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freecocoa: It says a lot because you want to believe a lot, I'm only responsible for what I said, what you choose to hear/believe is solely on you.

freecocoa: Please show me where I said, the woman should do whatever the man does.

freecocoa: What's the big deal? They both got married so if he doesn't wear the ring, why should she?

freecocoa: You must be very smart to equate not wearing of ring to all of those other things.

freecocoa: What's the big deal? They both got married so if he doesn't wear the ring, why should she?

PastorOluT: Hello bro, long time.

I least expect this, I believe u understand the church is the body of Christ, the Light n Salt of the world, n His perfect representative here on earth.

Irrespective of our the local churches are painting it, the solution lies in the body of Christ-the church.

PAGAN9JA: We must destroy all churches and build shrines in their place.

keppyy: Love is a decision, if whatever you're experiencing is making you not to sleep, then it's not love.

Mzflexydeeva: wat about it

Orikinla: Most girls and women prefer guys who don't treat them as sex objects.
When you date any girl or woman in appreciation of her companionship, she respects you more and also gives you her most precious moments, including passionate love making. But when you behave like a dog always panting after her booty, she also treats you like a dog. And it is common to hear girls and women saying, "All he knows is sex. He has no brains". And she will dump you once she finds the guy who acts more from his brains than his loins.

Neatboy: I have been in such relationship so many times. Most of these ladies take these religious guys for granted because of their religious stands and moral compass. Most of my friends that always jagged these ladies always have them so loyal and attached immediately after sex. The real truth is that, if you've met a good and virtuous lady you'll realize that sex is just secondary. Relationship is like the two sides of same coin. Although it's not marriage, that's the more reason the efforts to sustain and maintain it should be from both sides. You can enjoy it without sex, believe it or not. Sex will not make you one with him/her, but trust, hope, faith, teamwork and love. Just try never to associate sex with love and you'll understand what I'm talking about.

Olyboy16: I think a relationship should be of mutual benefits. I have an ideology and belief that its possible to make a woman love you so much that it will sometimes be difficult for her to live if she doesnt see you in a day!!
I believe if that "love" really did exist, your girlfriend would almost puke at the sight of any other man's unclothedness cos nufin would look as good as you are even if you are nt the muscular nd sexy type.
Wen we talk about relationships being biased and non-mutual as the OP stated, the first thing we should realy think of is dat is the love between both parties really "love"? Or just a situation where just due to self awareness and societal norm you think you need a girl/boyfriend cos all your friends and age group have one too? Is that love really true?
Most relationships today lack true love..ladies suffer most here cos they are usually at the recieving end.
But guys, i think the problem is with us! If you show your lady true love, care and companionship, i promise you, she wont go beyond your boundaries cos she'l knw she may not get anything better than you.
True love is not founded or built on sex, it is infact the complimentary part of it..and a compliment can always be avoided or 'postponed'.
Most guys are not matured enuf to handle relationships(age is not maturity) without being tutored one way or the other.
Infact, most nigerian guys start relationships without any prior education, meet your (successfuly married)dad or any likes, let him fill you with experience, let him tell you how love true looks like.
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Show your girlfriend true love, and she'll make you her king!
I've made lots of points to ponder on..

ronald4lif: Truth is, every relationship is based on interest so therefore depends on the interest of whoever you're in a relationship with. One can be attracted to someone coz they are good looking or rich or sex or character-wise, these doesn't mean they may not love them. Love doesn't just come out of the blue as some people may want us to believe. One first gets attracted to someone by apparently some features in that person before love crawls in. And that a guy is interested in sex with his girlfriend doesn't mean he doesn't mean he doesn't love her. There are other things a woman can bring in a relationship apart from sex but sex itself is very important and is the live-wire of any relationship.Without it a relationship can barely survive. What I am saying in essence is, most guys (if not all) can hardly maintain a relationship without sex and that to us is our top "interest".