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All these crazy talk and chest beating is what is leaving Nigeria more divided.....in other news...Do you know that you can get 10k every week just by posting your pictures online...cool stuff

money must be made

Good idea

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Roger the Vampire.... timeless and ageless... It's coming this will blow your mind

Bruno my guy...... ladies and Gentlemen it's closer than ever we about to redefine the social network

here we go again

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having a girl as a best friend is like having a chicken for a pet eventually you will eat it someday.... you catch my drift

too many crazy in this world

something I wanted to say but....

I think if you really had the money you'd have bought the new phone already rather than coming here to write about your window shopping obsession... No offence

why are Nigerian ladies vesting so much energy into these sex dolls issue.... it's not like most guys can actually afford a sex doll now... you guys should wait till China makes cheap and affordable ones.

Nigeria.... every new day brings new controversy or should I just say new distractions

All these pre wedding shot nonsense

Pete Edochie....much respect sir

naija which way

no crime really as long as you can take good care of them.

wow...

ladies always pretending to be what they are not on social media... she doesn't even would like she is worth a man that earns 100k monthly.

Crazy world... Just getting crazier by the day

Great post.... I recall arguing with my class teacher about that number 1 way back in primary school

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Mental toughness can be described as the attribute that allows you to handle the difficulties you may face in life. A few experts firmly restrict this attribute to the sports field. But many others believe that this attribute touches every aspect of our life. Peter Clough and Dough Strycharczyk, researchers who authored the book "Developing Mental Toughness," says that this attribute is "the quality which determines in large part how people deal effectively with challenge, stressors, and pressure... irrespective of prevailing circumstances."

According to these researchers, this trait consists of a few critical components and they are challenge, control, commitment and confidence. As far as "challenge," the first component, is concerned, you must view challenges, not as obstacles, but as opportunities. The crux of "control," the second component, is to believe that you have complete control over your destiny and life.

Commitment is nothing but possessing the capabilities needed for sticking to tasks and ensuring to complete them regardless of the hurdles you may face. 'Confidence' is believing in your capabilities.

Though research has proven that these attributes has a genetic link. However many experts suggest that people can learn and strengthen their mental toughness as well. Here are a few pointers on how to cultivate mental toughness

1. Believe that you have the ability for achieving your goals
A study conducted in 2002 revealed that top performers and especially, elite athletes always possessed extreme self-belief. This means that they firmly believe that they can succeed. In other words, if you believe in yourself and keep encouraging yourself positively, you can achieve your goal regardless of what it is.

2.Look beyond external rewards
External rewards like popularity, money, etc. are certainly nice but intrinsic motivations are better because they come from the "within." This means you will love doing things just for doing them. When you love doing things, you will push harder and try to perform better. In fact, mentally tough people love doing things in which they are interested and their success in their tasks come from intrinsic motivations and not because of external rewards. This means that they love the challenges they may face while doing things and overcoming those challenges is the real reward for them.

3. Control your emotions even during difficult times.
Mentally tough people rebound even when they encounter setbacks and while doing so, they move ahead with stronger determination and resolve. They innovate to find out new ways for overcoming such phases.

4. They are self-directed
This means that they do not let things happen. Instead, they focus on creating the life they like to lead. They set goals and take appropriate action for going behind their goals and achieving them. In other words, they learn the process of setting goals and pursue the goals relentlessly.

5. Remain Focused
Distractions are bound to be there in everyone's life but mentally tough people do not allow them to play spoil-sport to their focus. Remember that it is impossible to always have everything right. Even if other things need your attention, you must focus only on your goals and work towards achieving them.

6. Be committed
Commitment is a major ingredient that helps in cultivating mental toughness. Remember the words of Winston Churchill who said, "Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts." So, you should always remain committed to making the right efforts for achieving your goals.

Friends they say are pieces of life puzzle... Without which life is in complete... But why do you do when the successfully assemble this life puzzle and rather than making your life complete and fun they threaten to ruin you. Have you ever had friends that you sometimes wonder if they were friends or enemies... Do you have friends that are "killing" you?
Here are top 10 behaviors that make people terrible friends and it's probably best you avoid making friends with them.

