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O boy, u're only lusting after the brazilian lady cos she's sexy. love and lust are not the same. u better stick with ur girlfriend and forget about this brazilian girl. who knows,maybe she's only interested in you cos of ur money and what she stands to gain and benefit from you. and she's very much likely to break ur heart later, after getting what she needs from you. be wise and break up with the brazilian girl. and try to make ur real girlfriend realize how she's been neglecting her looks. sit her down and try sort things with her. she's someone to cherish. both of u make plans together and work towards achieving them. dont cos of lust, lose a good woman. do away with the brazilian girl. cos what u are feeling for her is not love, but lust!

Dear Linda ikeji,

I am a fan of our blog, and I often visit your blog.

Please Linda, I need your readers’ advice on my indecisive situation over two girls currently in my life.

The story is this: I travelled to UK in 2003 to study Medicine and Surgery, at a top UK university. While I was in first year, I met this British born Nigerian girl; she is from a very wealthy family. The girl is full of intelligence; she graduated as the best medical student.

After our graduation, she asked which area I would like to specialise. I told her, I just want to be a GP, and work in any small General Practice office in London. As for her, she wanted to be a Surgeon or Anaesthesiologist. We pursued our aspirations, and now she is indeed a Surgeon and I work as a GP in a local GP Medical centre.

Since two years ago, our relationship has been going town hill, my GF does not do normal things she use to do to look prettier; She has stopped doing her hair, she is always at the hospital, and she has put on weight a lot because she stopped exercising. I even spent £2,000 to install all sorts of gym equipments in a spare room at our house, yet she won’t exercise.

Here is where the story got awkward; five months ago, I was at my office a Brazilian single mum came in with her daughter. Her beauty is incomparable. Her ass is something from outside this planet. I checked her daughter and found out she had influenza, after prescribing medications for her; I could not control myself, I asked the lady for her number. We started texting each other, she told me she is a divorcee, and she also has no job. Her sources of income are jobseekers allowance and child benefit. Yet, I found myself felling for her. She has learnt how to cook Nigerian Soup via youtube just to impress me.

I am confused. At the moment, I love the Brazilian girl, but she has no career. My girlfriend has a career but she doesn’t know how to cook, and she is not half pretty as the Brazilian girl. If I were to brake-up with my girlfriend, we will surely have a legal battle on who would have a lion share over our £550,000 house. But the property is not what bothers me at the moment. What bothers me is to make the right choice. Sex with the Brazilian girl is a dynamite..

Attached here is the back view picture of the Brazilian girl (see attached picture below); she took this photo when she went to her country on a holiday. I sent the photo on a UK based blog requesting for an advice, people were busy downloading and uploading the photo on their facebook instead of giving me an advice. Based on our ages, i am 29years old; my gf is 27 years old. The Brazilian lady is 30 years old. What would you do if you were in by situation?

Culled from Linda Ikeji's blog.

Dear Linda ikeji,

I am a fan of our blog, and I often visit your blog.

Please Linda, I need your readers’ advice on my indecisive situation over two girls currently in my life.

The story is this: I travelled to UK in 2003 to study Medicine and Surgery, at a top UK university. While I was in first year, I met this British born Nigerian girl; she is from a very wealthy family. The girl is full of intelligence; she graduated as the best medical student.

After our graduation, she asked which area I would like to specialise. I told her, I just want to be a GP, and work in any small General Practice office in London. As for her, she wanted to be a Surgeon or Anaesthesiologist. We pursued our aspirations, and now she is indeed a Surgeon and I work as a GP in a local GP Medical centre.

Since two years ago, our relationship has been going town hill, my GF does not do normal things she use to do to look prettier; She has stopped doing her hair, she is always at the hospital, and she has put on weight a lot because she stopped exercising. I even spent £2,000 to install all sorts of gym equipments in a spare room at our house, yet she won’t exercise.

Here is where the story got awkward; five months ago, I was at my office a Brazilian single mum came in with her daughter. Her beauty is incomparable. Her ass is something from outside this planet. I checked her daughter and found out she had influenza, after prescribing medications for her; I could not control myself, I asked the lady for her number. We started texting each other, she told me she is a divorcee, and she also has no job. Her sources of income are jobseekers allowance and child benefit. Yet, I found myself felling for her. She has learnt how to cook Nigerian Soup via youtube just to impress me.

