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Its a shame how we indirectly support BH...you are happy when they say BH are killing NA so you can blame GEJ and PDP,is this supposed to be a political issue?people are being killed daily,some soldiers will never come back home,I've personally lost a friend who is an officer in borno and I get annoyed when people make this a political issue,maybe you'll know that terrorism won't do us(Nigeria)any good when someone you know is dead
And Sahara reporters and co that are quick to say how BH is killing people and are never talking about the soldiers risking their lives to make the country safe,I hope you don't end up destroying the north with your propaganda broadcasting

jennylove7575: Marriage is boring..... Its a never ending routine and I hate routines..eg. Papa and mama will go to work in the morning, children in school, then sex at night. It goes on and on as a continual process...plus most family men are boring, they forbid to do things that could spice up the marriage.why because, the available fun that could spice up marriages might cause their wives unnecessary exposures to the attractions of other men, so they would selfishly think...this is where marriage begins to seem like a coffin... I am a lively person I hate boring things and love adventures... For me, Cohabitation is the best.

Oya let's cohabit

I have really being touched by the answers am geting,I wish this could make front page so many people can contribute to this.....we are fast becoming a country of broken marriages and homes and its reflecting on our society

makazona: Because of over westernisation
Marriage failure is prevalent more in Western countries.so because we borrow alot from them,we also infect ourselves with same "factory-fitted/follow-come" wahala of marriage failure.

solution:LET THE AFRICAN MENTALITY GUIDE US(with God of course)

I totally agree with you my brother

Am really disturbed with the rate at which people are dissolving their marriages this days,check any news site and you'll see atleast 2 issues of wife taking husbands to court and vice versa......this has become a trent and even high profile cases are being recorded too...I for onces is not a fan of a single parent raising Children
I think this has to do with our being unfaithful with our Boyfriends/Girlfriends,this habit we eventually take into our marriage thereby leading to its downfall,what do you think is the cause of this worrying trend?

olrotimi: in The Game's voice: "excuse me, is you saying something?............"

You long for attention bro,am not giving you that,have better things to do

olrotimi: sorry mate, am browsing with ma laptop..........but this girl thing dey pain you ooo. did she snub you back then? or you were one of the many guys who saw her in your dreams. Why you dey drink amoxiclav for the gals infection?

Snubedhahahaha
I don't sEe ladies in my dream for your info,I see money and I don't see why you are so pained over a lady you don't know
Try watching a movie on that laptop instead of showing everybody how pained you are nigga.

hotwax: They mostly end up like that.

It happened to me. I was chasing this chick (in her 25) few years ago, she used me do yanga.

I later met a younger (21) who is ready to marry me.

My madam is now back after wasting 4 years of her life.

She is now even a born again christian preaching to me. Very caring and always know how am doing? She even bought cake on my birthday with a pair of shoe.

SHe is just wasting her time. I wont even consider her for a se_x mate. SHe is close to 30 now.

When they are young, they always think they are hot gold in the market till they realize their shops are scanty .....

Thats when you see them in the church.

That's it my brother,they always forget they have a time limit

olrotimi: ?? ?? so what have you jus said now? Is it by how well to do the earlier suitors were compared to her current bf or if she had interest in them. Na by force for gurl to follow any tom dick & harry who asks her out?

If you don't understand what I've just said,scroll up and read again,if you still don't,well....drop your phone and do something else

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Yah,I just can't conclude my dear,but for a girl who said 5yrs ago that she can't marry a guy who doesn't have a car and not just any type of car sef,am sure she's disappointed in her self

hannesy: Owk,will comment after my exam

All the best if you are really writing an exam

Yesterday they announced a wedding in my Church and the Ladyoh she's someone we all know in the Church,she has turned down a lot of suitors back then,cos she felt time was still on her side and they all weren't her ideal type of men....fast forward a lil bit and she started coming for prayers for single ladies who wanted Husband and I was like this was what she could have had on a platter of gold,well am happy for her,atleats now she's getting married but to a guy that doesn't even match up to the ones she turned down some years ago.....Common Swallow the pride..Man no dey Old o

Yesterday they announced a wedding in my Church and the Ladyoh she's someone we all know in the Church,she has turned down a lot of suitors back then,cos she felt time was still on her side and they all weren't her ideal type of men....fast forward a lil bit and she started coming for prayers for single ladies who wanted Husband and I was like this was what she could have had on a platter of gold,well am happy for her,atleats now she's getting married but to a guy that doesn't even match up to the ones she turned down some years ago.....Common Swallow the pride..Man no dey Old o

