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In a family, which I will rather describe as dysfunctional, has a father & mother (Separated but not divorced), 4 children (all men, all married but one). The root of the matter is: The mother found out her husband had children from three previous marriages and did not tell her before tying the knots. All hell was let loose as the marriage was a domestic violent one. This caused bad blood between the whole family and it eventually led to the mother leaving the house with 3 of her 4 children, leaving one with her husband. Up till this day, the bad blood still persist with everyone helpless on how to reconcile the whole family. The children have tried to settle them, but to no avail. Close relatives also have tried.This issue has spanned over 30 years now.

Part of the problem is 2 of the 4 children don't have a good relationship with the father as they both see him as a devil they need to flee from. The 2 children allege that their father has placed curses on them severally. They point out that he talk too much, nag too much, talk too loosely and badly about them to people, even strangers. So they don't see him as their father.

One of the children is doing well but wont forget about all the curses placed by his dad. The second one is not doing well: Very grandiose, carefree, spendthrift, aggressive, jealous, envious, paranoid and can't hold a job for a day. In fact, his own kids were taken from him because he abused his wife.

In fact, the parents are getting old and are not happy about the turn of event as they tried to talk to the 2 children but the children would not want to see or talk to their father. The father always accuse his wife of turning his children away from him. The step children and parent are not helping either.

Please, how do we all proffer a solution(s) to this disfunctionality?

While its true, being spiritual doesn't mean your always positive, it does mean that your aware of the invisible/spiritual side of life which is where all the energy manifests from. Once your aware of that side you know when people attack with negativity or situations turn out undesirably its just an invitation to join the self weakening party of negativity, you become aware that anything outside of yourself which places you in a negative state is weakening you and you do whatever you can to avoid that state. While we may slip into negativity here and there the goal is to remain in a positive place as to not weaken our personal energies. What do you think guys?

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Hello all,
Please I want to build a 2-bedroom apartment of say 9.800m x 5.4m in Ibadan. I already have a 4-bedroom bungalow built but I want to deck it and build a 2-bedroom bungalow. Please can you advice me on how much a plan may cost? Thank you

Hi all,
I just did german floor (21.425m x 10.400m) for my house. Now I want to to do the flooring/german floor 4-6 inches for the compound (9.600m x 4.600m)
How much do you think I will spend for materials and labor? What about labor for fixing PVC ceiling a twin 3 bedroom flats (6 rooms in total) (21.425m x10.400m) and includes porches, passages, dinning, living rooms and passages, kitchens, toilets etc all in Ibadan?

Hi all,
I just did german floor (21.425m x 10.400m) for my house. Now I want to to do the flooring/german floor 4-6 inches for the compound (9.600m x 4.600m)
How much do you think I will spend for materials and labor? What about labor for fixing PVC ceiling a twin 3 bedroom flats (6 rooms in total) (21.425m x10.400m) and includes porches, passages, dinning, living rooms and passages, kitchens, toilets etc all in Ibadan?

Hi all,
I just did german floor (21.425m x 10.400m) for my house. Now I want to to do the flooring/german floor for the compound (9.600m x 4.600m) about 4-6 inch thickness
How much do you think I will spend for materials and labor? What about labor for fixing PVC ceiling a twin 3 bedroom flats (6 rooms in total) and includes corridors, passages, porches?

please send the updated prices to me @ mic_bjrex@yahoo.ca

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@Topsy23,I will appreciate if you can kindly provide me with the updated list of the prices.My email is wallex032003@yahoo.co.uk

Regards.

please send the updated prices to me @ mic_bjrex@yahoo.ca

In my own opinion I don't think men or women are better at cheating I think women do pay attention to detail, so that's why they don't get caught as much, BUT... I also think that is why men do get caught...not because they don't do it well, but because women again... pay attention to detail, so she picks up on everything when a man cheats, and will find out.

rogermilar:
Check your mail. I have once sent you the real quote.

I did not receive your email. Pls resend it. My email is mic_bjrex@yahoo.ca Thank you

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I am about to plaster my 2flats of 3 bedrooms and internal fence plus its front and also do my compound german floor. Plot/fence measures 100ft x 50ft and building size 21.425m x 10.400m. Please is the quotes below not too high?

