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tEsLim:
And btw only wear white golds , dont know why maybe cos I'm black. And I usually have a feeling people wont tink whtie gold is gold and wont look at me putting on something luxurious. Cos anything yellow even if its fake will be looked and in naija that could get you mugged. But gotta love 'em black diamonds

White gold ain't worth it cuz it looks much like silver. But you will like it if they put little grain of it on yellow gold. I can easily differentiate between fake and genuine gold. A fake gold doesn't last more than 2 weeks. A fake gold can be easily spotted by someone that is relevant to gold thingy. A fake gold when felt with your palm will be making some 'woroworo' sound( sorry for unavailable adjective to qualify it). It is lighter, i mean very lighter. The same way it goes down with china phones Besides, how can a man of status be wearing fake yellow gold, it's crazy. I love diamond-black diamond. I pre-ordered 14k black diamond last month though, its J&Co black diamond watch. 14k diamond. It weighs 130g.

tEsLim:
Well
I wear black diamonds on both ears. Choose black because they dont shine and attract attention and not the big ones too. Dont do it at home anymore I have two sons , I think I maybe influencing them early. When I'm away / abroad I wear my studs. I love them and really dont want being a father to get in the way. Btw I used to be into entertainment and still love entertainment biz reason I'm opening a night club soon. No cubic zircons real diamond

Nice one there dude. Show them what exposure is I like black diamond and 22k gold earings with some mix of white gold. But I do like 100g gold chain thingy on my neck. 40g on wrist. 32g rings. Talk about fashion

lefulefu:
ok u tattoo your yansh,your prick,your balls,even your scalp and armpit and u pierce your nose and your lips.oya clap 4 ursef

Ignoring you is the best thing dude. Be free cuz your life is freaking short. Be free till you go into extinct. Our lives is short baby Listening to chingy 'right thurr'

Myne White:
Yes, and it is a crime called violation

And when your husband start denying you sex for like 3 weeks, what do you do? Some masturbation My women satisfies me so much, that is the key reason I don't look out. Even when she doesn't feel like, once I ask her, she will be ready, she doesn't complain. And she satisfies me as well. One of the reasons I hate those Ajebos

sexkillz:
[color=#000055][size=14pt]Yeah! When you are violating her, make she hurt's real bad! And dont stop till she goes limp!. . . The law is solidly behind you! [/size][/color]

hmm, hey, oga sexskillz, una don marry? If you've not married, please suspend this thread for now. Women, start denying your husbands sex, nice girls dey outside, I mean nice ones

• What is Buddhism?

Buddhism is a religion to about 300 million people around the world. The word comes from 'budhi', 'to awaken'. It has its origins about 2,500 years ago when Siddhartha Gotama, known as the Buddha, was himself awakened (enlightened) at the age of 35.

• Is Buddhism a Religion?

To many, Buddhism goes beyond religion and is more of a philosophy or 'way of life'. It is a philosophy because philosophy 'means love of wisdom' and the Buddhist path can be summed up as:

(1) to lead a moral life,
(2) to be mindful and aware of thoughts and actions, and
(3) to develop wisdom and understanding.

• How Can Buddhism Help Me?

Buddhism explains a purpose to life, it explains apparent injustice and inequality around the world, and it provides a code of practice or way of life that leads to true happiness.

• Why is Buddhism Becoming Popular?

Buddhism is becoming popular in western countries for a number of reasons, The first good reason is Buddhism has answers to many of the problems in modern materialistic societies. It also includes (for those who are interested) a deep understanding of the human mind (and natural therapies) which prominent psychologists around the world are now discovering to be both very advanced and effective.

• Who Was the Buddha?

Siddhartha Gotama was born into a royal family in Lumbini, now located in Nepal, in 563 BC. At 29, he realised that wealth and luxury did not guarantee happiness, so he explored the different teachings religions and philosophies of the day, to find the key to human happiness. After six years of study and meditation he finally found 'the middle path' and was enlightened. After enlightenment, the Buddha spent the rest of his life teaching the principles of Buddhism — called the Dhamma, or Truth — until his death at the age of 80.

• Was the Buddha a God?

He was not, nor did he claim to be. He was a man who taught a path to enlightenment from his own experience.

• Do Buddhists Worship Idols?

