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Mr man... Open ur brain. What did I say? Open it wide.. Call it quit fast... Talking from experience. If u had a stressful day, hoping when u get home u av a wife to cool d stress, but, contrary was d order off day. Run pass Usain Bolt. I don talk my own oooooooooooo







quote author=saweide post=52097165]Hello All my name is Saweide segun. This is a true life story am about to share. I really need a sincere advice from matured minds and no abuse pls

I am not Married but with a girl child. All plans to arrange my marriage with my gal is slated for next year. But I noticed that my wife to be and I are not compatible at all

Ever since I met my wife to be in the year 2011. She has been so nagging and rude to me. She never obey me for once. We always quarell

Right from day one till this present time we have been living a cat and dog life. She is a nagging woman. She can't say sorry if she is right or wrong and she is not submissive she disrespect my mum anytime we pay her a visit.

She is not hardworking,and she doesn't have any future plans.. She has never for once encourage me in my career


I have tried to call her several times that she can change and she will promise to Change. But later she will put up her attitude again

She had a daughter for me out of wedlock and that has been holding me from chasing her away of my life

She is living with me presently

The first year I met her I was in Abuja and she was in lagos

She keeps a lot of guys before but that has changed. She no longer does that cos I fought it

Sometimes we quarrel and it attracts neibors that comes around to settle our fights and this has brought Shame to me

I told my mum about that and it gave her a lot of concerns

I told her am enduring the relationship
And that I have made up my mind to quit the relationship and let go that All plans by her family to for introduction and engagement ceremony has been cancelled that am no longer interested

Something happened last month between us

I noticed she has been monitoring me and she always go through my phones whenever I fell asleep
She will check my messages with my friends especially girls

There was this lady we do chat always. But she was not my lover and I don't flirt with her on chat but since we always chat, she suspect a foul play and unknowingly to me she has copied the girl number and saved it only her phone in the midnight while I was sleeping
Sometimes in the mid of the night I would wake up and caught her going thru my phone

She has done that several times and I later password my phone but little did I know despite passwording
My phone she still have access to my chats and data

I don't know how she hack into my phone despite passwording my phone

So I woke up one day and I found out that she has changed my profile picture on whatsapp to her own a pics taken together by me and her holding ourselves, I asked her who changed the dp but she denied it...

So last week Friday I had a meeting on business with a lady I do normally chat with which the lady promised to pay me 100k to start my business
I so much like this lady because of her nature and for her intelligence which my wife to be never had.
Tho I never discuss anything about my past to her before... But I didn't tell her I have someone in my life

My wife suspecting that I had a meeting with this lady called her and told her to desist from me that I am married...
Before I know the lady who promised to give me 100k to start my business blocked me on my whatsapp

And I called her she told me someone called her to leave her husband alone that in my life I should not call her again, I tried to explain to her but she cut off the line and hang up the phone on me


Now the business is over and that was how I loose the 100k. Up till now I have not called this lady

Pls what should I do it seems am in love with the lady but I want to call it quit with my nagging wife as I always call her.


How should I contact this lady and convince her

Pls I need a good advice.. Thanks all for your time[/quote]

Right now. I'm somewhere in Abeokuta, I believe not everyone on nairaland have been to town. Saw this thread, was moved to tears reading comments from my beautiful, wonderful 9ja women. All ur will be answered. My wedding of 5 years broke down bcoz of this. Dont ask me how, she packed all of my properties. Let me stop here.

Ok

What is ur most embarrassing moment



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What's ur favorite color??




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Are u emotional... Easily moved to tears??





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Which? I must have missed it.[/quote]

Deoblazing If I asked u out. Will u say yes without hesitation?

Yes all local coaches, one way or the other asked for bribe before inviting unknown foreign based players.. I know of one whom was invited to 2009 under 20 World Cup And askedvto pay 800k just for invitation to camping. Do d math who was d coach. So they all do it.

Are u still in abk? Maybe I can ask one of their staffs living in d same hood with me.