I am confused. At the moment, I love the Brazilian girl, but she has no career. My girlfriend has a career but she doesn’t know how to cook, and she is not half pretty as the Brazilian girl. If I were to brake-up with my girlfriend, we will surely have a legal battle on who would have a lion share over our £550,000 house. But the property is not what bothers me at the moment. What bothers me is to make the right choice. Sex with the Brazilian girl is a dynamite..

Attached here is the back view picture of the Brazilian girl (see attached picture below); she took this photo when she went to her country on a holiday. I sent the photo on a UK based blog requesting for an advice, people were busy downloading and uploading the photo on their facebook instead of giving me an advice. Based on our ages, i am 29years old; my gf is 27 years old. The Brazilian lady is 30 years old. What would you do if you were in by situation?

Culled from Linda Ikeji's blog.

The way things are happening in Ghana, its as if they are trying to outdo us Nigerians in every area. From their men, to their ladies and even their children are all involved in the battle to best us in everything. You know like two brothers from the same mother, without love but envy for each other, na so the case between us and Ghana be. Take for instance, if Nigerian kids/boys dey peep dey look woman for bathroom, Ghanian boys no go peep only, dem go even open the bathroom door, enter go meet the woman/girl inside. If us dey bold, Ghanian boys dey over bold. If we dey do our own with style, dia own dey too raw. You know when somebody neva see something before and once he or she is now exposed to such things, instead of doing it moderately, the person now becomes over exposed and he or she is too happy to let go of such an habit. That's the situation with Ghanian guys and girls. Like the issue of doing sex videos and posting them online, Ghanians too don start their own. And theirs have even gone hay wire. As every guy and girl in Ghana now record their sex scenes and post it online for everybody to see, with the excuse that it was mistakenly posted or someone somewhere got hold of their drive and decided to post it online. Na lie! na dem dey do the thing demselves. Like the one that happened in one of the campuses in Ghana (Legon) recently, when a guy and a girl recorded themselves having sex and now posted it online later. That thing is causing alot of ripples in that school right now. What about their movie industry? That one na anoda tory. Infact Golloywood is now turning into pornowood. for every five movies released in Ghana, three of them are porn movies. Since most of their movies are now filled with sex and nudity. Even at some of their shows/concerts, it's now common to see some of their female artistes performing on stage half clad or without their panties on. revealing everything for everybody to see. Can you imagine. Maybe they are doing this since to them, sex sells. These days, anything wey Nigerians do, Ghana dey do their best to do am pass us. But in most cases, they tend to over do things. Nudity and sex in Ghana is now so common.Thier girls and their way of life is another thing entirely. One can even write a book on it. No wonder naija men dey rush go there go catch fun or import girls from there yafuyafu, to come and spice up their weekends or parties here in Nigeria. And mind you, I'm not critisizing them but just stating the facts. And Ghanians are not even happy with what is happening. Majority of them are so digusted with the way some of them are promoting sex and nudity especially among the youths in Ghana. The whole thing is getting out of hand.

Its so funny when you see some of our nollywood actors/actresses trying to sing and some of our musicians trying to act in nollywood, thereby making a mess of themselves before everybody. when you see some of our music artistes in movies, you cant but laugh and laugh. especially when you see the one tuface stared in some years ago(cant remember the title of the movie now. was it not eh...The Virgin Prostitute?). it was as if he was forcing himself to act. And what about others after him, who have tried acting in movies as well. it hasn't been an enjoyable experience for them, nor for the viewers as well. And what about nollywood artistes trying to go into music. it has been the same story as well. check out the likes of Genevieve, Omotola, Shan Goerge, Desmond Elliot, etc. some of them do mime or use their voice on someone's else song. making those that want to believe, believe that they are the ones singing the song (example is the ones sang by Muma Gee & Osufia). their crossing over or trying their hands on music (since film roles no too dey for some of them for nollywood) outside acting, hasn't been a sweet tale for many of them. atimes making their venture into music seem like a comedy. I advise that they just face their real profession and leave the professionals to do their work. But the same can not be said of artistes/entertainers abroad. like those in hollywood, who find it so easy to cross over/mix both their acting and music career together. and they are doing it so well. check out the likes of Will Smith (who is so good in acting, apart from being a successful music artiste), Queen Latifah, Ice Cube, Tyrese, Justin Timberlake, Cher, Mariah Carey, Beyonce, Christina Aguleira, Eve, Missy Elliot, and so many others. even professional wrestlers are now doing the same, and most of them are doing well already in Hollywood. especially the likes of The Rock, Tripple H, John Cena etc. and their kids are out of this world when it comes to acting as well. they act naturally. its in their DNA. unlike most of our own kid actors. atimes, I feel sorry for the producer/director who had to use them in their movies. That's why, Aki and Pawpaw are making it and still getting roles. Cos our kid actors aren't up to it at all. abeg, make we leave work for professionals. if you are a nigerian musician, face your music, and if you're a nigerian actor/actress, abeg face your acting career and leave music for the professionals. make una stop dey waste una money, and time. Nigerians are wise. they know wetin good and wetin bad. Or is it because they are entertainers, make them an all rounder? Abeg make una no allow sabi sabi kill una. case close!

