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Why do couples fail to keep almost all the vows/promises made at the altar on their wedding day. cos after saying "I do" some couples end up not agreeing on anything at all. and this is usually the beginning of cracks in most marriages. and before you know it, you start hearing of irreconcilable differences in a marriage.imagine after saying I do and willing to accept each other as they are. what could be the cause of this? has the woman suddenly changed overnight from being a darling wife and the apple of his eyes to being a "devil" with tits. or has the man gone from being good, loving and caring to being a wicked, violent and irresponsible husband? do couples change and are vows carried away with the tide?

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A Nollywood movie poster.

Nollywood producer arrested for sex abuse of actresses at audition

A popular Nollywood producer (names withheld) and a prominent member of the Association of Movie Producers (AMP) has been arrested after he was caught pants dawn stripping young actresses Unclad at his audition for a new movie last week in Surulere, Lagos.

Many registered members of the Actors Guild of Nigeria (AGN) and non guild members came for the audition at a residence opposite the popular Nollywood rendezvous Winnis Hotel. The producer of Locomotive productions said only actresses were needed. But other male actors decided to hang around whilst the audition was going on before the owner of the venue raised an alarm that the actresses were being sexually abused in one of the rooms. She said she saw one of the young actresses totally stripped and two others were giving blow-job to two members of the casting crew. The male actors rushed into the house and caught the popular producer and two other men engaged in MouthAction with two actresses! They blew the whistle and the authorities soon arrived and arrested the producer and his accomplices.

Were they auditioning for a indecency home video?

Cossy Orjiakor, a Nollywood sex symbol has once complained of intimate harassment.

intimate harassment of desperate young actresses is common in Nollywood, but many popular actors and producers have denied allegations of intimate abuse.

Indecency is a criminal offence in Nigeria and the National Film and Video Censors Board, the industry regulatory body checks the portrayal of violence, crimes, sex and Indecency, vulgarity, obscenity, etc in Nigerian and foreign movies before broadcast.

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If you or your parents can survive the pain, hunger, insecurity and poverty in Nigeria, then don't let the "madness" of other countries "best" YOU, Dedicated to the memory of Miss Modupe Ellen Awoyemi (one of the victims killed in last month terror attack in Norway), and other innocent Nigerians killed abroad under avoidable or questionable circumstances.

If you or your parents can survive the pain, hunger, insecurity and poverty in Nigeria, then don't let the "madness" of other countries "best" YOU, Dedicated to the memory of Miss Modupe Ellen Awoyemi (one of the victims killed in last month terror attack in Norway), and other innocent Nigerians killed abroad under avoidable or questionable circumstances,

Abeg, tell them.

Nollywood Actresses And Their Yeye Drama Off Screen:

Na wah for our nollywood actresses. they never stop to amuses one. dont know why the single ones among them cant find a single man to marry and not some body's else husband. seems they enjoy being home wreckers. look at the case of mercy johnson, ini edo, carol ekanem, step-nora okere, etc. it seems they enjoy snatching other people's husbands. are they that desperate to get married (after messing up themselves with all these nollywood actors, producers and directors, and even with marketers.)and it seems our beauty queens are even better than them. atleast they are getting married to single rich guys or footballers, unlike our nollywood actresses. women, abeg make una hold una husbands tight o. and dont allow them to watch nollywood movies too much. cos, na there the whole thing dey start,

Is it right for guys to post pictures of a girl's unclothedness or videos of their love making on the internet, no matter the reason or excuse. No, this is not right. That is why I'm passing this warning and advice to girls/ladies out there to be careful of the kind of guys they go out with/hang out with, and also be careful of what they do behind closed doors with a guy. cos, you dont know what the guy might later do to you with what you did with him behind closed doors. So, ladies, make una sofry sofry.

This is when madam's son or younger brother/cousin/nephew is always hitting on her sales/shop girls or house maids. getting some while losing some.

BEING SINGLE IS OKAY!!!

Let me say that again. BEING SINGLE IS OKAY!!! Whether you are single because of a divorce, your spouse has died, or you have never married, IT IS OKAY. The point I want to share with you today is to be patient. I can assure you, 99% of the relationship problems I deal with each and every day can be traced back to people who were impatient. Good people who jumped into relationships outside of God's timing and ended up paying a big price. I realize that loneliness will cause you to make poor decisions, but you have got to understand the consequences of those decisions.

