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Emmysteve: formerly it used to be Ghana, then South Africa and now Kenya
wtf

Good question. Please, ask yourselves o! Like I keep saying, there is something fundamentally wrong and rather than come to heap insults on people in a forum, Nigerians need to sit down and examine themselves. The attitude in this forum is one of entitlement - Nigerians feel like other countries owe them, despite the atrocities their citizens are associated with. Very enterprising people - I'm not Nigerian but I read this forum every day, for instance. But also very... shallow, I'm afraid, on some level. What kind of attitude is "soon Afghanistan will deport Nigerians"?

There are Nigerians doing very well in Kenya; I'll mention two that I know personally. Paulina George is the #1 go-to woman for African attire; she is a Nigerian woman married to a Kenyan man and has a pricey store in downtown Nairobi - many of her employees are also Nigerian. Another one Dr. Barbara Magoha is also Nigerian married to a Kenyan, both she and her husband are doctors. They are living their lives quietly and I can assure you their names will not come up in this deportation debacle because they are minding their own business and making money quietly. I went to school with Nigerians and found them to be wonderful people, a far cry from the uncouthness I see here daily.

It's funny that people are ridiculing Olewao's comment and his name, whose meaning I wish you all knew. He asked a very good question. If Nigeria is so beautiful, what are you looking for elsewhere? You should rejoice that your citizens are being deported from "ordinary Kenya" into your beautiful land!!

You all have a lot of work to do and I don't know what kind of PR campaign it will take to correct Nigeria's image but it's definitely not the kind of discourse going on in this forum. ACCEPT that something is wrong and WORK ON IT!

Let me even go to the romance thread now.

Kenyanstar: I am sorry to break your heart guys. South africa is BIG in every way. Be it big brother, big economy, big investment, big money, big infrastructure and even big yansh wink lol. Anyway truth be told Nigeria is trailing in every aspect of social, economic and political class except, well, giving birth. The big uncontrolled birth rate aside, Nigeria hasnt moved beyond her borders to establish any big economical invesment outside Nigeria. Compare this to Kenya's superior international offshore investments. Among this investments are:-

-Telecommunication sector (safaricom mobile),

-Financial sector ( Kenya commercial bank in south sudan, Uganda, rwanda etc)

-Supermarket franchises ( Nakumatt hypermarket, Uchumi hypermarket in all east african countries)

-Transport business( simba coach, Mash Auto, Easy coach, Intercontinental Bus company) operating in all east,central and southern African countries.

-Air transport (Kenya airways which is international, Fly 540 which is regional, Easy jet)etc.

This is just a few of the many organizations that the Kenyans have managed to put their interests in.
Lets just say KENYA also plays a big Sister role to nigerias future cheesy

thank you.

GERALD710: A.Kenya has a larger automotive Industry than Nigeria
The General Motors in Kenya is the second largest in Africa after S.A.
We have 3 Toyota assembling plants in Kenya as a reward for the tender of the Lamu -Juba pipeline.In Nairobi,Mombasa and as of end of this year Nakuru.
China's Foton vehicle manufacturing plant in Athi River is the largest Foton factory in Africa.
Tata is also building its Africa Hq here.
Cherry,Ford,Hyundai all have assembling plants here
Plus Kenyan owned assembling plants like CMC,Thika Motors,AVA and Associated Motors.
Hahahahaha!Space Program.Mr.Please google San Marco Space Station.Built by the Italians in the late 50s.It was used by the Kenyan Govt to launch the Uhuru satellite in the 80s.Although inactive,the Russians want to use it and at the same time we are planning for a surveilance sattelite.
WE HAVE NEVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER LEASED DEATH TRAPS AKA WHAT YOU CALL AIRCRAFT FROM NIGERIA!!!!!!
To start with Nigerian aircraft were banned from kenyan airspace for a decade here.
All our aircraft are Boeing(USA) or Embrearer(Brazil).
We do not import a single manufactured product from Nigeria.
Nigeria on the other hand has several segments of its sectors under orders from Nairobi
Barclays East and West Africa HQ is in Nairobi.
Google
Blackberry
Cisco
HSBC
IBM
Kenya Re
KQ
have a significant presence in Nigeria but are based in kenya.
No nigerian based corporation whether local or foreign has any significant presence in Kenya.
UBA is making losses here.
Dude,Even airtel ran away from Lagos and made Nairobi its Headquarters!!
That tells alot about Nigeria!!!

