₦airaland Forum

Samantha124:
She's not holding him back and if he wants to leave, then he should leave.

I'm sure the op would be happy and finally have a peace of mind.

The man is ungrateful for mistreating the woman that has been by his side all these years... He doesn't deserve such a good woman.

We can assume the OP has a psychological disorder for continuing to beg him to stay.

Kobojunkie:
Osinachi is the ultimate example to all women out there in Nigeria land who thinks to rationalize violence and foolishness in marriage. That woman must have
● prayed and fasted her brains out
● asked every third-party her husband respected, including pastors, to intervene
● persevered for so long under very violent conditions yet all the while submitting
● sung her brains out to God to get Him to come down and fix the relationship
● taken on the role of breadwinner so she could be superwoman in her marriage
● made certain her family was aware of the problem in the marriage
● had in-laws who were aware of the conditions in the marriage, even though they did not care to do anything about it

where is she today? Wormfood and she was made that by that same man she did all that to keep.

What about Chidinma, the 'innocent-looking' lover killer?

Samantha124:
Only my sister can answer that question, not me.

You didn't encourage her to be proactive against 'violence' like you have edged this woman on?

You care about this strange woman more than you do your sister?

Samantha124:
So you expected her love to conquer his misery by enduring his beatings and probably getting killed in the process?

If the man is miserable, he should've went to the gym and fought a punching bag in there... I'm sure the op is also miserable from enduring her husband's childish tantrums.

Her love is useless to him.

She is miserable from putting up with him.

What else is left until she lets the man loose from her suffocation?

LadyRosa:
Some women dey try sha!

Whats fixcking attractive about a Jobless, drunk, vindictive and abusive husband?

The first mistake was apologising to him. I wouldn’t if I'm in your shoes. And I ain't leaving that station until he sign an undertaking with sureties.

If he feels he is too humiliated to continue a peaceful marriage, well, fine. Life goes on.

As a madam with men at your beck and call, you should be telling her to move out without further delays so she can move in with the perfect man that will be replacing her husband.

LadyRosa:
I hope he signed an undertaking.

You are a good woman.

I would have kept him there for atleast a week, after which my brothers my likely extend it to a month.

Yet, you couldn't get your brothers to help you loc out the cricket the last time?

Kobojunkiee:
The way some of you think amazes me. So every marriage in Africa now abides by African culture, abi?

Bring in your perfect African man to replace her husband.

LilMissFavvy:
The west is a standard and will always be a standard. Between being a supporter of LGBT and being a supporter of your corrupt, impoverished*, backward* religious extremist nation, who burn* humans in the name of religion, plus insecurity problems, which is better? Only a foool would support the latter.

Same West where a man starts shooting people for no understandable reason? You are a dullard.

LilMissDumbo

shantti:
It might shock una to know that the op's husband might have just simply shoved her aside as she blocked him from entering the house and she claimed she was beaten.

Women can exaggerate stories oh, I know this cos am a victim.

You are wise.

blackgold2018:
examining your comments and topic. I can bet you have cheated on your husband or have been cheating on him

It's not unlikely it's a 'sympathetic male colleague/friend' that facilitated the whole arrestt thing.

wonderr:
it's always very easy to criticize people's actions when you are not in their shoes, whatever she did was out of frustration, although she should have subjugated the issue she let her emotions took the best of her and now she is facing the consequences, the deed has be done na solution remain find elderly people to help you beg him, join hands with him to get a new job, so issues like this won't repeat itself be supportive, this too shall pass

Oh! Her emotions is allowed to get the better of her, but the already frustrated husband is supposed to be a robot with no emotional outburst?

Nothing is passing, let the 'caring' male friend that helped her arrange for the police take her in. The man deserves a new chapter in his life.

Kobojunkie:
OP played superwoman for 2 years so she probably has it in her to try to make the marriage work.

The marriage is over. Bring in your perfect UnAfrican man to marry her.

UnfairLife7:
don't mind those brain dead men. To them happy marriage is once they are still together irrespective of the situation then they are happily married. African Men

UnAfrican man, take his place, marry her. No be by lunatic laughter.

Pretender osi.

JhyMedex:
You really trying to compare the two?..

Football and Actual events that shape the livelihood of millions..

Really??

What is the football without the fans? Does CR7 know his hundreds of millionss of followers on an interpersonal level? Why then do that stat matter?

JhyMedex:
Got nothing to do with being a fan boy..
But you've been going on and on .. Like you have a vendetta..
C'mon this guy doesn't even know u exist!
Y expend so much energy on his affairs??

We should stop talking about the state of affairs of Nigeria simply because Tinubu doesn't know of our individual existence? i don't understand this logic.

JhyMedex:
With all due respect ... U need to shut up and sit down!!

Arteta Fanboys Club. That's your own AFC. That's your cup of tea as well.

Samantha124:
She's interested in staying with him because she still loves him and she was only trying to teach him a lesson for destroying her dishes and beating her up.

She's been tolerating him all these years hoping that he'll change, but she's finally reached a breaking point.

And let's be honest here, if she leaves now, he'll be homeless.

They say '"love conquers" all. Hers hasn't conquered his misery. Maybe it isn't love afterall.

Samantha124:
She's interested in staying with him because she still loves him and she was only trying to teach him a lesson for destroying her dishes and beating her up.

She's been tolerating him all these years hoping that he'll change, but she's finally reached a breaking point.

