₦airaland Forum

SBL28:
Lol, please take it to Kasali down the road. He's sure going to do a better job.

c'mon. you know i prefer your expertise babe

SBL28:
Have you guys considered the fact that maybe the woman is truly after God's heart.

I have only been in one relationship and with a body count of one, so its not about tasting all sorts and then pretending just to trap a guy. I'm still in my 20s and I have been celibate since my marriage ended for few reasons;

1) I'm not a Bible-clutching Christian but I'm closer to my God now and I like how I can go to church and raise my hands in praises without feeling like a fraud. I'm not messing with my peace of mind biko. I used to feel guilty about fornication before I got married.

2) I have not tried it before but I am not sure I can have sex with someone I'm not in love with. I personally don't think it's something to be casual about.

3) Ladies in their 30s and single mothers are easy targets for lecherous men who think they are desperate. They are only interested in 'hit and run', so don't blame the women for not 'putting out', they have learnt the hard way. My yeye married neighbor wanted to try it with me, I shut the shit down and blocked the he-goat on every platform.

In conclusion, ladies say 'no sex' for so many reasons. It is not a do or die affair, if you are not comfortable with it, simply move on!!!


Lastly, I don't intend to end up with anyone eventually without testing the engine (Lord forgive me ) even if na only once before marriage, I should know exactly the type of instrument I'm 'acquiring'. Man pikin cannot go and enter one chance.

Well,I just oiled my engine babe,care for a test-check

KanwuliaExtra:
Drum tolls. . . . . .

White walkers are here!!!

JustBeing:
Funny that the bulk of the responses are coming from male trolls in their late teens or early 20s.

Maybe you should have asked these women to be open and actually tell you why they took such decisions.

Well, I'm a woman in my 30s and I have recently detached from a relationship that broke me up in the worst way possible. One of the ways I used to go about relationships was giving my all; time, attention, money, love, care and sex. But after this last episode where i was with someone who was timing his exit would it be wise to go about relationships using that same MO? I think not.

I don't know if I'll get into another relationship or if i do get into one, will I have sex? I can't say. But all I know is there will be holds barred. I can't allow myself be put through such wringer and if 'no-sex' ensures that happens, then so be it. Understand that it has nothing to do with how I'm trying to project myself, I'm no saint. . .I'm only limiting the chances of being someone's fool. And in the event it ends for other reasons beyond our control, I won't go insane counting my losses and regrets. Men always want a woman who gives all but they never do that's why it's easy for them to have multiple partners and when it's time to settle down they start doing the 'choosing analysis' like you did.

I like how you chose to marry the one you slept with, it's only fair you did since it was one of your prioritised goals in a partner. Other men have married women they didn't get to sleep with. Yes, no sex can't force a man to marry you same as giving sex at whim won't increase the chances that a man marries you.

Afterall you almost married the one you didn't sleep with but your conscience forced your hand, which is good in my opinion.

I'd love to know more about ur last breakup....what did he do??

daddytime:
IK needs some self reassessment/reappraisal and possibly getting real by finding a woman he can conveniently cater for.

This one na high maintenance and he can't keep up with the demands in the midst of the so many "money miss roads" in Nigeria who she knows are ready to pay any price just to be with her.

Na so so quarrel until one finally kill the other out of shame and pride for "what would people say"..

You better find your level before it gets too late..

How in God's name did u come by the assertion that its her 'maintenance' that's causing marital issues She is Colombian and has a business....maybe infidelity on the husband's part...not this maintenance crap naaa

LilMissFavvy:
How can a man joke with a pretty damsel like Lilian. Why should she forgive such a husband? It is a good thing that she dumped his broken ass and moved on. Better to be a single mother than take shit.

Are u a single mother??
If yes,How are you coping ma'am