DrAda:
As long as it ends with contemplation. We all nursed the same idea at some point several times in our marriages but as the wise ones always say time does heal all wounds.

Listen to Mitchell Obama portrayal of her thoughts

Even you too?

Kai, shey marriages these days worth am at all?

johnog4sure:

Thank you, your story really helped me, I am also contemplating divorce right now, and my story is similar to yours, I invested heavily in my wife's business yet she looked into my eyes and said "YOUR MONEY IS NOT IN MY SHOP" I dated her for 5 years married her and had a kid, yet this happened, my friend in London I just spoke to is having similar problem, your advice won't work, and yes people change even in science it is believed that every 7 years you are no longer the same person you used to be seven years earlier.

My own advice is that MEN BE SELFISH(put yourself first and sometimes yourself alone, ignore wife ignore children they all will be fine even without you) I know it is hard for good men to take this advice, even me I am struggling to take my own advice

Nawa o....do something quick before high BP finish you oh

Lifemanage:

Major reason marriages fail is because such men behave like simps. A man should take charge of his wife as an authority not an equal partner. Anything aside that, bear the consequences

I support this

psucc:
Have you had any child with her? If yes, take a further step to see if she can have a rethink

2. Before you proposed to your X, be sure to have exhausted all avenue for peace and reconciliation

3. Have you checked around she's not into a second relationship while under your roof?

4. Have you investigated to know what she's doing with her income, such as taking care of her parents, siblings, building a house, or investing in a business?

5. If it's her view that it's the duty of the man to pick bills even in such situations, just tell her that the rent is higher than what you can afford and so you will have to move to a neighborhood with lesser rent. Probably mention a building around that you have consulted for relocation.

Watch her response. That will tell or exposed more than what you are currently seeing.

6. On the issue of s3x, hmmmmmm, it's not
easy being in that state. I can relate here but I decided to keep that relationship because of my children.

All these are too much shalaye. If a wife can treat her husband like that after marriage, it's as good as over. She no send that dude

Successtube:
I never thought I’d find myself contemplating divorce just two years into my marriage. As a bachelor, I’d look at couples splitting up and wonder how they ended up there. Didn’t they date and get to know each other first? Didn’t they see the signs? And yet, here I am, standing on the brink of making the same decision. I dated my wife for a year and three months before we got married, and I thought I knew her. But I was wrong. She lied and pretended to be someone she wasn’t. Now, I’m starting to see who she truly is, and it’s tearing me apart.

Immediately after our wedding, I noticed changes in her that hadn’t been there before. One month in, we were not having sex like any newly married couple would. Every time I tried to be intimate, she’d have some excuse—a headache, feeling tired, or being stressed from work. I tried to be patient, thinking it was just a phase. But it didn’t end. When I finally asked her what was wrong, she bluntly told me she didn’t like sex. I was shocked. How could she not like sex? We had been intimate enough times while dating for me to believe otherwise.

“How can we have children if we don’t have sex?” I asked, trying to keep my frustration in check. Her response was indifferent, almost as if it didn’t matter. From then on, she’d sometimes only have sex with me during her ovulation period, like it was a chore to check off her list. It went on like this for over eight months, and I felt more and more disconnected. I felt unwanted, unloved. Every attempt to bridge the gap between us only seemed to widen it.

But the cracks didn’t just stop there. Through a relative of mine, I managed to get her a job that paid her 300,000 Naira monthly. She seemed happy, and I was glad I could help. Then, fate dealt me a blow—I lost my job. After months of searching, I managed to find another one, but it paid only 120,000 Naira a month. I couldn’t afford to stay home, so I took it, thinking it would just be temporary until I found something better.

My 120,000 Naira salary barely covers our expenses. I take care of the rent, food, bills, and still fuel my car to get to work. The one that hit me hardest was when our rent increased to 700,000 Naira around the same time my car’s engine gave out, needing another 500,000 Naira to repair. I felt the walls closing in on me. I was struggling, juggling all these financial burdens alone. I turned to my wife, thinking she’d step up and help. After all, she was earning more than double what I was. But all she could offer was 50,000 Naira.

I was speechless. She looked at me and said it was a man's duty to cater to his family, and she could only "assist." Her words felt like a slap. Here I was, drowning under the weight of our expenses, and she was holding back. I had to sell one of the lands I’d bought back in my bachelor days to cover the bills. I never thought I’d be in a position where I had to sell my hard-earned property just to survive while my wife, who I had helped get a better-paying job, stood by and watched.