Its so funny when you see some of our nollywood actors/actresses trying to sing and some of our musicians trying to act in nollywood, thereby making a mess of themselves before everybody. when you see some of our music artistes in movies, you cant but laugh and laugh. especially when you see the one tuface stared in some years ago(cant remember the title of the movie now. was it not eh...The Virgin Prostitute?). it was as if he was forcing himself to act. And what about others after him, who have tried acting in movies as well. it hasn't been an enjoyable experience for them, nor for the viewers as well. And what about nollywood artistes trying to go into music. it has been the same story as well. check out the likes of Genevieve, Omotola, Shan Goerge, Desmond Elliot, etc. some of them do mime or use their voice on someone's else song. making those that want to believe, believe that they are the ones singing the songs. their crossing over or trying their hands on music (since film roles no too dey for some of them for nollywood) outside acting, hasn't been a sweet tale for many of them. atimes making their venture into music seem like a comedy. I advise that they just face their real profession and leave the professionals to do their work. But the same can not be said of artistes/entertainers abroad. like those in hollywood, who find it so easy to cross over/mix both their acting and music career together. and they are doing it so well. check out the likes of Will Smith (who is so good in acting, apart from being a successful music artiste), Queen Latifah, Ice Cube, Tyrese, Justin Timberlake, Cher, Mariah Carey, Beyonce, Christina Aguleira, Eve, Missy Elliot, and so many others. even professional wrestlers are now doing the same, and most of them are doing well already in Hollywood. especially the likes of The Rock, Tripple H, John Cena etc. and their kids are out of this world when it comes to acting as well. they act naturally. its in their DNA. unlike most of our own kid actors. atimes, I feel sorry for the producer/director who had to use them in their movies. That's why, Aki and Pawpaw are making it and still getting roles. Cos our kid actors aren't up to it at all. abeg, make we leave work for professionals. if you are a nigerian musician, face your music, and if you're a nigerian actor/actress, abeg face your acting career and leave music for the professionals. make una stop dey waste una money, and time. Nigerians are wise. they know wetin good and wetin bad. Or is it because they are entertainers, make them an all rounder? Abeg make una no allow sabi sabi kill una. case close!

Saw Tupac hologram on the internet the other day, and was surprise that something like that could be done to make a dead person appear real. Though they were able to achieve their aim, but they forgot one thing. If tupac was still alive today, he would have been around 41 years old (he died at the age of 25), and so there is no how he would still be looking the way he was made to appear (via the hologram) on stage at the Coachella concert the other day, alonside Snoop dogg and some other artistes. Even snoop dogg has aged also, likewise Dr.Dre, Ice cube, LL Cool J, Ice T, Diddy, and some of the guys that were around when Tupac was alive. So why make him still look like he was when he was alive about 16 years ago. I guess that's the image most of us still have of him in our mind...if that's the case, no wahala. Cos, if to say the guy still dey alive, e go don change, even add weight sef.

Saw Tupac hologram on the internet the other day, and was surprise that something like that could be done to make a dead person appear real. Though they were able to achieve their aim, but they forgot one thing. If tupac was still alive today, he would have been around 41 years old (he died at the age of 25), and so there is no how he would still be looking the way he was made to appear (via the hologram) on stage at the Coachella concert the other day, alonside Snoop dogg and some other artistes. Even snoop dogg has aged also, likewise Dr.Dre, Ice cube, LL Cool J, Ice T, Diddy, and some of the guys that were around when Tupac was alive. So why make him still look like he was when he was alive about 16 years ago. I guess that's the image most of us still have of him in our mind...if that's the case, no wahala. Cos, if to say the guy still dey alive, e go don change, even add weight sef.

