Tightpussy2024:
So a naija woman will divorce just for 50% property? The man doesn't know what he is saying.
In my opinion, women in naija don't benefit from marriage. If it ends,you are at the mercy of a man to even see food money for the children. If he doesn't send money, you will be accused of causing it because you poisoned your children mind against him".If the man earns 20m in a month. He will calculate the exact money needed,or send like 100k per month for the kid upkeep,if you resist(based on his earning power) you will be accused of being a gold digger trying to milk him.

You claim women value reduce once they are married and given birth,and no one will be able to marry them afterwards,while you can easily move on and land a chick.yet the idea of paying for a woman whose life is truncated and sexual market value plummeted as a result of her union with with you,is called trying to milk you.

One day,just like Korean women,naija women will say no to marriage until a system that protects them is installed

That day will never come. Marriage is the jewel in your crown of life achievement.

So you are comparing yourself to a Korean woman? Dey joke.

DrFunmisticGlow:
But the man bleeped up so he deserves it.

Lmaooo.....

Yeah right🙄

tete7000:


You are hopelessly lost in your delusion...so sad! All these lies you tell yourself can't bring you happiness in your old age.

Insults won't get you anywhere with me

PinkNature:


When was the last time you used your two eyes to see toto?

K

CosmicJames:


When talking about karma, it's important to know that there is a good karma and a bad karma. T

Now to your question, karma is applicable to politicians. You think they go scot-free for all the evill they do? No. They will not and cannot go scot-free. They have their pains and regrets.

Most of them are so bitter because in their quest for money and power, they got themselves involved in some unthinkable acts that later took away their peace of mind.

You may think that they are going Scot free because you are not in their shoes.

Not all politicians are bad though.

It's important to note that nature doesn't care whether you are a politician or not. But it does reward everyone accordingly.

You are so wrong about karma. She doesn't give a fuq about you or anyone. It's amoral. Good people have lived and died under oppression while bad people thrived. If there is anything called karma, people will never do evil. The only way is to be strong and take what you desire. The world doesn't give you shiit, no matter what you think you deserve. Unless you take it. That's the way of humans before now and will forever be.

heartofcity12:


You get it bruh 👍.. They’re all crying that men are no longer chasing them again nowadays, same women that say No is No, yet stl want to be chased when it suites.. they should keep being delusional, what’s coming for them soon isn’t gon be funny at all..

Na better winch dey do them na.

A girl told me last year that I'm too bossy and it won't work with us....I didn't even reply. Fast forward about 8 months later, she saw me and said 'you are looking so much finer and so buffed up'. I shrugged and said nothing. She then said 'you gave up too easily. You should have chased me, proven that you deserve me. That's how real men behave'

She must have seen the look of disgust on my face because her countenance changed and she said...'why are you.....'

The rest was lost to me as I walked away from her. The delulu most women live in should provide enough energy to power a spaceship to Andromeda Galaxy. There is no other creature on earth who has such inflated sense of self, coupled with entitlement and zero accountability.

I keep saying it ..if you understand women like I do, you can never love them. You just look at them as mischievous adult babies and this clears up so many things for men wey sabi

Zonefree:

Funny how another innocent man will still kneel, propose and pay bride price to this same girl that cohabitated with a man for over 3 years.

If your wife is not a virgin, you have no moral justification to smile and dance on your wedding day.

It's the bride price and bridal list that hurts me the most. Haba na...paying millions on top someone that has been rammed, whammed, jammed, spermed and slammed? By 100 different men?

