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Few subjects in life ignite as much passion and longing within us as our desire for love, our interest in sex, and our hope for enduring relationships. Regardless of our backgrounds, race, values, intelligence, or experience, we all long to be loved. Every human being on this planet craves to be that "cherished person" to someone else. In like manner, the mystery and the power of human sexuality
draw us like an invisible magnet into the world of relationships.

Put simply, we humans are relational beings. We were made by God to love and be loved.
We crave the intimacy, acceptance, security, and significance that flow when we bond in mind, heart, and body with a member of the opposite sex.

God who designed you to love and be loved has also provided specific wisdom and instructions to make that possible in your daily life. If you don't understand romantic relationships from God's perspective, you are destined to a life of severe disappointment and significant frustration.

I can certainly imagine a world in which children grow up surrounded by good examples of loving relationships. I can see mothers and fathers openly sharing affection, keeping love alive, and talking with their kids about every aspect of relationships. I can picture father-son and mother-daughter moments when they gradually share age-appropriate insights about love and sexuality. But did anything like that ever happen to you?
Did your mom or dad ever sit down with you and say, "This is how to build a healthy relationship with the opposite sex"?
Did wise and trusted adults ever tell you, "This is what sex is really all about" beyond the physical details you got in a ninth-grade health class?
Were you ever in a warm, positive, family conversation in which you heard, "This is why and how sex can be beautiful, good, and wonderful, but be careful, because this is how sex can be distorted and destructive"?
Did your parents ever have a discussion with you about how to build intimacy in a relationship through communication, commitment, and clear, shared goals?

The answer for most of us is no. No one ever gave us reliable guidelines for these personal areas of our lives.

Most of us learned about love, sex, and relationships through our culture. Our teachers, sadly, have been older teens who themselves came from dysfunctional homes. If that isn't enough, the media have sold us a false bill of goods with regard to the entire notion of love, sex, and relationships. After listening to thousands of songs and getting a daily dose of television, movies, and romance novels, our hearts and minds have been filled with false ideas about what love, sex, and relationships are all about.

You and I have spent countless hours singing along with popular songs, following television programs, and anticipating the next sequel of our favorite movie hero. In the process we have become unconsciously convinced that if we follow a simple, four-step approach to relationships, it will work out for us just like it works in the movies or like it says in the song.

How many of these people who sing these songs of love actually have true love in their lives or how about those who act those romantic folktales we fall in love with? When did all these become a standard formula for true love? When it is said follow the example and advice of those who succeed and not of those who fail? Why then is the worldly way of relationship practiced more than the biblical way?

The worldly way and formula promises that you can be deeply loved, have awesome sex, and walk into the sunset with another person for life if you simply do what happens in the movies.


I will be posting the Bollywood, Nollywood, Hollywood and Movie propagated formula before going into the biblical way, because if we first do not realize what we have subconsciously been practicing and admit how wrong they were we won't be able to properly put to practice the gospel truth of true love.

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