₦airaland Forum

shaybebaby:
You hit the nail on the head, even here on NL when I see their definition of beauty, it's mainly contrived on the part of the girl. So yup, it's a case of conform to remain competitive I guess.

But really everyone should just be themselves, it's not all of us that will find mates or even remain with them if we do.
Just do you innit?

I won't sermonise too much but want a greater chance of being treated as an equal in a relationship, then outside the shores of Nigeria is a safer bet. A relationship based on mutual respect and reciprocity in kind.

shaybebaby:
May your hustle be blessed. Nice to find kindred spirits because it is us that will raise the next generation of women and men.

It's the same mentality that contributed to the state of the economy as whole. That always looking for a quick fix you mentioned.

I think I read you on another thread about how you are beginning to abhor naija men, I don't blame you.

There are good ones but it is getting increasingly hard to find them. Why won't it, the mentality they have makes them treat nice girls badly who then decide that all men are pr1cks and are only fit to be used which in turn hurts the genuine ones and the vicious cycle continues.

With your thinking, I believe your right mate ain't going to be nigerian.

shaybebaby:
Lol, I have to say NL has made laugh today and your comment is one of the funny ones.
But girl, it is ourselves we should be talking to because it is one of us that will decide to be the labourer eventually.
You have no problem, but that entitlement mentality is something that needs to be changed for both genders. No one owes you your success or is even obliged to help. It is down to individuals, male or female. Any help rendered is a kindness not an obligation.

shaybebaby:
Be looking for girls to enter their one chance.. Wonder why it is always the woman being there for them, what about being there for each other and building something to be owned equally together?
No nah come and build me, and after that what happens? The girl nko? She will build you for you to then turn around and expect servitude on top Wetin she build!

Sexxkillz:
[color=#000030]You're too daft to engage me in any kind of discussion. Go look for your mates to do that with.

Stroll. . . [/color]

Sexxkillz:
[color=#000030]So, an inability to find a girlfriend makes someone gay and making excuses? What school did you attend, or, are you attending? I'm trying to understand how they teach you to have such warped pathetic logic.

Girls like you with low thinking and mental ability would be a thorn in the flesh to any guy dating them because you're bereft of any traits of understanding. He'll say one thing, and your small mind will take it to mean some other thing.

According to your mumu logic, any girl that cannot find a boyfriend is a lesbian. . . So daft.[/color]

Cutehector:
Wat if u got tested and found out? Would u forgive?

Estharfabian:

Pfft...


Your mom's African bro... the stereotyping thingy ain't cool.


Just 'coz you find white ladies more appealing doesn't give you the audacity to throw denigrating words At ladies that are colored. that's all shades of Dumb...And stupíd.

greatmen:
U never start to hate black men Abeg change ur skin we hate u too

neocortex:
Criticism is part of nature!
you can't take it away by any means.
There is nothing you do that yo won't be criticised so why spend
your energy on trying to convince someone not to criticise you.

Everyone has an opinion and will continue to have one.
I have never read a success story without criticisms both
relevant and destructive ones.

So you are better of concentrating on being the woman you want than
trying to create ideal men and women.

Tenkobos:
One place where I shamed women or keep quiet.

jamalnation:
Queen

Tenkobos:
Is not funny that you who doesn't know jack about me is telling me what I want?

You know nothing about me to tell what I want so shut that side. It makes zero sense.

Now back to other part of your comment.

Nobody creates enabling environment for anybody out there.

It is the survival of the fittest. Men don't create enabling environment for their own brothers. Everybody is on his own so why are women complaining?

It is this victim mentality of most lazy women that is stopping them from being great.

A pair of nice boobs and a pinky vagina isn't a ticket to any other thing except bedroom activities. So go out and create an enabling environment for yourself and other women.

In society today, men and women are fighting for dominance so I don't see why women should expect men to create enabling environment for them.

Tell me rights Nigeria men enjoy that women don't?

They can get education as much as men, they can vote and be voted for, they can choose their choice of jobs, they can choose to marry or stay single.

So what's the need for this endless whining?

freshkid144:
see ur mouth, *tnk you*

neocortex:
Why should you bother about what men think about you ?
Are you not woman enough ?
Are you being forced to accept men's scrutiny ?

It appears true feminism is gradually dying, gone are the days when
feminist go for what they want instead of trying to force men to accept
their behaviour.

If you are unable to achieve your goals, it is your fault not that of the
detractors.

skywalker001:
lemme shift small mak u sit beside me

skywalker001:
luveu2

jamalnation:
Nobody is favouring anybody. Dats hw d system was design. You cant have two king in one village.