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Wow!
All the best.

Absolutely nothing. There's nothing I can achieved in marriage that I can't achieved outside marriage.

Why bring it to the net? For us to do what? Tell your mom the truth?

Holy Moses!
S.I.P lil girl.

madami123:
I don't want to make her feel uncomfortable see me regularly or make her feel like am distancing myself from her

Never let you partner sees you too often.
Sometimes stay off her view and let her long for you. It boosts feelings.

In a month, see her thrice.

But keep constant communication. Communication is very important.

Twagrill:
is she diabolical or what

Because you have fallen into temptations doesn't mean others can.
No temptation is ever great enough not to resist.

Twagrill:
is she diabolical or what

She isn't diabolical.
I mean the typa lady that would rather die than betray her man. She keeps it 100% real and true to her man.
Because you don't have or seen doesn't mean they don't exist.

Cooldude180:
I created this moniker merely to hide my identity as I am one of the active members on this Forum.Moreover, the lady in question is also on this forum although she is just a passive member.
I met her during my service year in the southwest and caught feelings even on the first day. We got talking and a relationship started after some weeks. I really love her even more than before and I still have this feeling that she would definitely come to her senses although a part of me is telling me that she is not willing to make amends.
I have been able to empower her although much proceeds are not coming forth for now as we are collectively building a strong customer base for her business and with God on our side we would definitely get there soon. Besides she is a beneficiary of one of the federal government of Nigeria employment schemes for youths in the country. She never wanted to get herself involved in the scheme fearing that she would not make the final list but I encouraged her and took it upon myself to make it work out for her. I have shown her love and care in my own way and I'm even willing to do more for her because I want to see her Happy.
However, the bone of contentment is that she is too egoistic and rarely does she see her wrongs nor feel its cool to apologize. I have sat her down several times and tried to talk senses into her head and even had her close friend talk to her about it but all to no avail. Most times, she wouldn't talk to me for two days until I apologize for what she did. Even at that, it would take her like a day to accept my apologies. I know that most of you would say it's odd for a man to apologise for what he is not quilty of.
I got the shock of my life when she asked me if I can remember her asking me to apologize to her. This was after she did something nasty.
This is the same lady I hope to perform her marital rite soon. I'm somewhat in my late twenties. I really love children and I hope to start a family in my young days so that they can grow with me. I think my love for kids is out of this world but she is likely gonna make me change my mind about that.
I wanna quit and go search for love elsewhere but I feel she deserves another chance.. Actually I'm lost and can't figure out why she is acting up.
What do I do? Has anyone here ever been in this shoe before and how did they deal with it?
Is there any hope that she would change?
Lalasticlala has this ever happened to you?

First of all, it was needless creating a new moniker because the said lady since she's on NL, when she sees this thread she will know the person behind the moniker. Also you shouldn't give a fvck about nairalanders what they gon say or do. Or is there any nlder u are dating that prompt u to create a new moniker so she won't know you have a real girl in the real world?

Now to your matter, give her a little chance. Everybody deserves a second chance. Her character is what most ladies possessed.

Colourich:
For your small mind .

How is life and family?

Twagrill:
i thought you could relate. It's a proverb. What am saying is constant temptation will weaken her no matter how determined she was originally if she doesn't avoid it. It's also a fact in the holy book

A 100% loyal girl will resist such temptation even if she faces it a million times a day.

I talk because I have seen it happend.

People are different.

For the fact that A falls doesn't mean B will fall.

Maybe you don't know what 100% loyalty is.

There are people that even at gun point would not fall into such temptation.

The highest u can do is to rape her.
And it's likely impossible to rape a lady I roll with.

To rape her, u gotta die first.

Hotzone:
Giving.....material things or emotionally?

both meterial, emotional and time. The person who invetsed most in the relationship gets hurt the most. Irrespective of gender.

Twagrill:
guy, no matter how strong a rock is, constant little drops of water will still break it

U talkin about rocks. I'm talkin bout human here.

Rocks have no ability to resist water.

I've been there so I know what am sayin.

No temptation too great to make people fall. People fall into temptation because they want to not because it was too great to resist.

Nofav0rs:
Thank me later

Thanks Dude!

List out the signs na.. Ain't nobdy clickin dat sh!t.

Hotzone:
In good relationship, everything seems pleasant but when the ship sinks everyone struggles to survive in their separate ways. During separation, a lover might have the urge to call the other but the question is, which gender always feels to rescue the singled ship?

This question on ur topic is different from the question in the context

Is not about gender. The one who gave in the most feels hurt the most.

Happy Birthday Henitan24. I wish you heaven's best.

Lalas247:
we always have exceptions

Apology accptd.

Lalas247:
femme fatale

Holy sh!t!
Women hardly accpt their faults.
They like "DON'T BLAME ME! BLAME IT ON A NIGGA".

Colourich:
So you no longer in Thailand?

I really expected this question from u.
For ur mind now, only Nigeria has north abi?
I'm in Northern Thailand jare.

SuperSonik:
from one of 2pac's songs... that's why he'll remain the greatest of all time..

Yip!

Colourich:
Mind your business only if it booming...

I'm doing great. I'm in the East.

I'm in the North.

Love at first or last sight is not real if that love is built on the foundation of guap.

Colourich:
Don't you ever get bored of tagging her in almost every thread? Pocohans this, pocohans that, are you out of your very mind?

Minding our business is the best business.

How are u?

Lalas247:
Apologies then .... my bad

Are u a male? Sorry I askd.

Lalas247:
He still has it ... though
Anyway I don’t know too much about it ... so let me just keep mute
But I kinda get where you are coming from ..... meaning it’s not the end of the world people don’t die from it like before and live normal lives ( that’s what you’re saying abi ? )

Yes that is what am sayin.
The fear of HIV kills faster than HIV itself.

The guy am talkin about got infected either 2008 or 2009. The last time I saw him was 2017. He looks very healthier.

There was one particular NGO that came to Calabar (Calabar South) and the NGO gave money to people living with the virus.

Because of the money the guy went to get himself infected.

He was given the money for treatment the dude used half of it to invest.

Calabar women are the best cooks in Nigeria. Quote me anywhere.

Calabar women are the best cooks in Nigeria. Quote me anywhere

Lalas247:
So because we have drug to suppress the virus means people should infect others
Are you ok?
Go and ask those living with it if they wouldn’t give anything to be negative ....

Actually, my comment meant that the man shouldn't be afraid of the virus and start spreading it since that virus can be control now.

Secondly, I have seen someone who gives everything to be positive.

And he was eventually positive. He's been living with it for years now and he looks healthier than an average Nigerian.