This is the worst advice ever, if you are a barrister ., you won't get clients Smh

psp2pc:
my advice to you. relocate with your daughter to somewhere you would have peace of mind... don't let ur wife to be know where you going to... start a new life....
I have been in this situation and this is what I did....

another question OP: how old are you and is she older than U

saweide:
How would I convince the other lady
It seems she felt in love with me too
But u never disclosed my past to her
Before my nagging wife called her on fone telling her to distance herself from her husband
I really like this lady not becos of the money but naturally and by her character
She is humble, submissive, jovial, honest, Godly and which other qualities I can't find in my so called nagging wife

Pls can anyone advice me on how to convince this lady?

Her last word to me was that I should never in my life call her if I don't want to see the wrath of God

1. U are not married to that girl; she's not your wife, you just had sex with her which produced a child!

2. Please can you take the mother of your child back to her parents house?? Explain things to her people! This babe will continue to spoil show for you if you don't!

Or better still work on your relationship with her; since u don't want her no need lol

Call the other babe, apologise to her even if it means seeing her. At this point I remember Dumebi and kenneth okonkwo (lol) .

If your babe refuse to change just get rid of her! Pursue her outta ur house jor

The only area I fault her is where she disrespected your mom. You are even more guilty in this matter. Imagine all the qualities u enumerated about the other lady, and you seems to have fallen for her. Your wife knows all these, and u expect her not to protect her own. U made her suspicious and u are here complaining. Go and fix your home, do you think the other Lady is an angel? Maybe you think marriage is a bed of roses

saweide:
How would I convince the other lady
It seems she felt in love with me too
But u never disclosed my past to her
Before my nagging wife called her on fone telling her to distance herself from her husband
I really like this lady not becos of the money but naturally and by her character
She is humble, submissive, jovial, honest, Godly and which other qualities I can't find in my so called nagging wife

Pls can anyone advice me on how to convince this lady?

Her last word to me was that I should never in my life call her if I don't want to see the wrath of God

One word RUN

The fact is that ur a confused fellow, live with this new lady and you would see are demerit too. No one is perfect and 4 u to endure 4 5years my broda she is d one. U wnt av managed till then. And am sure ur complaining nw because ur broke thats all. Remember all that glitters is nt gold.

THAT IS THE SAME PROBLEM IM TOO MY FRIEND

saweide:
Thanks to you all for ur candid and matured advice
Am still expecting to get more before I conclude

op the problem is a simple one, both of are not honest to each other
since 2011 u notice all these and u both are still togather. abeg u don chop am finish come dey find way to run. u are wicked

saweide:
How would I convince the other lady
It seems she felt in love with me too
But u never disclosed my past to her
Before my nagging wife called her on fone telling her to distance herself from her husband
I really like this lady not becos of the money but naturally and by her character
She is humble, submissive, jovial, honest, Godly and which other qualities I can't find in my so called nagging wife

Pls can anyone advice me on how to convince this lady?

Her last word to me was that I should never in my life call her if I don't want to see the wrath of God

This your story and MMM na the same

Angelyna:
This is the worst advice ever, if you are a barrister ., you won't get clients Smh

The woman they are blaming may be in one corner praying for this OP oh. Mtchew

You desperately need that 100k huh? You have a woman that is living with you yet, you want to collect another lady's money and you disrespect her always by chatting with other women... you should learn to respect her 1st and see if she will not change and please try work for your own money and stop looking for girls to lie to and collect their money.

TO WHERE TOGO OR GHANA

saweide:


Hello All my name is Saweide segun.

Pls I need a good advice..

Don't leave this girl. The girl still loves you and you can change her attitude with this current situation of things.

Firstly, this girl don't know that her actions were wrong. Thank God, u have shown her that several times.

Secondly, this girl loves you so much. She doesn't want to lose you. This is evident in that she can stay up in the night just to check ur phone to see if no one is snatching her husband away. once u start showing her some love and reassurances, she will definitely change.

my verdict: (Threaten her). Take some bold and big step that you are no longer interested in marrying her and be serious about it.

Result Analysis:

This might bring her back to her senses, as she wud realize and question her own excesses. Yoruba adage says "the day a mad man knows he is mad, he is cured that day". So if she value your relationship, she wud change immediately. but remember, change is a gradual process, so be patient with her.

if this doesn't work, leave her immediately, as she is not likely to change in the nearest future.

Mind you, as for the other lady, you might not know her other side, and probably she might even be worse, however everything is a risk.

Abo oro lazo fun omoluabi, ti Oba denu e. A Di odidi.

