ubunja:
Most boys were raped by the older sisters next door and the aunties. Myself included

Mariangeles:
Truth be told, I think boys are more abused than girls but most people see it as nothing

Thank you. Men don't focus on men's issues. Men and women focus on women's issues. When it's men versus women, men avoid a union against women....

It's your life. But if you're sure you won't imagine her on the bed with her ex or how she thinks of her ex when with you, then go on.
If you're sure you'll not start worrying about her whereabouts, go on.
If you're sure you're capable of handling assured future cheating, go on.
If not, carry your 'Kaya' and leave her to her desire. Her husband will find her...

In these days of sexual abuse, I will like to keep it short. Boys can be sexually abused. Many of them, especially Nigerian males were once raped but found it to be a sort of fun. Many of these boys call it consensual sex.


A case study was that of Nairaland User, Earthbound, who had ‘a really, pretty, yellow house help from Warri’. According to him, this lady started having sex with him at the age of 11. But he believed it to be consensual.


MedlinePlus defines child sexual abuse as a wide range of actions between a child and an adult or older child. So, you’re wrong to think it’s just a joke.
In their clinical Psychology Review, Pereda and Guilera were able to present a data of 7.9 for males, 13.6% short of female’s own. Yet, they claimed they couldn’t get more statistics because they got lesser reports from the boy-child.

Get a lawyer... Sign a contract to marry her and educate her. If she breaches, she will be compelled to pay no matter the years it takes her.

If you breach your side of sending her to school, you should also pay certain amounts....

Forgiveness is healthy for both parties. Before you quote the bible understand the mystery, blackanthar. Everyone that ended in the lake of fire didn't seek forgiveness.

Men are vicious but the havoc that has been caused by women, very few people can find remedy for them.

nuelsam:
me ? Nice guy? I laugh in Swahili........ Alpha males don't beat their women, they got game and they play this game quite well....... Thatž why women fall for em no matter what....... Alpha males have seen it all, they know the difference between a wife material and a dumb hoe....... Thatž the basis of my arguement to start with.......

My bad.... Not all Alphamales..

LarryBee1k:


26 things people suffer like spiritual problems and marine spirit. Okay bro

Lol.. Not spiritual at all.. I'm just saying as much you find it beneficial, some people fighting it. Everyone has the right to make decisions.

LarryBee1k:


Masturbation "seems" like sex with many pornstars? Who are we trying deceive? 10yo? That means imagining thinking about money means I'm stealing different people money.

Religion aspect masturbation is bad, but fornication is bad too, health wise, masturbation is safer and healthier.

Broooooooo....


I read a thread a while back about 10 advantages of masturbation. Then, this site listed 26 things people suffer. As much you find it beneficial, some people detest it and run from it lime wildfire.

phelonrays:
na so you wan take stop the high-demand of VASELINE from our amiable brothers? haba

Baba, no be everybody too like to use Vaseline for life...

nuelsam:
ok.... But have u ever ask why guys still cheat on this so called pretty women? Take Tiwa, Toke Makinwa, Tonto dike as a case study, this women are pretty and heavily endowed but still their marriages fell and crashed like a pack of cards........ What i meant by the word 'intelligent' in a wife are ;smartness, good hygiene, good sense of humor,witty,social,respectful and financially ok........ Trust me, only a bastardized bastard will cheat on this kind of woman with a good conscience.

Bro. Women are complicated. I don't know how long you think you know them. They see life differently from us.
In one of the post we've prepared on our site, women are drawn to men engaged or married than the single ones. Then, any woman with all those characters you mentioned will likely not go for a good guy- I guess that's what you're. They go for Alphamales. And those are the ones that later beat them. If they fall for you, they will play you, not necessarily cheat.

LarryBee1k:
Masturbation is healthy. Don't just over do it. All these over religious Nigerians will just be writing spiritual bullshiit everywhere. What they do is even worse. How can you believe in juju and call yourself a Christian? Is that not worse than masturbation?

Masturbation is better than fornication and health wise it's safer

I don't totally agree with you but it's truly better than fornication.

On the flip side though, masturbation seems like sex with numerous porn stars and Instagram models.

Lemmejoor:
Glad the bottom line is fighting the ill habit. However, there are few misconceptions, habit is no entity of its own. It is a device of the devil and so the fight is against supersonic forces aka principalities. Occupy your mind yes, get busy yes but while at it you should believe God to heal you.

