₦airaland Forum

hiawathia1981:
Its very simple,
Im outspoken and vocal. I think tribalism is ridiculous. I believe in gender equality, in which women should have a seat at the table. But that also means women should contrubute equally in society and the home. And I dont believe in a patriarchal system as Nigeria sees it. I will respect my man and take care of my home, but I refuse to be chained to a stove. I despise corruption and greed in all forms.
Did I miss anything...

hmmmm fact, your point is clear!

well if this is just in heart as it is then, maybe they aren't just ready to be with you as you said...

hay have you mingle /dated any before concluding to this certain level?

hiawathia1981:
Ive concluded that Nigeria is not ready for a gal like me.

Nigeria a country as big and enough to accommodate over 140million humans and you concluded...??

what kind of a woman are you and what made you think they aren't ready for your type??

sisisioge:
I no dey use WhatsApp... Sorry.

see this girl oo

Mobilia:
"Natural nature"....interesting choice of words.
Well....I have my relatives over there...
So that's a good thing.
Nigeria seems to be going through some really tough and hard times though.....
I read almost daily about the main issue being about a recession and lack of jobs for graduates, infrastructure issues and corruption etc...
Maybe that's why guys are into "419" , online romance scams, or yahoo..
Desperate times I guess...

well very well true come down let all go together.

well as for various kind of act of scams, it been like that since they days of it old days of 80s /90s just it get it upgrade as time goes on in various forms!
Well if we would have more investors, I think it will drastically reduce to a minimum volume especially if more investment will be cancelled into "farming"

well your from what tribe?

sisisioge:

I will still try the mail thing.

make we use whatsapp talk nau

sisisioge:
My subsequent response isn't delivering. Me sef dey find that matter of discussion o. Wonder what makes you think I dey in charge. May God bless us all beyond our expectations o my brother.

eheh OK oo if u say so then

anyhow sha if blessings fall on you near me oo make I for tap small

hiawathia1981:
Why is there such hostility about a woman's age here?

I wonder why sometimes, but I know for sure it definitely based to be fake admiration .

well down here seeing aged lady mingling with young blood is tagged "benefits "you know wht I mean, same applies for ladies going about with old men "aged "

Mobilia:
Yeah...you know the "sugar-momma", "sugar-boy", "sugar-daddy", "sugar-girl" thing...
Too much sugar everywhere..lol!
Oh I'm in a safe environment....God's been good to me for sure.
Living in a country such as the U.S..means a lot of responsibility comes with the power....
We have freedom (so to speak)...but we also are an extremely violent country...
So there are some pros and cons..

yesh I understand basically!
Well God is good!

wait this sugar thing, sometimes I keep wondering oo, but all same everybody got motives in whatever he or she got involved in .it all got to do with your mindset and instinct!

Basically we term to conclude firstly in this manner for now!

well relocate your Ass down here and enjoy the culture and reach natural nature.


hey I want all my female foreign friends to Bring their ass down here, in probably stay here with Nigerian's .

Mobilia:
Lol...I actually was being sarcastic...but it seems to be of utmost importance in Nigeria...and on N.L.
Since I know I'm not a "sugar-momma"...all's well!
My dad is Nigerian...late mother Black American. Joined Nairaland (originally) back in December 2016.
Thanks for the welcome...

hahahahah sugar-momma hahahahah am dead chai
well all's well to be precise!
oh yeah you don't need to introduce more of yourself to me, I knew who you are before now, but I never followed up, just like observing what you really are, especially wanted to be sure you are not probably "gullible "

Someone mentioned to my email so year's back, what black have been willed to look or feel like in your country, but all the same I hope you are very well safe and fine, especially in your vicinity/environs!

hiawathia1981:
We should invite her.
Khiaa, come join the foreigner chill out room.

yeah

Mobilia:
My brother,
I am an "elderly" Black American/Nigerian...born, raised, and living in the U.S.
Be careful...I don't want you to be stoned for speaking to me
It's improper and immoral for a young guy (which I'm assuming you are) to be chatting with an "elderly" lady

well you are welcome, born Nigerian breed with an outfirst mind!

hey you are right, but then again very correct on your description ,but for now, I will base that on probability for you!

As per elderly, who cares other than me, well let the criticism come.

well well well you don't look bad as per your introduction

hiawathia1981:
Im good. Thank you.

welcome, we stare, been a good day, jiggling, guess urs, splendid other than day to day activities .where's khiaa she's to be here

hiawathia1981:
IN.
How are you?