Maziebuka01:

op the problem is a simple one, both of are not honest to each other
since 2011 u notice all these and u both are still togather. abeg u don chop am finish come dey find way to run. u are wicked

No mind am. Imagine 5years. Am a male oh

delishpot:
The money part makes no sense to me. How many men would also freely allow a man to chat up their wives because the man wants to give her money? Most would monitor the so called conversation between their women and the philanthrophist man. My only problem is that she is not wise. And a woman who lacks wisdom would destroy anyone close to her by her foolish reaction to situations and circumstances Same way a foolish man would destroy his home too.

You raise her suspicion by chatting offten with ladies you claim are better than her yet you went ahead to cut her off from her male friends. Don't you know women are also jealous of their men chatting with random women too? It seems the other woman has eyes on you too. Your woman prolly read between the lines in your messages.All in all, you guys do not love each other you are managing her, she is desperately trying to keep your focus on only her. Make Una break up make we rest o.

U are wise

omocheche:
You desperately need that 100k huh? You have a woman that is living with you yet, you want to collect another lady's money and you disrespect her always by chatting with other women... you should learn to respect her 1st and see if she will not change and please try work for your own money and stop looking for girls to lie to and collect their money.

I love you jare. We havn't even heard her own part of the story. Mtchew.

Very funny post.

Guys, I guess y'all can now see why you're always advised to man up from the word go?

This OP learnt the hard way.

He allowed the girl to gain a lot of upper hand in their said relationship.

Which is too bad.

Now he's paying the terrible price for that fatal mistake.

Don't be like the OP.

Once a woman you are with starts showing signs that she has developed some wings, cut her down.

Slap and beat some damn sense into her. Throw her out. End the relationship...

It doesn't matter even if she has the sweetest pûssïe you've tasted in your life.

Just do something to remind her that you're still the man. Let her know that her respect for you is totally unconditional.

Or else...

Mr man, I think you have a problem. Yes, you have painted your wife to be as a bad person and we accept that. My question is, what kind of business transaction do you have with the lady who promised to give you hundred thousand, but got mad and blocked you when she heard you were married, and also warned you never to call her again? Are you dating her, or have the intention of dating her? Your wife must have found out something between you and the lady, that made her firstly, use her picture of you and her as dp, before calling the lady to steer clear of you. I put it to you, that you are being economical with the truth.

saweide:
Hello All my name is Saweide segun. This is a true life story am about to share. I really need a sincere advice from matured minds and no abuse pls

I am not Married but with a girl child. All plans to arrange my marriage with my gal is slated for next year. But I noticed that my wife to be and I are not compatible at all

Ever since I met my wife to be in the year 2011. She has been so nagging and rude to me. She never obey me for once. We always quarell

Right from day one till this present time we have been living a cat and dog life. She is a nagging woman. She can't say sorry if she is right or wrong and she is not submissive she disrespect my mum anytime we pay her a visit.

She is not hardworking,and she doesn't have any future plans.. She has never for once encourage me in my career


I have tried to call her several times that she can change and she will promise to Change. But later she will put up her attitude again

She had a daughter for me out of wedlock and that has been holding me from chasing her away of my life

She is living with me presently

The first year I met her I was in Abuja and she was in lagos

She keeps a lot of guys before but that has changed. She no longer does that cos I fought it

Sometimes we quarrel and it attracts neibors that comes around to settle our fights and this has brought Shame to me

I told my mum about that and it gave her a lot of concerns

I told her am enduring the relationship
And that I have made up my mind to quit the relationship and let go that All plans by her family to for introduction and engagement ceremony has been cancelled that am no longer interested

Something happened last month between us

I noticed she has been monitoring me and she always go through my phones whenever I fell asleep
She will check my messages with my friends especially girls

There was this lady we do chat always. But she was not my lover and I don't flirt with her on chat but since we always chat, she suspect a foul play and unknowingly to me she has copied the girl number and saved it only her phone in the midnight while I was sleeping
Sometimes in the mid of the night I would wake up and caught her going thru my phone

She has done that several times and I later password my phone but little did I know despite passwording
My phone she still have access to my chats and data

I don't know how she hack into my phone despite passwording my phone

So I woke up one day and I found out that she has changed my profile picture on whatsapp to her own a pics taken together by me and her holding ourselves, I asked her who changed the dp but she denied it...

So last week Friday I had a meeting on business with a lady I do normally chat with which the lady promised to pay me 100k to start my business
I so much like this lady because of her nature and for her intelligence which my wife to be never had.
Tho I never discuss anything about my past to her before... But I didn't tell her I have someone in my life

My wife suspecting that I had a meeting with this lady called her and told her to desist from me that I am married...
Before I know the lady who promised to give me 100k to start my business blocked me on my whatsapp

And I called her she told me someone called her to leave her husband alone that in my life I should not call her again, I tried to explain to her but she cut off the line and hang up the phone on me


Now the business is over and that was how I loose the 100k. Up till now I have not called this lady

Pls what should I do it seems am in love with the lady but I want to call it quit with my nagging wife as I always call her.