Do you fight supersonic forces when dealing with addiction to social media

nuelsam:
tha fvck man?........ What's the essence of marrying someone i can't rub minds with ? Someone that has no clue on how to build a steady family ? Someone that can't advice me on the way to go in my business dealings? Someone that is completely financially dependent on me? Someone that doesn't have a mind of her own? Someone that gets carried away easily at the sight of a big KA SA VA?........ Look,there's more to life than this poo y'all call sex, y'all are just being hypocritical........ There's hardly a day that i surf this site that i won't see bashings between the two genders........ U call em whores, bitches, gold diggers and all sort of names but still they are your kinda dream wife uhn(yeah, thatž what y'all mean by saying these)........ Hypocrites!

Guy calm down. Behavior like this is prevalent in women beater or children. No one is saying you shouldn't marry a woman of your choice. But experience has thought us that women's beauty sort of wane in the eyes of men. So, if you're fixated on her intelligence alone, don't later crave for a woman that's fairer.

dyze:
Be determined to stop it and you will. Might seem hard but it is very achievable.

. Yesooo

dyze:
y

What?

Introduction

One prevalent behaviour among Christians is the eagerness to classify things in the black or white section. So, it’s easy to quickly call someone a sinner than to accept that this person has the same type of struggle Paul had, which he kept praying to God about (although the bible never told us the infirmity that was prayed about but we surely knew he kept praying to God to remove something from his life).
It was the same infirmity (of stealing) that affected Judas. He was a staunch believer of Jesus to the extent that his true intention of betraying Jesus was to see him disappear among those that caught him. Remember, he had witnessed Jesus disappear from the crowd before. This is a man that made a lot of money from seeing the part of the purse no one was seeing; getting his riches from the account that no one expected to be available.
For the other disciples to write about his habit, it must have been a common knowledge, which implied that Jesus held him closer. The difference between Paul and Judas was that one was determined to be ridded of his infirmity while the other was eager to use it to his gain.
In the case of masturbation for a Christian brother (and sister- they are crazily secretive), there are various questions that are yet to be answered such as the ones that will be briefly debunked
1.


‘I have committed a sin that can never be forgiven’?
I must put it to you: masturbation is a habit that, if left unchecked, can last for years and be easily relapsed into. So, the first thing you should know is that it is a habit. So, if you are a first time masturbator, please read our section for first time Masturbator. Before you become buried in its stench, this is what you should do.

‘I have committed a sin that can never be forgiven’?
I must put it to you: masturbation is a habit that, if left unchecked, can last for years and be easily relapsed into. So, the first thing you should know is that it is a habit. So, if you are a first time masturbator, please read our section for first time Masturbator. Before you become buried in its stench, this is what you should do.
2.

Some Christian believe they are bedevilled or that one village grandmother has cast spell on them;


hence, their need for masturbation
The truth is this: you allowed your hunger for intimacy get over you as well as your fear. A normal confident unbeliever (or street boys) will find it hard to masturbate, not because he is immune to it, but because he is confident enough to talk to some girls about his desire to have sex with them. Hey, I’m not telling to go there to have sex, but that’s the first reason for your masturbation. No? Then, what? You just woke up one morning and decided to masturbate?
Face the mirror.
Slap yourself. You’re lying to yourself and have been doing that for so long that you can’t even differentiate the truth from a lie.
3.


3.
Masturbation Will Get You To Hell?



Masturbation is not the one that will get you to hell. You will. When you refuse to acknowledge it as something that can be fought and something that is not yours, then you’re on your way to hell. Sin, the bible says, shall not have dominion over you; yet, it will fight you. Paul was writing in the book of Romans of how we have to fight the temptations and tribulations of our habits but Chapter 8 clearly introduced how all that matters for you is the mind.
Peter Ayo-Alabi was teaching in his message ‘Frequently (Un)Asked Question and he said you should continue confessing who you’re in God… Keep saying, ‘I am the righteousness of God’. There was the story of a smoker he used: the man kept repeating the phrase even when he was smoking until he didn’t have the desire any longer. Calm down, it will take time.


4.

Deliverance, Fasting and Prayer Will Help You Stop It?



Na lie… See, you will finish saying your prayer and in the next minute, you are back to the places you used to have it. If you waste your time, you will soon have to crawl back to the position to cry and beat up yourself for allowing the devil take charge. This is not a devil. This is another hunger you must beat down.
Do you fight being overweight by praying or do you get to that gym to fight the rubbish out of your body?


5. Church Activities Will Kill It



Are you whining me? What church activities do to you is to even excite you the more and make you look for something to calm your nerves. Church activities are good for you but not for fighting your habit.

