rokiatu: hahaha I usually don't share articles on here but this one is awesome.


My first questions to anyone in a long-distance relationship are some of the following: are you a masochist? Why do you like pain? Why are you doing this to yourself? Are you insane? How could anyone pick a Monday night of Face-Timing with someone who lives four hours away over Monday night football and $2 schooners? These are things I just don’t understand.

People give all kinds of justifications for being involved in LDRs, and we all know someone who is in one and says it’s totally worth it, they’re super in love, blah blah, blah. Come on, you’re not fooling anyone. We all know you’re actually miserable and it’s slowly killing you.

Believe it or not, years ago, I used to be one of these unfortunate people. But then I stepped back and was finally honest with myself: this sucks, no one is happy, and it’s just not working.

Short term, LDRs can be bearable. Maybe it’s just a summer apart while one of you has an internship in another state. But any longer than that, and you’re playing with fire. Texting, emails, and Skype dates will never be able to imitate or replace the human touch.

Absence doesn’t really make the heart grow fonder—it breeds jealousy and resentment. You both will become a crazy people who think things like, “Who is that bitch who just wrote on his Facebook wall? Why did he cancel our Skype date last week?” or “Who is that guy with her in that photo from tailgating? Why hasn’t she called me back?” Even if there are innocent explanations for these things (she lives on his floor, he has a midterm tomorrow, that’s her cousin, whatever), is the stress and suspicion during what is supposed to be the best four years of your life really worth it?

Do you realize how much you’re missing out on by driving across the state every weekend or staying in to talk on the phone all night? And very importantly: does anyone actually derive pleasure from phone intimacy?

Just because you’ve been with someone for a long time doesn’t mean you’re going to be with them forever. Maybe you two really are super in love, and if so, that’s great. But if you’re going to try making it work, you have to be prepared to face the facts: LDRs do not work out often, and when they end, it’s a mess.

They do not end in being friends with your ex, or at least being able to tolerate them if you were at the same party, or best case scenario, still hooking up when you’re both in town. No, LDRs almost always end in fiery explosions of hating the other person and crying in the fetal position.

Staying with someone because it’s comfortable and safe is one of the worst things you can do. “Comfortable” can quickly bleed into “boring”, which is right across the street from “get me out of here”. And thinking that you’ll never in the rest of your life meet anyone as great as this person is just ridiculous.

There are so many amazing people out there, you’d never have the time to date them all, even if you tried. But you’d never know any of that if you didn’t get off Skype and find out for yourself.

Don’t be one of those sad and sorry people who look back and regret that they didn’t get out of a time-sucking, fun-sucking long distance relationship sooner.

No one likes listening to those people. Not even bartenders.

http://uweekly.com/article/long-distance-relationships-just-say-no-to-5685/

yhemite: and wat if u are together 4 nw, but schooling,work or smthing worthwhile take him or her away.... people have problem shaaaa... believing they must get wat dey want at all time... what if u marry military men? or dont they get married? wat of scholars,bussiness men and govt officials who could travel for months...the message is know the kind of person u are...dont advice others that its as bad as u think...we have wives that dont see ther husband for years and dont hang themselves but rather keeping it cool with there children and helping to build the home front..so if all u care about is a man or woman that would hug u every morning,have sex with u all day or those that wolud tell u all those unclad sweet words in these world..then u are missing it..God helps!!!!!!!!!

CrazyMan: @topic
The op should stop comparing her failed relationship with others.

That it didn't work for you shouldn't make you conclude its a folly.

gulfer: LDR or SDR, none is worth it if the other party is untrue to the relationship; that's my take on this.

rokiatu: I can see people in it are all getting so mad. hahahhahahahaaa

I won't say mad. I'd rather say exposing the ignorance of those who tried it and failed due to their lack of knowledge and technical "know how" on making it work and are now blaming their sorrows on others. . .

rokiatu: STFU!!! What made u think I had a failed relationship just because I have an opnion?

rokiatu: I understand luv. Been there done it. I wouldn't wish it upon my enemy thats all. Good luck mate.

rokiatu: You guys are really stoopid and clueless to jump to such conclusion.....I don't want to bring my relationahip online so ya all can continue being cueless.

sexkillz: ^The only i-diot here is you. . . Aren't you supposed to be married? Why are you still crying over a failed relationship?

rokiatu: In-fact is a miracle am still alive, I hope I [/brecovery. I should have committed suicide.

rokiatu: Thanks for your concern.

rokiatu:

I understand luv. Been there done it. I wouldn't wish it upon my enemy thats all. Good luck mate.

rokiatu:

The biggest ediot is you for thinking I had a failed relationship.

CrazyMan:
I could bring flowers if you wish. That's if you aren't allergic to them.

sexkillz: You were saying?


The relationship didn't fail, yet, you wouldn't recommend it for your enemy. . . Yeah right. I also saw a pig flying.

CrazyMan:
I could bring flowers if you wish. That's if you aren't allergic to them.

sexkillz: Make sure the flowers are not from a long distance. . .

CrazyMan:
Thanks for the tip bro...short distance flowers it.

rokiatu:

hahahaha lol lol lol again. LMAO!!!!

Everytime you are caught in your own lies, you laugh. I wish everyone could be like you. Just laugh and accept your folly instead of having baseless, watery, pathetic and very weak defences. . . I like your concept.

rokiatu: naaa chocolate will do.

CrazyMan:
There isn't any short distance chocolate left...and I wouldn't want to make you sad by giving you the long distance once...how about some short distance flowers.

They smell fresh...you would love it.

sexkillz: Everytime you are caught in your own lies, you laugh. I wish everyone could be like you. Just laugh and accept your folly instead of having baseless, watery, pathetic and very weak defences. . . I like your concept.

rokiatu: Send chocolate bro that will be much better. You see flowers remind me of him. He used to always bring me flowers during his two weeks visit.


Better still, send a sympathy card or a "get well soon" card. Thank you in advance.

CrazyMan:
Ok...I would do that...you should stop crying.

In the mean time you can send me a pm on how I should give you your desired card.

Thank you in advance