Buddhists sometimes pay respect to images of the Buddha, not in worship, nor to ask for favours. A statue of the Buddha with hands rested gently in its lap and a compassionate smile reminds us to strive to develop peace and love within ourselves. Bowing to the statue is an expression of gratitude for the teaching.

• Why are so Many Buddhist Countries Poor?

One of the Buddhist teachings is that wealth does not guarantee happiness and also wealth is impermanent. The people of every country suffer whether rich or poor, but those who understand Buddhist teachings can find true happiness.

• Are There Different Types of Buddhism?

There are many different types of Buddhism, because the emphasis changes from country to country due to customs and culture. What does not vary is the essence of the teaching — the Dhamma or truth.

• Are Other Religions Wrong?

Buddhism is also a belief system which is tolerant of all other beliefs or religions. Buddhism agrees with the moral teachings of other religions but Buddhism goes further by providing a long term purpose within our existence, through wisdom and true understanding. Real Buddhism is very tolerant and not concerned with labels like 'Christian', 'Moslem', 'Hindu' or 'Buddhist'; that is why there have never been any wars fought in the name of Buddhism. That is why Buddhists do not preach and try to convert, only explain if an explanation is sought.

• Is Buddhism Scientific?

Science is knowledge which can be made into a system, which depends upon seeing and testing facts and stating general natural laws. The core of Buddhism fit into this definition, because the Four Noble truths (see below) can be tested and proven by anyone in fact the Buddha himself asked his followers to test the teaching rather than accept his word as true. Buddhism depends more on understanding than faith.

• What did the Buddha Teach?

The Buddha taught many things, but the basic concepts in Buddhism can be summed up by the Four Noble Truths and the Noble Eightfold Path.

• What is the First Noble Truth?

The first truth is that life is suffering i.e., life includes pain, getting old, disease, and ultimately death. We also endure psychological suffering like loneliness frustration, fear, embarrassment, disappointment and anger. This is an irrefutable fact that cannot be denied. It is realistic rather than pessimistic because pessimism is expecting things to be bad. lnstead, Buddhism explains how suffering can be avoided and how we can be truly happy.

• What is the Second Noble Truth?

The second truth is that suffering is caused by craving and aversion. We will suffer if we expect other people to conform to our expectation, if we want others to like us, if we do not get something we want,etc. In other words, getting what you want does not guarantee happiness. Rather than constantly struggling to get what you want, try to modify your wanting. Wanting deprives us of contentment and happiness. A lifetime of wanting and craving and especially the craving to continue to exist, creates a powerful energy which causes the individual to be born. So craving leads to physical suffering because it causes us to be reborn.

• What is the Third Noble Truth?

The third truth is that suffering can be overcome and happiness can be attained; that true happiness and contentment are possible. lf we give up useless craving and learn to live each day at a time (not dwelling in the past or the imagined future) then we can become happy and free. We then have more time and energy to help others. This is Nirvana.

• What is the Fourth Noble Truth?

The fourth truth is that the Noble 8-fold Path is the path which leads to the end of suffering.

• What is the Noble 8-Fold Path?

In summary, the Noble 8-fold Path is being moral (through what we say, do and our livelihood), focussing the mind on being fully aware of our thoughts and actions, and developing wisdom by understanding the Four Noble Truths and by developing compassion for others.

• What are the 5 Precepts?

The moral code within Buddhism is the precepts, of which the main five are: not to take the life of anything living, not to take anything not freely given, to abstain from sexual misconduct and sensual overindulgence, to refrain from untrue speech, and to avoid intoxication, that is, losing mindfulness.

• What is Karma?

Karma is the law that every cause has an effect, i.e., our actions have results. This simple law explains a number of things: inequality in the world, why some are born handicapped and some gifted, why some live only a short life. Karma underlines the importance of all individuals being responsible for their past and present actions. How can we test the karmic effect of our actions? The answer is summed up by looking at (1) the intention behind the action, (2) effects of the action on oneself, and (3) the effects on others.

• What is Wisdom?

Buddhism teaches that wisdom should be developed with compassion. At one extreme, you could be a goodhearted fool and at the other extreme, you could attain knowledge without any emotion. Buddhism uses the middle path to develop both. The highest wisdom is seeing that in reality, all phenomena are incomplete, impermanent and do no constitute a fixed entity. True wisdom is not simply believing what we are told but instead experiencing and understanding truth and reality. Wisdom requires an open, objective, unbigoted mind. The Buddhist path requires courage, patience, flexibility and intelligence.

