told me they prefer not to date virgins because they have to teach them how to be intimate

FlowerPower: I'm still waiting for the beans to drop on this thread...

So am I

What is your definition of Mr. Right ? What qualities do you look for are they superficial or you just don't care. Would you rather have a mindless pretty boy or a man that loves you with all is heart. Don't get me wrong there are many good looking intelligent men out there.

You don't have to wonder whether you left something home. Your always prepared my bag looks like it could fit my room

Hmmm most guys wants girl that the whole world hasn't been through. A woman who doesn't Change when times get rough.

D-Explorer:

Lovely empress, did you read the first post on the first page? Pls., we're talking about a NL Romance section users, you would have observed one or two. Lets know them

Lol sorry hmmm I don't have one

Mine is John dumelo