It's tufiakwa

Olachase:
Omo God really save you, otherwise only god knows how many years you would have spent in jail

That was how my ex-girl frustrated my life during our dating year, she destroyed most of my property, T.V, laptop, phone and others stuff, I am the gentle type but seeing her destroying things I bought with my hard earned salary I lost my temper, I almost heat her head with hammer

But one spirit quickly approaches me and told me if i killed someone daughter I might rust in jail

I let her satisfy herself the next morning I told her to carry her bag and go, everything she destroyed I have replaced them back, she was acting up because she found another guy 😔😔

I forgot to apply rule 5 which said, (SHOW NO LOVE, LOVE WILL GET YOU KILLED) 💔💔

Shût up jor. So a brain resetting slap would make her die or what? You are a coward...so rest

tete7000:


So you think you can have sane children outside wedlock with a woman you don't consider good enough to bring home to be your wife? Some of you have warped mentality, you sound so confused. You talk and contradict yourselves in the statements you make. May God have pity on this lost generation.

It's your generation that is lost old man. It is really simple. Men don't benefit from marriage, only women do. So if I choose to make her give me babies and I take care of them, na war or sin?

So all the women that are married by men these days are good? High BP go soon finish you if you no use your brain

EreluRoz:
Nonsense, has she flogged her randy boyfriend? The lady should fight her back and beat the hell out of her. It's stupidity fighting over a randy useless boyfriend.

At least she has one....unlike you that spends all day on NL and you are still single

Holluwhakemmy:
Who will marry a SIMP like you self

I'm glad you know it's simps you desire for marriage. You have validated my arguments

jorion:


Thank you for not falling for the EMOTIONAL BLACKMAIL. You are a real man

They have been attacking me and yelling 'responsibilities' and all that shiit and I wonder why Nigerian women are so ticked off because we no want marry them. Isn't that enough proof that marriage doesn't favour men? See as every woman on this thread no remember they had good men as fathers and all that shiit and try hard to convince men to commit. The question is....is a man that commits and never takes care of his kids the good father or the one who refused to marry but still takes care of his kids?

That question shows you that anytime a Nigerian woman is not benefiting from a construct, she brandishes 'responsible' and commitment as weapons to shame men. Men are seeing this rubbish and are not ready to commit anymore. The most annoying one is bride price and bridal list.

How in hell will I pay millions for a woman whose body count is as tall as the empire state building? I could just sire a kid or two off her and take care of them myself.

DrFunmisticGlow:
I also don't agree with you. You are allowing a hurt human being to raise a hurt human being to justify your conscience and evade full responsibility for your actions. It is not as if divorce laws in Nigeria favor women. If you were abroad, I can understand if a regular man shies away from marriage, but as a nigerian man, you have no fvcking excuse.

I have the excuse in the whole mudafucking world. Marriage doesn't favour men, whether Nigeria or in hell. Have a baby mama and take care of whatever kids she gives you. Peace of mind assured.

EreluRoz:

Luminouz rest in Jesus name. You can never justify and normalize irresponsiblity. Everything is wrong with having a child outside wedlock, babydaddy and babymama is the highest form of irresponsiblity of this present generation. keep coining suitable names for it. Babydaddy ko babydaddy ni

You can rest in Amadioha's name. Irresponsibility is coined by you lots when you wanna get married and are looking for who to use as your retirement plans. Men benefit nothing from marriage. Men are waking up from that shiit. You will remember my post when shiit hits the fan

Holluwhakemmy:
You will wail tired continue

Ma'am...e don do. Na new day be this... Find someone to marry you but it ain't gonna be me. Simple

DrFunmisticGlow:
Its bare minimum effort. It's scraps. Simple!!

It's emotional neglect. Not putting your eggs in one basket is not applicable in marriage. Family/marriage is not like your investment portfolio where it is better to diversify your assets. Marriage and family is like a garden where you give your best in your plot/ acres of land to yield your fruit. You can't go and garden some of your seeds in one acre of bush in the east, a plot of forest in the south, a hectare of savanna in the north. Your resources will be spread thin and the yield won't be high. (Please note that I am talking of substinence and not commercial farming which is diiferent)

Men think that marriage benefits the women, they fail to consider that women invest emotional labor and take root and nuture her children in her bosom. She doesn't have children scattered with their different husband's and even If she does, they stay with her so that she can take root in their lives and nature's them how she can.