As a guy or girl, you should try not to fall inlove no matter how sweet, loving or nice the other person might be. You are only exposing yourself to heartbreak. Cos when you fall inlove, you are vulnerable to heartbreak. Go and ask those that have been heartbroken before, and they would tell you it happened to them cos they mistakenly fell inlove. Ds one na warning and advice. Dont fall inlove, if you dont want your heart to be played with either by a guy or a girl.

this is when a girl
easily gives in to sex for little or nothing, with any guy that catches
her fancy. And atimes, she even gives money to guys, buy them take away
or cook for them with her own money. She enjoys the company of men and
flirt like there's no tomorrow. And she hardly believes in love nor stay
long in a relationship, changing boyfriends as if she is changing
clothes. And lusting after this and that guy. We have ladies that
are like this and most times they dont have any explanation for being
like that. And emotionally, they are weak, and weaker whenever they see a
fine or rich guy. And cheating on guys doesn't seem bad to them. Since
life is cruel already...

Its very common these days to hear a guy or a girl complaining of his or her inability to make someone realize they are no longer interested in him or her. Most times, the partner they want to leave, may not want to let go easily (that's if he or she is willing to). And this is very common with guys. They cling on girls when it's very obvious the particular girl has already moved on. They beg atimes, make threats or ask someone to intercede on their behalf. When someone tells you, he or she is no longer interested, please dont make any attempt to cling on that person or force him or her to continue with the relationship. You'd be doing yourself alot of harm later.Just let go and try move on yourself. There is a better person out there for you. So, back to the issue at hand. If you want to make a guy or a girl leave you after telling him or her you're no longer interested in the relationship, there are two ways to go about it. And the person will simply let you go without any wahala. The first one is to tell him (if he's a 'stubborn' boyfriend) that you are pregnant for another guy. I bet you, he wont waste time in letting you go (after insulting you well well or trying to convince you to abort the pregnancy). Cos no guy wants a cheating partner for a girlfriend. While the second method(in the case of a 'stubborn' girlfriend),is to tell the girl that you've impregnated another girl, and that they've mandated you marry her. And also tell her that the wedding plans between you and the pregnant girl is already ongoing. I tell you, the girl would rake o, shout, abuse you, drag ur shirt, and even slap you, but would evantually let you go. So, if you happen to find yourself in such a situation, you can try any of the methods. And see how it goes. But mind you, these tips are not for heart breakers o. Make una no go dey use am dey break the hearts of innocent people, after using them.

@Sijo1, I know about Chuks and Ene. and for your information, I know they are already married. and i also know about Dan being shalewa's real father. I've seen all of that and more. I guess you still behind, from where you are watching it.over here, they've gone far. and I've been following it on Mnet.

I know about Chuks and Ene. And for your information, they are already married. And I also know Dan is shalewa's real father. I've seen all of that and more. I guess you're still behind from where you are watching the soap.

With the way this popular TV soap is going, it might not be around by next year. Cos, the storyline seem to be weak and it seems they also dont have stories to tell anymore. Most of the cast are trying, and are even capable of acting anywhere on the continent. but when the storylines are weak, the cast tend to perform below par sometimes. Telema and Kwame's marital issue is weak and should be done away with. Even Shalewa's agitation for her dad's release from prison is better. atleast its a bit funny. Philip and his dad's road trip to Lokoja is somehow taken a lifetime. Maybe Lokoja is now in Ghana. Cos, they seem to be stuck on a particular road forever. Please the director and the writers of this award winning soap, should do something to improve the storylines. They should give us issues that are bound to captivate the viewers like Jacob cross and Changes. The storylines on Tinsel are most times predictable and weak. Like the typical nollywood stories. Even one of the cast complained about the same thing the other day. Tinsel ought to be an international brand, and not for local audience only. We need to raise the bar, the more...


PS: And please, can anyone tell me what happened to the chuk's character on the soap. Cos it's only Ene I've been seeing. where is chuks? I guess they want to kill the character. cos to me, the guy playing the role of chuks, is not trying at all.