Am fine and you

Everyone needs time to reflect. A day or a moment when we stop to think about where we are in life, whether we have met the man or woman of our dreams yet, or if we are where we thought we would be on our grand plan of our journey in life.

For the single yogis among us, however, reflecting on our lives in this may inadvertently remind you of what's lacking: Specifically, a significant other. It's often difficult to ignore the fact that you seem to be surrounded by happy couples in love while you remain unattached, perhaps wondering when it is your turn.

Some of you may be celebrating your single status and already living life to the full, some of you may be feeling alone, and some of you may be dealing with some personal challenges right now.

So with this in mind, I dedicate this article to a beautiful friend of mine who, like many other yogis on our fabulous planet, may find singledom a little overwhelming. This article is to remind you that you are fabulous. Yes, you.
And so, I send each and every one of you oodles and oodles of love, as well as 50 ways to think of everyday as a day of receiving little love letters to yourself—reminding you to welcome fabulousness into your world.

1. Move in the direction that makes you feel alive.

2. Start every day with a grateful heart.

3. Gracefully let go of things that no longer serve you: relationships, thoughts, people, energy. Let it go.

4. Aim true. Be your best version of yourself.

5. Follow your dreams. Live. Don’t just exist.

6. Practice gratitude. Each day, list five things that you are grateful for and that make you smile.

7. Find your purpose in life. Then, share your passion and enthusiasm with the world.

8. This is true—“Hello, my name is yoga and I will change your life.” It did, it still is, and I love that .

9. Learn to sit still more. Appreciate that everyone needs some yin in their life to balance out their yang.

10. Listen to your body.

11. Take time to make your heart and soul happy.

12. Trust your intuition. It never, ever, ever lets you down.

13. Live mindfully. Appreciate every moment we have in this beautiful world..

14. Be kind to others.

15. Expect the unexpected. Be open to change.
16. Admit when you are wrong.

17. You can achieve whatever you put your mind to. Trust in yourself, and anything is possible. Fact.

18. Remember to breathe.

19. You are stronger than you think.

20. What other people think about us is none of our business.

21. Choose happiness. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.

22. Ask for help. The strongest people know when to ask for help.

23. Serendipity, “the occurrence and development of events by chance in a happy or beneficial way,” is my all-time favorite word.

24. Smile at a stranger every day. You will know just how much you made their day in that single moment.

25. Be mindful of who you open up to. Only a few people actually care; the rest are just curious.

26. If someone wants to be a part of your world, they will make their way towards you. Really. Don’t sweat the details.

27. No matter how crazy and messed up your world feels inside, there is always someone who thinks you are completely amazing.

28. Find yourself and be that. Simple..

29. We don’t meet people by accident. They are meant to cross our paths for a reason. Enjoy discovering what the lesson they provide you is

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30. Take a leap of faith at least once in your life and live life with no regrets.

31. It’s ok to not have it all figured out yet.

32. You don’t have to always be strong. Let the tears flow when they need to. Give yourself time for everything to unfold.

33. Take time each day to get upside down. Sometimes all you need is to look at life from a different perspective.

34. Trying to please everyone is a recipe for disaster.

35. The most confused we ever get is when we try to convince our heads of something our hearts know is a lie.

36. Real love requires inner work. First we must be happy in ourselves, come to know ourselves, accept ourselves. and love ourselves. We have to find peace of mind, find our purpose, and our passion...

37. Sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together.

38. Actions always speak louder than words.
39. Trust your inner wisdom..

40. The quieter you become, all the more you can hear.

41. Live the life you love. Some people wait all week for Friday, all year for summer, all life for happiness. Don’t let that happen to you..

42. Make a promise to fall in love with yourself every single day.

43. See the world. Experience as many different cultures as you can. Adventure and experiences are what make my world come alive!


44. Practice self-love daily. It is vital.

45. Throw caution to the wind. You can waste a lot of dreams through caution.

46. Don’t put up with anyone who is reckless with your heart. Don’t be reckless with anyone else’s heart either.

47. Manifest what you want. Write it down and make it happen. “What you think you become, what you feel you attract, what you imagine you create”.

48. Surround yourself with people who inspire and support you.

49. Realize that you are exactly where you are supposed to be, in this moment. Right here. Right now.

50. Believe in your own magic.

"what will be your words in your love note
share bellow! =!

QueenUtum

Dedicated to you!!!