So, what’s the next thing to do?
– Stay Tuned To Menvocate
-Talk to someone and tell them to keep asking you for progress.
– Keep repeating the phrases even when you’re getting yourself high
– Don’t give up in fighting the habit. It’s true that there are no rehab centres for masturbators but you can try to avoid those little things that trigger you.
This might seems generic at the end but they’re just formula that will work after you have taken the decision to get The Hell out of That Room and Fight The Damn Thing.
It’s not a devil. It’s another habit that must be fought as such and not as a demon. Just that, this habit takes a longer while to fight than the other.


http://menvocate.com/2019/06/03/5-christian-misconceptions-about-masturbation/

OVA200:
Amen I just pray God should not help you because you are satiable.

You complain about everything.

This is a mystery I'll like to look into.

OVA200:
I don't even whether to say they are ugly or beautiful;
The make up is wack;
The camera is not helping matter;
Husband beard complicate issue

May God help you. You are just insatiable.

nuelsam:
All these men seeing ladies as sex objects without looking inwards.....if only they knew what they are bouh to face till eternity........ As for me, i don't f.ucking care bouh ur beauty, endowment or whatever........ If u aint intelligent, u a turn off for me.

Marry an ugly intelligent woman and later have a sidechic. That's the lot most of you that talk like this...

Any reason the number of men with side chicks is increasing per day? Something is either wrong with women of this generation or the men....

This generation has helped both genders to have a taste of public embarrassment. However, this man couldn't take the public humiliation.

dominique:
Almost everyday we read of horrific news about Nigerian men yet they're quick to chant "FEAR WOMEN". Nigerian women too get their own for body but the men are worse. Parents are failing woefully in the raising of their sons and it's the wives that are suffering for it.

The job of training coming generation now lies on you and every other young ladies. Menvocate is trying to reset the brain of men from previous and future generations. Let's do this job together....

Introduction

One prevalent behaviour among Christians is the eagerness to classify things in the black or white section. So, it’s easy to quickly call someone a sinner than to accept this someone that had the same type of struggle that Paul had kept praying to God about (although the bible never told us the infirmity that was prayed about but we surely knew he kept praying to God to remove something from his life).
It was the same infirmity (of stealing) that affected Judas. He was a staunch believer of Jesus to the extent that his true intention of betraying Jesus was to see him disappear among those that caught him. Remember, he had witnessed Jesus disappear from the crowd before. This is a man that made a lot of money from seeing the part of the purse no one was seeing; getting his riches from the account that no one expected to be available.
For the other disciples to write about his habit, it must have been a common knowledge, which implied that Jesus held him closer. The difference between Paul and Judas was that one was determined to be ridded of his infirmity while the other was eager to use it to his gain.
In the case of masturbation for a Christian brother (and sister- they are crazily secretive), there are various questions that are yet to be answered such as the ones that will be briefly debunked
1.


‘I have committed a sin that can never be forgiven’?
I must put it to you: masturbation is a habit that, if left unchecked, can last for years and be easily relapsed into. So, the first thing you should know is that it is a habit. So, if you are a first time masturbator, please read our section for first time Masturbator. Before you become buried in its stench, this is what you should do.



1.

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‘I have committed a sin that can never be forgiven’?
I must put it to you: masturbation is a habit that, if left unchecked, can last for years and be easily relapsed into. So, the first thing you should know is that it is a habit. So, if you are a first time masturbator, please read our section for first time Masturbator. Before you become buried in its stench, this is what you should do.
2.

[b[Some Christian believe they are bedevilled or that one village grandmother has cast spell on them; [/b]


hence, their need for masturbation
The truth is this: you allowed your hunger for intimacy get over you as well as your fear. A normal confident unbeliever (or street boys) will find it hard to masturbate, not because he is immune to it, but because he is confident enough to talk to some girls about his desire to have sex with them. Hey, I’m not telling to go there to have sex, but that’s the first reason for your masturbation. No? Then, what? You just woke up one morning and decided to masturbate?
Face the mirror.
Slap yourself. You’re lying to yourself and have been doing that for so long that you can’t even differentiate the truth from a lie.
3.