And let's be honest here, if she leaves now, he'll be homeless.

Being homeless isn't the end of a man's life. He has friends and family.

She should give him a breather. Perhaps, it's time he gets a fresh start, devoid of her.

Football players whose careers nosedived sometimes have to leave to another football club to get back on their feet.

I doubt she's helping, as this is entirely diffrent from tolerating him.

Persephone1:
Women really do not have it easy in Nigerian marriages. They have to prioritize their marriages over their values, truths ,identities etc. It's just too much and when a woman ends up with a bad man? Hell!
What op is going through now is "Justice versus Culture" believe me it can be really crazy.

It hurts me that a virtuous woman whohad tried all to make her marriage work has to lose it all because she decided to stand up for herself in the right way.

Of course what her husband did was bad, if he were to be just an ordinary man out there or that she is no longer interested in the marriage, I'd be rooting for her. But she still wants the marriage, that's where the issue is. Pulling the stunt she pulled is one of the 1000 ways to end a marriage in Nigeria. I hope and pray her husband has a change of heart.

No, I hope he walks away, since he's been much of a burden the last two years. He desrves a breath of fresh air, a new perspective.


You see we are both rooting for the woman, abi?

Samantha124:
It doesn't matter, he laid his hands on her.

He could've left her if he feels like she's no longer good enough for him.

So why is she still interested in staying on with him, if it is as she painted it?

Most of you are fond of putting out only the half truths.

Samantha124:
He humiliated himself by not helping his wife around with house chores since he's not working.

His wife has to go to work every day so that bills can be paid and she still has to take care of the kids after picking them from school... On top of that you still expect her to cook for a childish man that's wasting the little money his wife has been giving him so that he doesn't have to feel less of a man.

What was the man doing throughout the day when his wife was at work? Why didn't he cook? Do you think his wife is also not depressed from tolerating a childish man that's just spending the money she gives him on alcohol?

Respect is earned.

I blame him for hanging around the house. He should have taking a vacation from madam bread winner's house.

Samantha124:
What is unlawful is unlawful, it doesn't matter whether you're married or not.

I once got my sister arrested for laying her hands on me because I told her the bitter truth.

And I didn't do it because I hated her or something like that, I don't believe in using violence to solve minor issues... In fact, I hate unnecessary violence.. She later acknowledged her mistakes and apologized to me and we're now good sisters.

The husband also needs to acknowledge his mistakes and apologise to his wife, he should also help with house chores since the wife is the one going out there and bringing in money into the house so as to cover his shame.

Some women would've left him long time ago, but this woman stood by him for the past two years and even now she's still standing by his side.

What if she was looking away while standing by him?

UnfairLife7:
rather put, the man has lost a precious woman who fed him for two years without his penny. Even if the man become billionaire today he can't find someone like Op.

So why is she the one crying out?

She could have been there for those two years, yet 'still not be there'.

Verokeena:
Thanks so much for this

Oh. It's the validation you were seeking, bringing up this post.

The poor man deserves breathing space from you. He'll be fine.

Evestar200:
Did you reach the quarter-finals to be ranked among the top 5?

I'm still struggling to understand his angle.

So the defamed can't defend himself? Why should a third party (the court) help him fight his fight? And what happened to the freedom of speech?


That above sounds foolish, right? This is exactly how Christians especially sound when they question why Muslims are angry over someone defaming the Prophet of Islam or other symbols of the religion.

Just like the court will intervene as the custodians of the professor's human rights of decency, so will the body of Islamic faithfuls intervene as the custodians of the customs and traditions of their Noble Prophet. The only clause being that individual adherents are not supposed to take laws into their hands, but rather refer to the Shari'a courts.

Freedom of expression should not be abused.

sexymonkey:
arsenal no fit win epl with Arteta. As stubborn as Guardiola is and his top team, he stops every nonsense tactics the moment he senses it's not effective.

And this is the difference with Arteta. Him go stick to that nonsense, trying to prove what-not

donbenie:
It doesn't have to be spectacular nor pretty..
Arteta have lost his 4 previous Monday night away games..
This on itself is spectacular enough.

Of course, it will be unreasonable to expect we will be spectacular every game, but you can't be playing on the back foot in games consecutively. Man City defended a one goal lead against Newcastle too, but they were never really bothered by the opponent. They were in steady control.

sexymonkey:
the fool wasn't a defensive midfielder, Wenger converted him after Song left.

No wonder him wan do him own conversion with these team of brilliant boys.

Many games last season, you go see say na him just dey cause confusion for those boys. Leave those boys to put the fear of God into the opponent's hearts and we won't need to be playing like Burnley.

Him matter tire me, I no go lie.

Zonefree:
Where's your shrine located, Baba?

Might be a gambler

mywells:
Havertz was very importantin that match that's why he can not substitute him,he's the tallest player and rogged.

Havertz is ‘rugged’?

Nothing person no go read for here.

yommen:
Football fans like you never only see things from biased point of view. In the beginning of the seasons, you all predicted Arsenal to end up in Europa League zone. Arsenal defied your prediction with wide margin. They would have even won the league if not for injury on Saliba but here you are, still finding something to say just to cover for your biased mind. Obvious the man city team is a very strong team with covers for many positions which Arsenal didn't have last season. If only there was a good back up for Saliba, Arsenal would have won the league as against all odds.

No problem. Season just start. Sebi now we have all the right backups. We’ll see how well Arteta puts that into use.