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royalads:
I don't want a dog, neither do I want a slave i can control. I want a PARTNER who can stand with me and together we can build an empire. Someone with an independent mind. Someone who isn't scared to say how the person feels or thinks. Someone who when it comes to standing in for me, will stand in perfectly. Someone who when i finally leave, i can be sure my family is in a good strong hands.

Y'all should stop this submission ish and grow some balls. Its becoming stale already. We are talking tech and innovation, you are talking bullshit.

@bossjankande I have gone through your topics and this is what you are all about. Is this the impact you have to make to your generation before you leave? You better wake up and become useful to this generation.

Man up jor.

Fancy words, no doubt. But when does submission entails one can't express his or her opinions? Even children are given room to express themselves much less adults. What is actually stale is the old cliche of making submission sound like a callous 16th century slave driver. Submission in marriage is simply when a woman submits herself to her husband's leadership. And it's natural.

The best and most successful ventures are never on a 50-50 basis. Be they business or political And marriage is no different. Partnership has a greater chance of survival when there's clear leadership and a recognised source (not sources) of authority. And by nature's ordinance such responsibility falls on the man -- to lead, to protect and to provide.

Talking about balls, many men are loosing theirs already. I call them the 21st century entitled men. Much like the biblical Esau, they're quick to sell their birth right for a slice of a woman's financial contribution. These are men whose guage for measuring a potential wife material is first of all sensitive to the size of her purse -- not her character.

While tech and innovation are crucial and much welcomed, they lack the capacity to address the deep decay and erosion in the family structure and it's values. Making a direct comparison between both points to a rather dark and materialistic mindset which in itself has cost the modern man his place.

traihit:
So sad people have committed atrocious activities using the Bible. Anyways, Satan used the Bible against Jesus so it depends on how you use it.

Whether you're religious or not, misogyny will find a way to express itself but if you want to use the Bible as your backing of misogyny, I'm here to burst your bubble.

Nowhere in the Bible did God or anybody told men to treat their wives in husband-servant relationship. Sarah treated Abraham as her master but the same Abraham listened to his wife and did her wish, then that balanced it.

Finally, while women are told to submit to their husbands as if they're submitting to Jesus, husbands are also told to love their wives to the extent of giving their lives for their wives (as Christ love the church and gave himself for it Ephesians 5 vs 25).

So if anyone says that the Bible supports misogyny, then they're looking for somewhere to hide.

You spoke well but i must highlight the 2nd part of your 3rd paragraph about Abraham listening to Sarah "and did her wish and then that balanced it."

If I get you correctly, you're trying to draw a parallel of obedience between Abraham and his wife, Sarah using the incident where Sarah asked Abraham to send the concubine and her son away.

Firstly, Sarah knew she doesn't have the authority to send them away, just like she knew she couldnt send the concubine away when she was scornful of her after she realized she was pregnant. She complained bitterly to Abraham that her slave woman whom she gave to Abraham has become rude. Abraham then transferred the authority to her by saying "she's your servant, do to her what you wish". Only then did Sarah had the power to exert authority over Hagar.

So she asked Abraham to send them away which Abraham refused until GOD intervened by asking Abraham to listen to Sarah. Sarah at that point was an instrument in conveying GOD's directive of which HE can use anybody, eveb a child in similar regard. It can never be attributed to Abraham and Sarah sharing authority in the affairs of their home.

bukatyne:
Interesting write up.

Wanted to call it 'Church misogynist' before I read the 2nd post.

In most cases, I do not think the Church is equipped to handle serious martial crisis.

And a lot of the men in the Church are as described in the OP because Churches have failed over and over to

1. Teach servant-leader type of headship;

2. Hammered on submission more than live;

3. Women have refused to study the Bible for themselves. I keep saying it, no wife in the Bible married to a good man was a doormat or fearful or afraid of her husband or treated like a slave or trash. From Sarah, Abigail, Rebekah, Rachel, the Rich Woman, Priscilla etc. etc.

4. Mixing up religion and culture: The submission & headship defined in Christianity is not same defined in religion. If you don't know the difference or with a man mixing the two up, OYO is your case.

Of all the women you cited, one was given to women as an example. Her name is Sarah. She called her husband Abraham lord. And you have been called to emulate her in obedience towards your husband. Scripture is clear and unambiguous about the expectations of wives towards husbands. It's never a situation of master-servant relationship but one where a woman airs her view in a quiet and gentle manner but realises it is the husband's prerogative to listen or otherwise.

sassysure:
We raise our boys the wrong way. So the circle continues.

We complain about the men in our lives and yet ruin the lives of our sons.

My Nigerian friend here has 4 sons, add the husband and she works yet she is the only one who can cook in her family. First son is in the uni. Husband works 4 days and 3 days off. Assuming she has a daughter, she will die in the kitchen. U need to see her running around and she has lived in Europe more than 20yrs.
We bred those monsters. And tomorrow, we turn around to attack the daughters in law.
The circle continues

sassysure:
I have given up on her
So nice a lady. I have told her to go and retire in the village
Na your sister o.

