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Re: How A Bank Ruined My Relationship. by Agbagbaregoo(m): 8:30pm On May 23
Acidosis:


Ignoring her isn't an issue. The above is the issue, right? Your police friend threatened her life?
No at all. I saw their chats. He asked politely
Re: How A Bank Ruined My Relationship. by Acidosis(m): 8:32pm On May 23
Agbagbaregoo:

No at all. I saw their chats. He asked politely

Ohkay, I think you shouldn't give up just yet. Give her time and reignite the convo after a sustained period

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Re: How A Bank Ruined My Relationship. by McWordsworth: 8:33pm On May 23
Agbagbaregoo:
I just met this lady and everything seems to be clicking. she just started a business after I gingered her and I had to patronize her. in the course I transferred some money to her to patronize her far more money than she was selling the Stuff so as to encourage her. The bank debited me and I told her I sent it. Throughout that day she claimed not to have gotten the money. Then throughout the next day same story so the third day I went to the bank to receive the statement of account. lo and behold her name was boldly written and the bank people told me she has gotten it. I got very angry and sent it to her but I didn't tell her anything I just ignored her call. A policeman asked for her number at the bank that he will question her. throughout these period I ignored her and I was just imagining how a beautiful light skin tender looking babe will behave like this. Then lo and behold today the bank reversed the money. I can't explain the feeling of disappointment. Now she said she doesn't want to have anything to do with me again that she doesn't want wahala for her life. She finally picked after many trials of calling and she insisted on me leaving her life.she even said she's not doing business again. I don't know what to do.

It's obvious, you're not meant to be together. Suck it up and take a walk.

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Re: How A Bank Ruined My Relationship. by Plead(m): 8:34pm On May 23
Oh man. Must everything be posted online now?

Chai. Dafug.
Re: How A Bank Ruined My Relationship. by ayeesha: 8:39pm On May 23
Agbagbaregoo:

I swear I shared it with her

Your silence and refusal to pick her calls spoke volumes. You had already judged and proven her guilty of duping you and if I were in her shoes, I'd avoid you too! Nobody wants wahala especially when innocent biko! It could be a worse scenario another day so please cut your losses, free her, free yourself and move on. After all na your money abi? No be by force to give woman.

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Re: How A Bank Ruined My Relationship. by Amanee(f): 8:43pm On May 23
If only that lady can stick to her gun and flee

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Re: How A Bank Ruined My Relationship. by UjuJoan2: 9:00pm On May 23
Agbagbaregoo:
I just met this lady and everything seems to be clicking. she just started a business after I gingered her and I had to patronize her. in the course I transferred some money to her to patronize her far more money than she was selling the Stuff so as to encourage her. The bank debited me and I told her I sent it. Throughout that day she claimed not to have gotten the money. Then throughout the next day same story so the third day I went to the bank to receive the statement of account. lo and behold her name was boldly written and the bank people told me she has gotten it. I got very angry and sent it to her but I didn't tell her anything I just ignored her call. A policeman asked for her number at the bank that he will question her. throughout these period I ignored her and I was just imagining how a beautiful light skin tender looking babe will behave like this. Then lo and behold today the bank reversed the money. I can't explain the feeling of disappointment. Now she said she doesn't want to have anything to do with me again that she doesn't want wahala for her life. She finally picked after many trials of calling and she insisted on me leaving her life.she even said she's not doing business again. I don't know what to do.

How did the debit show on your bank statement and then reversed again? I'm not getting that part. Usually if there is a debit without pay then it shouldn't show on your account statement.

If truly it reflected on your statement, then I don't think the lady should be upset with you. She should have simply shown you hers to prove she wasn't credited. And you acted childish and silly bt ghosting her. That's how you men behave lime children over small money.

People just complicate their lives unnecessarily.

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Re: How A Bank Ruined My Relationship. by abelswife(f): 9:08pm On May 23
did you or did you not say nasty things to her? I;m sure ingrate and scam where part of the things you said grin grin grin grin grin

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Re: How A Bank Ruined My Relationship. by NoToPile: 9:29pm On May 23
How much is the money OP.