2dugged:
Dying during child birth is my greatest fear

It shall not be ur portion.. Ijn
Remember losing my sister during child birth in 2010.. May God forgive all of her sins

Sorry for ur loss. Lost a dear sister also few years a go. It was so painful. Everytime I remember her, tears flow down freely from my eye.

Their is also a naija guy Shakiru, he also contest in this year Britain got talent. I even taught he was the guy not until I saw the name.

DAMI girl, how're u today? I love ur candid advice to Mr 7 yrs. Work it out? This also happened to me n I Stuck hoping love should conquers all thing. Until she started visiting babalawo bcoz of him before he should run? Not trying to generalize but, that Exactly what happened to me. I worked it out, move on how dumb I can be. We got married in 2011. As of today,itz been 8 month d marriage broke down with no kids...




[qu ote author=StephDamielola post=51969358]Mr 7 years relationship, I will be sincere as a Lady and I will advise you to work it out. Don't pull out. Those advising you to pull out having been into long term relationships. It hurts to stay that long without seeing your ultimate dream come true. And you know, women are vulnerable beings. We are always right in the eyes of the society but the truth is that we are the weaker ones. Your Baby is just feeling unsecured. She feels you will pull out soon. She is scared Bro. Give her hope! WE ONLY FALL IN LOVE ONCE[/quote]

Uncle, just saw this. My advice run faster than Usain Bolt. If u don't, U'll end up with a story that touch. It happened to me also, I stuck by n taught love conquers all thing, alas, I'm still trying to get over it, it's over 8months now my marriage crashed. Abey run ooooooooooo. Love is wicked ooooo.







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ote author=thebest1210 post=51953740]It's a very long story, but I will be as brief as possible and try to give the important points.
Again, pls, don't mind my typo errors.

We have been dating for 7yrs 5 months now. All dese while, we have been having serious fights and arguments. The relationship started right from our university days. Now, we have graduated and I now have my master degree. During this period, dere is no week, we don't quarrel, I've tot of pulling out a number of times, but we still got stuck to each other. Won't lie, I have promised, countless number of times dat I will marry her, yes! And I meant it. Just waiting to have a job first, not to even "blow" b4 I will do the "right" tin.
But in the past few months, d rship has degenerated badly, she insults me like boy, call names, I insult her too. And when it results to a fight, she begins her cursing spree. Telling m how I won't succeed in life, how I will die b4 I reach 30, how I will fail and tinz won't work out for me. To make matter worse, she reported me to her younger sister, who is very far below my age, and dis small gal insulted and cursed the hell out of me. Promised to deal with me. A gal I paid putme form for?? Didn't respond to the gal, cos, it will be childish of me to exchange talks with such a small girl. To make matter worse, wen I told m gal wat her sister said, she told m to my face dat I deserved it! Kai!!
After some days, I decided to apologize to m gal for d insults and the fights. Guess what she said, dat I must apologize to her family first, including the sister b4 she forgives me. Na there my head scatter! I told her to go burn and rot in hell!
Now, i have come to realize that, in their family, I know they were trained solely by deir mother, even though the father is still alive, dey don't respect men. Men are insignificant to dem. How can I marry from such a family?? After all dese curses and insults from members of the family? Y does she always refer to my success, especially my financial success in life whenever we fight? And many other sad stories.
I want to pull out, but I don't knw how.
I need advice pls.[/quote]

Mimzyy:
Walaykum Salam dear. Hope you're good?

Yep, trying my best.. God is my strength.. How is d weekend? It's sunny here in abk.....

Mimzyy:
Huh

Hey pretty woman, how re u today? Have a splendid weekend...

aflyingbird:
I'm sorry bout dat. she left bc u had no money ? dats too bad , sorry

Thank u. I wished I can tell u all of it. Everything that goes on behind the close door. I'm moving on gradually, just that loneliness is biting me hard. God is my strength

HardMirror:
Brother how is Jumaat today

It was awesome.. How re u? How d weekend go be?

Mimzyy:
Lolzzzzz. I AM A MUSLIM. I've mentioned it here severally. So this doesn't apply to me. I attended a christian secondary school for six years so I am used to both tenets.