Before You Say I Do...alot of ladies are getting married these days. You see them beaming with smiles and filled with joy. I'm really happy for them. Cos getting married is a thing of joy. But I want to ask you a question. Are you sure of the guy you're getting married to. I hope you didnt 'rush' into it simply cos almost all your friends are married and you dont want to be left out, or because of your so called biological clock that is ticking very fast, or because wedding is now in vogue and you want to be part of it. if yours is any of the reasons listed, I hope you're not making a big mistake. I hope you are not getting married out of desperation or desire to get out of a certain situation. I hope the guy you are getting married to, wont turn out to be a wife batterer tomorrow. i hope the guy is not looking for a woman to use as his punching bag. i hope the guy is not looking for a woman to have kids for him only, cook his meals, watch his clothes or look after his mum and siblings for him. i hope you are not getting married for the wrong reason? One shoud be getting married for companionship, and not for the wrong reason. The man should be for the wife, and the wife for the man. the two of them should adhere to the vows taken at the altar. Please before saying 'I Do' be very sure of what you are about to do. dont rush into it for the wrong reason. with the way some women are being battered by their husbands these days, you begin to wonder if they were friends before getting married. Cos for a man to turn on his wife, he's no more seeing her as a wife, but as a stranger. I've heard lots of ladies saying love or compatibility doesn't matter anymore in marriage. to them, make the guy just dey loaded and show serious interest in them, they wont waste time before saying I Do. when yawa go gas later, the lady'd be left with enough regret, pain and injuries in some cases (that is if she's lucky enough to come out of the marriage intact). Please, before saying 'I DO' dont rush and dont do it for the wrong reason. wait on God, who is the master planner...And when you are getting married, please marry for love and with your eyes wide open.

Every woman has a price...including those claiming to be decent and responsible....True or False? Please dont get me wrong. Most ladies when confronted with such a statement are quick to either defend themselves or disagree with you. But lets disect the situation a bit. take for instance the case of a responsible female student in school. Her refusal to join her friends or other campus girls in doing runs or sorting is having its toll on her. as her grades are very low and hunger wont let her rest. Tell me, for how long would she be able to defend and uphold her dignity when faced with hunger, and bad grades, while others are doing it and getting away with it. What about a girl whose boyfriend is an unemployed graduate, that lives on what she and some his friends gives him daily. For how long would she be able to be with such a guy when a thousand and one better and richer guys are constantly knocking on her door for a relationship. Tell me, for how long would such a nice, supportive and decent girl to be able to live on hopes and empty promises? Even a married woman, whose husband is either unemployed or earning so little to take care of the family, could be tempted to compromise atimes. either at her place of work or business.when presented with an opportunity to change the circumstances of her poor family, with a 'condition/price' attached to the offer.We can go on and on. For life is cruel, and full of challenges. Our prayers should be for God to see us through and also give us the grace to overcome any challenge or temptation that might come our way, either at home, at work/business or in school. May God help us all

Every woman has a price...including those claiming to be decent and responsible....True or False? Please dont get me wrong. Most ladies when confronted with such a statement are quick to either defend themselves or disagree with you. But lets disect the situation a bit. take for instance the case of a responsible female student in school. Her refusal to join her friends or other campus girls in doing runs or sorting is having its toll on her. as her grades are very low and hunger wont let her rest. Tell me, for how long would she be able to defend and uphold her dignity when faced with hunger, and bad grades, while others are doing it and getting away with it. What about a girl whose boyfriend is an unemployed graduate, that lives on what she and some his friends gives him daily. For how long would she be able to be with such a guy when a thousand and one better and richer guys are constantly knocking on her door for a relationship. Tell me, for how long would such a nice, supportive and decent girl to be able to live on hopes and empty promises? Even a married woman, whose husband is either unemployed or earning so little to take care of the family, could be tempted to compromise atimes. either at her place of work or business.when presented with an opportunity to change the circumstances of her poor family, with a 'condition/price' attached to the offer.We can go on and on. For life is cruel, and full of challenges. Our prayers should be for God to see us through and give us the grace to overcome any challenge or temptation that might come our way, either at home, at work/business or in school. May God help us all.

Must a girl sleep around with men just to make ends meet in this part of the world. even to get a job, secure a university admission or any favour, a girl must use her body, because most men dont do favours for free. it's so sad and worrisome that most girls survive or get by, by succumbing to the wishes of men. our society is becoming so cruel. Cant a woman be allowed to make it in life (or in any field) without having to use her body. Most girls are with some men/guys not because of love, but because of what they are benefiting and due to some circumstances. Must everything be all about sex, sex, sex. even to buy a girl an handset, guys must want 'something' in return. to most men, nothing goes for nothing when it comes to helping a girl, either for job, school fees, university admission, financial assistance or even to secure an accomodation. the girl must grace his bed/or be his lover by fire by force. Though, sometimes, girls are also to blame for this. cos, it takes two to tango. But a real decent girl will never compromise no matter the situation.