How should I contact this lady and convince her

Pls I need a good advice.. Thanks all for your time

saweide:
Hello All my name is Saweide segun. This is a true life story am about to share. I really need a sincere advice from matured minds and no abuse pls

I am not Married but with a girl child. All plans to arrange my marriage with my gal is slated for next year. But I noticed that my wife to be and I are not compatible at all

Ever since I met my wife to be in the year 2011. She has been so nagging and rude to me. She never obey me for once. We always quarell

Right from day one till this present time we have been living a cat and dog life. She is a nagging woman. She can't say sorry if she is right or wrong and she is not submissive she disrespect my mum anytime we pay her a visit.

She is not hardworking,and she doesn't have any future plans.. She has never for once encourage me in my career


I have tried to call her several times that she can change and she will promise to Change. But later she will put up her attitude again

She had a daughter for me out of wedlock and that has been holding me from chasing her away of my life

She is living with me presently

The first year I met her I was in Abuja and she was in lagos

She keeps a lot of guys before but that has changed. She no longer does that cos I fought it

Sometimes we quarrel and it attracts neibors that comes around to settle our fights and this has brought Shame to me

I told my mum about that and it gave her a lot of concerns

I told her am enduring the relationship
And that I have made up my mind to quit the relationship and let go that All plans by her family to for introduction and engagement ceremony has been cancelled that am no longer interested

Something happened last month between us

I noticed she has been monitoring me and she always go through my phones whenever I fell asleep
She will check my messages with my friends especially girls

There was this lady we do chat always. But she was not my lover and I don't flirt with her on chat but since we always chat, she suspect a foul play and unknowingly to me she has copied the girl number and saved it only her phone in the midnight while I was sleeping
Sometimes in the mid of the night I would wake up and caught her going thru my phone

She has done that several times and I later password my phone but little did I know despite passwording
My phone she still have access to my chats and data

I don't know how she hack into my phone despite passwording my phone

So I woke up one day and I found out that she has changed my profile picture on whatsapp to her own a pics taken together by me and her holding ourselves, I asked her who changed the dp but she denied it...

So last week Friday I had a meeting on business with a lady I do normally chat with which the lady promised to pay me 100k to start my business
I so much like this lady because of her nature and for her intelligence which my wife to be never had.
Tho I never discuss anything about my past to her before... But I didn't tell her I have someone in my life

My wife suspecting that I had a meeting with this lady called her and told her to desist from me that I am married...
Before I know the lady who promised to give me 100k to start my business blocked me on my whatsapp

And I called her she told me someone called her to leave her husband alone that in my life I should not call her again, I tried to explain to her but she cut off the line and hang up the phone on me


Now the business is over and that was how I loose the 100k. Up till now I have not called this lady

Pls what should I do it seems am in love with the lady but I want to call it quit with my nagging wife as I always call her.


How should I contact this lady and convince her

Pls I need a good advice.. Thanks all for your time

CONFUSED GUYS WILL ALWAYS BRING UP PROBLEMS. FIRST. IF U KNOW U ARE NOT COMPATIBLE WITH ALL U HV SEEN AND SAID,WHAT ATE U STILL DOING WITH HER. U HV BN CARELESS FOR TOO LONG. U HV A CHILD BUT NO LOVE.END IT. FACE UR FUTURE FACE UR CHALLENGES.FOR UR MISSED OPPORTUNITY,LEAVE D MONEY BUT SEEK D WOMAN'S HEART AGAIN.SHE MAY COME BACK.

You still want the relationship ,don't lie

Mr man... Open ur brain. What did I say? Open it wide.. Call it quit fast... Talking from experience. If u had a stressful day, hoping when u get home u av a wife to cool d stress, but, contrary was d order off day. Run pass Usain Bolt. I don talk my own oooooooooooo







quote author=saweide post=52097165]Hello All my name is Saweide segun. This is a true life story am about to share. I really need a sincere advice from matured minds and no abuse pls

I am not Married but with a girl child. All plans to arrange my marriage with my gal is slated for next year. But I noticed that my wife to be and I are not compatible at all

Ever since I met my wife to be in the year 2011. She has been so nagging and rude to me. She never obey me for once. We always quarell

Right from day one till this present time we have been living a cat and dog life. She is a nagging woman. She can't say sorry if she is right or wrong and she is not submissive she disrespect my mum anytime we pay her a visit.