Thank you. Not to mention the UN decided to make Nairobi its African headquarters. The world's first mobile money transfers were done by Safaricom. This list could go on and on but I don't even find it necessary to prove anything.

I'm no mathematician but the way I see it, many of Nigeria's achievements are largely because of their large population. It's often just a ratio thing - the numbers are larger because there are more people per square km, simple.

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please i need advice
Am a young guy of 17 years but seriously in love with business i want to forfeit my education to further my interest in business.my problem is my capital am thinking about getting a loan from the bank with the land and house my late mum left 4 us i.e me and my sis.but i dont know if i should go ahead with this.

Will you log out and go to school.

Has it crossed anybody's mind that all the countries in the world can't be against Nigeria out of pure jealousy? Why is it always Nigerians, everywhere you look? I personally sympathized with Chinedu. He is a Kenyan citizen by marriage, has Kenyan children, and has tons of property that belongs to him - how he gained it is something that should have been investigated, but without any incriminating evidence, the hotels and cars are HIS. I have issues with the way he was deported and the fact that I feel that the law seems to have been broken on too many levels in this case.

But that in no way gives anybody the right to go and sell drugs in another country and then start to cry "Nigerians are suffering". It's up to you guys to build your country's reputation. You're all so great at spewing insults... If only that creativity could be used to build others instead of destroy them! If only Nigerians' enterprising nature could be used for good and not for 419, drugs, etc etc etc!! Talk about ICC all you want, but Kenya is miles ahead of Nigeria whichever way you look at it (except for speaking pidgin and eating jollof). If Nigeria is so beautiful, abeg STAY THERE! Stop disturbing people's heads. Marry your own people and invent your cars or whatever. One thing that bugs me about things like this is NOBODY ever seems to be willing to take responsibility or ask the important "what if" questions that can result in productive and positive solutions. It's so irritating sometimes.

Willie_A: http://www.futaa.com/football/article/nigeria-rejects-fkf-booked-hotel

Check out the hotel they rejected in favor of one located in a forest. What is wrong with your team?
http://www.sentrimhotels.net/index.php/sentrim-680-hotels-nairobi
http://www.ixigo.com/hotels/ke/hotel-nairobi--234731.ixi

Hahaha I laughed as well. I figured they think Kenyans are like them and were afraid they'd be put up in a school as well. I wouldn't stay at this hotel either but it's not bad at all! But they chose some place I've never heard of on Thika Rd? I hope they decide to reason the same way when they play

rokiatu: hahaha I usually don't share articles on here but this one is awesome.


My first questions to anyone in a long-distance relationship are some of the following: are you a masochist? Why do you like pain? Why are you doing this to yourself? Are you insane? How could anyone pick a Monday night of Face-Timing with someone who lives four hours away over Monday night football and $2 schooners? These are things I just don’t understand.

People give all kinds of justifications for being involved in LDRs, and we all know someone who is in one and says it’s totally worth it, they’re super in love, blah blah, blah. Come on, you’re not fooling anyone. We all know you’re actually miserable and it’s slowly killing you.

Believe it or not, years ago, I used to be one of these unfortunate people. But then I stepped back and was finally honest with myself: this sucks, no one is happy, and it’s just not working.

Short term, LDRs can be bearable. Maybe it’s just a summer apart while one of you has an internship in another state. But any longer than that, and you’re playing with fire. Texting, emails, and Skype dates will never be able to imitate or replace the human touch.

Absence doesn’t really make the heart grow fonder—it breeds jealousy and resentment. You both will become a crazy people who think things like, “Who is that bitch who just wrote on his Facebook wall? Why did he cancel our Skype date last week?” or “Who is that guy with her in that photo from tailgating? Why hasn’t she called me back?” Even if there are innocent explanations for these things (she lives on his floor, he has a midterm tomorrow, that’s her cousin, whatever), is the stress and suspicion during what is supposed to be the best four years of your life really worth it?