• What is Compassion?

Compassion includes qualities of sharing, readiness to give comfort, sympathy, concern, caring. In Buddhism, we can really understand others, when we can really understand ourselves, through wisdom.

• How do I Become a Buddhist?

Buddhist teachings can be understood and tested by anyone. Buddhism teaches that the solutions to our problems are within ourselves not outside. The Buddha asked all his followers not to take his word as true, but rather to test the teachings for themselves. ln this way, each person decides for themselves and takes responsibility for their own actions and understanding. This makes Buddhism less of a fixed package of beliefs which is to be accepted in its entirety, and more of a teaching which each person learns and uses in their own way.

Prepared by Brian White 1993, with thanks to Ven S. Dhammika.

Acidosis:
No comment from a lady so far. This shows how lazy African ladies are, always want to be house [b]wives[/b]helps. I know most of them must have read this comments but all they could do is to 'wish' they get hooked up to a blessed man like Mr. Jarus with a dream.
African Ladies wake up!! I wish all ladies can get there own car from their own earn money before marriage. Come to think of it, is it a crime?

werepeLeri:
Over 200 people read my comment and Jarus kind reply, and my discussion with him that follows, until you brought your God forsaken mouth to run down something that has been peaceful. The likes of you just shows your animalistic tendencies without being provoked.

Like I said, your Mum should have saved the world the likes of you by washing you away with that menstrual period of hers that resulted into your being.

Animal. Like I said- Mark this day, if you ever ever finish what you started this year, call me more names you like. You need be thought a lesson that you dont just go abusing and cursing people without reason.

werepeLeri:
Whats wrong with people like you? Where did i criticise? and where is the show off. You are simply a wasted sp erm, and may all your curses go back to you - silly you called me and you called me a mother fu cker. For what reason? Jarus - did you take my comment as a criticism? You are simply a wasted s perma to zoa. Your mother could have just washed you with her monthly menstrual period - and for your information, you are a bastard. You are one of those eeediots who makes Nairaland bad. and i swear, for this un warranted curse against me, whatever you start this year shall never, i repeat never be completed. Mark it.

Jarus- i am sure we spoke well before this menstrual waste came in.

spyder880:
^^^^ my brother I no be Oga, that exalted position is left for Baba fhemmmy, ihebrooke, lawyer etc. Me am a fellow learner and am enjoying and learning from the experience of Jarus.

I wish I could have you as my supervisor Mr Spyder880, but Enugu is quite far . That my supervisor too like money

Jarus:
Lessons:

1, Just start, don't procrastinate. I almost regret procrastinating for too long before starting. I remember asking on this section of NL in 2009 about what it costs to build a house. I however gained something useful from one of the responses as it was through this section that I got a link to a website that did a fine analysis of how 2.5m can do a house, which fired me up, even though I got to realize it can't.

2, You are most likely to spend above your budget, if not due to anything, because of changing prices of building materials. In addition to that, a factor that swelled up my own cost is changing taste. I kept tinkering with the original plan and idea almost at every stage. My plan was, with 3.5m max, I will finish the whole house to painting and finishing, but today I have spent 3.6m and it's just around 60% completed. From the look of things, by the time I finish(painting plus finishing), I may have spent 6m. To bring it to my final desired shape (interlocking compound, mosque, car port, shop, fencing etc), I don't see myself spending less than 8m. From initial plan of 2.5m to 8m! That's how it is! But never be discouraged, just start, even if with 500k!

3, You can hardly escape being short-changed, no matter the level of supervision, and it is worse if you're sending money from Lagos like me. I learnt some bags of cement disappeared unaccounted for from my site. I also suspect most of the prices being told me are inflated. I may have lost close to 500k on these things, but they played their game so well, and I'm also not somebody that finds faults, especially when I don't have concrete evidence. So I just do some shouting on phone and leave them.

My broda, nice quote there. However, building a house is like bringing a baby up, you can never estimate the exact amount you are going to spend on it, but you can always guess almost right. My brother, you're doing something great and may God see you through. I will pat you on the back if you can successfully build a 3 bedroom flat with 2 self-contained bqs with 8mil. My brother, you have a great taste, abeg be looking at 13 million .