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Kobojunkie:
You gave the impression that you currently live with your stepmom. Since you are not best buddies with your stepmom then why do you feel pressured to tell her or reveal any of your private situations to her?

Kobojunkie:
1. Well, did your dad and your stepmom actually tell you that you had to cut ties with your mother in order to benefit anything from them or something? They ought not to do that and it is for your own mental sanity that you maintain connection with both parents until such a time as you are ready, if at all, to cut off.

2. You can maybe mention in passing that your mother calls you every now and then and see how she might react to it. Only do this if you have a very good relationship with her.

Mindlog:
Reading through your narration, I am just visualizing rough wiring of a brain and a venn diagram with 3 circles that overlaps each other with you being the coloured centre, a basic mapping of your family.

One theme is very constant and that is PARENTAL NEGLECT and that made you being tossed around, bad for a wholesome development of a child.

In one venn, you have your father, your step mother and possibly half-siblings, then in the second venn is your mother with another set of half-siblings and a step father who have absconded and finally in the third venn, your grandfather and your other maternal relatives.

Kobojunkie:
Let's think about it. You are 20 and some strange woman who never paid attention to you wants you to now carry her life and mistakes on your shoulder. What aspect of that is betrayal or do you assume will cause a problem for you in the future?

Kobojunkie:
Your grandfather is dead? That is sad news! Honestly, I think you are right to admit to yourself that both your father and your mother failed you as parents. So, it makes no sense to report one to the other in this. As for your stepmother, what your father did to her was wrong and it wouldn't be right for you to burden her with other things that could her to have to be fed with stories of the past.

You were 13 in 2016 meaning you are about 20 at this point, am I correct? A 20-year-old ought to be focused on acquiring the skill and education necessary to build a solid future, not concerning himself with the lives and burdens of other people. You heard your mother's story, and nothing says you can't let it be just that... her story. Are you ready to carry on your shoulders a burden like that even at this point in your life?

Kobojunkie:
You have been living with your father since 2017, and how has that time really been for you? Does he, your father give you love or is it your stepmother doing the loving of you in his stead?

I don't think it makes any sense to report your mother to your father is why I ask. And your stepmother, she may just be doing what she feels is recommended of her as your father's wife. If you really need advice, I would suggest your report your mother and your hurt straight to your grandfather. He alone seems in best place to scold her correctly for her foolishness towards you.

Kobojunkie:
So, your father watched as your mother did all you accuse her of doing for all that while? And your dad also never even mentioned to his own wife that he already had you before you showed up in the picture? How come?

Kobojunkie:
So, your father watched as your mother did all you accuse her of doing for all that while? And your dad also never even mentioned to his own wife that he already had you before you showed up in the picture? How come?

Curse777:
Like my father would say... God gave you Adams apple in your throat as a man to be able to keep secrets

Whatever you do for your mother your step mother and father don't have to know vice versa

Also when you marry a wife, whatever you do for your wife and her family never let your family know

Wawelexy:
You need to tell your dad about it, your dad would decides if your step mother should be carried along... You can't neglect her even though she goofed up

Battlefield2:
Your story is confusing Mr Man

Curse777:
You owe your biological parents respect

But

Those who showed you love like your step mother and grandfather you owe them love and loyalty

PhillipPHD:
South West people and drugs are 5&6. Ask Tinubu.

They can’t succeed without cheating.

mrjojo:
30 million is not exactly rich

Aladdin1:
I can bet my salary that this story is fake and untrue.op lie lie worry your anus!.

PattyMike:
Wetin concern u if I Dey smoke St Morris or not and I no believe say u be anything, be careful make u no put urself for problem.

Nigeriagood:
kindly continue

PattyMike:
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This story wan get as e be, I no know if na u Dey mix am intentionally to wyn people brain.

Pathfinder2090:
The idiot dey use Norseman OT dey mix with BSTs