yicob:

I RECENTLY DISCOVERED THAT GUYS NO LONGER RUSH INTO MARRIAGE UNLIKE PAST DECADES. IT WOULD AMAZE YOU TO SEE MEN OF 35 YEARS UPWARD STILL ATTACHING SINGLE TO THEIR STATUS.

WHATS REALLY HAPPENING?

j-girl:

The reason is that men of nowadays prefer to be playboys and not fathers. They prefer to be free and single when they don't realize that they can be free and married. Also, they believe they can't find good women, when it is that good guys are so hard to find.
There are many reasons - but the koko of the matter is that guys of our generation are not serious or mature enough to start thinking marriage. It's very very sad. By the time, they start thinking about it - most of them reach the age of 30 or thereabout.

Jackal:

Phewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww!!!!!!!!!!!! Not again.
Don't u ever get tired bashing Nigerian men?

What about the financial aspect of things?
Geezers need to stash paper in their accounts before thinking of marriage.
What are u going to eat in marriage? Love n Lust?

j-girl:

Don't you ever get tired of bashing Naija women and defending the action of some idiotic naija men?
The financial aspect is all a cover. I've heard of stories where the man starts making his money along with his wife by his side.
Behind every successful man is a woman so why must a man strive to be successful before his woman?
What will make one survive through hard times is the love of his woman.
The best way to secure that love is through marriage!

Jackal:

How can the financial aspect be a cover?
Somebody like u especially will attract a bride price of about $30,000(Secondary school in Lagos, University in Havard)
Where do u expect a potenial Naija geezer to cough that out from?

Besides, men have outlined goals to achieve before walking the aisle with any woman.
What have u got to say to that?
A man needs a house, 2 cars and loads of $$$$$$$$$$$$$ in your savings.
It ain't EASYYYYYYYYYYYYY!!!!

Jackal:

@ J-girl,

There are so many reasons why men prefer to stay long before jumping into marriages.

Men want their freedom. Men are extremely independent by nature.
How many times in the last 3 years has your boy/f come to u to whine like a toddler about this back pain and that neck pain?
We love to make our own decisions and run our lives by our own rules.
Someone like me want to do what i want when i want.

But, as soon as a woman enters the pictures, all the options a guy used to take for granted(going out to pub to shoot pool, buying gadgets, playing footie with buddies on saturday mornings) suddenly have to be cleared with her first.
Women being evil creatures will always answer NO to many of those requests. Puhleeeeeeeaze, how many guys cherish that?
Almost overnight, men find themselves "trapped in their spouses' closets".
It's fuckery.

Jackal:


Women often submerge their true personalities and agendas until the knot is tied . . .  but when the truth comes out and the we find ourselves legally bound to a greedy, nagging bitch, it's too late.

tope2000:

Referring to woman as a BITCH . uhn uhn, how would you feel if women refers to you guys as ASSHOLEs

Jackal:

@ J-girl,

It's not that simple.
Besides, the freedom bit is just 10% of the reasons why men delay the big step.
Your boyfriend is like every other REAL man out there. I must admit there are many cry-babies but who needs a toddler?

Anyways, anutha critical point is the way women see this marriage thingy with their rose-tinted specs.
Many women look at marriage through Cinderella eyes . . . for them, putting a ring on their fingers means that we will magically solve all their problems, from childhood issues with their fathers to huge shopping debts incurred on credit cards, to fixing their broken acrylic nails.
Women often submerge their true personalities and agendas until the knot is tied . . . but when the truth comes out and the we find ourselves legally bound to a greedy, nagging bitch, it's too late.

tope2000:

Referring to woman as a BITCH . uhn uhn, how would you feel if women refers to you guys as ASSHOLEs

Jackal:

With all due respect, the word BITCH is not offensive.
It simply means a spiteful or overbearing woman.
Gosh. . . . . . many women call emselves "bitch" so what's your fuss?

BITCH - Babe In Total Control of Herself

Jackal:

With all due respect, the word BITCH is not offensive.
It simply means a spiteful or overbearing woman.
Gosh. . . . . . many women call emselves "bitch" so what's your fuss?

HR.hotness:

BITCH - Babe In Total Control of Herself

j-girl:

Marriage is a blessing to a lot of women till the men start cheating on them or till men start causing trouble for them.
The thing is that marriage is a cuss word to some men because they cannot afford to leave their womanizing ways. They want to have the freedom to sleep around without any real commitments.

HR.hotness:

I guess the word is only acceptable when used by u to address yourself

I no send sha, I've been called worse things

Jackal:


Where did that come from?
Was i talking to u?

Jackal:

Without overflogging this issue, i am going to say this for the very last time: FREEDOM!!!!

Men love their freedom.
For many guys, the very thought of making a commitment to one woman for the rest of their lives is enough to send them sprinting for the hills.
The dreaded "C-word" implies compromise, loss of independence, the sacrifice of sexual variety, and the looming specter of financial devastation.

Men naturally crave sexual variety. When men commit . . . either in marriage or cohabitation. . . .men willingly volunteer to cut themselves off from any other sexual pursuits.
Sexual boredom can set in, followed by a total lack of desire.
For a lot of men out there, even guys who weren't getting a lot of action anyway, that can be the scariest consequence of all.

j-girl:

What useless freedom are men looking for? They should not marry now!
Why would they want to settle down if they see marriage as a prison?
Oh please - all these are excuses . Why don't you just say men want to shag everything in skirt?

Men naturally crave sexual variety? they should never get married till they've tasted every flavour out there.
The sexual excitement depends on the kind of wife one is married to. If he's married to the woman who is traditional and just loves one position - sorry for the guy. If he's married to someone creative, he'll forever enjoy sex with her till he gets tired of having sex.

Men wait so long to marry because they are looking to explore more variety - true or false?