Baby mamas and wives are like trees and baby daddies are like tumbleweeds in this scenario. Children will look after and see a parental figure in whosoever establishes ROOTS and stay in their life for the good times and bad be it a mom a dad or a grandparent.

I don't agree with you. It's that simple. Most men are realizing that too.

DrFunmisticGlow:


It is not a matter of choosing the man. It's not a bug, it's a feature. If a lot of women are choosing bad men, doesn't that mean the entire batch is rotten, a few bad ones ruin the bunch eventually. Also remember that it is the man's orgasm that results in a pregnancy, not a woman so yes he should take responsibility. If abortion were more legal in this country, we would have less bastards.

Do you know that abortion (espially unsafe ones)is one of the five main courses of maternal mortality. It means that men's ejaculations are killing women. https://www.oatext.com/maternal-mortality-in-nigeria-a-consideration-of-infection-control-factor.php#:~:text=Several%20articles%20identified%20major%20causes,obstructed%20labour%20(Figure%202).

Marriages also reduce a woman's life expectancy especially when she marries a man way older or way younger

https://www.demogr.mpg.de/en/news_events_6123/news_press_releases_4630/press/marriage_and_life_expectancy_1813

Men generally don't listen to women. You and luminouz dismissing my argument as nonsense proves that point. They only listen when it is other more powerful men. So I don't expect both of you to see reason or for us to come to an amicable conclusion in issues like this. This isn't my first rodeo.

But what I want tobleave here is that men should caution each other. Good men that don't call out the bad behavior of other men are not really good men. Being a baby daddy is BAD. sleeping irresponsibly with women and leaving them to fend for themselves when pregnant is BAD. Even if it means doing a DNA test, not failing take full responsibility and paying the chicken change you call child support is BAD. What davido, wizkid and flavor are doing is BAD. please tell your fellow brothers, because your sister, cousin, wife and mother may be next.

Thank you for coming to my TED talk.

If being baby daddy and being in your child's life and catering for him/her is bad, I don't know what you will call men who run away after giving girls belle and never care or cater for the child.

DrFunmisticGlow:
Men gain nothing from marriage? Then why are single men crying up and down on the nairaland romance section opening redpill threads?

Marriage forces men to take responsibility and increases their life expectancy. Are you single? Don't you know the benefits that come with someone who taking care of you and being a companion? That's what a wife does. Having a wife is cheaper, better and more fulfilling than outsourcing her responsibilities.

Coming home to someone who is happy to see you, who has put in work to make sure your home is tidy, your dinner is ready, your kids are in top shape, healthy, happy and have done their assignments. Do you know how that feels when all that load is off your shoulders, that you have an adult with a vested interest in you with you, beside you?

The amount of mental load that goes into running a family is done by the woman. If you think marriage is that bad. Ask divorced men why they are so quick to remarry? and ask divorce women why they wait longer to remarry or not at all.

Many men don't do well alone, even God said it in the bible.

I have added to my post....read it well

Men may come online about being single but we both know who goes to churches, mosque and all the marriage seminars in the country. The reality is that women gains from being married. We gain nothing from it. Your scenario of coming home to eat good and a clean home is laughable. How many homes have that these days, when the foundation is based on money and favors and not love or sacrifice? If homes are that perfect, why are there divorcees everywhere or women with kids not longer with their husbands. I'm a realist and I have seen things so the utopia you pained is few and far between.

Any man who wants to marry us free to do so and should know the consequences of his actions but saying men become responsible when they marry is nothing but insulting because you are actually calling us slaves or donkeys who are responsible because we bear the loads of marriage and upkeep. If that's the only value of a man in marriage, then it can go to hell. We are tired of being commodities to satisfy retirement plans and all that shiit. I have watched many men slave all their lives with nothing to their names, catering for their families only to die alone and wrecked + wretched while the wife travels around the world meddling in the affairs of the kids, leaving their husbands to die alone.


Did you just fucking say marriage increases a man's life expectancy? 🤣🤣🤣🤣. Goodness gracious!!! Are you living on Mars or something? Marriage is the number one cause of a man's death. Infact, the life expectancy of any man reduces once he marries and starts donkeying everyone's financial troubles.



