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QueenSuccubus:

Who knows sha..This cud be the gal u been waiting for..

eh make I hear jor

QueenSuccubus:

Martin0 , come ooo...Somebori is looking for u

all these people sef eh

QueenSuccubus:



Hahahaahahahaa While the RED DEVILS are smiling from ear to ear

I wonder how it feels when my hubby gonna unleash his anger on my NUNU too every time his team loses ooo

I thought I will see her name to go ask her some few questions

ubunja:
this is your tomorrow bra

OK

That nigga deserve it, he wanna get down just like that!

dammmm greedy nigga, ar wish the girl a happy good time in their damn fuckedup life for allowing such greedy man to even seeing their panties!

then again that man should be arrested for posting their pics

ubunja:
i still pray his suffering is multiplied. guys like this are stubborn when we tell them truths and call us women-haters. then after marriage they surface with pathetic stories like this. serves him right. let him burn in his self-created hell.
martin0 you're next buddy.

hay nigga wha tha fucvk?

not married yet, and what made you believe am next?

After a few months or a few years in marriage, it is very common to start losing interest in your spouse. The marriage graph takes an unexpected downfall. You begin to notice your spouse’s character flaws and unpleasant mannerisms.


Arguments and disagreements compound and they sometimes end in near fights. You realize that the explosive sexual passion of the honeymoon is gone and you are beginning to be less and less sexually attracted to your spouse. You begin to doubt whether you made the right decision marrying him or her. You begin to question whether your spouse is the right person for you. A thick cloud of confusion envelopes your mind. You wonder if your spouse is feeling the same. You honestly love your spouse and dislike him or her at the same time.



Fear not. You are not alone and there is nothing wrong with your marriage. This is a normal but temporary phase that almost every marriage goes through. Don’t dismiss the temporary feelings but don’t make permanent decisions based on them. The unsustainable euphoric feelings of falling in love are gradually fading. A new and permanent phase of growing in love is beginning. From here going forward, feelings take the passenger seat and love for your spouse is driven by decisions, and not by feelings.


Whatever happens during this phase, do not quit or give up. Continue to choose to love your spouse and continue to choose to stay. Couples that survive this second phase of marriage often discover that the next phase of their marriage is more fulfilling than the first one, and divorce is not even an option.

TheUpsetGirl1:
this dude is always creating useless threads.. must he be ready before he says; I do? what if I have cash to sponsor everything? this is one of the reasons why we ladies need to strive to be independent


you're over doing it
freedom of speech doesn't mean you should say stupid things.

sorry to ask how old are you?
am just 10

it seems you don't understand the topic,

dammmm Nigerians

biacan:
This is so sweet

thank you, add me up let talk

If He Doesn't Have These 6 Qualities, He's Not Husband Material



Don't say "I do" until he proves he's ready.


Many women come to my email box asking for advice about their relationships, including questions about whether their partner has the qualities and characteristics needed to become a "successful husband."



This is clearly not a scientific question, as each individual has different taste, values, priorities and preferences. However, there are general qualities that make a man more appealing and desirable as a husband and more successful as a life partner. Here are seven qualities you should look for in a man before ever deciding to marry him.



1. He shares important core values with you

Values are those ‘rules of life’ that inherently guide the way you live your life. They're deeply rooted in personal beliefs that are fundamental to who you are. They're also very difficult to change.


Connecting on a spiritual, emotional and value level with a man you wish to marry is a key indicator for long-term marital success. When you and your partner know that you are on the "same page," you'll feel more confident that he's truly the man you want to marry.



When you both think ahead into the marriage and know you can respect each other’s perspective on important marital issues (such as family dynamics, child rearing, finance, in-laws, roles and responsibilities), you know you're making the right choice.



2. He's emotionally mature


A responsible, emotionally intelligent man who can control his impulses shows true maturity. As such, he likely has the capacity to deal with the change, disappointment, stress and conflict that life (and marriage) invariably bring.



A well-grounded man with a sense of balance can confront life and face ups (and especially downs) in a constructive way while remaining a resilient, supportive and engaging partner. Look for a man who can respond to a challenging issue responsibly, rather than react to it impulsively.