WoodcrestMayor: Figures might av been inflated...but u and I know owning one isn't bean.If it was beans d tin for don turn water now.Besides,I posted that not just cos of dis thread but cos of wat u get nowadays on nairaland.
Now get your a$$ outside...*in grandpa freeman's voice*

I agree with you nigga,sometimes I go tru comments on nairaland to entertain mysef

WoodcrestMayor: With all the education we acquire in dis country,we av a drawback-our delibrate neglect of facts.Even wen d figures are right there in front of us,we turn blind eyes to them.
If u are a well informed,well rounded literate,you don't even need to be told that he can't afford one.Aware of this deficieny,the OP showed some level of magnanimity by analyzing d financial implications of owning a PJ(private jet).Yet,all some pple can talk abt is "hating"...smh.Some still maintain he acquired it-i bow for una o!
Education isn't just about the four walls of a classroom.It's a synergy of a number of factors(school,environment,exposure and willingness to learn).
Nairaland is full of literates(they can read and write) but the nature of comments I read day in day out suggests there are fewer
educated peeps.

That he posted figures doesn't mean they are accurate Uncle Ruckus,infact,all the figures he posted where inflated,Davido might not be able to afford it cos I dnt knw hw much he's worth but,OP gave alota false info.......RILEY signing out

OP,quit being a liar,maintaining a private jet doesn't cost 400million per year.
Davido maybe able to maintain a private jet depending on who is insuring the private jet for him and the last time someone I know got one,the amount he mentioned wasn't as much as you said,OBO's dad is a billionaire by the way,STOP INFLATING FIGURES,I just confirmed that it cost 82.5million to maintain a private jet annually,that's for business men that travel always...So chill bro

Negotiator Dr. Stephen Davis believes Boko Haram might make a move to establish contact with the world terrorist groups Al Shabaab and the Islamic State of Iraq and Syria (ISIS) and alleges the insurgents are sponsored by some Nigerian politicians.
Steven Davis. Photo: Yahoo
According to Punch, while Al Shabaab has taken over most of Southern Somalia in 2006, the Iraqi ISIS along with Al-Qaeda is considered the most violent Jihadist group in the world.
Experts continue comparing Boko Haram strategy with the one of the most dreaded international terrorist groups and now Davis, allegedly secretly hired by President Goodluck Jonathan in the past to negotiate on the release of Chibok girls, comments on the sect tactics.
Who is Dr. Stephen Davis?
The 63-year-old Australian expert had acted as a negotiator not only in the Chibok issue, but also as an adviser for Olusegun Obasanjo and Shehu Yar’Adua. Davis spent 4 intense months in the North-East and his life was subject to extreme danger while he tried to rescue more than 200 school girls kidnapped by Boko Haram on April 14. He returned with rare footage of the intense fighting in the region, Yahoo recalls.
Expert about Boko Haram moves and sponsors
With a PhD in political geography and years of experience behind, Davis in a recent interview with Radio Australia explained that the main aim for the Nigerian authorities was now to block Boko Haram funding and find its sponsors, alleging that some banks and politicians are among them. Davis said that many of the insurgency sponsors were in the opposition adding that the President should try to prosecute them, which would be hard though.
Related: Boko Haram Insurgents Relocate From Sambisa
“That makes it easier in some ways as they can be arrested, but of course the onus of proof is high and many are in opposition, so if the President moves against them, he would be accused of trying to rig the elections due early next year. So, I think this (insurgency) will run through to the election unabated. These politicians think that if they win power they can turn these terrorists off, but this has mutated. It’s no longer a case of Muslims purifying by killing off Christians. They are just killing indiscriminately, beheading, disembowelling people – men, women and children and whole villages.”
He added however that the dreaded Nigerian sect is gradually getting out of its sponsors’ control and aims at linking up with the infamous world terrorist groups.
“Terror groups are linking up in Somalia, southern Sudan, Egypt and we have fairly strong evidence they are talking with ISIS members. They will link up with ISIS and Al Shabaab and I think that what we are seeing in that region is the new homeland of radical Islam in the world.”