The emptiness gnawed at me until I reached out to someone who had once filled a different kind of void in my life—my ex. We had broken up years ago because of distance when she moved to London for her studies. But we never really ended things on bad terms. There was always a "what if" lingering between us. Now, in my loneliness, that "what if" turned into late-night conversations, laughter, and the kind of warmth I hadn’t felt in a long time. I sneak out every now and then to be with her. I know it’s wrong. I know cheating is not the answer, but I felt like I was drowning, and she was the only one who could save me. With her, I felt alive again, seen, and heard. Things quickly escalated, and before I knew it, I was back in her arms. It felt like a betrayal of my marriage vows, but at the same time, it felt like the only way to reclaim a part of myself that had been lost.

I never imagined I’d be contemplating divorce, but here I am. I want to marry my ex. I want a fresh start, a chance to feel loved again. I don’t know if I can continue in a marriage where I feel more like a burden than a partner. Maybe it’s time to face the harsh truth: some people change, and some people never really were who they claimed to be. Maybe it’s time for me to choose my own happiness, to take a leap and start over.

Don't make the same mistake I made. Study your partner thoroughly before to married, don't rush!

I SUPPORT YOUR DECISION

Rukevwe999:

They don't need juju. Let them rub your bald head and call you "baby" softly and I bet you'll give them your ATM pin.

Oga rest.

Cho Cho Cho like fowl wey eat peppered corn.

I just came back from the gym....and after the heavy hitting and playing basketball like a mudafucker, one mumu girl go tell me say I must love her the way she is...as she use fat full everywhere....

Omoh.... September na no nonsense month oh!

EreluRoz:
Stop praising the Benin boy agadiewu, he's not a redpiller but a bitterpiller kos his girlfriend whom he sacrificed a lot for and also sending her to school dumped him for an abroad based guy.

K

Faber:


I salute you sir, I know the time, resources you have donated to make sure this thread and The redpill gets to all simping guys in our society. Mine is just little efforts to keep the fire burning...

New month blessings from my ends🙏

Same here boss🙂

FABER!!!


YOU ARE DOING INCREDIBLY WELL!!! 👍☺️☺️☺️

heartofcity12:
This man keeps learning the hardest way.. 😔

Damn....that's fûcked up

Jesus...

Another simp knelt down and was disgraced!!!

*Sighs*

This is becoming an epidemic

DeeScan:



Keep putting yourself on a goose chase .. Only God knows wetin you dey find .


You've been given the full run down of what transpired before the displayed event yet you still dey argue ..


It's clear the females is at fault yet for some god4saken reason , you're having ba hard time accepting that ... Flip the coin nw, there won't be this much argument coming from. You .


Abeg rest?!!!

😕😕😕

Lol..I have driven that girl mad!!!
Don't be too hard on her. She is seeing shadows and Lumi everywhere now. 😉😉😉

EreluRoz:
Hmm and Luminouz is still single and currently the president of bachelors association of Nigeria

Yen yen yen...you no be single too?

EXPRESSSMAN:


Well, I have heard you and you have heard me as well.
I am not only married but some of my children have graduated from the university. I am not thinking of marrying again neither am I regretting my marriage. It is not about me.
At this stage , I can only advise the upcoming ones. If they like, they listen.
So I am not talking in parables. I am saying it as it is.
But like you said, everyone is free to go for what he wants.
But, no come back to the complain to us. We don't want that.

You didn't meet your wife as a virgin so e dey pepper you

EXPRESSSMAN:


If these are the things you want from a woman, sure there are millions out there who will do it for you.
But the problem is you. When you want to befriend or marry, you go for a street or a village girl in the name of illusive respect or virgin. Then you come to tell us how difficult marriage is.
You should have the gut to go for what you want, they are every where.
Virginity is an illusion, matured men don't take it into consideration when looking for a wife.
Forget about that guy who talks of virgins here. He is only exhibiting his immaturity.
There are things in women that are far greater than being a virgin. But you will only need to discover it yourself. Nobody will tell that.

Rubbish

Onyi22:
Clear road!!!!
Men dey
Men dey
Na Men dy run things

Ole

SarutobiEky:
😂😂😁😁🤣😹 you sef give her your glorious gbola make she find rest.

Nah she doesn't deserve mine....make she try the small boiz in her area

SarutobiEky:
This is becoming embarrassing. Only you dey tag, the nigga is ignoring your ass with steeze. Try and find rest already. Ahan. You're embarrassing me.