The number one problem in relationships is that there is no spiritual base. While money, communication, and other issues are the most popular reasons for problems, I assure you the lack of a spiritual base in the relationship is the reason these other problems exist. Not having a secure spiritual base is why God said to not be unequally yoked. He knew that without that base, the relationship could never survive. The base starts with the personal walk each person has with the Lord. It is solidified by both people bringing their faith together as one.

The Bible talks of the man being the spiritual head of his home. It is important for a man to take this job seriously, and be the priest in his home. It is his responsibility to help merge his faith and that of his potential wife. Praying together. Reading the Word together. Serving the Lord together. These are all ways for two people to lay a solid and secure spiritual base. Let me tell you this. WITHOUT A SPIRITUAL BASE, NO RELATIONSHIP WILL LAST OR HAVE ANY LONG-TERM SIGNIFICANCE.

While I realize finding someone physically attractive, someone with a nice personality, someone with a good job may all be criteria in finding a mate, if you do not focus first on the spiritual side of the relationship, it is doomed. I want to tell you now, without hesitation, that the reason for the high divorce rate amongst the people of God is because there was NO spiritual foundation in the relationship. That is why patience is critical.

While the downside to being single is loneliness, the upside is it allows you to grow and develop a real walk with Christ. It also gives you the power over what relationships you will enter into. There is a power in the fact you have choices you can make. Be picky. Be patient. Don't compromise who you will go out with. You do not have to find someone today. This is where your faith and trust in God becomes important as well. He knows your needs and desires. Trust Him. Have faith in Him that He is going to bring the right person into your life.

I love you and care about you. It pains me to know many of you are hurting from the loneliness of being single. I pray that today you will refocus on your walk with the Lord. I pray you will realize there is nothing wrong with being single. I pray you will know that God understands your needs and desires, and He will bring the right person into your life.

I will add, that like everything, it is a combination of God's sovereign will, and our responsibility. You cannot expect to sit in the house, and wait for the Lord to send the right person knocking at your door. Like all battles, you need a game plan, and you need to be faithfully executing the plan each day to see victory.

My emphasis today though is that as you are out looking for a mate, remember that unless your relationship has a spiritual base to it, it will not last. Use the time to solidify your walk with Christ. Be patient, don't be promiscuous or live a reckless life, comport yourself, pray and never forget that the Lord loves you, and will bring the right person into your life. Trust Him and wait on His perfect timing.

In His love and service,

Your friend and brother in Christ,

Bill Keller

Yeah, you're right. but for now, we are talking about women and their so called friends. and more-so, you see or hear more of ladies snatching their friends' husbands.

Yeah, u're right too much africa magic on NL, but issues like this do happen. don't they?

Women & Their So Called Friends, this is when a woman loses her husband and home to her best friend, after asking her unmarried best friend to come and help her take care of her kids and also cook for her husband while she's away on official assignment, only for her best friend to end up snatching her husband and home from her by the time she returns from her trip.

Women & Their So Called Best Friends, this is when a woman loses her husband and her home to her unmarried best friend, after asking her best friend to come and help her take care of her kids and also cook for her husband while she's away on official assignment, only for her best friend to end up snatching her husband and home from her by the time the woman returns from her trip.

Cos, most times they are lost in the moment. but that's not an excuse to impregnate a girl. and at the same time, a girl has more say and power in preventing herself from getting pregnant, except she wants to.

What is it with single ladies and babies nowadays. Because the rate single ladies and even teenage girls are having babies out of wedlock these days is really alarming. is it due to their being promiscuous or is it because of their mad rush to beat their "biological clock" which to them is ticking quite fast. and come and see how most of them hide their babies from people when trying to catch a suitor, get a new boyfriend, find an husband or move on with their lives,

This is when a girl is not inlove with a guy, but decides to stick with him, and marry him, just for the sake of getting married, and also to shut some people's mouths and have her "peace of mind"

no matter who you are, there's always a girl out there that will love you.

stop wasting your time with her, and look for some one else (a girl) that will love you unconditionally,

such is life,

Nah Nah, I'm not talking about myself. It's a general issue that happens to some of our guys and which some girls like doing alot. some girls are known to always call or run to another guy to share their pain or cry on his shoulders anytime she's hurt or dumped by her boyfriend,

This is when a guy is inlove with a particular girl who doesn't love him, but sees him more like a friend , and always run to him whenever she's in need, heartbroken, or hurt by another guy.