Friendship Killer #1 - Jealousy
I don't know how it works with guys, but women are notoriously catty. Trust me... I grew up with 4 catty sisters whose only goal in life was to tear each other down.... There were constantly trying to outshine each other... So I know a thing or 2 about jealousy.
How to Spot Jealousy in a Friend
You know your friend is jealous when she behaves passive aggressively by constantly making comments (put downs) about your boyfriend, your clothes, your lifestyle, etc. and you find yourself having to downplay your achievements and talents just so she won't get mad or start being competitive.
Jealousy destroys relationships because you can never be happy for the other person. And the very essence of friendship is support for one another.

Advice: If you're the jealous type, ask yourself why you feel so less than. Build your self-esteem by doing esteemable things for yourself and others.If your friend is the jealous one, have a serious conversation with her. Tell her you want to be supportive, but that you can't and won't be in a friendship that's rife with jealousy.
By the way, I don't talk to my mother anymore - and I'll only deal with one of my sisters. Yeah. It was that bad.

Friendship Killer #2 - Selfishness
With selfish friends, it's always about them. Everything has to be on their terms. If you don't go along with their program, they try to make you feel guilty, put you down, etc.

Advice : You may just be dealing with someone who is unaware that they're selfish. If that's the case, you need to gently tell your friend how her behavior affects you.
If you're dealing with a narcissist, you may want to end the friendship, as it will always be one-sided.

Friendship Killer #3 - The Manipulator
The manipulative friend can never be direct. They know your weaknesses, so they hint around when they want you to do something, knowing that you will fall for their manipulation - hook, line and sinker.

Advice: Tell your friend nicely that you would appreciate it if she would be more direct with you.

Friendship Killer #4 - Possessiveness
I had a friend who always put down any other friend I wanted to hang out with because she couldn't stand for me to be with anyone else. When I wanted to include others in activities, she vehemently opposed.

Advice: Smothering someone --telling them they can't have other friends -- is a sign of fear of abandonment. If it's you who's behaving possessively, ask yourself why you're so terrified of losing your friend. If it's your friend who is possessive, ask her the same thing - gently of course.
Then seek therapy.

Friendship Killer #5 - The Critic
With the critic, you can never win. Sometimes you can almost win, but inevitably the critic will find something wrong with you or what you did, what you're wearing, etc.
Being around someone who is overly critical is devastating to your psyche and your self-worth.
Advice: L et go of the friendship. People who are overly critical will always raise the bar just out of your reach. It's a no-win situation. Cut your losses.

Friendship Killer #6 - The Exploder
The exploder always keeps you off balance. It's their way of controlling you. Being friends with an exploder is like walking through a minefield. You never know what's going to set them off. Walking on eggshells in a relationship is not healthy and inhibits the growth of both parties.

Advice: Tell your friend to seek anger management, or you're gone.

Friendship Killer #7 - Covetedness
Everyone gets a twinge of jealousy sometimes. But when it's a constant in your friendship -- that's bad. Coveting goes hand in hand with jealousy. But it's a closer cousin to envy.
Your envious friend always wants what you have. The mentality is "there's not enough to go around, so I want what's yours."

Advice: T ell your friend you sense her envy and that it's uncomfortable. Tell her if she acts on her covetedness, you will associate with her less.

Friendship Killer #8 - Disloyalty
God I hate disloyal people. Disloyal friends are the backstabbers. Gossips. They're the ones you share a confidence with and then you hear about it on the 6:00 O'clock news. They're the ones who laugh at you when you fall down - instead of helping you up... Here's the deal. I don't think people should be loyal to a fault. But you should be loyal until your friend no longer deserves your loyalty.

Advice: Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.

Friendship Killer # 9 - Liars
Liars annoy the heck out of me. You can't trust them. Ever. And you can't have a friendship without trust.

Advice: Confront your friend about their lies. Tell them that you cannot trust them if they're lying to you all the time and that trust is an important, and necessary part of the friendship.