This is the problem with so-called liberals; blackmailing, intolerant and hypocritical. Big shame how you labeled your "friend's" family as monsters just because they don't assist her in the kitchen being all men. And how you gave up in trying to change her -- interfering in her family setup.

So what's the difference between you and that ancient serpent all the way back in the garden of Eden?

Nice ppints @OP but like every contemporary writer, you failed to add arguably the most fundamental and most important point: woman, be submissive unto thy husband and husband be compassionate and loving unto thy wife.

I tell you, that's an important key to lasting and successful marriage. But "civilization" makes even pastors of the day to skip that part. Women by nature needs love the most even though some may not realize it. While men cherish an obedient wife. Once a couple get that worked out, most things fall into place.

Rogosa:
What you are saying is that I can call her by her name?

Of course with all aplomb.

pocohantas:
You mean the Japanese version of Mcwordsworth, Bradhardley and the likes, killed this young lady?

Oh well, people need to know it takes a special kind of low for someone to be obsessed with trolling, cyberbullying and trying to pull you under. If you weren’t up, they would make no such effort.

That should tell you something. Leave dregs where they should be.

Hey darling, what a romantic way to say me happy sunday!

Don't you just know how to create that spark out of wet woods!

It is clear you constitute the base spectrum in the family section female gang. Throwing solidarity around is chiefly for the low IQ sycophants of the group.

Even your punctuations are in need of emergency overhaul.

Sorry, who outgunned who? Bwuahahaha!

Hunye:
Chief judge,
Kindly drop your advice. That will be more beneficial to me than appointing yourself lord. And yes! my morals are loose, that's why I need your advice to correct it.

Well, I'll tell you the truth. Your husband sought your permission before "going astray". It was a permission you granted. Whatever you have against him can't stand in that regard.

In your case, he hasn't let you go, he's still exerting his authority (spiritual & physical) over you. So nothing good will come out of the abominable affair you're trying to build with that new adulterous snake.

Rogosa:
Hi everyone,
I have been having issue with this for a while. I don't know if it is proper to call your wife's elder sister "Aunty" or "Sister so and so" even though you are much older than her.
Can one call such by her name without putting the respective adjective or suffix?

Mature mind pls.

The fact that you're older, even much older makes your question not only invalid but timid.

Such questions can only be debated if she's much much older than you.

Agbagbaregoo:
I just met this lady and everything seems to be clicking. she just started a business after I gingered her and I had to patronize her. in the course I transferred some money to her to patronize her far more money than she was selling the Stuff so as to encourage her. The bank debited me and I told her I sent it. Throughout that day she claimed not to have gotten the money. Then throughout the next day same story so the third day I went to the bank to receive the statement of account. lo and behold her name was boldly written and the bank people told me she has gotten it. I got very angry and sent it to her but I didn't tell her anything I just ignored her call. A policeman asked for her number at the bank that he will question her. throughout these period I ignored her and I was just imagining how a beautiful light skin tender looking babe will behave like this. Then lo and behold today the bank reversed the money. I can't explain the feeling of disappointment. Now she said she doesn't want to have anything to do with me again that she doesn't want wahala for her life. She finally picked after many trials of calling and she insisted on me leaving her life.she even said she's not doing business again. I don't know what to do.

It's obvious, you're not meant to be together. Suck it up and take a walk.

@ OP, you said your newfound co-adulterer is "Godly"?

Wonders! What is godly about marrying a married woman? Obviously you have loose morals.

pocohantas:
Lol. So many ways to kill a rat. I knew he was going to slip with time. I just had to be patient enough.

I added the capitalized part.

And why is it that you don't like quoting the postman guy directly? You do this because you know you'd definitely need the MOD's help to expurgate his diatribes and quoting him will leave his post technically unexpurgated since it would be embedded in your own reply.

You know you dare not go to bed knowing his vitriols against you are hanging out there like dirty undies for all to see. It's bad for business, isn't it?

Little mind as fragile as a lab glassware!

pocohantas:
Lol. So many ways to kill a rat. I knew he was going to slip with time. I just had to be patient enough.

I added the capitalized part.

Be ready for the long haul!

cococandy:
Rule 4. Discussions of the art of love-making should be restricted to the hidden sexuality section.

It's only a metaphor.

Even this!

silvabullet:
Your continuous replies are like the strokes a lady gives her man against the hairs on his chest after a smashing sex that leaves the labia itchy with bruises.

Come to think of it, other trademark feminists were all present but applied caution, staying far from my vitriols, but not the impulsive poco.

It gives a clear insight on how each one of you approaches real life dangers and romantic adventures. 

Some plunge deep with open, swollen vulva only to call the mods afterwards that he phucked too hard .

Wow! I can't believe the silverbullet guy was banned for this?

silvabullet:
You getting too watery even for my fat phallus. You either drain those excess juice or i get me a tighter cùnt.

Be realistic and give these feminists at least a consolatory clapback. They deserve it, or don't they?