You are not a man, so don't assume to know shiit about what we feel

jorion:


You're talking nonsense. As long as he is taking responsibility for them, there's nothing wrong

Exactly my point but just noticed how all the women on this thread yell 'responsible' and illegitimate like their lives depend on it...because marriage benefits them. There is no substantial benefit it adds to a man's life. NOT FUCKING ONE. Marriage only benefits a woman and of all men decide to quit marriage today, who do you think will get affected most? WOMEN!!! Because a man can get everything and more as a bachelor compared to a married man. I know it you know it, these women on the thread know it and if all men quit, their lives would be empty and for most women, their retirement plans (children and men) will be fûcked up.

DrFunmisticGlow:
I called them bastards and I will say it up your face again (not to their's).

Those children have no benefit from you being their sperm donor. If you die like fowl one day. Those kids have no right to your property, they can't even claim your surname. Paying child support is not fatherhood, protecting your children, being in their lives continually without cherry picking the time that is convenient for you while you pursue other women is not fatherhood, giving them your time and attention, being there when they are sick or vulnerable, teaching them to be morally responsible adults, giving them your legacy and inheritance. THAT'S FATHERHOOD.

Not using child support as a weapon to get sexual access to a baby mama who made the mistake of opening her legs for you and has to pay for it for the rest of her life.

if you luminouz have sired illegitimate children, then this is the gravity of what you have done.

Mind you. That delusional belief that bastards will look for their father is a risky gamble, they may not and even if they do to satisfy their curiosity , they will most likely not cater to your old age.

I am tired of seeing middle aged and old men who made irresponsible choices in their youth die with regrets, lonely and miserable, unable to call family out of shame to see their last moments. Family members will not even claim the corpse sef. If he is lucky, his friends and people in his area will. If not it will be dropped in a mortuary or donated to medical students for anatomy dissection. I am yet to see that happen to women though. Even If a woman dies alone, family and loved ones always show up immeadiately after crying to claim their corpses or make a fuss in the hospital.

This is all bullshiiit!!! An attempt to shame men into commitment they gain absolutely nothing from. Any man who wants marriage is free to go that route but painting a doomsday scenario is just one of society and women's ways of blackmailing men into committing to a construct that is scientifically dead in this century. A man can be in his kids lives without being married to their mum and be raised right. I have seen Dad's who travel for work and never come home or even be too busy working everyday to give a fuq what their kids do? If marriage is so holistic, then why is Gen Z so fûcked up, they don't have married parents or what? What are you talking about? How dafuq do you talk about fatherhood when you have no kids or any experience of what means to be a FATHER? You just assume fatherhood is bla bla blaaaaaaaaaa...and you know nothing about being a man. So how in hell will you know what fatherhood entails, bro?

I have seen the exact opposite of everything you said. So long you take care of your kids and they know you and themselves, burial arrangements would be according to your dictates in your will. Marriage is no guarantee your so-called legitimate kids won't kill themselves over you or themselves.

You saying marriage is a responsibility on a man's part is the root of many men demise today. You brandish that shiit to shame men into constructs they gain nothing from and yet when they don't measure up, you still blame them for daring to try. Men are tired of being the last to be cared about, cared for, tired of only being used as a provider, protector tool who no one gives a fuq about. Now, they are focusing on themselves and you are coming with the responsible tag bullshit? Spare me all that crap

If you ever call my kids bastards to my face, I will tear your guts out!!!

DrFunmisticGlow:
Yes. They are bastards. It's all lipstick on a pig.

I don't think so. They are his kids. If he ain't the dad, and they belong to the mum, then calling them bastards(at least in Yoruba parlance) is right.

If I have a kid and I don't marry the mum, come call him/her bastards na, make i wooze your 👄

Holluwhakemmy:
Thanks I'm Engaged

No you are not. Stop lying. Nah you wan marry oh

Holluwhakemmy:
I have advised him and he has explained everything to me. So go and rest your opinion is meaningless

So is yours.