Lots of people avoid the police like a plague , the issue has gotten to a police man asking her side of the story, I don't blame her for saying she doesn't want wahala.

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Re: How A Bank Ruined My Relationship. by crackland: 10:22pm On May 23
Agbagbaregoo:
I just met this lady and everything seems to be clicking. she just started a business after I gingered her and I had to patronize her. in the course I transferred some money to her to patronize her far more money than she was selling the Stuff so as to encourage her. The bank debited me and I told her I sent it. Throughout that day she claimed not to have gotten the money. Then throughout the next day same story so the third day I went to the bank to receive the statement of account. lo and behold her name was boldly written and the bank people told me she has gotten it. I got very angry and sent it to her but I didn't tell her anything I just ignored her call. A policeman asked for her number at the bank that he will question her. throughout these period I ignored her and I was just imagining how a beautiful light skin tender looking babe will behave like this. Then lo and behold today the bank reversed the money. I can't explain the feeling of disappointment. Now she said she doesn't want to have anything to do with me again that she doesn't want wahala for her life. She finally picked after many trials of calling and she insisted on me leaving her life.she even said she's not doing business again. I don't know what to do.
That lady doesn't need you or your money, let her be and move all the way on.

What exactly is the problem?
Do you want to beg someone whom you were simply doing a favour to continue the business and take your money? I don't get it...

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Re: How A Bank Ruined My Relationship. by Uneed2talk: 10:52pm On May 23
Agbagbaregoo:

Thanks man. I will do that. She dey madd
Now now now she don they madd, hope she really stick to her gun and flee like someone up there said.

You sent her statement and ghosted her. When your police was interogating her and she needed you to clear some air, did you pick? When she wanted to convince you more she didn't get it with proof did you pick? How about say she wanted to suggest a way to clear things, did you pick her call? She was suspected a thief and must remain so until proven otherwise before you can have anything to do with her.

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Re: How A Bank Ruined My Relationship. by Edemaya: 11:22pm On May 23
sisisioge:


Ok then...aunty being irrational then. It showed that you sent it and got debited...if she didn't receive then she should contact her bank. Simple! It is well jare...move on and take a learning from this. Money issue is always dicey in relationships.

It happens sometimes! I once sent money to someone and I was debited and have my receipt! yet the person didn't see it! I showed him my receipt and everything! yet he said he didnt see it, we later concluded to give it time, he saw it after 24hours or thereabout.

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Re: How A Bank Ruined My Relationship. by Chommybaby(f): 12:04am On May 24
MrBrownJay1:


stop trying to impress good for nothing ungrateful women with money... count your blessing you got your money back., and just send her what you owe her, nothing more then forget/block the animal.

Sorry, how did you come into existence again?? undecided undecided

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Re: How A Bank Ruined My Relationship. by MrBrownJay1(m): 12:08am On May 24
Chommybaby:
Sorry, how did you come into existence again?? undecided undecided

one of them ungrateful animals has been spotted.

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Re: How A Bank Ruined My Relationship. by Chommybaby(f): 12:15am On May 24
MrBrownJay1:


one of them ungrateful animals has been spotted.


And what should I be grateful to you for

About being an animal, I quite agree....
I mean we are the same specie

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Re: How A Bank Ruined My Relationship. by MrBrownJay1(m): 1:30am On May 24
Chommybaby:

And what should I be grateful to you for
About being an animal, I quite agree....
I mean we are the same specie

get your head out of your nyansh... the woman in this story is an ungrateful animal who was trying to play tricks on the dude... there are millions of great women out there but if you have a problem with me calling a spade A SPADE then maybe you are one of these ungrateful women.

