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MARITAL SETTLEMENT.

In 2016 I impregnated a girl (Then 31 and jobless). Baby refused going out, and considering my age and also the fact that I graduated since 2010, I decided to take the bull by the horn. Initially I was confident I could work my way through as I had saved roughly 700k then. The problem was that I was jobless and she was barely 21; no experience or tertiary education. I forged ahead with a clear cut plan; I was going to start life with her, put her in school, help her get a job, then marry her as she graduated. I planned to have at least ONLY two kids with her until we became financially stable. Amidst MMM wahala and other ponzi schemes that took about 200k from my dwindling savings, my plans seemed to work accordingly. To slow down the rate at which my account dwindled, I got a job of 30k as a headmaster in 2017. By then she was already in year 1. Then my problems began trickling in. A particular lecturer took interest in her and even made her course rep, despite going to school with her almost one year baby!
Amidst all these, there was a particular problem I ignored or failed to see; she was a natural flirt, (mostly for attention). She would engage a guy and begin to flirt with them even when they seem uninterested!!! By 2020 she had given birth to our second baby (a boy). Then and again, her evil mum (which I never mentioned earlier) came for omugwo and things went from bad to worse!!!
By this time she had become very wild and bold in her flirting; even doing so in my presence! All these while I hadn't paid her dowry, ( a mistake I would come to regret). Fast forward to 2021, She is in her final year and is no longer with me for almost four months now but in her father's house with my kids. We had a problem bordering her flirting nature, and I slapped her and asked her to leave my house!
Now the parents are angry and have kept her and my kids in their house ostensibly to marry her properly if at all she would see any chance of coming back to me or even agreeing as we are no longer in talking terms now.

My major problem is getting cash to go settle her family and kinsmen so I can at least have rights to my children! And I need this cash on or before February next year! I still love her and have invested a lot. Somehow she still love me too ( Some of her belongings are still in my house). I got her a job as a teacher but she also barely makes enough, again my kids attend same school!

ahnie:
What of me that hasn't had sex close to a year?

That is why I don't believe people who try to tell the OP that his wife may be cheating outside.
The woman sex drive and that of the man is wired differently! Men tend to want to have sex at anytime (same in the animal kingdom) including when they are sick too! Seduce a man at any time and 98% of the time you will be bound to get him. It is a different story for the female folks. Women's sexual appeal is rather complicated! Women can stay up to a year without sex and still feel OK. Most of the times, husbands complaining here gets to meet their wives easily only when she is in her ovulation period.

Same thing can be said of flirting. Men flirts primarily for sex and without emotions attached to it. That is why a man can sleep with all the women in the world outside his home and still love his wife! But women? a different ball game altogether. Women mostly flirts for these reasons; attention, fun, desire to want something, making her husband jealous, with the least one as being tired of her marriage and sex!

As husbands, we tend to use our sexual nature to judge our wives. That is why sometimes I feel that polygamy was probably the only natural way of staying married.
Think of this; when you both started, you were having sex with her as much as you liked and she never stopped you. But the moment kids begin to come, sexual complaints from the husband begin to arise. What we husbands fail to understand is that a lot of changes coupled with boredom have set in and no matter how creative you become, she will still get tired or loose interest in you! It's a natural phenomenon. She only begins to get awakened the moment she notices or senses a competitor. But that will only make her to want to hurt you back later on by flirting openly to make you jealous. If she married you, knowing fully that you were polygamous, that would have been a different story! And for your information; whether polygamous or monogamous, they all have serious problems!!!

Zao19:
More than 70% of married men face this type of problem including my self, if u are yet to married pls stop talking rubbish, u are yet to experience such.

You dey mind them How long will you continue to be creative with your wife before you run out of ideas as if sex is what only matters to the husband?? I think it is a natural phenomenon for a woman to begin to behave that way after kids start showing up. Except you're the travelling type where she does not get to see you often. Boredom is inevitable in marriage as long as both of you see each other everyday. Wealthy men do not complain about this because their cash opens up other possibilities for them. The poor will learn to be patient or masturbate as a way out.

And this was 2008?

Always resist the urge to shalaye

I don laugh tire. Which kind country be this self

Chummynoni:
@all men. You wanna know if your wife cheats?. Get hold of her phone, and ask for her password if she use one. The interest is not about checking her phone, but in checking her countenance. I hope I solve your puzzle? Lol

What if she refuses to give you her password but instead demands that she unlocks it herself and gives the phone to you right away in your very presence?

KaptainAfrika:
1. Have you cheated on her ?

2. Do you feel that she could have married someone other than you e.g. she could have married someone you feel is better than you?

