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Please I planned on eating fruits once in a day, should it be in the morning (like the first the I'd eat to start my day) or in the night (like the last thing to eat before going to bed). Which is better?

Emailonline042:
I have been a active member of this forum since 2013 but created this new account to seek for help because of the shame I have put myself.

The incident happened yesterday I Invited my girl to my house I took her to close bar at my place. So, after seeing Manchester match we went home to have fun. We started romancing and kissing when I decided to go down on her, to my greatest surprised my joystick refused to get hard.i tried all my best but no way. I felt disappointed and shame all over me.i decided to lied to her I was on drug that that's why and I will make things up with myself that next weekend will be great.
Throughout that moment with her she was not happy with me at all. I know that I have I lost her because through our chatting she likes sex very well.
Note: she is the first girlfriend I ever had though I have female friends close to me and I have had sex 2 times during that period my joystick did failed me like yesterday and I didn't last long. I watched porn and masturbated for 9 years but I have stopped it three weeks ago and decided to have girlfriend to start enjoying it real but I don't know where it went wrong.
I need remedies for this, I want to get my sexual life back.the returning match is next weekend and I don't want to Bleep up again.*
Trolling is not allowed abeg
Thank you

The bolded part got me rolling, ah swr.

Op if I may ask you, why are you forcing yourself to commit sin?

Please I've actually prayed for the grace of speaking in tongues, I haven't obtained it yet. I'm a strong believer

My most embarrassed moment, emm lemme see
Okay!
Earlier this year I wanted to have a fling with a girl, I'd always brag how I'd shift her womb and all that.
So on the d day, lo and behold, my d*ck just dey like that(e no gree stand) I was just literally begging my dick to stand, the girl was just folding her hands looking at me struggling .
Mehn! Anytime I remember that day I feel pissed off And that was supposed to be my first nack

Mine was during my secondary school days, I went to the school clinic and complain of headache, na so the man pack like 15tablets of medicine give me to drink. I just select wetin look like paracetamol their and as the man go attend to the other patients I just drink the paracetamol come throway the rest

TheGenius001:
Sorry how old was she as at then??

19

Bro, I passed through this stuff around earlier this year, I loved a girl deeply and at that time she was a Virgin but I don't know she had ulterior motives.
I was in my 400level(last year) when she called me that she was writing Jamb(she applied for my school tho) I was so happy hearing that cause I know it's time to spice up the relationship cause we'd be so close. Now the worst happened just barely a week when she resumed (she resumed earlier than me) she got deflowered by a guy she just met. When she told me the stuff I was just holding back the tears but I didn't react tho, inside me I was really pained. I couldn't sleep well, I was not angry at her but myself, I kept on asking myself "why you approach this girl sef". Mehn it was a terrible experience. I was just consoled/counseled by some of my friends cause I was so pained and this was my first relationship

Guard thy heart.

Do not Google anything concerning your health (body and mind) else what you'd see online eh .
Kindly share your experiences

Casper21:
It will take 90days of no Porn or any sexual content for your brain to return to normal state and within that few months, you'll experience some changes like wanting to leave your comfort zone, High confidence, no more anxiety and Erectile dysfunction. It will be so easier to partake in anything. But getting to 90days without porn can be hard for some people and that's why we have Nofap community on Reddit that monitors the last time you viewed porn.
It's kind of a motivation as you'll meet people like you on the journey to 90days

Ok bro, thank you

Casper21:
People associating porn with spiritual tendencies you guys are lacking proper education and are way backward.
I frequently have sex with my partner so I don't really watch porn. The effects of porn are not what you guys are mentioning here.
Here are the effects of porn addiction
1. Erectile dysfunction
2. High dopamine level in the brain and that's bad
3. Losing interest in Girls or relationships
4. It can desensitize your androgen receptors
5. It fuels anxiety
6. It sometimes causes one to be an introvert.
7. It makes you seek out hard sex positions with your partner

There you go.
You cannot actually fight porn addiction you just have to minimize the consumption so as not to affect your sexual well-being.

How does one gets cured if porn addiction gets him this?

Bro, please visit my previous thread and learn from my experience.

No be lie, ah swr
That's how I was walking to my mum's shop one day so her friend (mum's friend) called me and ask if I'm a seminarian or a monk , I told her No, but she kept on saying I'm too gentle and quiet and that I have a "priestly lifestyle". I just weak
Another one
The day my gf came to my room in school, I no hear word for my lodge, everybody begin hail me oh! The thing sef taya me
Them dey see quiet peeps as saint.