Friendship Killer #10 - Being Too "Busy"
Relationships are not one sided. Everyone is busy. But friendships take time and effort. You've got to decide whether you really want the friendship because it takes an investment... So if your friend is always saying she's "busy", it just means she doesn't want to be friends anymore.
Advice: I'd see how often she tells me she's too busy to hang out before I pull the plug on the friendship.

Conclusion
There is no denying the fact that friends are an important part of life. So you want to make sure you're not getting drained by the very people who are supposed to be uplifting to you. This advice is however not limited to just friendship but useful for any type of relationship.
So, start paying close attention to your circle of friends and see if any of them fit into one or more of the "friendship killer" categories. Then do what you need to do to take care of yourself.

This is for my real guys,please pay close attention to this... Have you ever wonder what a lady truly to craves for you in bed you ever had a girl who seemed quite uptight and you wonder if she even have a wild side... Well she does... Cos everybody does... And that is what I'm gonna teach you to unlock.

But please know and understand the fact that women can be tricky: with a lot of buttons to press, and to be pressed in a certain order, at a certain time. Always remember she will never love a guy who just wants to wham, bam, thank you, Ma'am. She will never come crawling back for more with that strategy of yours.

Here is a list of tricks you can try to drive her crazy.

- pre-intimacy Is A Must!
Jumping straight into sex is never a great idea! Appropriate warm-up leads to smoother action in bed! Just heat up things a little before you get started on the main course! Kissing, biting, teasing and heavy petting, etc. will just have the right effect on her. Just fire her up and watch her turn into a crazy sex kitten in the bedroom! If you are new to this, just whisper something in her ear, bite it a little and suck on it or gently draw your finger up her spine as you kiss her, this will certainly ignite her like a firecracker.

- Watch Out For Her Body Signs!
Women are very expressive, even when they are not talking, their body has a lot to say! You want to know if she's enjoying herself or not? Just read and understand her body language. Along with that what you should really be taking care of is what really makes her hips grind, how badly she want you, how much she forces her body in yours, and how intense her breathing is, etc. and react to this appropriately. The most important thing is to remain confident and full of passion. Never be the guy who doesn't have a clue of what he's doing or has no faith in himself, cause it is such a turn-off!

- Be The Man She Wants!
In the world full of empowering women all around, one might get used to women taking control in bed. And believe us you'll love it when she is in charge and dominating you, there's nothing better! But always remember even a confident, powerful and ballsy woman, simply love being dominated! Let us warn you, it will take a little time, trust and communication to win her over! Take baby steps and pick up hints from by reading her body language to make sure she's comfortable, both physically and emotionally. Go with the thumb rule of one step at a time, it is never a good idea to start off with anything that might hurt her feelings or humiliate her. Women are really drawn towards a man who can take charge and show his dominance and doesn't think twice before pinning her up against the wall or might as well catch hold of her and punish her by spanking her ass! This is a massive turn on for most women.

- Make Her Go Head Over Heels!
Women are very sensitive and conscious about their lady parts, so assure her you're having a great time down there. Give her head, she will go in a different world altogether! One strict no while giving a head is "not to take advice from porn video" Believe us, she is not that easy to win over! In the initial stage, this might seem a little tough but with time and patience, you will be a pro in no time!

- Hit The Right Spot!
There are a lot of switches in a women's body which will fire up the minute you turn it on! Starting with the clitoris, center of gravity, nipples, the neck, her lips, her back, etc. are a list of switches that you can keep in mind to get her started! Keep on trying new spots to play with because unless she actually tells you, you'll never know what really floats her boat. Sometimes you'll get lucky by redefining her choices, only if you keep on experimenting with her! Just blindfold her and roll an ice cube over her neck and lips and drag it all the way down there and let the magic work!

- Play Hard And Rough!
That was a different time when women were all delicate and were handled with care in bed! Though vanilla still is chosen by a lot of women, going wild and rough is that sweeps a whole lot of women off their feet! Maybe she doesn't need a knight in shining armor but a bandit indeed! Please remember, she is not glass and she won't break easily, so don't worry about hurting her. She is crazy, impulsive and just needs you to tame her! Rough love making in bed is full of passion, animalistic and it will sure as hell drive her wild. So don't hesitant to get a little kinky with her either.