Must a girl sleep around with men just to make ends meet in this part of the world. even to get a job, secure a university admission or any favour, a girl must use her body, because most men dont do favours for free. it's so sad and worrisome that most girls survive or get by, by succumbing to the wishes of men. our society is becoming so cruel. Cant a woman be allowed to make it in life (or in any field) without having to use her body. Most girls are with some men/guys not because of love, but because of what they are benefiting and due to some circumstances. Must everything be all about sex, sex, sex. even to buy a girl an handset, guys must want 'something' in return. to most men, nothing goes for nothing when it comes to helping a girl, either for job, school fees, university admission, financial assistance or even to secure an accomodation. the girl must grace his bed/or be his lover by fire by force. Though, sometimes, girls are also to blame for this. cos, it takes two to tango. But a real decent girl will never compromise no matter the situation.

Must a girl sleep around with men just to make ends meet in this part of the world. even to get a job, secure a university admission or any favour, a girl must use her body, because most men dont do favours for free. it's so sad and worrisome that most girls survive or get by, by succumbing to the wishes of men. our society is becoming so cruel. Cant a woman be allowed to make it in life (or in any field) without having to use her body. Most girls are with some men/guys not because of love, but because of what they are benefiting and due to some circumstances. Must everything be all about sex, sex, sex. even to buy a girl an handset, guys must want 'something' in return. to most men, nothing goes for nothing when it comes to helping a girl, either for job, school fees, university admission, financial assistance or even to secure an accomodation. the girl must grace his bed/or be his lover by fire by force. Though, sometimes, girls are also to blame for this. cos, it takes two to tango. But a real decent girl will never compromise no matter the situation.

Must a girl sleep around with men just to make ends meet in this part of the world. even to get a job, secure a university admission or any favour, a girl must use her body, because most men dont do favours for free. it's so sad and worrisome that most girls survive or get by, by succumbing to the wishes of men. our society is becoming so cruel. Cant a woman be allowed to make it in life (or in any field) without having to use her body. Most girls are with some men/guys not because of love, but because of what they are benefiting and due to some circumstances. Must everything be all about sex, sex, sex.   even to buy a girl an handset, guys must want 'something' in return. to most men, nothing goes for nothing when it comes to helping a girl, either for job, school fees, university admission, financial assistance or even to secure an accomodation. the girl must grace his bed/or be his lover by fire by force. Though, sometimes, girls are also to blame for this. cos, it takes two to tango. But a real decent girl will never compromise no matter the situation.

this is when someone is either angry and frustrated while in the middle of a serious need or crisis, and now decide to pour his or her anger and frustration on others. Situations like this do happen, especially within a family, in a compound (mostly in a face me, I face you house) or in the larger society. where you see a man or a woman pouring his or her anger and frustration of not having a job, a husband, university admission/education, loan or financial assistance on either family members, neighbours or on other members of the society. Such people get easily provoked and are always envious of other people's success or happiness. They sometimes look for trouble where there's none, and find faults and reason to quarrel, fight or misbehave every now and then. And with the problem of unemplyment among our youth, situations like this is bound to be on the increase. And this sometimes lead to crime or even civil disturbances. Like what's happening in some parts of Lagos, where hoodlums are now pouring their own anger (with the system) and frustration on innocent people by robbing and attacking people, looting and vandalizing other people's properties and homes. This same anger and frustration is the cause of the present security problem in our country. The emergence of Boko Haram, Niger-Delta Militants and OPC is as a result of anger and frustration. But mind you, in most cases certain situations or conditions could also be the fault of the frustrated person(s). Atimes , people use their own hands to cause problems for themselves. And pouring out their anger and frustration on others wont help solve the problem at all. Rather, it would only compound the situation.and hurting themselves wont do any good as well. the only solution to such situations is to hope and pray, while looking at other positive means or avenues of solving the problem and making things better.

this is when someone is either angry and frustrated while in the middle of a serious need or crisis, and now decide to pour his or her anger and frustration on others. Situations like this do happen, especially within a family, in a compound (mostly in a face me, I face you house) or in the larger society. where you see a man or a woman pouring his or her anger and frustration of not having a job, a husband, university admission/education, loan or financial assistance on either family members, neighbours or on other members of the society. Such people get easily provoked and are always envious of other people's success or happiness. They sometimes look for trouble where there's none, and find faults and reason to quarrel, fight or misbehave every now and then. And with the problem of unemplyment among our youth, situations like this is bound to be on the increase. And this sometimes lead to crime or even civil disturbances. Like what's happening in some parts of Lagos, where hoodlums are now pouring their own anger (with the system) and frustration on innocent people by robbing and attacking people, looting and vandalizing other people's properties and homes. This same anger and frustration is the cause of the present security problem in our country. The emergence of Boko Haram, Niger-Delta Militants and OPC is as a result of anger and frustration. But mind you, in most cases certain situations or conditions could also be the fault of the frustrated person(s). Atimes , people use their own hands to cause problems for themselves. And pouring out their anger and frustration on others wont help solve the problem at all. Rather, it would only compound the situation.and hurting themselves wont do any good as well. the only solution to such situations is to hope and pray, while looking at other positive means or avenues of solving the problem and making things better.