3. He appreciates you and accepts your shortcomings


The old saying "Happy wife, happy life!" is true and valid (and, it goes both ways, too ... "happy spouse" equals "happy house".


Appreciation goes a long way when creating a happy relationship. In fact, feeling appreciated is a primary quality of happy life. If you don’t feel appreciated or loved by your man, you're paddling into dangerous waters. But when he openly demonstrates his respect and appreciation for you (with his words and actions), you know you'll live a happy life with your man.


That said, while he appreciate your qualities (good cook, caring, social, engaged, supportive etc.), he should also accept your shortcoming (little messy, not so organized, talking a bit too much, not being on time etc.). He must deeply recognize and accept that no one is perfect (including him). His overall view of you should be positive.




4. He manages conflict well


Arguments, disagreements, and conflict are not only unavoidable parts of any relationship, but also are necessary ingredients to forming a strong, lasting intimacy.


Many couples communicate in a destructive way that leads to frustration, anger, and disconnection. Many other couples avoid having meaningful discussions at all to avoid fighting. But, healthy communication is the basis of any successful relationship.


One of the most important factors that helps couples thrive is their ability to deal with different conflicts, manage difficult emotions (such disappointment, frustration and anger), de-escalate arguments, and disagree with respect.


A man who shares his thoughts and feelings with you without reservation; a man who talks things out with you; a man who discuss difficult subjects with you and can disagree yet still come to some kind a resolution is a man who has healthy communication skills and will make a great husband.



5. He is trustworthy


Trust is another key foundation of an intimate relationship. Yet, it's important to understand that being trustworthy is a proactive role that requires a conscious effort, affirmed continuously by decision and actions.


When your man does what he is says; when your partner does not lie; when your spouse acts assertively and, most importantly, he's consistent with these positive qualities, then you know that your man is dependable and he will become a husband you can trust.



6. He makes your relationship a priority

A frequent complaint I hear from women in my counseling practice is: "I don’t think he cares about me or the relationship." Or, "He stays at work long hours or he prefers to spend time with his friends rather than with me."


Often, couples find themselves dealing with the daily routine and necessities of life only to find they're living parallel lives separated by a wide rift. They feel totally disconnected from each other.


To avoid this, couples must create positive shared experiences in order to still face the mundane, create nice memories and have something to look forward to.


Any man you someday marry should realize that relationships requires a commitment and constant effort/investment. It's important for a man not to neglect his woman. He can show interest in her life, plan a date nights, and create common interests and shared activities. When your man acts in that manner, you know you have the right partner.

hajoke2000:
peace..

OK am learning

hajoke2000:
shalom

eh weitin e mean ooo

hajoke2000:
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i did .

ok

vivypretty:
I love the independency of being single and not answerable to any guy.

looks cool

hajoke2000:
not all ladies are single ....

I don't think you understand the topic

Bbbbbbbbbbbb:

salute you

Being single isn’t something that anyone needs to be blaming anyone for — it’s not a disease or a character flaw; it’s actually a pretty awesome time in your life if you can manage to let go and just enjoy it.



But if we’re going to talk about accountability, here are 5 reasons single women shouldn’t blame themselves for not yet having found love:

1. YOU’RE NOT ENTIRELY IN CONTROL.



You — and what you want and the decisions you make — are one piece of the puzzle to you finding love. There are other pieces too, like the guys you come across and what they want and how they behave, or where you live and what dating culture is like today. It’s complicated. At some point though, all the pieces will fit together and suddenly it won’t feel complicated at all. Funny how that works. In the meantime, cut yourself some slack — you can’t blame yourself when you’re not totally in control —and let yourself enjoy the adventure of being single.


2. HOOKUP CULTURE DOESN’T HELP.


Finding a long term relationship is hard enough, let alone during a time when it’s all about the hookup. If you’re looking for something real, you have to work that much harder to find it. Of course, you can’t just stand there blaming the world for being tough — you have to rise to the challenge and make your life happen — but when every other guy wants something casual, it’s okay to acknowledge that there are factors which make it hard to find good guy. And it’s certainly not your fault if you’re still working around those challenges.