1. Feelings are often real. But the words we use to express them, most of the time, are illusory.
So, carefully think about the words we choose to use. Never say “I love you” just to create an illusion of feelings, nor to make our counterpart love us. The worst of “I love you”s are those that are not wholeheartedly said. Therefore, when you say it; make sure you mean it.


2. Being young is not only about leaving a mark in the world. It is also about letting the world leaves a mark within us.

May it be through an event, or even more, through a person. So go. Fall in love, make mistakes, break your heart, and probably start over.


3. There is no such thing as “unrequited feeling.”
However, perhaps, the level of requital that we get might be higher or lower than our expectations. (Perhaps it’s best not to expect anything at all, and let it be a surprise. Let life surprises you.)


4. When God takes away something you (thought you) have, usually you are going to get something better. However, be grateful of what you have at the moment. Keep it. Protect it. Or you might end up losing something that matters the most in your life.

(And try not to regret when that happens, especially when you have failed in protecting it. Let it wander to a better place, a place that would keep it safe.)


5. Never fall in love in your sleep
What usually comes as a dream might suddenly show up as a nightmare. Since then, your sleeps and naps would never be the same anymore. Be in love while you are awake. Be in love knowing the risks you take, the ‘dangers’ you will face. Be in love with a person, not the idea of him/her that you have projected yourself. Be in love with a person, not the idea of him/her that he/she tries to project for you to believe in.


6. (Always) believe that there is probably a person out there who deserves to get the best of you.
You might meet him/her soon.


7.The only person in the world who could make you happy is yourself. Before others.

I usually compliment myself with ice creams too, though. Ice creams make me really happy.


8. Most of the time, feeling exhausted also means that you have not make your life wasted for nothing.



Keep going.
9. The worst feeling that you could ever possess to someone is the feeling of possessing him/her, as if that person is completely yours.

Because you could never, ever “own” a person. You could only be happy when the person you choose to be with also chooses to be with you.
10. Words might hurt you, but words shouldn’t.
You have the sole ownership of yourself, and that includes deciding what kinds of things would offend and would not offend you.



11. Be happy.
Because you only need yourself to be happy, and because you can. Allow yourself to be happy. With or without someone else. Isn’t it such a great feeling to realize that we can be happy on our own? As soon as we have allowed ourselves to be happy on our own, then we can be happy with the person we are.

Mobilia:
Hiawathia1981,
I was trying to find a thread where I could generally chat with you and not "derail" a topic, get my post erased or get banned
Look at what I found! The Lord is good!
Since I have Nigerian & Black American blood, I think this "room" qualifies me......lol.
You are definitely qualified to be in here...lol.
Was just curious though, as to how you found Nairaland?
If you are uncomfortable with saying too much, then that's cool. I will understand.

See what I'm finding is, this Nairaland "world" is brutally tough. You have to wear a triple layered, bullet-proof vest/coat to survive here
Forgive me if I reply later today.

oh, intrude! where are you from

gypsey:
na yoke i dey yoke oo!!

hahahahah chai u got me here

gypsey:
so begging have become lucrative may be i should close my shop and start begging.

see this man oo, who give you shop

sisisioge:
Responded.

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salute

sisisioge:
Pls send me a mail...email is on profile. I hope all is well.

eheh OK I go send am now

khiaa:
I didn't purchase my home to please Nigerians so I will not rewrite anything. More people could own their own homes besides entertainers, the wealthy, and drug dealers in Nigeria if everyone had an even slate. Nigeria should try adopting American policy for homeownership and make it affordable for everyone.

hmmmm December let Tour, I invite you

sisisioge:
Dearlordylordy! How is she gonna explain this to her parents? NYSC is first gonna dismiss her!

babe abeg we fit talk tonight, e get something wey I need to yan with you ooo

MhizzAJ:
I day jare
Lol

chai mix mix, mehn I miss you oo, give me ur em em na or I go call right away, I promise

MhizzAJ:
I'm very pretty

madam where you go ee, chai look at you, abeg come ee, come give me ur control

Rayma:
Where have you been

oh my darling, it been a long time, oh my God look at you, have been around sha, how u doing

QueenSuccubus:
chaaaii .. U don't sleep abi?

.u know everything na

Twoclans:
Go and sleep, you too like woman

.sent you a mail

Twoclans:
Marty baby you know how to get this from me why are you asking online

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.oh sorry, I did see it just the way you do, well I will go the way you demand