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Re: How A Bank Ruined My Relationship. by jesmond3945: 2:22am On May 24
Na the light skin cause am no be bank

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Re: How A Bank Ruined My Relationship. by frozen70(f): 2:31am On May 24
Agbagbaregoo:
I just met this lady and everything seems to be clicking. she just started a business after I gingered her and I had to patronize her. in the course I transferred some money to her to patronize her far more money than she was selling the Stuff so as to encourage her. The bank debited me and I told her I sent it. Throughout that day she claimed not to have gotten the money. Then throughout the next day same story so the third day I went to the bank to receive the statement of account. lo and behold her name was boldly written and the bank people told me she has gotten it. I got very angry and sent it to her but I didn't tell her anything I just ignored her call. A policeman asked for her number at the bank that he will question her. throughout these period I ignored her and I was just imagining how a beautiful light skin tender looking babe will behave like this. Then lo and behold today the bank reversed the money. I can't explain the feeling of disappointment. Now she said she doesn't want to have anything to do with me again that she doesn't want wahala for her life. She finally picked after many trials of calling and she insisted on me leaving her life.she even said she's not doing business again. I don't know what to do.

Take her to the bank to see your cash movement and the bank manager is in the best position to convince her that it was a network error

If after that she doesn't believe you, then their is a triggering factor between the both of you before the bank transaction failure

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Re: How A Bank Ruined My Relationship. by rymalex(m): 8:48am On May 24
Bros some banks are notorious for poor banking, such as fidelity, eco, diamond, Uba. you be better off banking With a nice bank.
Plead with the lady, get her a surprise gift.

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Re: How A Bank Ruined My Relationship. by SmellingAnus(m): 10:32am On May 24
Had a similar experience although mine wasn't a transfer, it was paid directly to her mum's account; she and her mum said they didn't receive it ... I went to the bank ( First bank) twice and they said she had received the money in her account... Anyway I had to make another transaction through transfer ... I never used it against the babe... Till date the babe love me scatterer even though we are not dating... Mind you it was transport money i sent... Interstate things...

Some cash can easily be let go just to maintain certain relationship/friendship...
Attitude is everything... When in a new relationship or serious fuckship... Learn to give people benefit of doubt...

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Re: How A Bank Ruined My Relationship. by entrep88: 10:36am On May 24
Truth be told, anything bank issue this days one need to be cautious in reacting. Op may have handled the situation poorly, the lady saw the red flags and decide to keep her dignity. Kudos!

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Re: How A Bank Ruined My Relationship. by lereinter(m): 10:52am On May 24
Just text her the details and forget

Maybe she wanted to dump a guy for you before which was a hard decision,

But because of what happened she has reversed

her idea.

Na small thing, if love is there why the sudden lockup

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Re: How A Bank Ruined My Relationship. by lereinter(m): 10:55am On May 24
Chommybaby:


Sorry, how did you come into existence again?? undecided undecided

Too harsh
Re: How A Bank Ruined My Relationship. by Mstick: 11:32am On May 24
How was she trying to play tricks on him when the BANK REVERSED THE MONEY?

Don't you know the meaning of that?! When a bank reverses the money back to the sender that means the person it was sent to didn't receive it due to transaction failure.


So in this case how's she ungrateful?was she supposed to cheer him on when he involved a police man or she's supposed to kiss his feet when she was telling the truth all along.




MrBrownJay1:
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get your head out of your nyansh... the woman in this story is an ungrateful animal who was trying to play tricks on the dude... there are millions of great women out there but if you have a problem with me calling a spade A SPADE then maybe you are one of these ungrateful women.

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Re: How A Bank Ruined My Relationship. by mcdokwe(m): 12:11pm On May 24
You goofed big time. For a friend you're willing to give free money, I don't see why it should have been a problem for you to believe her especially with the knowledge that shits happen with the banks. The best you could have done is to encourage her to go and confirm from the bank if it was lodged.

I sent money to a friend since march and she claims she hasn't seen it, even though I feel the money might be in her account and her definition of haven't seen it could be her not getting a notification from the bank, but I am following it through just to be sure it is not stuck somewhere not that I don't trust her. I can only rest i f it either get to her or reversed, if it's eventually established she got it, I go just yarb her dey go, ni need for trouble.