1.German Floor:
Granite 60 Tonnes(1/2 inch) 130,000X2= 260,000
Sharpsand 60 Tonnes(15tonnes
X4trip
35,000X4= 140,000
Cement 50 Bags of Cement 1,500 X 50= 75,000
Water provision ***** *****
Material Cost :- NGN 475,000
Workmanship:- NGN 90,000


2&3. Plastering ( 2Nos of 3bedroom and Internal Fence.)
Soft Sand 8 Trip @ 34,000 272,000
Cement 92 Bags 1,500X92=138,000
Water Provision ******
Fascia Board 4 Unit 1,500 X 4= 6,000
Material Cost: NGN 416,000
Workmanship: NGN 210,000

My land measures 100ft x 50ft and building size is 21.425m x 10.400m. I have now done the 21 window burglaries and 22 door frames. I want to know how much I can pay the person that will fix them in the walls. I also want to know what to pay my bricklayer for plastering of my internal fence plus its front anf my 2 flats of 3 bedrooms, I want to know how much I can offer the bricklayer per room or partition. what about labor for german floor? Any flat rate per bag of cement? Also for my tower sliding window, I am getting 2 very high and different quotes and 2 quotes below N300k and I am kind of confused at the moment.....someone says I will spend

Sliding Windows:
1800mm X 1200mm 2 Units 18,000 X 2= 36,000
1500mm X 1200mm 14 Units 16,000 X 14=224,000
700mm X 900mm 5 Units 11,000 X5=55,000
Material Cost: NGN 315,000
Workmanship(Installation & Delivery)= NGN 30,000

Another says
Quantity Size Rate Amount
14 1500*1200 #20,000 #280,000
5 700*900 #14,000 #70,000
2 1800*1200 #22,500 #45,000

Workmwnship: not known yet
Transport: not known yet
TOTAL#395,000

and someone says
Sliding tower 11,000x16=176,000
Toilet 5,000x5=25,000

Another says N280k for everything

Pls help me out

My land measures 100ft x 50ft and building size is 21.425m x 10.400m. I have now done the 21 window burglaries and 22 door frames. I want to know how much I can pay the person that will fix them in the walls. I also want to know what to pay my bricklayer for plastering of my internal fence plus its front anf my 2 flats of 3 bedrooms, I want to know how much I can offer the bricklayer per room or partition. what about labor for german floor? Any flat rate per bag of cement? Also for my tower sliding window, I am getting 2 very high and different quotes and 2 quotes below N300k and I am kind of confused at the moment.....someone says I will spend

Sliding Windows:
1800mm X 1200mm 2 Units 18,000 X 2= 36,000
1500mm X 1200mm 14 Units 16,000 X 14=224,000
700mm X 900mm 5 Units 11,000 X5=55,000
Material Cost: NGN 315,000
Workmanship(Installation & Delivery)= NGN 30,000

Another says
Quantity Size Rate Amount
14 1500*1200 #20,000 #280,000
5 700*900 #14,000 #70,000
2 1800*1200 #22,500 #45,000

Workmwnship: not known yet
Transport: not known yet
TOTAL#395,000

and someone says
Sliding tower 11,000x16=176,000
Toilet 5,000x5=25,000

Another says N280k for everything

Pls help me out

Thanks

the sizes are 2 nos of 1800mm x 1200mm
14 nos of 1500mm x 1200mm
5 nos of 700mm x 900mm

all made of tower one profiles with tinted reflective glass with net

yes.....for all the five works. thanks

my email is mic_bjrex@yahoo.ca

pls help me out

I will need your help in terms of costs, labor, materials of doing:

(1) sliding windows with net (Tower) 21 in total (16 big ones for rooms and 5 small one for toilet).
(2)burglary 21 in total. labor cost of fixing into window walls
(3)plastering of the 2 flats of 3 bedrooms each. materials and labor
(4)fence of 100x50ft-just the inside and the front.
(5)german floor of my compound (outside)----house size is 21.425m x 10.400m.

Thank you all.

Thank you all for your contributions to this thread. I will need your help in terms of costs, labor, materials of fixing my (1) 16 big ones and 5 small one for toilet sliding windows with net (Tower) 21 in total, (2)burglary 21 in total, (3)plastering of the 2 flats of 3 bedrooms each and (4)fence of 100x50ft-just the inside and the front, (5)german floor of my compound (outside)----house size is 21425m x 10.400m. Thank you all.

Thank you all for your contributions to this thread. I have reached the other stages and I will need your help in terms of costs, labor, materials of fixing my (1) 16 big ones and 5 small one for toilet sliding windows with net (Tower) 21 in total, (2)burglary 21 in total, (3)plastering of the 2 flats of 3 bedrooms each and (4)fence of 100x50ft-just the inside and the front, (5)german floor of my compound (outside)----house size is 21425m x 10.400m. Thank you all.