Omo this nice guy thing sucks!
I was dating a girl earlier this year, would always play nice and gentle(never asked for sex), I occasionally buy her gifts and all that only for me to realize she has been sleeping with a guy that hasn't given her a dime...
Mehn! For one week my head no clear

#NoToSimping
#EndSars

Evolutionlove:
You just made the most useless post lol.
Reason:You are using your own personal problem and woes to generalize. You have erectile problem, probably a hereditary thang lol. There Is no rubbish and nonsense someone won't hear, read or see In Shiiithole. I'm sure you deliberately want to upset people with this your useless post this evening......

Easy bro, I just shared my experience
That's all

lefulefu:
but what i dont get is many guys on nl claim about having lots of escapades with girls and how they keep smashing pussy left and center .so if u are a don prince in smashing pussy why be having addiction problems with porn
I will just be safe assume that a lot of guys here are virgins and they find it hard to get laid hence the total dependence on porn
but the assumption that it was devil that killed ur erection cos of too much porn
mehn daTs epic
so all those pastors wey dey nack married women and single ladies left and center
why devil never kill their erection

Bro, understand what I wrote, I never mentioned the devil in my write-up, what I said is that pornography addiction caused it...
Please get your facts right
Thanks and God bless you

lefulefu:
so what i can deduce from your writeup that it was satan the devil that killed ur erection cos u were watching too much porn
nigerians and their funny idelogy

Bro, pornography affects the mind, the earlier you stop the better for you

McCoy662:
Op u are dumb. Flaccid D happens to any fresher in the field, no body answered your prayers. It was all your state of mind.
Let me educate you and all that may want to go astray because of this post.
Sex is like public speaking, yes u heard me. Often times people after preparing to give a speech end up disgracing themselves in public. Why? Anxiety!! You can never have a great sexual life when u are anxious. You must relax and feel the way u fell when u are alone with the lady. Don't be shy, don't worry about how good you will perform, just do it the way u can and get up. The more relaxed u are, the more u can control your loins and last longer in bed.
It's my observation. The first time I had sex was embarrassing. I barely entered when I came out . The lady was like " what's that na?". But I didn't give up. I tried to defend myself, told her I can't kill myself. Luckily for me, we entered another round. Then I was a bit more relaxed and I performed really well; she attested to that
Now years later I never had sex, so, after some time I met one girl like that, we get going till it was time to nack. I thought I was good to go, but the worst happened. Immediately I put on my CD, dragging my D to the point, I shoot. The girl layed stark naked waiting for me to do, but I was already sweating profusely, she sensed foul play and asked if it's not what she's thinking. I told her it was and got up. Thank my goodness the girl was very understanding, we laughed it off. When she left, I felt I wasn't even up to half a man I blamed everything around me for my woes: my D, my bed, my house... Everything
I decided to try it with another girl. I don't want to try the second time on same girl, she would never forgive me if I didn't perform. I got another girl, tried, though I lasted barely 2 minutes, I was happy I even entered before pouring. The girl again was angry but I told her that's how I see it and I can't kill myself. She understood and left. The next day she visited, I told her I want to do my 2 minutes before I have my bathe, she agreed. Then I was super relaxed. I wasn't worried or anxious about anything. The worst would be shooting before entering, which to me is nothing cos I've experienced it before. When I started, I didn't feel the jittery me... I was superb. I kept thrusting for like 10 minutes non stop but I cameth not
Babe provoke... She said I took drugs but I didn't. I turned my mind to what I'm doing so I can cum because babe was almost crying and telling me to stop. Finally, after about 20 minutes I shot. I didn't believe it.
Weeks later I called the first girl, I hit her too till she asked me to stop. I've mastered the act now. I can go any length I want to go.
Anxiety kills sexual urge and strength, not porn or Satan. Feel relaxed and enjoy ur nacking.

Bro, I passed through a lot cause of that, to the point I couldn't sleep, I was lacking peace of mind cause of that.
But thanks for sharing your experience tho
God bless

You're welcome

Goodday all
I hope someone learn from this, this happened early this year.

Before now I was a pornography addict, I have been watching porn since I was 13(that is 9years ago), although I have never masturbated in my life and I have not also had sex but I'd pride myself as someone who has had sex so many times.
So on a faithful day, I decided to try it out(sex), lo and behold Uncle D refused to get up, the girl rained insults all over me, I was confused and anxious to stupor, my heart was pounding as though I killed someone and I couldn't sleep for days, I'd always had chills in my belly, I kept on wondering what the problem was, I tried watching porn again and uncle D was still faccid. The thing really dealt with me as I couldn't just get the thought out of my mind, anytime I see a girl I'd just remember it, there were days I took sleeping pills so I could at least have some sleep. Although some one told me with time my brain would reset to normal.

Then I have to involve God in the matter (p.s. I almost became an atheist prior to that incident). I cried and prayed that God restores my peace and help me manage that thought. Although I'm relieved now, God answered my prayers, I was just ashamed of myself for considering atheism.
My God is alive and he answers prayers

*Please anyone involved in pornography please stop it else you'd learn the hard way*

I know because of the on going protest some peeps may see this as something irrelevant but I just wish this would hit front page so others would learn. Thanks

Shun Pornography!