When a date goes awry, it’s easy to get caught up in disappointment and question what could have made it successful. Sometimes it’s just not in the stars for you and your date, but other times you may be unintentionally sabotaging any future chances. Here are the top 10 mistakes that could keep you from getting a second date:
1)Interrogating the other person.It’s a date, not an interview. While it’s important to ask questions and appear interested, it’s also important not to go overboard. Make sure to talk about yourself after you have asked a few questions in a row.
2)Over-emphasizing serious topics.It’s good to get a little deeper and discuss relationship issues, just make sure to keep it light and have some fun — especially in the beginning.
3)Picking a loud or uncomfortable date spot.Be careful where you pick to meet up. It’s okay to hit up a fun, hip bar or restaurant, but consider meeting for a drink somewhere quiet at first. When you meet for the first time, it is so important to be able to simply hear each other to avoid miscommunication. There’s nothing worse than playing the “What?” game on a first date.
4)Being rude. Always try to be polite– offer to hold doors and pull out chairs. Be respectful to the waiting staff. You never get a second chance at a first impression.
5)Don’t look at the TV during your date.Yes, this actually happens, plenty of bars and restaurants have giant, juicy flatscreens on, but don’t let your eyes wander — it shows disinterest even if you really are interested!
6)Being silent.Having topics or questions prepared can ease any awkward tension or fill any conversational lulls, keeping you from being a boring date.
7) Sharing your opinions as facts — and not opinions. If your date asks about your favorite type of music, instead of responding with “Rock is the best, everything else is bad,” respond with “Personally I enjoy rock but would love to hear your thoughts.” Be engaging!
Negative body language. Make eye contact, and don’t check out people of the opposite s*x (this is a no-brainer). You’re here to get to know your date, and eyeing other people will make him or her question your interest.
9)Getting drunk!It’s cool to go out for a drink, not twelve. Your focus should be on getting to know your date, and that’s hard to do when you’ve had too much to drink.
10) Inviting friends. Don’t invite friends, or suggest a meeting with your friends for the first encounter. It’s all about judging chemistry and connection, and your date shouldn’t have to compete for your attention during your first meeting.

I remember my first love,we where both in JSS3 and we were best of friends,after our junior Waec,we were together every blessed day,thesame Teens choir,we simply enjoyed each others company....but I never asked her out cos I was Scared of losing her,you know she might say we re too young and she won't be free with me again
Fastforward to Now,We are both in our Final Year,she has a guy now and I have a girl too but we still keep in touch,we still talk about old times and hw we are used to each other,we still blame ourseves for not dating each other.....we still love each other,They problem is,Are we ever gon date,is it True that whatever belongs to you will surely come back to you sooner or Later

The mediator spoke about Boko Haram’s activities and the risks he faced in trying to rescue the Chibok girls..
An international adviser fromAustraliahas opened up on his dangerous 4-month stay in Nigeria.
63-year-oldStephen Davishas worked for 2 Nigerian presidents and established extensive contact with terrorist groups in Africa.
According to him, when he found out about the Chibok girls’ abduction, he made a decision to help. That decision almost cost him his life.
Davis said:
“When confronted by groups with an AK-47 in my face they’d say, ‘you are American, we have to kill you’,”. “When you say, no I’m not American, they think you are British, and say you will still die, but when I said I’m Australian, they said that’s all right. “I have no idea why but it’s certainly been helpful.”
“I made a few phone calls to the Boko Haram commanders and they confirmed they were in possession of the girls,” he said.
“They told me they’d be prepared to release some as a goodwill gesture towards a peace deal with the government, so I went to Nigeria on the basis of being able to secure their release.”
“The girls were there, 60 girls, there were 20 vehicles with girls,” he said.
“We travelled for four-and-a-half hours to reach them, but 15 minutes before we arrived they were kidnapped again by another group who wanted to cash in on a reward.
“The police had offered a reward of several million Naira just 24 hours before we went to pick them up.
“I understand, from the Boko Haram commanders I spoke to, the girls eventually ended up back with them. I don’t know what happened to the group that took them but I suspect it wasn’t good.”
“It became very clear that if I was able to get 50 girls released then another group would kidnap 70 or 80 more,” he said. “So by freeing 50 you were consigning 70 or 80 more to the same fate.”
“Boko Haram used to telephone Nigerian journalists and give them a story, but that doesn’t happen anymore,” “They go straight to social media. They post their own material and they’ve learnt to become very savvy on social media and use it as an instrument to terrorize.”
Dr. Davis added that the only way to stop Boko Haram is to cut off their funding, which according to him is majorly gotten from bank raids and Nigerian politicians.
“That makes it easier in some ways as they can be arrested, but of course the onus of proof is high and many are in opposition, so if the president moves against them, he would be accused of trying to rig the elections due early next year,” he said.
“So I think this will run through to the election unabated.
“These politicians think that if they win power they can turn these terrorists off, but this has mutated.
“It’s no longer a case of Muslims purifying by killing off Christians. They are just killing indiscriminately, beheading, disembowelling people – men, women and children and whole villages.
The over 200 girls kidnapped by Boko Haram on April 14 have still not been found