Do you realize how much you’re missing out on by driving across the state every weekend or staying in to talk on the phone all night? And very importantly: does anyone actually derive pleasure from phone intimacy?

Just because you’ve been with someone for a long time doesn’t mean you’re going to be with them forever. Maybe you two really are super in love, and if so, that’s great. But if you’re going to try making it work, you have to be prepared to face the facts: LDRs do not work out often, and when they end, it’s a mess.

They do not end in being friends with your ex, or at least being able to tolerate them if you were at the same party, or best case scenario, still hooking up when you’re both in town. No, LDRs almost always end in fiery explosions of hating the other person and crying in the fetal position.

Staying with someone because it’s comfortable and safe is one of the worst things you can do. “Comfortable” can quickly bleed into “boring”, which is right across the street from “get me out of here”. And thinking that you’ll never in the rest of your life meet anyone as great as this person is just ridiculous.

There are so many amazing people out there, you’d never have the time to date them all, even if you tried. But you’d never know any of that if you didn’t get off Skype and find out for yourself.

Don’t be one of those sad and sorry people who look back and regret that they didn’t get out of a time-sucking, fun-sucking long distance relationship sooner.

No one likes listening to those people. Not even bartenders.

http://uweekly.com/article/long-distance-relationships-just-say-no-to-5685/

This is ridiculous. No one relationship can be a template for the rest in the world. I don't know about those sorry people in the bar... I do know of several happily married people for whom business or other travel obligations are not a problem because of the trust built when distance was unavoidable. This instant noodle generation needs to grow up

Joagbaje: It's irreverentce to God when someone walks out of a church during service. Every church has structure according o the leading of the spirit there. Some people do that a lot . A service is not over until God is through with them. In many churches the service ends by the pastor pronouncing blessing on the congregation after which they have benediction.

Irreverence to Gods presence can be a sin. It's not about the pastor, it could have been when someone is praying,altar call ,healing hour etc. a christian must be sensitive to the holygjost when he is in operation . How can a man of Gid be teaching you and you just walk out?

Technically it's not a sin . There could have been a reason to leave a church during service ,maybe for nature call, emergency ( for doctores , police etc) at such time ,such individual you politely tell the ushers ,and he can exit reverently. There is order in the church. He is a Gid of order.


[i]1 Corinthians 14:33[/i
For God is not the author of confusion, but of peace, as in all churches of the saints.

God is indeed a God of order, but He is also Omnipresent. He cannot be compartmentalized. His presence is not just in church. As long as there is a genuine reason to leave early, I don't believe it's a big deal. Matthew 15:9 talks about people who give God lip service and yet turn man's theories and commandments into doctrine. While we're quoting scriptures, let's remember that in the Bible there were no church buildings. People gathered in homes. The church was the people. "Churches" in that verse means congregations/assemblies. Respect God, yes, and respect His servants (while of course also exposing and refusing to be involved in the works of darkness, which might mean walking out of a shady service), but remember that sitting in church longer does not get anyone closer to heaven.

Choi. I think they misspelt the last name. Should be Joshua "A-Gay".

Graviton: Same here...
I try my best to shut up when I'm angry tho...I tend to stutter

I stutter as well. And I have learned that my words can really cut, so I try not to say anything. I've said things in the past that hurt people for a really long time. It's not worth it at all. Quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger can save careers, friendships, marriages. I'm very opinionated but I have learned to bite my tongue and picture the humiliating apology and groveling that I will have to do if I speak without thinking.

A couple of times, I visited Nairaland when I was upset.. read posts for like 30 minutes and just found myself laughing.

Did he leave a will? I think that people who come from communities that are tied to tradition should do so. In my country this happens a lot, there was a man whose burial dispute was in court for close to a year but tradition finally won, leaving the wife bitter for the rest of her life and she ended up marrying a man in his 20s when she was in her 60s or 70s. The thing is that many of these traditions also forbid the writing of a will, so catch 22.

trendystuf: I see make up as enhancing my beauty and hiding those dark spots caused by acne. It gives me that perfect face like you see in the magazines. #winks.