I'm not talking about the character he's playing, but the way he's acting the character. Compare to the other characters in the soap, can you say he's as good as the guys playing Philip, Kwame, or even Soji? Just try and watch him very well, to see what I'm talking about. I believe there's room for improvement. And you and I know, with the way he's acting, he will find it difficult to get a role in any other production or even in nollywood,

We humans are somehow under the law of diminishing returns. For as we grow older we sort of “diminishes”. For when we get to a certain age or stage in life, most men start getting fatter, developing pot belly and start going bald, while women on the other hand, most of them start getting fatter too, less "attractive", loses some of their features and are moody sometimes. Forget about plastic surgery. It’s all make believe. And like the name implies it’s all “PLASTIC” and not natural.  Ageing is not only physical but also psychological. Just try and eat right and also exercise often to keep a bit of shape and be healthy.

And for those that want to live forever (apologies to J-zay & co), how will you feel and cope when you’re still around when all your mates have aged and pass away. You’ll feel odd among the younger and newer generation. You’ll be slow and unable to move with the pace of a newer generation (Check out the changes happening now, how much more in the next 50-100 years). And no matter what you do or try to do, it’ll never be like when you were with your mates, your friends or family. And the most devastating part of it all is that you’ll feel lonely and “isolated” without the people you knew, grew up with, worked with, rocked with and lived with after they might have all gone. Life, na turn by turn. Live yours, age gracefully and take a bow when it’s time to leave the “stage” for the next generation. But make sure, you live a good life…before you leave. Cherish every moment, your family and the people around you. For you’ve only got one life…

That Guy playing Chuks in Mnet TV drama "Tinsel" should be replaced with immediate effect. Though he's kind of playing the comic character in the soap, but it is so glaring he doesn't know how to act. He needs to go for acting lessons. Where was he when ITPAN Training School was running acting courses in Lagos then. Please Director of Tinsel do something about this guy. The guy playing Soji is trying, likewise the ladies playing Ene, Telema, and Angela are all trying. Even the new guy playing the publisher is doing a good job ever since he joined the cast of Tinsel. But as for the guy playing Chuks, nah nah, he's so plastic! And the people handling Tinsel should try and upgrade the standards (especially in the area of delivery) of Tinsel to that of Jacob's Cross (A South African Mnet TV serie, whose plot sometimes do look confusing too). This is Mnet, and we are talking about International Standards.

On Top Of His Game, is when some guys don't like their girlfriends paying them unexpected visits at home, simply because the guys are up to some things like;he's always having business meetings at home, his mother always visits and he's not ready to introduce his girlfriend to her yet, or some girls are always coming to his house to cook, wash and warm his bed, which of them do you think will be the real reason

Forgive & Forget, How many men or women can truly forgive their partner after cheating on him/her, and also be willing to forget about the whole incident, no matter how painful it was,

"Minding Your Own Business", this reminds me of the incident that happened the other day, when an innocent woman was tongue lashed and almost beaten up by some ladies clad in suggestive attires, for voicing her displeasure and also daring to correct and advise them on how to dress decently in public. They even went as far as threatening to naked her and teach her the lesson of her life for questioning their way of dressing in this "modern time and age" You can imagine how the woman must have felt afterwards, simply because she was only trying to say what is right and what is wrong. Had it been she knew, she'd have just minded her business and looked the other way, just like the way most people in this part of the world, normally do whenever they see others doing bad things (minding their own business, I suppose). And that's why so many things are going wrong in our nation today, when vices are being promoted, appreciated and rewarded in some cases, more than virtues. as more and more people are getting corrupt and going scot- free or treated with kid gloves whenever they are apprehended, when perpetrators of evil, walk the streets free, daring you and I to point them out or apprehend them, and with our politicians, law makers and Government officials feeding fat on our treasury, while the masses wallop in object poverty. Simply because, nobody is doing anything to stop this rot and do the right thing. when bad things are allowed to continue, it will definitely become a normal thing, Please lets speak out and stop the rot in our society, before we all are consumed by it!