Lalasticlala

Thanks all, I've fully recovered now. I guess it was cause of excessive worrying, it was all in my head.
At least I've learnt my lessons, I'd always remain focused in my studies without relenting any longer.
God bless us and have a wonderful day

UDUJ:
SirToby please don’t bring religion into this. God is not punishing you for any activity you feel you did

You suffer from Anxiety. Anxiety is a mental health disorder and affects over 60% of Nigerians but because of the way our society is designed we decide not to treat it cause of the supposed stigma attached to such. When people think of anxiety, they think of worrying and stress. They think of fears and a feeling as though something is going to go wrong. Anxiety is seen in thoughts and actions.

But anxiety has a tremendous physical component, and one of the key contributors to those physical sensations is long term stress. This Stress has a tremendous impact on your health, and one of the most common conditions is feeling ill.


The stress from anxiety can cause feelings of very genuine sickness. These feelings often mimic the way illnesses make you feel. Your stomach can feel like it's rumbling and you may even feel like you are having fever or malaria. Feeling sick may be a sign that you've fallen ill, but it can also be a clear sign of anxiety.

When we are stressed and the stress is a prolonged one (e.g. grief), it is physically very hard on the body to maintain this stress response for a prolonged period, so we have to find ways to take our body out of this stress response. Some of these ways are spending time with friends, counselling, medication, mindfulness, making sure we eat and sleep enough, massage, hypnosis etc. There are lots of different things that can help.

Anxiety can weaken your immune system, increasing the risk of suffering from mild illness.

Feeling ill is something that often causes concern. Some people feel so sick that they vomit or experience profound nausea that keeps them away from their activities. Some people experience more than just nausea as well. They may experience other symptoms that are similar to catching a fever, malaria or flu. They may feel like their organss are swollen, or their tongue is dry. They may feel lightheaded. They may even cough or experience severe stomach discomfort, like indigestion.

When anxiety is causing these symptoms, they're not dangerous. Anxiety is simply your body's misfiring of the body's natural fight or flight response, and the way your body reacts is designed to make sure that you know you're supposed to be fearful.
The problem isn't the signals themselves, the problem is that you're experiencing them all the time, often when it is inconvenient. People feel these symptoms for different reasons:

Situational anxiety is actually natural. It's inconvenient, but it's natural. Back in school, if you felt severe illness before a big test, it's because you genuinely feared that test. While tests shouldn't provide that fear, the reaction is not unexpected.

But on the other hand, the one you should fear and what I think you have is Feelings of chronic illness from anxiety which is even more problematic, because when your anxiety won't go away, the feeling of being ill won't go away either. It becomes something that makes you feel worse about your health, saps your energy, and can ruin each and every day (all symptoms you are feeling now).

My recommendation: go to the clinic and see a trained therapist. He will prescribe some good anti-depressants. You will be okay.

Please bro, I sent you a PM, kindly reply

Please I need more suggestions

Lalasticlala

dawnomike:
Stop praying about that
God has forgiven you already ... You have to forgive yourself. Take your mind off it

Thank you

Kobojunkie:
Anxiety is what it is. May I suggest you start a new exercise regime. You are 22, so you are young. Start by running a couple of miles every morning, working through each thought that comes to your mind with each step. Excercise is great for such things.

Also try to forgive yourself for every ounce of guilt that you have poured on yourself for that act. I get you promised your parents, but that isn't really how such things work.

I'd start the exercise routine tomorrow morning, Thank you

dawnomike:
Just relax and calm down... You've acknowledged your wrong do you'll be fine

Thank you very much
It's just that it's taking long
It's been over 6weeks now
I've been praying

Good day everyone, I'm a guy of 22years before now I've promised my parents that all through my stay in school I won't endulge in anything sexual but as of last 2 month something happened, I made out with a lady(didn't penetrate) but since then my mind hasn't been at rest, I over think, I'm loosing control, my heart beats faster, I've told my parents about it but yet I'm not calm.

In Addition: I took a substance (Man power) on that day, I don't know if it's what is affecting me. It's over 6weeks now.

I've run to God and made a vow to him if I get free...
Please Nairalanders, help me out

Yeah thanks
I'm just having a mild heart palpitation and it started last 2weeks cause I was depressed some time ago, I'm thinking it should be the after effects of depression

Please mods push to front page, I beg you

Good day everyone, I'm a 22year old boy recently I discovered my heart beat faster and I do have chills although there was something I was thinking about before that feeling came up. I thought it was hbp but I've checked my BP on 3 different occasions and it's normal (110/70).
Please doctors in the house what might be the problem cause it's getting me worried
Thank you

Please doctors available or anyone that has passed through this I need your suggestions please