I suggest you give her time and try to explain to her why she should forgive you and not try to justify your poor judgement. And don't blame the bank for ruining anything, the fault is all yours.

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Re: How A Bank Ruined My Relationship. by ModelX(m): 12:15pm On May 24
Agbagbaregoo:

Thanks man. I will do that. She dey madd
No just let one girl dey use you catch cruise ok. What are you begging for? Let her go to blazes. Na broke girls na dem dey form pass

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Re: How A Bank Ruined My Relationship. by paulolee(m): 2:42pm On May 24
chai...to bad...name d bank na....na first bank or fcmb?? na dm sabi play this kain role well
Re: How A Bank Ruined My Relationship. by MondayUche1986(m): 2:42pm On May 24
Agbagbaregoo:
I just met this lady and everything seems to be clicking. she just started a business after I gingered her and I had to patronize her. in the course I transferred some money to her to patronize her far more money than she was selling the Stuff so as to encourage her. The bank debited me and I told her I sent it. Throughout that day she claimed not to have gotten the money. Then throughout the next day same story so the third day I went to the bank to receive the statement of account. lo and behold her name was boldly written and the bank people told me she has gotten it. I got very angry and sent it to her but I didn't tell her anything I just ignored her call. A policeman asked for her number at the bank that he will question her. throughout these period I ignored her and I was just imagining how a beautiful light skin tender looking babe will behave like this. Then lo and behold today the bank reversed the money. I can't explain the feeling of disappointment. Now she said she doesn't want to have anything to do with me again that she doesn't want wahala for her life. She finally picked after many trials of calling and she insisted on me leaving her life.she even said she's not doing business again. I don't know what to do.


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Re: How A Bank Ruined My Relationship. by StarTech1: 2:43pm On May 24
Seriously you overreacted.. stuffs like this happen. Just give her some time, she'll come around

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Re: How A Bank Ruined My Relationship. by Charmingrascal(m): 2:44pm On May 24
You wanted to go into a relationship with a 419, God saved you and you are crying.


Bro buy her a car to safe your relationship.

Re: How A Bank Ruined My Relationship. by wole212(m): 2:44pm On May 24
You're a real Niggarrrr. Honestly Nigeria is breeding a whole lot of sissies these days calling themselves men.
MrBrownJay1:


stop trying to impress good for nothing ungrateful women with money... count your blessing you got your money back., and just send her what you owe her, nothing more then forget/block the animal.

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Re: How A Bank Ruined My Relationship. by Martinez39s(m): 2:44pm On May 24
Agbagbaregoo:
I just met this lady and everything seems to be clicking. she just started a business after I gingered her and I had to patronize her. in the course I transferred some money to her to patronize her far more money than she was selling the Stuff so as to encourage her. The bank debited me and I told her I sent it. Throughout that day she claimed not to have gotten the money. Then throughout the next day same story so the third day I went to the bank to receive the statement of account. lo and behold her name was boldly written and the bank people told me she has gotten it. I got very angry and sent it to her but I didn't tell her anything I just ignored her call. A policeman asked for her number at the bank that he will question her. throughout these period I ignored her and I was just imagining how a beautiful light skin tender looking babe will behave like this. Then lo and behold today the bank reversed the money. I can't explain the feeling of disappointment. Now she said she doesn't want to have anything to do with me again that she doesn't want wahala for her life. She finally picked after many trials of calling and she insisted on me leaving her life.she even said she's not doing business again. I don't know what to do.
Oga, once you have explained yourself to a woman, and you have apologized, let it end there. If you people are going to ever do business (or whatever wink ), let her be the one to come to you. When you can objectively do without it, never beg a woman to associate with you or love you.

If a girl talk say she no do, leave am. Is she the only girl in this world? Chill! The fact that you couldn't figure out the right thing to do, and you had to bring this here makes you deserving of 50 lashes of koboko.

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