3.
Masturbation Will Get You To Hell?



Masturbation is not the one that will get you to hell. You will. When you refuse to acknowledge it as something that can be fought and something that is not yours, then you’re on your way to hell. Sin, the bible says, shall not have dominion over you; yet, it will fight you. Paul was writing in the book of Romans of how we have to fight the temptations and tribulations of our habits but Chapter 8 clearly introduced how all that matters for you is the mind.
Peter Ayo-Alabi was teaching in his message ‘Frequently (Un)Asked Question and he said you should continue confessing who you’re in God… Keep saying, ‘I am the righteousness of God’. There was the story of a smoker he used: the man kept repeating the phrase even when he was smoking until he didn’t have the desire any longer. Calm down, it will take time.


4.

Deliverance, Fasting and Prayer Will Help You Stop It?



Na lie… See, you will finish saying your prayer and in the next minute, you are back to the places you used to have it. If you waste your time, you will soon have to crawl back to the position to cry and beat up yourself for allowing the devil take charge. This is not a devil. This is another hunger you must beat down.
Do you fight being overweight by praying or do you get to that gym to fight the rubbish out of your body?


5. Church Activities Will Kill It



Are you whining me? What church activities do to you is to even excite you the more and make you look for something to calm your nerves. Church activities are good for you but not for fighting your habit.

So, what’s the next thing to do?
– Stay Tuned To Menvocate
-Talk to someone and tell them to keep asking you for progress.
– Keep repeating the phrases even when you’re getting yourself high
– Don’t give up in fighting the habit. It’s true that there are no rehab centres for masturbators but you can try to avoid those little things that trigger you.
This might seems generic at the end but they’re just formula that will work after you have taken the decision to get The Hell out of That Room and Fight The Damn Thing.
It’s not a devil. It’s another habit that must be fought as such and not as a demon. Just that, this habit takes a longer while to fight than the other.


http://menvocate.com/2019/06/03/5-christian-misconceptions-about-masturbation/

Without much talk,

1. Staring at women: that level of perversion is so strong that many women now see a simple glance as a desire to stare at them. Now, men can’t appreciate women’s beauty because of some people’s love for staring. Stop the act of ‘lookery’
Funny enough, when certain men see some other men staring at women they mock them also; yet, men have not really trained themselves to hold to their gaze and that in itself is a cause for disgrace.


2. Disrespecting women: many men make it their duty to disrespect their women or women generally.
Some husbands are so careless that they abuse their women in the public or talk to them bashfully.
Some men also are always in the form of not trying to take rubbish from woman because they are the head. So they disrespect them. No.
More so, a man is only the head of the family in his nuclear family and no where else. You’re not the head of your brother’s family.
Women are humans too, prone to emotions and are worthy of respect anywhere. And that goes to showing men respect too. Why must you show how rude you’re to display your power.

3. Shouting out foolish words: men are known to appreciate women, but when the words you shout are words that place women in the status of sex object, something is definitely wrong. Stop! Stop! Just stop it. It’s a big no no especially for educated men.
Let the Alphamale in you make you see things in the way a real man would. A lion doesn’t involve itself in roaring for fun.

4: Reaching out to Ex: this is one other foolish thing some men do that allows women to generalise about men’s insensitivity and foolishness.
No matter how much you loved your ex, never return to ask for her show of affection when she is a relationship. Please, what would you have done? Would you have left your new girlfriend for your ex too?
No woman is the best in the world. Every woman is unique in her own way and it will do you real good to sit with the one you have chosen and not making the relationship look like a adumbration, like a representation of the last one as if you’re hoping your Ex will come. Broa, she is not coming. Even if she comes, especially when the break up was initiated by her, let her know you’re not a yo-yo that will be dangled from left to right.
You’re a man whose focus is always fixed on the future and that future is with your new girlfriend.

5. Beating women: beating of women is a habit that everyone should curb in boys. Some parents always shout at their boys whenever a girl beats him and make him look weak, flaming his desire to be a champion in wrestling.
Many men have shamed men. You have represented men in a bad light by beating women. Are your emotions stronger than you? I thought every adult should have dropped that for the children. If you have beaten a woman before, please stop.
You’re disgracing all the other men in the world. We need good representations.
6. Rape: this is one thing that everybody is fighting for. This is one aspect Menvocate hope to curb by dealing with the men.
And here we stop… Phew!
Have anything to add, drop in the comment below?
Women: how does your husband control his anger around you, come tell…
What other things have men done to disgrace us?


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figment232:
What is this one saying?

As innnnnn

But his wife is so beautiful...

Earthbound:
My neighbors who lived upstairs, had this really pretty, yellow house help from Warri. They were almost never around and so she had little work to do. She taught me everything I needed to know.

Best 2 years of my adolescence.
Bless her heart.

Hmm... Thanks for your candor