I used to be afraid of the unknown until I stopped worrying myself over things that I do not have control over. I'm taking a risk and so are you. Life is in itself a huge risk.

Salam alaikum.,.. .. .

aflyingbird:
OP , u didn't say y she left . a woman won't just pack out for no reason . look at all da women u r following on it profile n ur siggy . look at u already flirting wiv women in here . did u cheat on her ? did u have time for her ? anything else ? must be a reason y she left . since u haven't dealt wiv dis reason u should stay away from another relationship for now

Nice questions u asked. Will answer ur questions one after the other. She left because I was broke, just following all the women on here bcoz I believe I never got the chance to study women temperament b4 n I need to see ur reasoning ways now. I have learnt one or 2 things on here. I never cheated on her. While even courting I never double dated. I respect every women young or old. Always make sure she is comfortable, Iost myself in d process o! Doing that. Their is no crime in flirting dear. Don't hesitate to ask me more questions if u have..

Richy4:
This is the most hilarious post I have even seen for sometime

OP what do you mean by " Dig worms".... Is it to like worms or to practically dig it out from the earth?

I like your Advert...It is kind of original... .

Thanks bro

Akanbibabatunde:
dig worms, hooks and boats in abk ?? Or Australia or Antarctica *am confused*

Yes bro, she must know how to dig worm. U should know.... Thank u

Mimzyy:
No prob.

nice meeting on here. I will move on as u stated. I went thru ur post n found out yes u re very good. Keep working on ur talent. I know I'll still need some of ur motivational advice...

[quote author=Mimzyy post=51732791]Baptist Girls' College. Idi Aba.[/quot

That's far. I know the school after Chrisland university. Can I be a friend? Maybe u will continue to give words of encouragement n motivation for me in this trying time.

[quote author=cococandy post=51732649]Oh you're a fisherman? Never mind.
The fish and worm lines connected in my brain just now.
Which makes me wonder why don't you have your own boat?[/quot

It's just to crack up a damsel like u. Not a fisherman, but a businessman.

[quote author=Mimzyy post=51732518]Yeah. It's usually hard to move on but time will naturally heal your wounds.

Nice, my alma mater is in abk. Really, where?
A relationship of 9 years, in BTW 5 years of marriage. Heaven knows I did my best. It's over 7 months now but, I know I will be fine. This life....

Mimzyy:
Dear, I might be wrong but I feel that what you need right now is friendship not a relationship. I feel you should give yourself some time to heal from your last experience.

You're quite right. Moving on is d hardest, but so far so good, God has been wonderful. Thanks for d advice. We can be friends if u don't mind! I base in Abk.....

Mimzyy:
How sweet of you.

Who knows, we might also hit something up from here if u believe.

Mimzyy:
I don't know how to sew or dig worms. I don't have boats and motors too.

I will teach u how to do it. Will buy u all the rest..

5minsmadness:
quote author=maysimsimple post=49870348]Its been 9 months now since my wife left me, been so lonely, have to move away from d city to a town; hoping its gonna heal d wound n vacancy she created in my heart, but, alas, here I'm still lingering in d pain n vacuum she created in my heart. I know it's not easy, have promised myself I'm gonna love all over again if d right girl comes along. I love my estranged wife, did everything a man can do to his wife to make her comfortable n happy, even when d handwriting was on d wall that d wedding its gonna hit a brick wall. I've read so many post n comments here. Well don't wanna say much.. I'm 32yrs of age,tall 6'3... Smart n intelligent, not a perfect person n I know u can't be perfect.. But u must be very smart n intelligent. Always ready for a challenge n adventure.... U don't know what u got until y loose it. Been seeing comments, its d hard to think about it. D sing that best describe my feeling now is .. Christina Perri.. A thousand years.. I missed loving someone n been loved back..

How far? Hope you're feeling a bit better. Dont rush into marrying again for some time. Give yourself a year at least.

Thanks bro

Mimzyy:
Huh

You looking radiant. Can I know u?

Bros... Run as fãst as ur leg can take u. D same happens to me n i over look it. We got Married. Bros run possas.