Abeg na...I dey enjoy the attention. Biko make she no stop oh....at least when you Google luminouz on nairaland, my name go show...I be celebrity na

StPete:


Your obsession for that guy is outta this world.
Seems like you orgasm multiple times at the typing of his name.
I wonder what would happen when he now does the do

Oh she does. I have entered her brain and formatted her hard drive. She sees me everywhere now and I love it. But I don't give her attention and that drives her madder!!!🤣🤣🤣

Sonnobax15:

My only pain in all of these is the fact that she may likely get married to a very responsible young man...and will be forming gentle girl .

Omoh,e dey pain me say majority of us wey be men go later settle down marry women wey their own ex's don use take practice different sexxxx styles in the past..

I am not even pained about what you said

The one wey go pain me pass na the mumu bride price and bridal list she go still collect after she has been rammed, jammed, whammed, slammed, spermed, clammed and yammed.

That one simple dude will still pay all that dey vex me

Tightpussy2024:
Good.

In my opinion,women are the most appreciative gender. When men want to leave a woman who was there for him,they do it without looking back, without minding who is hurt,a man will pursue his happiness.

The myth of women being ungrateful was created by men for women that leave them for abuse,after the helped them.

Imagine beating a woman,cheating on her and saying,"don't question me,I bring the money,I make the rules". She will endure because she needs to eat. With escape route out when she is on her feet.we are not ungrateful.

Alot of women are the ones that care for their aged parents and bring their relatives to the city.men will bring their brother's to do "boy" for them in their shops then cheat them( or get cheated by them) after many years and it's time for payment

Lies from hell

EreluRoz:
Women are always greatful and remembers home but if it's the other gender the next thing that'll enter his brain after signing out is to lodge a woman of easy virtue in a hotel and fornicate all night not giving a damn or atleast remember to appreciate the power behind his journey so far.

You see that male organ call penis ehn it is the beginning and downfall of men.

Yinmu!!

SarutobiEky:
what would happen to you?

That girl has gone loôney. I ticked her off so bad, she sees me everywhere now and has been littering my name on every thread.

Guess what...I still starved her of that attention she is seeking. 🤣🤣🤣

EreluRoz:
You are cheap

Says a broke ass nigga!!!🤣🤣🤣

themanderon:
Very materialistic and crazy Bitch. You can miss his funeral but can't miss the will reading for the entire world. I wonder what the man must have gone through living with such a witch.

Men only have themselves to blame for tolerating such

EreluRoz:
You that's anti marriage. How much is your groom price as per redpillers don't pay bride price but accept groom's price.

1M naira.

You can afford it.

Juoflife1:
Money cannot get me laid. Every Nigerian woman is not like the women in your family. Stop putting our women down..

So ..ermmm what gets you laid ma'am?

2mch:
This one don de get mental illness from all the blow dem de blow him head. Big fool. It’s better to keep quiet and be respected than to open your mouth and remove all doubt that you are a dumb and lousy idiot.

Why won’t you be seeing ashawo when that is what you are looking for. To come and insult am the women in the state shows you are mad and it’s animal that brought you up. Your mama follow for the ashawo.

E pain this one sha
No cry oh

EreluRoz:
Luminouz go and marry first before we talk about trust issues

Coman marry me na🙄

EreluRoz:
Food for redpillers 😂

That's why we don't trust y'all asses!!

Magnoliaa:


You and Luminouz must think everyone is as unintelligent and as wicked as y'all are.


E say the way women dey think. How do YOU think? You that you've found the most unimaginable, asinine angles to justify rape on this forum. The day I made a sarcastic post, flipping things that men normally say and apply it to them, you were the one crying the most.

You know deep in your heart that you're the one with a comma in your thinking. There is no story about men/women on this forum that you will not find a way to blame the woman while exonerating the man. Always. So why would you not think everyone is as narrow-minded as you are? Why would you not think everyone thinks in black/white, only in defense of their own gender?


And of course, you will not recognise what being a devil's advocate mean even if it was punching you right in the face.

If it was a woman who came to share this story about her man eating her food and lying about it in her house, would you have expressly blamed the boyfriend? Would you have called him an hungry boyfriend? Would you not have called her all sort of names? Called her desperate in a thousand languages?

Nonsense.

Damn, I must have ticked you off really badly.

Take it easy aunty!!!