3. BEING SINGLE IS NECESSARY EDUCATION; DON’T HATE.


The experiences you’re having while you’re single — both the good and the bad — are preparing you for the relationship you’re looking for. Instead of blaming yourself for still being on your own, appreciate everything that’s happening, what you’re learning, and who you’re becoming. Don’t resent this time and blame yourself for it — in the end, you’ll see that it was the perfect amount of time for you to learn what you needed.


4. MALE COMMITMENT ANXIETY IS A REAL THING.


Let’s face it, hookup culture or not, men are hard to pin down. While our biological clocks make us want to settle down, their need for freedom makes them want to delay commitment. That clash is real and when you’re a single woman in your 20s and 30s, you experience it all the time. It sucks. But no worries — like we said above, at some point the pieces just come together… You’ll find a guy who’s ready, or who’s willing to get ready for you. It’ll happen. Until then, don’t blame yourself — as long as you’re doing your part and exercising good judgment, it’s okay to blame the game a little because the game can get really exhausting when there’s a clock thumping inside your head.


5. THE MORE AMAZING YOU ARE, THE HARDER IT IS.


There are tons of guys that would be great for the average girl but if you’re special, the number of men you can truly connect with gets smaller because you need a really unique guy. Until you find him — and you will — there will probably be some tough times, like when you think it’ll never happen, that he doesn’t exist, that your ship has sailed, that it’s all your fault. None of that is true. He’s out there and nothing you’ve done is keeping him from you… It’s just not easy for two really unique people to find each other. But there’s a magnetic pull that will eventually bring you together. And when it happens, whoa… It will be awesome.

lefulefu:
Martin Martin i dey gbadu ur post. I agree with ur third post.its wrong bullying ur wife and that could create resentment in her. But that one about always speaking calmly to her...ehm Martin0 sometimes u have to be a man. If ur wife do something wrong wey u no like u tell her how u feel.dont be scared dat if u will speak ur mind she will get offended. In short women respect men who are vocal. If d man is always keeping quiet or acts timid whenever his wife is around and is scared to talk to her if she's doing something wrong then such a wife go see u finish.likewise wives should also advice their husbands .everything should be do in love and not in malice sha.

I greet u
thanks

roarik:
i am not tall o and i am nt a dwarf [

hia chineke nna

roarik:
i am tall o

ha Na wa oooo

roarik:
my height

wow Na so u tall

roarik:

u add me

roarik:
oya ask

go my profile Carry my number add me for whatsapp it private

revontuli:
Edinburgh, Scotland during the Edwardian Era (early 1900's)

beg dey put before and after pics make i see biko

Lalas247:
dimpz where u at ..

cry cry

Twoclans:
The comments above sha.Sometimes I wonder the kind of women some men have dated in their life. Honestly it's not easy for a man to do half of the things the OP stated,if you are a matured man and you can do one third of the things above your woman will worship the ground you walk on.

But then I tell you most solemnly it not easy for a man to achieve one third . .

Then again when you do all that as a man and your wife still turns out to be a bitch, never mind karma will treat her Bleep up and you will have the last laugh.

Biko where is king lefulefu oya come and learn how to treat a woman /wife.

love nwantiti oya lefu bia

you opinion, nice

revontuli:
I stumbled across here when Googling something (forgot what I was even searching) and the interesting topics on the main page got me read like an addict. Reasons I loved Nairaland and stayed here:

- People's humorous attitude and funny comments, also the interesting Nigerian perspective about local and world affairs.
- I see the news about Africa we never get to see in the Western media. We see only negative news and violence, peple post all kinds of positive news here.
- Culture threads are hella interesting, it's refreshing to learn about all those fascinating rich cultures and traditions.
- Fights never escalate to ugliness I see on facebook and western forums. Even if people fight, it gets resolved quickly, mods never have to lock threads.
- You people don't ban the trolls, you just turn them into some kind of resident joke. No one takes the trolls serious and just make them into funny fools. Something white people never learned.
- The banter between feminists and macho men is hilarious
- I am writing an epic fantasy series, and the tribal conflict stuff is a huge source of inspiration for me. I have only academic knowledge on tribal cultures, it's priceless to see the living tribal culture with real people writing comments, the complex structure and political issues will inspire stories.
- There are so many nice and positive people here!

wow interesting, I ve been informed

roarik:

I get question to ask you o my dear

Shugavee:
nice to see reasonable men like u in this section

A pleasure