Just incase there is someone out there including the original poster who is trying to conceive and actually trying to deal with all the real life issues that attack your marriage while infertility persists pls, log out now! Go to www.google .com , search for TTC websites 2011 you will find real help from humanbeings who mean baby dust when they say baby dust and not bitter and angry women fighting over someone elses tears and throwing 'sand - sand' In my eyes in the name of baby dust!!! I am disgusted to say the least. What are they bandying words about?I quit. Mscheeeeeeew

@OP :When you are trying to conceive, you say yes to a lot of things your man does for a lot of reasons that only another woman trying to conceive can understand. Hang in there honey. I absolutely know what you are going through. Hang in there hang in there hang in there, Try hard to let the resentment go. Pray, be strong, tell him you love him if you still do, overlook his faults but don't let him hurt you anymore. Do not let yourself get hurt physically. Cry if you cant bear the pain, then sit up and restrategise about how to get the child you need so much. You are not alone when it comes to failed fertility treatments. Did you know you were as strong as you are now?
Against hope , believe in hope. Keep your eyes on the goal. don't allow the fear of him seeking sex outside make you say yes all the time. It will not stop him if he is the type that cant wait. Be grateful for the times you have been pregnant, sweetie be grateful. Some will give anything to take home a positive pregnancy test just for a day. Be glad. One day, you will be fine. Some stay long in this tunnel, some are lucky and they find light soon. Some eventually have children after the marriage is long lost and the joy of pregnancy becomes a bitter sweet pill to swallow. But whichever way it goes, take it from a fellow traveller Life is 10 percent what happens to us and 90 percent how we react to it.
The bible says:This is the confidence we have in Him that If we ask anything according to his will he hears us. so hang in there!!!

22, that sure was the last time i knew exactly why,what,where,how,when,if, 22 it is!

I hope i'm not too late to encourage you follow your heart.All the advise in the world wont stop you being who you are, besides almost all the girls between the ages of 18 and upwards in higher in institutions are dating or seeking a married man to date. Follow your mind, its your time and God is so merciful so why not have fun and stop asking silly questions puhleaaaaase and thank you

@ harakiri. Naughty naughty u shouldn't let ur shrink get so carried away laughing u know I forgot to tell u that last comment is the last dose of ur medicine. U may wanna swallow it with a tankard of whatever it is u've been quaffing!!!!!

:Awwwwwww, seriously, feel free to express the hurt dude. I ve read that it helps at least a bit! . Still ROFLOL.

@harakiri: ROFLOL. Dude u ve got it real baaaaaad! Pele ti e oooooooooo.I can't shout abegx4

Harakiri. I'm not surprised dat ur mind cannot fathom a woman who never prayed or wished for a rich man.what kind of women have u been interacting with ? I get it the common every day type right? Well I am different and there are many like me!.my mum obviously did a good job. Ur comment reminds of a day in UI when a female fresher was said to have been raped on a quiet street and in a discussion with fellow freshers I said it was so sad that the girl (we heard she was about 16 yrs old) would have lost her viginity to a rapist and every one laughed , a sixteen year old virgin?? Yea there are real women like me . Pray for one sugar but I doubt u can treat one well!

The real issue here is centred around a male human being who has his priorities misplaced . Unfortunately the world is full of them: those waiting for ministry and those making politics a full time job, @

@ original poster!!! Pray my dear pray and do something to hold the fort while waiting for him to change his ways.

Honestly I  feel for you, I do not believe in depending on a man for everything. I never prayed to marry a rich man .I always hoped that my years of suffering to get an education would yield a good job that would pull me out of the pit without connections and I was blessed to have that happen. I'm wondering what kind of single woman you were!
Two weeks ago I heard two able bodied young women 'spirikoko christians like me' praying Oh God let ministry feed us, let ministry clothe us, let minstry enrich us, let ministry favour us, I thought Mscheeeeeeew!!!!!
1.I'm sorry but ur command of english language shows that u still need to do some more self improvement and honey if u set ur heart to it u can and u should
2.I spent years in d midst of people who have so gotten carried away with the presence of God and the manifestation of annointing and the various gifts and callings of God that they forget that he who does not work should not eat u probably knew who he was before u married him but u were probably  very spiritual and ready to support his calling I assume, its time now to admit that u are a christian there's nothing like divorce for you
3.He's ur man u must not ridicule him, u had  better pray my dear. We must live with the consequences of our mistakes and while u manage him please pray pray pray ask GOd to forgive ur wrong assumptions (I think) but pray oo because nothing kills marriage like those two things Money problems and absence of children!
4.If u are lucky he will modify on time (I hope he has employable skills) otherwise it may be a long long road and u have got to be ready for the worst while waiting for your prayers to be answered. Be nice to him o, smile pet him encourage him hmm I feel for you but its your bed u must lie on it .

, what exactly is negative in refering to Nigeria as Naija? Pettyness in government is distasteful but coming from Prof. Dora Akunyili i am inclined to call it misguided passion. She's like a mother who loves you so much and wants you to do everything exactly as she suggests .However, just as that technique doesn't work at home, it can't work in government, i assume that's one of the reasons why people in government should also have people on their team who help them filter their passions in the sieve of rationality,common sense, common good, public opinion and Neccessity.

Naija for life!!!!!!!

i suggest you call this number 08033767991 and ask the guy, he is in charge if recruitments or can tell u what to do. if u like u could go to agbeloba house in abeokuta thats the head office.

I believe you are trying to help and thats really nice because i do know how it hurts to find that almost every job you want to apply for has an age limit pegged below your present age and the clock just keeps ticking. However i am one of those Nigerians who believe that this country can be changed for good one person at a time. Therefore drop the idea it aint worth it.

HI alesh first im wonderin if ive met u does RCF ui ring any bells well i salute ur courage to have done nysc in sokoto and i heard theres a bank in nigeria who has a disabled top gun im not sure which one but that means you can be wht ever u wanna be after all, u have come this far. i agree that u shd delete ur ability status from ur cv until u get to be at an interview also make sure u are not markd out at test venues dont mind that some pple just dont know that stuff like that doesnt matter so they wont even let u pass the test even if u cld pass it therfore,make sure u dont get marked out at test venues wen called.

Congratulations, im still checking but im also trying to set out on my own maybe i can move faster that way