She is not hardworking,and she doesn't have any future plans.. She has never for once encourage me in my career


I have tried to call her several times that she can change and she will promise to Change. But later she will put up her attitude again

She had a daughter for me out of wedlock and that has been holding me from chasing her away of my life

She is living with me presently

The first year I met her I was in Abuja and she was in lagos

She keeps a lot of guys before but that has changed. She no longer does that cos I fought it

Sometimes we quarrel and it attracts neibors that comes around to settle our fights and this has brought Shame to me

I told my mum about that and it gave her a lot of concerns

I told her am enduring the relationship
And that I have made up my mind to quit the relationship and let go that All plans by her family to for introduction and engagement ceremony has been cancelled that am no longer interested

Something happened last month between us

I noticed she has been monitoring me and she always go through my phones whenever I fell asleep
She will check my messages with my friends especially girls

There was this lady we do chat always. But she was not my lover and I don't flirt with her on chat but since we always chat, she suspect a foul play and unknowingly to me she has copied the girl number and saved it only her phone in the midnight while I was sleeping
Sometimes in the mid of the night I would wake up and caught her going thru my phone

She has done that several times and I later password my phone but little did I know despite passwording
My phone she still have access to my chats and data

I don't know how she hack into my phone despite passwording my phone

So I woke up one day and I found out that she has changed my profile picture on whatsapp to her own a pics taken together by me and her holding ourselves, I asked her who changed the dp but she denied it...

So last week Friday I had a meeting on business with a lady I do normally chat with which the lady promised to pay me 100k to start my business
I so much like this lady because of her nature and for her intelligence which my wife to be never had.
Tho I never discuss anything about my past to her before... But I didn't tell her I have someone in my life

My wife suspecting that I had a meeting with this lady called her and told her to desist from me that I am married...
Before I know the lady who promised to give me 100k to start my business blocked me on my whatsapp

And I called her she told me someone called her to leave her husband alone that in my life I should not call her again, I tried to explain to her but she cut off the line and hang up the phone on me


Now the business is over and that was how I loose the 100k. Up till now I have not called this lady

Pls what should I do it seems am in love with the lady but I want to call it quit with my nagging wife as I always call her.


How should I contact this lady and convince her

Pls I need a good advice.. Thanks all for your time


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dere one tin I always say "there are two sides of a coin" if u hear d wife's story some of u may change ur advice......nt saying she is free from wrong doing tho

drealaz24:


Don't leave this girl. The girl still loves you and you can change her attitude with this current situation of things.

Firstly, this girl don't know that her actions were wrong. Thank God, u have shown her that several times.

Secondly, this girl loves you so much. She doesn't want to lose you. This is evident in that she can stay up in the night just to check ur phone to see if no one is snatching her husband away. once u start showing her some love and reassurances, she will definitely change.

my verdict: (Threaten her). Take some bold and big step that you are no longer interested in marrying her and be serious about it.

Result Analysis:

This might bring her back to her senses, as she wud realize and question her own excesses. Yoruba adage says "the day a mad man knows he is mad, he is cured that day". So if she value your relationship, she wud change immediately. but remember, change is a gradual process, so be patient with her.

if this doesn't work, leave her immediately, as she is not likely to change in the nearest future.

Mind you, as for the other lady, you might know her other side, and probably she might even be worse, however everything is a risk.

Abo oro lazo fun omoluabi, ti Oba denu e. A Di odidi.

Good one bro
Thanks

Ndi ofe and common sense are light years apart.

Mr OP, all I hear in your post is just whining...sorry to say.
Guys like you need to grow up and be men. Handle your business. Free 100k? The woman blocked you? You guys don't flirt? Very funny...na so 100k dey fly? ...she is a nag, she does not respect, she has no future...u nko oga, Wetin you get?

chronique:
Mr man, I think you have a problem. Yes, you have painted your wife to be as a bad person and we accept that. My question is, what kind of business transaction do you have with the lady who promised to give you hundred thousand, but got mad and blocked you when she had you were married, and also warned you never to call her again? Are you dating her, or have the intention of dating her? Your wife must have found out something between you and the lady, that made her firstly, use her picture of you and her as dp, before calling the lady to steer clear of you. I put it to you, that you are being economical with the truth.

I LOVE YOU JARE!

drealaz24:


Don't leave this girl. The girl still loves you and you can change her attitude with this current situation of things.

Firstly, this girl don't know that her actions were wrong. Thank God, u have shown her that several times.

