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@ OMO IBO

You ask too many questions.

@

OMO IBO

Well for me it does.

I have never dated by choice.

I want to remain a virgin until I get married.

See your mind is filled with stereotypes.

I told you I was single and you jumped to conclusion again.

You thought that since I am single that means I have issues. LOL

Look at the language you have just used "GUB"

@

OMO IBO

I am single and a virgin

I am studying and on my way to medical school.

It is my choice to remain single.

@ OMO IBO

Single !!!

@ OMO IBO

Why?

@

OMO IBO

Yes I have read this your nonsense post and came to this conclusion !!!! LOL

How many Nigerian women have you known to come to this conclusion?

Maybe if you were more ROMANTIC than you will have a DIFFERENT outcome !!! LOL

Now I have used this stereotype but I know not every Nigerian men are like that

@ OMO IBO

His mind is filled with stereotypes. LOL

@ Nuiban Q

You have to know their game so you will not be played a fool.

Thank god I am single and have not dated.

I agree with almondjoy.

I will not marry a man that is too old.

How has living overseas affected courting/dating/ and getting married? Tell me the stereotypes you face being raised in US? Are there stereotypes associated with being born overseas?

This thread is about virginity not about one's heart.

Of course you can find non-virgins with good heart. Duh !!!

You can also find virgins with bad heart. Duh!!!

Non-virgins can make good partners too. Yes of course !!!

However, statistics shows that virgins are less likely to divorce than non-virgins.

LESS DIVORCES RATE=BETTER

But of course non-virgins can make good partners. HAPPY !!!!

I agree with everinlove.

@ bawomolo




People who have sex before marriage, have a higher rate of divorce. Sexual union is a special act which belongs only to those who are committed to each other.

Contemporary studies indicate that the marital argument is not sound. Of 100 couples who cohabit, 40 break up before they marry. Of the 60 who marry, 45 divorce--leaving only 15 of 100 with a lasting marriage. Thus, cohabitation has two negative effects: it sharply reduces the number who marry, and dramatically increases the divorce rate of those who do.(

Engaged couples, according to Paul in 1 Corinthians 7:36-37, should either control their sexual drives or marry. Intercourse, then, is not proper for engaged couples. They should either keep their emotions in check or marry.

Source http://www.leaderu.com/everystudent/sex/articles/whywait.html

There is something very strong to have only been bonded at the most intimate level with one person. It creates an additional anchor for that marriage to weather storms. It certainly isn't impervious and won't in of itself keep you together, but make no mistake about the power of true sexual intimacy! It is very sad for those today who treat it as simply an activity - it cheapens perhaps the most valuable/powerful bonding gift we have as humans.

One, it's special, because you have only ever been with one person that should bring contentment for the rest of your life.

Two, once you loose your virginity you can't take it back.

Three, your spouse doesn't have to worry about who you've been with, how many, STD's, maybe kids or worse an abortion in the past.

Four, there is a sense of fulfillment in going against the grain of peer pressure, media, and what the world has to say about sex and being able to hold out until marriage. It is a very accomplished feeling.

Five, there is a special joy that one experiences in being obedient to God in this area of their lives.


Six, sex outside of marriage is nothing but using the other person to fulfill you own sexual desires! It is treating the other person as nothing more than a piece of raw meat!


By Nathaniel Givens The Collegian

Richmond, VA (CSTV U-WIRE) -- Apparently Michael Webb thinks the old saying "caveat emptor" (buyer beware) applies to marriage. His theory is simple, if you haven't had sex, how can you know if you are sexually compatible with your betrothed? You want to test drive a car before you buy -- isn't marriage an even greater commitment? If that logic were true, then you'd think that the sexual revolution and the growing levels of pre-marital sex would correlate to lower rates of divorce since now everyone knows what they are getting into. Strangely, we find just the opposite.

If "try before you buy" applies to sex, then certainly you'd do even better to really take the relationship out for a spin and cohabit before you get married. Yet the divorce rate among couples who do cohabit and then get married is 40 to 85 percent higher than the divorce rate for those who abstain from sex before marriage. Women who cohabit are 3.3 times more likely to have a secondary sexual partner later on when they're married than women who abstained before marriage (I assume the rates go up for guys, too, but I couldn't find the numbers). And just in case you think that is because virgins don't know where else to turn when the marriage doesn't turn out to be everything they hoped for - sexual satisfaction is also higher among married couples who abstain before marriage than it is among married couples that cohabit first.

So why is it that test drives are great ways to pick a car but not such a great strategy for choosing a spouse? Well, it's because deciding who to marry is a fundamentally different kind of question than deciding which car to buy.

The entire car-owner relationship is pretty well defined by one action: driving. The marriage relationship on the other hand is a bit more complex. The other elements of marriage -- everything from sharing a bathroom to sharing a dream -- tend to outweigh the importance of sex in a couple's everyday life. If there's no sex involved while you're dating, you have an opportunity to learn about a person without the rose-glasses of mutual gratification. In my opinion, sexual compatibility is the very least of your concerns. The human species did not survive this far without being biologically programmed to like sex, and furthermore I think that true sexual satisfaction stems more from love then from some nebulous "compatibility" concept. Face it: you've got millions of years of evolution on your side when it comes to sexual compatibility, but only a couple hundred years of social history when it comes to picking drapes or deciding which career paths to follow.

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If you have to agree with your car about where to go on your next road trip, you need a new car. Successful marriage, on the other hand, is always a real partnership. That means that you see your partner's needs as equally important to your own. Living a life of abstinence before marriage develops the essential ability to control and channel -- not repress -- your own desires. This ability to put what you want on hold for a greater good is an invaluable benefit in living for decades with the one you love.

The self-control aspect is important to fidelity as well. If you and the person you marry mutually agree not to have sex until marriage, it's going to take work. In a college relationship having sex is a lot easier than not having sex. Abstinence takes commitment -- and if you and your loved one practice that self-control together, then there is a bond of mutual trust that carries over into the marriage. Not only will you be fully in control of your own sexual expression, but your spouse will know that you are.

If we want sex to enrich our lives and our relationships with our spouses (when that time comes), it helps to have a shared confidence that self-mastery is something we bring to the union. If we never learn to say "no" when our sex drive says "go", then in reality we are the ones being taken for a ride by our sexuality and not the other way around. And if we make the decision not to make a gift of our virginity to our spouse, then let us at least be aware that, collegian editorials notwithstanding, the statistics are against, not for us, when it comes to marital success.

Source: http://www.cstv.com/sports/m-footbl/uwire/122305aab.html

You guys are trying to recreate the definition but probably can not even abstinent from most of these activities.

If people are engaging in oral and anal, that is not a virgin.

These are physical activities? If these are your excuse for why you are having sex, then you are just a byproduct of the majority.

Should I engage in these activities because of lack of detection? Of course not.

PHYSICAL VIRGIN is first.

That is why SEXUAL (physical) ACTIVITY leads to AIDs, STD, unwanted pregnancy, and etcs.

I know not all virgins make better partners than non-virgins but they are MORE LIKELY to make better partners.

If you want to twist the argument and say that it start mentally. Go ahead. That your life. Keep deceiving yourself.

I believe that people should live their life as best as they can regardless of what others are doing.