So rest.

Holluwhakemmy:
I did not direct my comment to you, if you like go for 20 baby mama's it's your headache.

And I won't let you shame a man who decides not to marry you. He gains nothing from it but slavery and pain. So I will comment as I want and you can't do shiit about that

SocialJustice:
Look at you arguing for women even with their daily actions in relationships and marriages.

I personally don't see why I should be saddled with any woman. I want my kids too and that's it, she has all the freedom to fly as she wants.

I want a lot of kids too with diversity, one woman can't do it.

Leave that one alone make he dey argue.
Men don't gain anything from marriage but women will try to hoodwink you with the 'responsible' man comment. Who gives a shiit?

rickleye:


When you are 60 and all alone . You’d quickly discover that you have nobody to share memories with . And when your kids are all grown up and have their own families to raise , you’ll understand loneliness.
I have uncles who separated from their wives and in their old age suffered a lot . To even operate the microwave is wahala. They go down 2 flight of stairs only to forget their keys and have to climb up and down again.
He died 2 days before anyone noticed and he wasn’t sick . Died normal causes.
Nah, because a few bad eggs give marriage a bad name doesn’t mean marriage as an institution is bad or outdated.
Someone to travel the world with share the hugs and tears.
Just ask the right questions , and put your head to the ground and you’ll find a good woman. She may not be perfect but at least your last days wouldn’t be filled with pain and loneliness

You assume that your wife won't die before you or you won't before her...who told you she would be there for you when your kids are all grown and left the nest? I can't count how many men are living alone while the wife are traveling around the world visiting their kids and never looking after the husband.

MEN GAIN NOTHING FROM MARRIAGE. I KNOW THAT LIKE I KNOW MY MUDAFUCKING DIICK

Holluwhakemmy:
From your last paragraph I don't think you can be a responsible father to your children if your mindset about marriage is to have baby mama's and raise your children outside. Think twice before you land yourself into trouble. Ire ooo

How is that your business?

That's how you lots try to shame men into slavery when they gain absolutely nothing from a marriage,so you don't tell a man what he should do with his life. At least he is not leaving his kid to suffer. So stop with the 'responsible' bullshiit you lots use to blackmail men.

EreluRoz:


Yes a man needs marriage to bring forth kids into existence. Were you conceived out of wedlock? I'm sure the answer is No. So who taught you all this woke (sick) mentality that it's ok to have a child without marriage? How many children born out of wedlock are proud to be product of adultery/fornication?
The word "Bastard" still exist and it'll never go into extinction. There are still some families who don't allow their sons/daughters marry a bastard.

"Bastards" are kids born illegitimately(product from two unmarried people).

Something is seriously wrong with you with this bullshiit you sent me. Men don't need marriage to have kids at this day and age. Not with the kind of women out there now. We are good not tolerating your crap.

Adultery/fornication ? What nonsense? How many women are virgins when they marry. Ain't you lots the ones who give bastards to the men you marry, and scared to take DNA tests?

Give me a fûcking break

EreluRoz:
She's right especially when you have crossed 30. Also no man is happy as a single man, he will also feel less of a man seeing his mates with wives and kids. So it's both ways and let's not pretend about it.

So a man needs marriage before he has a woman and some kids?

Nawa for your reasoning oh

heartofcity12:


Exactly. I don’t know what that silly Ben Affleck was thinking, being Alpha in movies don’t equate to being Alpha in real life, he and Will Smith are in the same WhatsApp group..

Exactly.

heartofcity12:
Not surprised

I didn't understand why they got married again to be honest. They could have just continued as they were or as a couple without the marital ties. Getting married spoiled everything.

lacasera14:
The best answer so far. I owe you a wine.

So what else have we been preaching here? Hatred or how to masturbate? 🙄🙄🙄

When you didn't calm down and read from page 1, you would be making mistakes na.

The key is to apply the redpill knowledge in your life...and grow in it