Secondly, this girl loves you so much. She doesn't want to lose you. This is evident in that she can stay up in the night just to check ur phone to see if no one is snatching her husband away. once u start showing her some love and reassurances, she will definitely change.

my verdict: (Threaten her). Take some bold and big step that you are no longer interested in marrying her and be serious about it.

Result Analysis:

This might bring her back to her senses, as she wud realize and question her own excesses. Yoruba adage says "the day a mad man knows he is mad, he is cured that day". So if she value your relationship, she wud change immediately. but remember, change is a gradual process, so be patient with her.

if this doesn't work, leave her immediately, as she is not likely to change in the nearest future.

Mind you, as for the other lady, you might know her other side, and probably she might even be worse, however everything is a risk.

Abo oro lazo fun omoluabi, ti Oba denu e. A Di odidi.

Like I said earlier, ndi ofe and common sense are light years apart.

by the time she poison you. you go hear word. Toto dey sweet you abi. u dey with babe wey no they obey you since 2011. my babe is building houses dsame time n despite all she had, if I say sit, she don't ve option. ur babe dey insult your mama n you dey form love. wen she kil you now , dem go say na devil. u better cut her off or meet your Waterloo..

saweide:
Hello All my name is Saweide segun. This is a true life story am about to share. I really need a sincere advice from matured minds and no abuse pls

I am not Married but with a girl child. All plans to arrange my marriage with my gal is slated for next year. But I noticed that my wife to be and I are not compatible at all

Ever since I met my wife to be in the year 2011. She has been so nagging and rude to me. She never obey me for once. We always quarell

Right from day one till this present time we have been living a cat and dog life. She is a nagging woman. She can't say sorry if she is right or wrong and she is not submissive she disrespect my mum anytime we pay her a visit.

She is not hardworking,and she doesn't have any future plans.. She has never for once encourage me in my career


I have tried to call her several times that she can change and she will promise to Change. But later she will put up her attitude again

She had a daughter for me out of wedlock and that has been holding me from chasing her away of my life

She is living with me presently

The first year I met her I was in Abuja and she was in lagos

She keeps a lot of guys before but that has changed. She no longer does that cos I fought it

Sometimes we quarrel and it attracts neibors that comes around to settle our fights and this has brought Shame to me

I told my mum about that and it gave her a lot of concerns

I told her am enduring the relationship
And that I have made up my mind to quit the relationship and let go that All plans by her family to for introduction and engagement ceremony has been cancelled that am no longer interested

Something happened last month between us

I noticed she has been monitoring me and she always go through my phones whenever I fell asleep
She will check my messages with my friends especially girls

There was this lady we do chat always. But she was not my lover and I don't flirt with her on chat but since we always chat, she suspect a foul play and unknowingly to me she has copied the girl number and saved it only her phone in the midnight while I was sleeping
Sometimes in the mid of the night I would wake up and caught her going thru my phone

She has done that several times and I later password my phone but little did I know despite passwording
My phone she still have access to my chats and data

I don't know how she hack into my phone despite passwording my phone

So I woke up one day and I found out that she has changed my profile picture on whatsapp to her own a pics taken together by me and her holding ourselves, I asked her who changed the dp but she denied it...

So last week Friday I had a meeting on business with a lady I do normally chat with which the lady promised to pay me 100k to start my business
I so much like this lady because of her nature and for her intelligence which my wife to be never had.
Tho I never discuss anything about my past to her before... But I didn't tell her I have someone in my life

My wife suspecting that I had a meeting with this lady called her and told her to desist from me that I am married...
Before I know the lady who promised to give me 100k to start my business blocked me on my whatsapp

And I called her she told me someone called her to leave her husband alone that in my life I should not call her again, I tried to explain to her but she cut off the line and hang up the phone on me


Now the business is over and that was how I loose the 100k. Up till now I have not called this lady

Pls what should I do it seems am in love with the lady but I want to call it quit with my nagging wife as I always call her.


How should I contact this lady and convince her

Pls I need a good advice.. Thanks all for your time

Dump your baby mama. Then find a girl you love and do a registry wedding with. Let it be done in secret.

Be ready for a bloody split from your baby mama. Be ready ( Proverbs 22:3)

Op take heart and keep praying. One day she will change. . a lady having a child for me is not reason for me to keep her if i cant manager her character.

Pls pray well so u dont regret tomorrow

well from your story you are about to fall into another mistake of 100K as you did because of a child out of wedlock, you meet before the child either you married her or not you will still be the last to live together when there will be no children with you anymore till death do you part, you both need to sit down and discuss for separation rather than nagin before the child to bring up another warrior for what so ever we are we pray our children be greater, separation may bring senses to both of you, how long we can not tell., "I rest my comments,"