That is an injustice of the highest order to think that when their spouse is on "heat", then they will demand for it.

You might find it strange in the modern world why some married couples find it a big issue to demand sex from their partners. But of course, it does happen. I have noticed this to be particularly common with the women folks as they give reasons Like, "Oh, my hubby may think I am cheap", "my mother actually tells me it is wrong", and so on and so forth. Many of them have forgotten that sex is one of the pillars that hold a marriage together and if demands are not made of his/her attention, you are simply saying you can do without them. So what is the fuss/confusion in making demand for sex from your hubby?

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Some people enjoy talking but are unaware of the rules that guide conversations. Here are some rules to observe when you engage in discussions with people

Listen more

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Tailor the conversation

It is better to discuss certain topics with people you are familiar with. The people you meet for the first time may have reservations about certain topics and may not feel comfortable discussing them with you. Avoid awkward topics or arguing with the other parties.

Don’t dominate

A conversation involves two or more people sharing opinions and ideas about a particular topic. It is a dialogue and not time for monologues. If you are in charge of the conversation and have talked for a few minutes without any questions, comments, or general signs of life from other people, cede the floor to someone else and give them room to share their own perspective on the topic of discourse. Do not monopolise the conversation.

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Some mistakes are made in conversations because people fail to think before they speak. Sometimes, in the course of a discussion, they could utter annoying words to the other parties. To avoid offending people during conversations, don’t blurt out statements out of anger or without thinking. You could avoid further disagreements by sieving your thoughts before speaking them out.

Don’t interrupt

When you are involved in a conversation, give people the opportunity to air their opinions because they are entitled to it. Do not interrupt anyone; wait until they have stopped talking before you start. Interrupting a person’s thought or speech sounds rude and could send the discussion off into another tangent. This also applies to telephone conversations. When you are interrupted, the polite thing to do is shut up and not go back to the conversation except you are asked to.

Be liberal

When there are more than two people involved in a conversation, be sure to involve everyone in the discussion. Do not take sides or prefer a particular person for the conversation. Also, be sure to choose subjects which everyone has an interest in, so they can contribute to it. That makes people have a sense of belonging.

Don’t overshare

Having a conversation with someone, especially when you need an advice on a particular issue does not mean you should reveal your entire life as soon as you start the discussion. If you would reveal a certain amount of information about yourself, ensure you do that with someone you feel safe with and can trust. Revealing too much personal information could cut across as an act of desperation and repel people.

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It is good that people trust you enough to tell you their secrets but do not sound nosey or desperate by probing for too much information, especially when they do not feel like revealing more. Don’t dig too deeply into their personal life. If they are comfortable talking about the particular issue again, let them bring it up at their own pace. If they don’t seem willing to discuss it any further, change the subject.


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There are many things which we don't do nowadays because of advancement of the technology.

1. Nowadays we don't use doorbells, we just text or call when we reach at someone's house.

2. We don't write letters, I mean I'm 15 and haven't ever written a single letter to anyone.

3. With the invention of mobiles, people have just stopped using telephones.

4. We have stopped going out with friends, we are just busy chatting with them on Facebook or Whatsapp.

5. We don't use telephone directories, instead we just store everyone's number in our mobiles.

6. Earlier, you might have seen children playing outside, nowadays kids are just busy playing games on their computer and gaming consoles.

Feel free to add yours......

I'm an african but I and my siblings live abroad. We are a proud people with wonderful culture and tradition. Most importantly we have identity. Without it what does one really have? Who are you? Identity gives you a sense of belonging in this world. It gives you the motivation to live and do the right things in you and your family's lives. I am sorry to say this but someone has to say it. I can not understand why some of our people go out of their way to imitate akata behavior? What is the value and or the attraction in it? I know akata people who tell me that they wish that they have the tradition and culture that we have, mainly the fact that we know who we are as africans. There is envy there too. Why is it that a lot of us don't seem to appreciate our God given heritage instead some of us are trying so hard to copy the akatas. A smart and wise person would want to emulate good things that they see around them, rather than embrace the worst. If you want to impress people, impress them with your best. So talking, acting and living like akata to me is sad. I used to believe that we knew better, was I wrong? Which akata is running around trying to be like us?

Well I have thought that at times myself and think then it is the food, the pollution, the many harmful things in our modern world that are implicated in people dying young. Yet if you look back into history the death rate of the young was high as well....In fact I once read and I do not have statistics that the reason for our increasing world population is more to do with fewer people dying young than it is an increase in the birth rate.

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