Yeah. we really need to pause and think of what to do to resolve issues rather than take laws into our hands or pour the anger and frustration on others. There are positive means and avenues of resolving issues for the good of everybody.

This is when someone is either angry and frustrated while in the middle of a serious need or crisis, and now decide to pour his or her anger and frustration on others. Situations like this do happen, especially within a family, in a compound (mostly in a face me, I face you house) or in the larger society. where you see a man or a woman pouring his or her anger and frustration of not having a job, a husband, university admission/education, loan or financial assistance on either family members, neighbours or on other members of the society. Such people get easily provoked and are always envious of other people's success or happiness. They sometimes look for trouble where there's none, and find faults and reason to quarrel, fight or misbehave every now and then. And with the problem of unemplyment among our youth, situations like this is bound to be on the increase. And this sometimes lead to crime or even civil disturbances. Like what's happening in some parts of Lagos, where hoodlums are now pouring their own anger (with the system) and frustration on innocent people by robbing and attacking people, looting and vandalizing other people's properties and homes. This same anger and frustration is the cause of the present security problem in our country. The emergence of Boko Haram, Niger-Delta Militants and OPC is as a result of anger and frustration. But mind you, in most cases certain situations or conditions could also be the fault of the frustrated person(s). Atimes , people use their own hands to cause problems for themselves. And pouring out their anger and frustration on others wont help solve the problem at all. Rather, it would only compound the situation.and hurting themselves wont do any good as well. the only solution to such situations is to hope and pray, while looking at other positive means or avenues of solving the problem and making things better.

Proven Signs She's Interested,

No.10 Touching or flicking hair

For more than 40 years, researchers have been cataloging the non-verbal behaviors women use to let men know they're interested (and vice versa). One important category of flirting is referred to as kinetic gestures, and it includes the oldest trick in the book: hair tossing. But while a casual, seductive toss or brief stroke of the hair can be her way of letting you know that she enjoys your company, continually toying with her tresses may suggest she's nervous or uncertain about you.

No.9 Lip licking

Another kinetic gesture that women often unconsciously engage in in order to show their interest is licking their lips. This behavior serves to draw your attention to her lips and indicate that a kiss could be in the cards. You should exercise caution in interpreting this behavior, however, to avoid committing an embarrassing social gaff. Occasional licking may mean she's into you, but frequent licking may simply indicate a bad habit. So before you swoop in for a smooch, take stock of whether the rest of her behavior matches up with her lips.



No.8 Teasing

When you were a kid, your number one way of showing a girl that you were smitten with her was likely by stuffing some sand in her mouth. Consider teasing to be the adult version of this behavior. Both men and women use teasing as a way to let another person know they're crushing on them. For women, teasing has also been a way of testing your intentions. So don't be too sensitive here -- she might just be trying to assess your true level of interest.



No.7 She gets close

Merely being physically close to another person appears to increase how much we like them. Moreover, in opposite sex pairings, physical proximity appears to augment attraction between two people. When a woman deliberately moves closer towards you, she may therefore be luring you into liking her more. Let her make this move first before you reciprocate, however, as a sudden invasion of personal space may be worrisome to her if you read her signals wrong.



No.6 She shares back

Once you've got the ball rolling in the conversation department, try taking things to the next level by sharing something about yourself with her. The less you know her, the more positive and less personal the information should be, or you risk scaring her off. A reciprocal response where she offers up a similar level of information about herself is a hint that she has a favorable view of you, since both women and men tend to disclose personal details to people they like. Also, though you might think it's superficial to bond over a mutual love of barbecue chips, sharing serves to increase the feeling of intimacy between two people, meaning she'll like you even more.



