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KarmenK: I'm about finishing a degree this year. Ive only dated two guys one of two years and the other I ended last night after 4 months.
Both who are in there 30's were just wasting my time with no goal or plans for the future.
Their own concern or goal was to make money and wear the latest garms ( clothes).
I find guys in London are immature too much on a hype. The I dated for 2 years ( a ghanian ) told me he wanted to settle down at 40.( I mean come on)
All my mates are married with kids or have a kid and on to their second. I can't even mingle with these girls to say I'm scouting for potential bf

I dnt have a problem getting a guys it's keeping then long enough to like me more then my physical shape. I thought by now I would be in a serious relationship, pregnant or planning a wedding.
I'm I rushing it. My Nigerian name is Okemute = there's a time for everything. I know Patience is a Virtue. But I'm to damn inpatient my attitude is if I want something I'm must have.
I feel at 25 as a female I'm too old. Im also the eldest in my family I dnt to be 30 and single still with no kids let alone no husband. I've even considered moving to Nigeria in search of a bf potential husband.


So NL is Gods Time the Best shall I learn to be more patience. My mum keeps telling.

Or shall I get on the case and do fast.

Hi Okemute,

From your message I have these questions for you

1. You wrote that "I find guys in London are immature too much on a hype..." My question is, all of them?
2. You wrote that "All my mates are married..." My question is, if none of them was married, would you still have wanted to get married at 25?
3. You wrote that "I dnt have a problem getting a guys it's keeping then long enough to like me more then my physical shape..." My question is what is most important to you about you?
4. You wrote that "I feel at 25 as a female I'm too old..." My question is, is it just a feeling or there is a fact attached to it?
5. You wrote that "I've even considered moving to Nigeria in search of a bf potential husband..." My question is, what makes men living in Nigeria different from men in London?

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