*in RileyFreeman's voice*Alot of guys are suffering from B*tch dependency that's why they do all this,expecially thanking a girl for accptn ur request on Fb...that's gay

Baddestguyp: op, d only message u passed across is dat a gal called u cute.
there is something called flattering. that's wat she did. I also do dat a lot to gals too.
no need to advertise urself, no offence

Advertise for who?you?I don't meet people on social media so no need to advertise and if na for complements,I get it daily even today sef,so chill bro.....no offense

TribalEAST: bros... thse hoes ain't loyal O!

Yes o,Hoes are never loyal

Tegababe: How did you no

Know what?

There are several neurochemical processes that occur during sex, which are the ‘glue’ to human bonding which is why breaking up from a sexual relationship is sometimes much more emotionally painful and much harder to forget than one that didn’t involve sex.
According to a report on Christian Post, neuropsychologist Dr. Tim Jennings said: “When you have premarital sex, your reward circuitry is bonded to them now, and it will be much deeper and hurtful. Oftentimes, in breakups of people who’ve been sexually active, they can’t tolerate the sense of emptiness, so they rush into another relationship.
The neuro circuits did not have time to reset, and so they’re impaired in their ability to bond with the next person, and they may become sexually active with them. This is just a repetitive cycle, and there are real impairments in bonding going on.”
“Knowing how these neurochemicals interact and change the brain help us understand why sex is meant (to be kept) within the boundaries of marriage.”
There are three powerful and important products released during sex between a man and a woman in a committed relationship which helps couples bond. These are theDopamine, Oxytocin and Vasopressin.
Dopamine, a powerful chemical is internal pleasure/reward system. When someone is involved sexually, it makes him or her want to repeat that act. Their brain produces lots of dopamine which is compared to heroin on the brain and when dopamine is involved, it changes how one remembers.
The other part is oxytocin, which is designed to mainly help one forget what is painful. Oxytocin is a hormone produced primarily in women’s bodies. When a woman has a child and she is breastfeeding, she produces lots of oxytocin, which bonds her to her child. For this reason, mothers will die for their child, because they’ve become emotionally bonded due to the oxytocin that is released when they’re skin-to-skin with their child. When a woman becomes intimate with a man, her body also releases Oxytocin and she becomes emotionally bonded to him.
“Have you wondered sometimes why a woman will stay with a man who’s abusing her? We know now, it’s because she bonds to him emotionally, because of the Oxytocin release during sex,” a report said.
On the other hand, men produce Vasopressin also referred to as the monogamy hormone, and it serves the same purpose as Oxytocin. It bonds a man to a woman.
Working together, the two hormones and one chemical produced by the human body during sex helps to bond a man and a woman together for long-term relationship but while these “bonding” agents are great for marriage relationships, they don’t work so well for dating relationships as they could cloud your objectivity when searching for a life partner. When they are introduced in casual sexual relationships, however, they can cause much trouble

panachuku: attention seeker,

Ur attention or whoz attention?

SwagPower: not trying 2 b hostile.... bt y has it become so hard 2 accept dt a guy is cute?...

Oya answer him

The Peoples Democratic Party (PDP) has received another political stalwart into its midst as Governor Olusegun Mimiko of Ekiti has decamped from the Labour Party (LP) to the PDP.
The move was reportedly concluded yesterday, August 22, 2014 and has been confirmed by chieftains of both parties.
The Commissioner of Information in the state, Kayode Akinmade said that as a result of “serious pressure from the leadership of the PDP before and after the Osun governorship election, the governor is still consulting with stakeholders across the country on this.”
“For now, the governor is still in Labour Party even if he will eventually move he cannot take a unilateral decision on this matter,’’
Mimiko’s defection comes barely a week after the former Chairman of the Economic and Financial Crimes Commission (EFCC), Nuhu Ribadu also joined the PDP after leaving the All Progressives Congress (APC).
Femi-Fani Kayode also had a congratulatory message for his friend Governor Olusegun Mimiko.
SEE HIS TWEET BELOW

Djicemob: Cute indeed .Op can u re-edit ur post,lotta tenses mixed up wrongly.NB:I want people to take u serious that's why am giving u this advice.

Pick'em out let's see

[quote author=marieolae]nahhh nt at alll![/

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Oya naw

marieolae: yeah mehn.. Go crazy like AAAAHHHHHH

Lol,won't the craziness be boring without you?