No.5 Friendly response to your chat-up

Forget all the pickup lines you've ever rehearsed. When it comes to gauging her interest in you, the wittiness of your remarks appears to be much less important than how she responds. A monosyllabic answer, particularly when delivered in a clipped tone, is her way of shutting you down. A smiling, friendly response, however, is a green light to follow up with further conversation. To minimize the amount of time at your next social event that you spend speaking to women who simply aren't interested, open with questions that can be responded to simply. That way, if she's not interested, she can exit the conversation quickly. And if she is, you'll know right away.

No.4 Open postures

Both men and women send important signals to others simply by changing the orientation and postures of their bodies. A woman who has her body turned away from yours, particularly if it's at a 90-degree angle, is non-verbally blocking your attempts at getting to know her. Crossing her arms and leaning away from you are two other stances that indicate that a conversation will be a non-starter. Poses that suggest she's receptive to further communication with you are much more open. For example, she'll turn her body to face yours, her arms will be uncrossed and she'll lean in toward you.



No.3 Mirroring gestures

There's a reason they say imitation is the most sincere form of flattery. It turns out that when a woman digs you, or wants to sell you a new suit, she'll copy your moves. For example, she'll touch her face, reach for her glass or adjust her body a few seconds after you do. It's not just women, however, who can use this information to their advantage. When you mirror her gestures, she'll feel more at ease around you. She'll also get the impression that you two are alike, which will increase her opinion of you, given that humans tend to have warmer feelings toward people they believe to be like themselves. Just remember to avoid being obvious -- overt mimicking will leave her with the impression that you're making fun of her.

No.2 Head tilt and smile

Another flirty gesture that's been amply described and investigated by scientists interested in non-verbal behavior is what is referred to as head canting. Essentially, head canting is simply a fancy name for when a person tilts their head to one side. In women, when this tilt is accompanied by exposing the neck and a small smile, it sometimes means that you've caught her attention. Paired with eye play, this combination can be devastatingly attractive to men.



No.1 Eye play

Eye contact is a powerful mode of communication among humans, and repeated or prolonged eye contact usually serves two main purposes: to convey interest or hostility. When it comes to the former, ethologist Irenaus Eibl-Eibesfeldt was the first to describe how women the world over from New York to New Delhi let their eyes do the talking. To figure out whether she wants to talk to you, watch out for a glance that catches your eye, breaks eye contact and then catches your eye again shortly afterward. If you notice that she looks at you once but doesn't look back, she's not interested. Also, don't worry that you have to catch this signal the first time it's made. Research has determined that women will continue to send it to you when you've piqued their curiosity, possibly because it takes men a while to process receiving it, as well as harness the courage to strike up a conversation.



Courtesy: Askmen.com

Advice to all ladies!
The Football Club a guy supports determine his attitude towards his relationship. Find below the list of clubs and what it means to the guy.
Arsenal:
He loves young & cheap girls, freaks out as the girl's taste gets higher. He's afraid of incurring expenses.
Chelsea:
He has no real emotions or love though he buys d best of things for you & takes you to good places.
Manchester United:
Marriage is all he wants, no Cinemas, no Shoprite, no KFC! He wants a wife material at no extra cost.
Man City
He's the richest Yahoo guy in town. Hope u get to date him because,though he's younger, he has d cash!
Liverpool:
He has no swag, he only has record of dating pretty gals in d past & that's what he keeps telling u.
Barca:
A short guy with swag, may do anything especially if u re a tall lady!
Eyimba:
He has no money for now. He's hard working, if only u may endure.

Lol! Do not say I did not warn you!

Courtesy Mojisola Akinduro

There are some ladies that before they eventually get married, they would have slept with several guys. to the extent that they may not even know the actual number of men they've slept with, remember all of them or even know the names of some of the men they've slept with. having met, wined, dined and done enough "roforofo" with enough guys while seeking for either love, comfort or fun.

Most of the girls on facebook and 2go are now swindlers using all kinds of tricks and lies (and even their body) to get money from guys. And when such tricks doesn't work, they are ready to use their body, by sleeping with these men just to get what they want. but unfortunately guys are now becoming wiser and smarter and hardly drop anything unless they have their way with these girls. Can you imagine that guys are now having a field day with girls on facebook and 2go. Since most of the girls are so cheap and gotten so easily. and most of these girls (on facebook/2go) are known to always throw themselves on the guys they meet on facebook or 2go just to collect money or receive one favour or the other from these guys. Tell me, where is the dignity in our ladies. when so many of them are like rotten tomatoes, ready to even drop their "pants" just to have money to eat "bread and beans"