As a lady, do you see it as something you can't do without? Does it eat into your allowance? To the guys, do you think make up enhances one's beauty? Do you see it as a thing of deception, do you like your women on make up?

Lets hear your say on this?

Source: http://trendysturvs..com/2013/05/tsb-talk-does-make-up-make-one-beautiful.html

Every woman is inherently beautiful. I agee with you that makeup can be used to enhance that beauty. But sometimes people apply it to the point that they become liars... I think if you have to cake it on in layers and end up looking like a totally different person, then that's dishonest to an extent. And it does become addictive in a way... many women who wear layers of makeup every day feel very insecure without it even though they are very beautiful.

IvyBlue: So you only want nigerians?hhhmm
since you are in your late 20s don't you think you should focus on other nationalities too ?instead of waiting for that nigerian man ...

It's not that anyone is trying to trip over themselves and end up with a Nigerian by force. It's just that Nigerians are everywhere, and in any place where there's a small African population, you'll find that that population is largely West African.

priest2u: how do you mean the bolded? you are in your late 20's and a graduate student is older? what age do people go to graduate skool there? Well am Nigerian and open to marrying other African as long as she's pretty and of good character.

By grad students, I meant PhDs and postdocs; they're in their 30s and 40s. I'm not the only one that believes that. A quick Google search or asking other Africans will show you that this is a widely held stereotype about Nigerians. I didn't really believe it at first, myself. But I kept hearing it from my female friends who are from different African countries, and finally experienced it, or at least I assume I have.

Mrs..Chima:
Have it ever occur to anyone that maybe thos Nigerian men she had dated are married or engaged?

If she is looking for a serious engagement maybe they are respecting her by not using her?

Mrs. Chima, I did not date them. I'm pretty sure they were not married or engaged, otherwise as a Christian woman I would have backed off instantly. Unless you mean they had wives at home, which is another widely held stereotype about Nigerians in the US (I'm not saying I believe it).

I'm trying to be careful not to become too offensive here, because I know the attacks you people can rain, and I know what it feels like to have a "stranger" come and attack my country... but some of these questions/comments are quite interesting.

johnwell: Haba, when am praying hard to marry a non-nigerian lady.

Lol. Not just praying, but praying hard? Kai. That's a first. May the Lord grant you the desires of your heart

priest2u: What city are you in? You said there are many nigerians there right? Are there many nigerian ladies too, that could also be a reason.

I'm in Eastern US. Not too many Nigerians/Africans here, compared to other cities in the US. Most of my female friends are Nigerian but married/engaged to men in Nigeria or in different states. The single Nigerian men here are a little older - grad students, doctors, etc. Not sure why I added that snippet of information but oh, well.

Thank you all. Unfortunately for some of you, I'm not here to seek validation or be reassured that I'm wife material. I appreciate all the responses.

I just joined Nairaland after reading posts here on and off for years. Recently I've been visiting more, and it's been a great source of laughter and even enlightenment. I'd like to begin by thanking Happyness Chima for her post a few days ago that encouraged me to post this question.

I'm curious... why is it that Nigerian men never seem to want to marry outside their country (and even tribe)? I know this is a gross generalization but it's quite true, isn't it? I'm a beautiful African woman, born again, "homely"; I can work it in the kitchen and I am working on that education as well... I'm not done but almost there so don't hate.. life happens. I've met many great Nigerian guys but the two I was interested in dismissed me once they found out that I'm not Nigerian. I met them at different times, years apart. My friends say their experience has been the same - one was even engaged but was summarily replaced after the guy made a trip to Nigeria. I'm in my late 20s. I live in the US, I'm hoping to marry an African, and Nigerians are pretty much the only Africans I meet in my city.

What are your thoughts on this; why is this the case? It's so frustrating sometimes that because I'm not Chinelo, Funmi, Imaobong, a person won't even bother to get to know me.