3. Did you marry her without any pressure? e.g. she got pregnant for you out of wedlock, you felt it was the time for you to get married etc.

4. Did one or both your parents cheat?

5. Are you cheating on her ?

I have same problem. I started with my wife in your number 3. HHave also done number 1 because of what I found out from her!!! Op wife they learn work where my wife own dey. She made me become a wife beater. Currently I drove her out for the intimate chat I discovered on her WhatsApp for calling someone bae. She even used a password different from the one I gave her just on the grounds her younger brother uses her mb without her consent. Now I am called the bad husband for lack of serious evidence!!! Cheating is cheating when it comes to lies and acting funny. The moment you do that to your spouse, you're cheating him or her emotionally and not necessarily having sex with someone else

What US weapon can match the Zircon missile?[/quote]What's with you guys and Zircon Missile self? There is something a lot of us do not understand about these Supthemwers; They know themselves so much that they will never engage in a direct confrontation. Speaking of Zircon missile self, do you think it is an advantage to the Russians in a real war

The Zircon missile was advertised aggressively because the Russians feared the US 'envelopment strategy' towards them. Firstly, the US has strategic bases all over the world pointing towards Russia. Next the US has a blue water navy that knows every nook and crany of the waters of the world facing Russia; not excluding their superior air force and 'Carriers'. Before you talk of Zircon missile, remember the US first developed the fastest aircraft in the world using the ramjet technology at the time no one understood it. This was in the 1970's. The Zircon missile, like every other faster-than-the-speed-of-sound craft has it's flaws. First they fly subsonic, then supersonic before going hypersonic. The missile can be taken out in the Subsonic stage or the later stage; to do this the Americans invested in two frontiers; they created what is today known as the space force to hit out the missile mechanically in the subsonic or supersonic stage using all their machinations in space. The space force was how they were able to see Iran fire missiles at the mistaken-for- American passenger jet carrying mostly Iranian citizens in Iranian airspace last year! Another area the US is developing serious countermeasures is in their recent upgrade in laser technology which is intended to fry out the honing missile strategically to render it useless.(Remember, nothing mechanical goes faster than the speed of light!). Let's leave these Superpowers, they know themselves better than we do! The Russians annexed Crimea and So What about the US and her allies that bombed Yugoslavia against the will of Russia? did anything happen The US is still the dominant Superpower, they developed virtually every important recent technology before every other country. The nuclear bomb was first done by them; every other nation played catch up. They developed the solar technology, semiconductor technology, smartphone, etc of recent. Do not take them for granted!!!

[quote author=Krismas post=104164061]And yet they Russia is the only one with a hypersonic missile fire power, first of its kind? Tested and ready to be deployed? USA can earmark billions as defense budget, wot exactly does that prove? In Afghanistan, at the peak of the war, they were spending one billion dollars per day, on supplies, ammunition, food, logistics, contractors, etc. in the end most of the money end up in the pocket of contractors like Dick Cheney and Bush family and the owners of firms like Black-water. How much of the said budget finally end up in research? To be police of the world does not make u a strong military. Russia military is ahead of the US, no be joke. Its d truth

What's with you guys and Zircon Missile self? There is something a lot of us do not understand about these Supthemwers; They know themselves so much that they will never engage in a direct confrontation. Speaking of Zircon missile self, do you think it is an advantage to the Russians in a real war

The Zircon missile was advertised aggressively because the Russians feared the US 'envelopment strategy' towards them. Firstly, the US has strategic bases all over the world pointing towards Russia. Next the US has a blue water navy that knows every nook and crany of the waters of the world facing Russia; not excluding their superior air force and 'Carriers'. Before you talk of Zircon missile, remember the US first developed the fastest aircraft in the world using the ramjet technology at the time no one understood it. This was in the 1970's. The Zircon missile, like every other faster-than-the-speed-of-sound craft has it's flaws. First they fly subsonic, then supersonic before going hypersonic. The missile can be taken out in the Subsonic stage or the later stage; to do this the Americans invested in two frontiers; they created what is today known as the space force to hit out the missile mechanically in the subsonic or supersonic stage using all their machinations in space. The space force was how they were able to see Iran fire missiles at the mistaken-for- American passenger jet carrying mostly Iranian citizens in Iranian airspace last year! Another area the US is developing serious countermeasures is in their recent upgrade in laser technology which is intended to fry out the honing missile strategically to render it useless.(Remember, nothing mechanical goes faster than the speed of light!). Let's leave these Superpowers, they know themselves better than we do! The Russians annexed Crimea and So What about the US and her allies that bombed Yugoslavia against the will of Russia? did anything happen The US is still the dominant Superpower, they developed virtually every important recent technology before every other country. The nuclear bomb was first done by them; every other nation played catch up. They developed the solar technology, semiconductor technology, smartphone, etc of recent. Do not take them for granted!!!

I was Joy's teacher during her secondary school days. It is painful to hear of this sad news!

Low budget Ahmed Musa

There is nothing wrong in washing your wife's panties or helping in washing plates or other house chores. The only problem be say na make the wife no forget herself for public come tell the husband, 'honey, you forgot to wash my pants today oo!'

This is bleeding serious!!!!

It is a blessing in disguise to OP that he and his wife are quarrelling and even fighting at the moment. I can bet my left balls that if he ever gets comfortable in this his present situation, he will impregnate his wife again which might bear another triplets or twins!!! Or possibly another child!

This is the point where OP is taught Sexual Education first before anything else! Some men would be taught to masturbate or visit brothels to blow off steam at the moment ( however ugly it may sound ), this is the main goal at the moment, before finding ways to increase income or working things to become stable!

bluefilm:
She must have a platinum pussy with another golden and silvery pussy as spare parts.

Hahahahahahahaha

Ifex4u:
Scored 88..believing God

pls do inform us when you're invited bro

Scored 80/100 Thank God

Horlamidel:
Pls when will they get back to the people that wrote the test?

This has been the problem with Dragnet from inception! They never give you feedback about the test invite you write with them! You will never know if you did well or not! You will not be communicated about your performance so you put more effort!

In fact I am beginning to doubt their method! With this method of theirs, it is easier to be robbed of your glory as someone can easily replace you and scale through!!!

Yinbanjonic:
Bro I was first asked to snap my picx then later asked to snap my ID card or upload it and later asked to use the webcam to scan my environment, which I did successfully. The Numerical aptitude was not what I expected too.

Someone was asking you you to do all these? Or it was preprogrammed??

For me, I only a saw a 1min video demo and an audio demo. Finally the test page opened!!! that was all!

[quote author=Yinbanjonic post=98136290]The test was slated for 10am, so if you log in after 10am it won't login. Done and dusted with the test


That isn't entirely true!. I tried login in by 10 exactly but couldn't due to network. later logged in by 10:04 which was accepted. However, due to network fluctuations, I had a flurry of hairy situations!!! But I had wanted to ask you; was there anywhere you were asked to upload your valid ID? This was because I brought out my National ID and was waiting to see where I would be told to raise it or upload it. Instead I was asked to take a photo and upload it only, which I did! Even when I did the pre-test check two days before d-day, it was the same exercise I did!

For the test, the verbal aptitude was mad! After passing through disturbing hell to ensure there was constant network, I felt a bit jittery when going through it! The 20 questions were all funny

Then came the numerical aptitude part which was NEVER EXPECTED!!! it was like going back to primary 1!

The 16 questions in the abstract part was OK anyway.

After submitting, I was taken to a place where I was shown 'uploading your video', it stayed like that for about 15mins with a 98% through. Later, it reverted back to 1% and stagnated! I was forced to close the page!!!

Please how did you upload your ID if you where able to do so??

[quote author=ImmaculateJOE post=98041017]Op should do us more good by mentioning the name of Emmanuel Emenike's home town..

God Bless [b]Emmanuel Emenike


Umuaka in IMO State

Well the picture looks Photoshop to me

Well I think he is trying to replicate what happened last month in Scotland, in Nigeria!

Scotland became the first country to make sanitary pads free for their girls last month.

They reasoned that since monthly cycle is natural, then it shouldn't be monetized by selling pads to women!

In this country it could be seen as a gender war!//

This thread should be named Miracle in cell no 7. See advert na. Well I seem to be the only one here who has watched the Indian movie Faana

How true is it that Northern borders are open while Southern borders are locked?
which people and from which tribe are Manning Northern and Southern borders?

Again who has a concrete evidence of borders being opened for Dangote alone and not other bigwigs in our industries?

This people don carry this mumu come out public!

If Teebilz enter here see his them dey bash am a swear him go delete that stuff

This project is entirely beyond Nigeria! I think it is designed to entirely break the Russian gas monopoly which Russia uses as leverage to European nations in any diplomatic warfare! Europeans (and to some extent, the USA) have been trying to go around Russia and thereby softening her diplomatic strength. The actual idea is to lay the pipe to Morocco and then eventually to Spain. If this is true, I pray Russia doesn't find out and empower fifth columnists in the country to divide Nigeria!!!

Just saw the news from Mele Kiyari on Twitter